Zensual Gal: From Surviving to Thriving

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What's working on purpose anyway? Each
week we ponder the answer to this question.

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People ache for meaning and purpose at
work to contribute their talents passionately and

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know their lives really matter. They
crave being part of an organization that inspires

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a force for good in the world, elevating humanity. In our program,

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we provide guidance and inspiration to help
usher in this world we all want Working

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on purpose. Now Here is your
host, doctor Elise Cortez. Welcome back

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to the Working on Purpose Program.
Thanks for tuning again this week. I'm

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your host, doctor Elis Cortest joining
you line from Dallas, which is home

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by to Move. If you've been
doing it a while, you know his

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program is about leadership series that is
designed to enlighten, inspire listeners with insights

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from distinguished business leaders, the subject
matter experts. Our conversations are designed to

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make you think, inspired to reach
ever high for your own best and take

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an informed approach towards leadership, business
and life. Today we're going to have

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a great time talking to my guest. This is a little bit of a

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break from my normal fare My guest
today is Sherry Elliott Yurie. She is

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a recovering or recovered I should say, HR executive who lived in a sexless

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marriage. After experiencing her own sexual
healing and awakening in twenty fourteen, she

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transformed her career path and is now
a full time sex and intimacy empowerment coach,

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writer, blogger, and the teacher. We'll be talking about her journey

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from surviving to thriving and are see
to be a released book called sixty nine

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of My Dirtiest Secrets Awaken your Central
Goddess. She noticed today from Briscoe,

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Texas. Sherry, my dear friend, Welcome back to working on Purpose.

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Thank you for having me, and
quite a different topic we're going to talk

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about tonight than we usually talk about. Yeah, we've covered the gamut of

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I think I think we've done generational
things. I think we've talked about how

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to get stuck and when you're at
a road, a crossroad. And we've

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given thanks around Thanksgiving, and this
time we get to give thanks for you

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and your own trends information and coming
through the other side. And I first

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want to say for the thirteen years
that I've known you, I really,

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really really applaud and appreciate what you're
doing, Sherry. This is true authenticity

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at its finest. Thank you.
That's that's very kind of you to say,

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and I really appreciate that. But
this has been one that you know,

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I've wrestled with for a long time, and it's not one I took

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lightly. And it was a lot
safer if I would have just stayed within

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my own little hula hoop in the
HR world, which would have been great.

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But then I got called into writing
books, and then I started doing

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generational work and that got real uncomfortable. But nothing has been more uncomfortable for

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me in my life than working on
this book and this movement because it's required

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that I step out and share my
story in my truth. Because I'm not

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a doctor, I'm not a PhD. This isn't something I've done all my

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life, but it's it's my story
that I feel like is giving other women

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permission to stand up and heal from
their past resolutely. And one of the

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things that I often say shared I'm
sure you've heard me say it before,

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is that especially when we answer our
calling, we answer that which we're being

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called to do, it's not always
convenient. And I know that we've thought

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before that this wasn't necessarily something you
wanted to do, and we'll talk more

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about that as we go along here, but I just want to applaud all

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more reason that you're stepping into your
authenticity and just being real and raw and

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vulnerable. I read, of course
your book cover to cover, as you

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know I do. I learned more
things about you in that book that I

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didn't know the thirteen years we've been
acquainted, and then your friends and so

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your own path to embrace being a
zentual gal is just phenomenal. So I

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wanted to be one of the first
to get to share that share you with

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the world and show what it looks
like when you really show up in the

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world as an authentic human being.
Thank you, Yeah, you're welcome,

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my dear. So I think it
makes a lot of sense and a couple

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of things that I want to call
it about the work you're doing, and

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well it'll become more apparent to our
listeners and viewers as we talk. But

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really just a focus on empowering women
to come into their own zinchuel, as

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you say, in educating and Empowering
couples in their intimacy, which of course

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is fantastic. And I'll say more
about why I think that's important as we

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go. But for our listeners and
viewers who don't know your story, haven't

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read your book yet like I have, would you share a bit of your

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own unfoldmented transformation. There has been
a lot of things along your journey that

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happened to help catalyze Sherry Elliott Eerie. Yeah, thank you. It's it's

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interesting because I look back at some
of the things that gave me this opportunity,

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and one of the biggest changes,
honestly, was my divorce eight or

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nine years ago, and I thought
I married the man of my dreams.

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I thought this was it too.
Remember that I thought you did Yeah,

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you knew you were there, and
I thought, Okay, this is it.

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I have you know, this is
this is forever and ever amen.

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And three years later, when it
ended up not forever and ever amen,

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I was like, well, what
did I do wrong? And why why

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does he not love me anymore?
You know, I gave everything I had,

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body, soul, for finances,
everything, and that was the problem.

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Quite honestly, I gave everything of
myself and I left me somewhere back

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once I said I do, And
so once the marriage ended, I was

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like this shadow of myself and it
took a while for me to figure out

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who I was again. And that
was something that I really saw when I

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was at my divorce attorneys and there
was other women there. They were like

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these papers in images of women,
you know how. It was like we

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were walking dead, right, We
were all these ghosts of our prior self.

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And I was like, that's what
we're doing. We are just checking

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out, leaving ourselves the minute we
put the ring on the finger and we

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forget who we are. And that's
the person that our partner, our spouse,

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whoever it is, fell in love
with. And so that's where zensual

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gal got burked from. It was
the whole idea of finding that zen for

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ourselves and living this sensual life and
living and doesn't mean anything to do with

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being married and committed relationship. It's
just living this turned on lid up life.

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Completely understand that, because you know
my space today as passion, inspiration

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and purpose. I completely see that. I understand very much, which which

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is one of the reasons that you
and I have sinned. And I think

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in some ways have started to head
more of a parallel path around really awakening

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people to passion. So for you, your journey though, and this is

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important for our listeners interviewers to understand, is your journey goes way back.

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Share if you can just share a
few things that you share in your book

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that are what I would consider to
be very raw and painful about your paths

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you've had to navigate, starting with
how you grew up. Would you share

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absolutely? Absolutely. I want to
share a quote and this is one that

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really stays with me by Anne LaMotte. When God is doing something, he

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starts off with a hardship. When
God is going to do something amazing,

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he starts with an impossibility. So
my life has been a lot of impossibilities.

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So that's why that quote really stands
out for me. And So I

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grew up in Canada, and I
was raised by a mom who lived unwelfare

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and I was the oldest of four
kids. I was sexually abused as a

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child. I searched out and found
my own adopted family by the time I

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was twelve years old. Because that's
just the way I do things. I

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just figured them out and I'm going
to make sure it happens, and I

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graduated high school at sixteen, went
to college, and I took care of

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my three younger siblings, became their
financial guardians. And I decided that by

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the time my daughter was two,
after I lost a child, I was

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going to stay single, and I
moved to the United States, and she

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became my one and only important focus
in life. And again it was I

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believe that that was my sole responsibility. And when my daughter turned eighteen,

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I figured out that she was a
drug addict and she was addicted to meth.

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She got it at a college here
in Dallas, a very prominent college,

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and I started a campaign of working
to help the DA and other mothers

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unders and what to look for in
the signs, because my daughters continued to

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struggle on and off for the last
twenty years with addiction. Because math is

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very difficult to overcome. I left
my corporate role in HR almost twenty years

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ago. Eighteen years ago according to
LinkedIn and the three gentlemen that wanted to

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go into business with me. One
day I was deciding, and I was

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looking at some of my clients and
I thought, you know, I was

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thinking about writing a generational book,
and so I told the three gentlemen that

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I wanted to step back from my
HR practice and I was working on this

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book. Well, as soon as
I mentioned this book, the next day,

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I was locked out of my office, out of my computer, everything,

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and they filed a lawsuit against me. So, you know, it

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didn't really do anything to help make
me trust men a lot at that point.

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So next thing, you know,
I decided to hang my own shingle.

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And so all of these were these
impossibilities that kept showing up for me,

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you know. And I'm an introvert
actually, and so Alice and I

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had this running joke because you know, we'll go speak together and I'm like,

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give me my cocoon. I just
want to go inside. And Atlasa's

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like, hey, everybody, you
know, let's talk. Let's talk.

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And so that's not the way I
do things. And so to be a

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motivational speaker, it was another huge
hurdle for me because I was like,

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well, I really believe in my
book and my message, but I don't

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really want to do that. So
all of these impossibilities to me have been

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the opportunity that brought me here today. And I could look back at all

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those things that have happened to me
and be a victim in my life.

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Or I could look at it and
go wow, I've written several books.

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I had this huge blessing to be
able to stand here today and be in

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this space to do the work I'm
doing, and so I choose to look

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at it that way. And this
is what's so good about that. Let

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me give a quick little teaching for
our viewers and our listeners as a logo

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therapist, is that what you have
to surface there is one of the ways

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that we find meaning in life.
It's a source of meaning, and that

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is the attitudinal stance we take when
life throws what it does at us.

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We have a choice in every single
moment to choose that attitude. What you're

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demonstrating is the way that you you
You chose to take that attitude was one

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of I'll get through this. You're
a fighter. It wasn't going to it

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was not going to tear you down. And the other thing that I think

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is amazing about the way you're telling
your story share is that I've never heard

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you say before about life serving up
impossibilities and you confronting them. But that's

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exactly right. That's how I would
that's how we describe it. And even

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when you started to speak, that
was not a fun experience for you.

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Starting on speaking, you hated it, You absolutely hated it. And look

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what you're doing now and here what
do you have, Honey, books out?

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Seven books seven, I mean looking
on eight. And so what I

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also really want to showcase for people
that are listening and watching is just how

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you have just boldly done life right, just stepped into it. And that

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is one of the other things I
want to celebrate about to Sherry, thank

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you, And you know we talked
about this last year and one of the

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things I want to stand for,
especially because I have a seven year old

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granddaughter and you know how my connection
is with her, and I want her

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to know that she can go out
and do anything she wants anything, And

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you know, I want to matter
and I want to matter to her if

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it's for anybody, I want her
to know that she matters and that she

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can do anything. And so that
to me is what keeps me doing things

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differently and boldly because I want her
to know that she has that too,

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She can do whatever she wants to
do. That's an option, absolutely it

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is, and we need, we
need to call it just about this moment,

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don't we, ladies and gentlemen.
What a sexy grandmother you are.

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Goodness, thank you, Graham.
Grahams Okay, so now we've got to

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know. I mean, I watched
you struggle with this for quite some times.

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Here. I kept saying, is
it ready? Is it ready?

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Is this book ready? And you
know you were in the trenches on this

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thing. Why did you write this
book? Yeah? Yeah, it was

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hard keeping your back, miss Elisia, I want to say, because she

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can get asking. And you know, seven years later, it's been Yeah.

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You know, I felt like I
was given this time when COVID happened.

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You know, was a month before
COVID that I started going, Okay,

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I'm doing this and I took all
the data and put it together that

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I've been bringing in for seven years. And then COVID got really crazy in

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March and I went, okay,
so my whole speaking career has gone.

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All my gigs, it just pretty
much left us, as we all know,

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and so my revenue, my calendar, everything, and I went,

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oh, okay, I get the
message. And so it really did.

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It just opened everything up and I
went, so what do I have to

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fear. Everything that I would have
said, well maybe not, Oh maybe

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I'm too busy, Oh what will
people think? It all went away,

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and so I went, huh.
So now we're at one hundred and sixty

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page manuscript in the final editing process, and it isn't just one book,

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it's three books that has all happened
since February. That's how it works when

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you are following your passion and purpose. And that's you know that I do

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because I got a similar sort of
message and tap on the shoulder too,

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And then my book is now at
the publishers having gone through three rounds of

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edits, and yes, this is
the response to COVID. Yes, ma'am,

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I get it, and we will
all be the benefactors of that.

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Thank you, Sherry. So I
want to talk about what you're doing in

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your practice in your book here,
and it's so important. I took some

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notes obviously on this, but you
say that the aim of your book and

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consulting practice is to help women come
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I love that. Who's going to
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I think I'll pass cop somebody else? Really, no, thank you,

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not today. I want to be
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This sounds amazing and I think it's
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in why I think it's important after
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you? Well, I just ask
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know, and straight out, that's
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kind of fun. And you know
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someone says, what do you do
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They're like, m tell me more, you know. But if I have

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someone what's your sex life like?
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you know, once a month,
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what that person shows up like in
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right or exercising a week, but
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intimate relationship with either your partner,
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balance, right? And so if
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and you're spending all this time at
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investment in yourself and that type of
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show up in the world too.
There's a correlation to that. If you

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don't feel sexy and you don't feel
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you run and you get those endorphints, do you feel on top of the

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world. But if you don't feel
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you show up. I call them
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obviously a few other colorful words for
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you know, with my big old
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so it's like, let's turn the
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that. And it takes effort,
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does, and I want to talk
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first break. We've went in the
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the zentual gal. She's been talking
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surviving to thriving and her book.
We'll talk more about what she's actually doing

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with couples intimacy after the break,
stay with us. We'll be right back.

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back to working on purpose. Thanks
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working on purpose. If you're just
joining us. My guest is Sherry Elliott

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Yury. She's a recovered HRP executive
who lived in a sexless marriage. After

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experiencing her own sexual healing and awakening
in twenty fourteen, she transformed your career

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path and is now a full time
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teacher. She's the author of sixty
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Centual Goddess. I'm your host,
Elise Cortez, So Sherry. One of

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the other things that I really wanted
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I think is so important about the
work that you're doing is is you're really

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working on helping couples re established and
deepen their intimacy. And of course,

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as a divorced woman, I've been
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helped. I might have helped,
say about four years ago before we actually

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want our separate ways. So say
more about what you're doing to help couples

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develop that intimacy. Well, a
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least people in our generation will have
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if not marriages. Hopefully it's within
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right, So two or three significant
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be within the same committed relationship.
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we have that eb and flow.
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hot, fiery, you know,
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not always and so during that eb
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it takes that interest. And so
having that opportunity where people feel safe,

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where they can share what are some
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that's really really important, and that's
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they don't feel comfortable. They're like, Okay, well, you know it's

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Wednesday night. You know, this
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whatever it happens to be. I
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I just love her, it doesn't
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things she said this morning was,
Ladies, I know sometimes mister likes it

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more than you do. So you
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it takes two to three minutes to
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go to sleep, when we always
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say women are like slow cookers and
men are like microwaves. Now we need

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to help tell men and maybe do
some how to videos on what it takes

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to make us happy, pleasurable,
what gets to us turned on and lit

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up, because they we don't have
a manual that comes with us. We

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need to show them. We need
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just expect to know what we want
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was just talking with one of the
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explaining to her how we have to
teach everyone in her life really how we

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want to be treated and communicated.
That's all over work, that's in a

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relationship, with her children, with
her lover, everyone. How to your

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point, how else would they know
that's right? That's right, And especially

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in romantic and physical relationships. Some
people like some things and some people like

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something different, and you know,
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to be open, vulnerable, authentic, and that's it. You know,

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That's one of the ways I said
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you like Mexican yes or no?
You don't go into a relationship not telling

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the truth about what you like and
what you don't. That's not your authentic

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v and herble self, because you're
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in the relationship. You are And
in fact, I have to quote this.

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I love what you say here in
the book. You say, you

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say you believe that you believe that
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a pleasure creative life for every one
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much kinder world. Sounds good to
me, say more, I just have

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to say, when we are all
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of being in the world instead of
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mean, when you go through the
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connected, not joyful, I mean, that's a totally different way of being

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than when our relationships are working,
When we have self love and when we

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are connected to self and we feel
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world. When you walk out the
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an amazing way to get in your
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or when you say hello to the
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to the exercise place, or when
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That's a major impression in the world. And again I go back to what

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I said about you impacting the divorce
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was married for together eighteen and married
for sixteen, and definitely we all lose

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that immediate ability to talk about what's
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for us, and so it just
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separate ways. And so I love
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couples back together and get them talking
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I just think that's such important work. It is, and I think

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it's also given common language. And
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on this for myself. I could
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don't ask me to bring my emotions
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those last five years again for me
to really do a lot of healing myself

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to understand that there's two parts to
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there's a lot of vulnerability that's required
for a woman to be totally one hundred

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percent vulnerable and present with a parting
with a lover. And so there's a

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lot that goes into coaching and working
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physical self shows up right, that
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too, right, Absolutely, they're
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the next thing I have to know
and I'm sure our listeners and viewers wanted

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to know the same thing here is, how did you come up with the

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idea of sensuality? What does that
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when I was going through my divorce, it was around Christmas time and our

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house was up for sale and my
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it's a beautiful timing you're to go
through a divorce. And I decided to

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do what was the best thing I
could is to run off and lick my

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wounds in a different part of the
world and take a solo vacation, which

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was so smart because going away alone, especially for three weeks over the holidays

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in another country, was like getting
me outside every comfort zone and I'd ever

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had. And I was laying on
the beach in kan Koum, and I

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was watching the water and the tide
was coming in and out and the waves.

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It was very hypnotic, and I
was just like I was zenned out,

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and it was so relaxing, and
I thought there was no effort,

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there was no fight, no struggle, and I really thought about the whole

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zen and as I walked up and
down the beach, I felt sensual connected

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to the earth, the water,
the sky, the sun, and I

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felt sexier in that moment going through
my divorce and nobody, I felt like

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nobody wanted me, and I went
sensual. I got online right away because

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I believe in following the hints,
and Zentual was an open website, and

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I bought the domain. I bought
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or eight years ago in two thousand, the beginning of New Year's fourteen.

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That's why you've been asking me since, and I started writing erotica stories.

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I remember Fogs in twenty fourteen on
that vacation when I took my very first

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long solo trip, and it was
one of the best healing trips I could

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have taken for myself. And there
was moments of pain and discomfort, but

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it was that's where the healing began. Oh, a couple of things,

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right. So I do think that
what I want to call it for our

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listeners and viewers, because oftentimes people
ask me, at least, how do

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I find meaning? How do I
find purpose? So much of it is

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going inward and listening to what your
what's your soul and your heart is trying

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to tell you and stop trying to
talk yourself out of it, which you

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did by yourself in Mexico. And
the other thing I want to call out

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that you're talking about is the importance
of writing that. I don't want to

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say menia, but that the discomfort
there, you can't you can't know it

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away. You've got to go with
it if you can. If you can

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hang onto that discomfort and the awilt
pain, on the other side of that

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is something really good. And that's
what you've been describing. Yeah, yeah,

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And like I said, those if
you can go through it and walk

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through it and you can get on
the other side, there's such beauty and

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grace and that's where the jewels are. I mean, that's to me where

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the magic is. And I just
remind myself going through those moments that there

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is light, because I'm a sparkle
kind of gal, you know, I

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want to see the jewels on the
other side, and I know they're there,

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and I know it's going to be
so much better that I can remember

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that, and that's the beauty of
it. Because I have no interest in

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staying right where I am today at
all, and you never have to stay

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staying I'm not interested in that,
So it's what's next. What's next?

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In fact, here's what's really interesting. Share. Let me take it back

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for just a quick second. Remember
when I was going through and I had

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to take my modes of engagement assessment, and you came out as self actualizing,

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which I had been for a long
time too, which is the mode

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of engagement. This is from my
own research, ladies and gentlemen, that

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I did for my PhD and then
post doc, and I found these fifteen

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modes of engagement and yours like mine
for the longest time with self actualizing,

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which is where we use our life
and our work and experiences and lean into

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them for everything that we can to
be able to realize our higher potential,

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higher selves. You were doing that, and you've been doing that for a

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while. So am I. Now
I'm on the other side where I'm living

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my purpose and something's happened for you
too. You come through something too.

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I don't know if you feel if
you're living your purpose yet or not.

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Maybe you are, but you're definitely
not in that same self actualizing Emily two

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were before. No, No,
it's it's very different, and I think

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some of it, honestly is the
real discomfort also came when I got remarried.

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It was like I bumped up against
something that made me have to look

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square in the face of somebody who
went, you don't get to run,

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and here I am, I'm not
going anywhere, and I went, oh,

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oh, I wasn't expecting this,
and so you know there's that too.

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It was it was requiring of me
another level of vulnerability and commitment.

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And I was starting a dating coaching
business for women like me who had gone

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through a divorce in their mid forties, and I was interviewing men all over

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Dallas because I want to know their
opinion on women's dating profiles. And I

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meet through my now husband and I
was like, this wasn't planned, this

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was not the idea, and here
we are almost four years later. So

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that took me into a whole other
level. And I ever really enriched my

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work with the idea for couples because
it's really put that practice. It took

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me from being single and developing my
self love and appreciation for that into what

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it's done in my marriage. So
speaking of that, one of the other

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things I wanted to ask you,
because you say somewhere in your book that

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the book that you've written is is
largely for women, and I certainly see

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that. I also can certainly see
how men benefit too. Oh absolutely,

413
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I say for women, because I
say sensual goddess. Now it's not gender

414
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specific at all. But I also
believe a lot of the information I share

415
00:27:41.200 --> 00:27:47.359
would be so helpful to men who
are interesting in relationships with women. Or

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the information of my father in law, retire physician, you know, he

417
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said, a lot of this is
very helpful too from a physician's perspective because

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there's some very specific medical terms.
But I think it's it's helped all the

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way around. Like I said,
I'm hoping to have more videos and information

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on manuals on the website soon.
But I think the more information men can

421
00:28:07.039 --> 00:28:11.119
have and learn about us, the
better it's going to be, and the

422
00:28:11.160 --> 00:28:15.440
more equipped you'd be to be successful
in the bedroom and out. No,

423
00:28:15.559 --> 00:28:18.200
I like it, you know.
I like that little a little zesk goes

424
00:28:18.240 --> 00:28:22.000
a long way for me. A
little sassy and a little body absolutely goes

425
00:28:22.000 --> 00:28:23.599
a long way for me. All
Right, I want to I want to

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00:28:23.599 --> 00:28:26.960
get another quote from your book that
I thought was just so yummy, And

427
00:28:26.000 --> 00:28:30.599
have you talked about that so you
say, and I quote, dynamic individual

428
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growth and transformation are available when a
woman fully connects with her sensuality and orgasmic

429
00:28:34.200 --> 00:28:38.160
potential. When this happens, she
inevitably experiences a flood of new life force

430
00:28:38.319 --> 00:28:42.559
energy. Plus this surge of creativity, this typically creates a profound shift in

431
00:28:42.599 --> 00:28:47.519
her intimate life that pours out of
every part of her world. Yes,

432
00:28:47.880 --> 00:28:52.119
say more about that feels so good? Doesn't it feels that? I just

433
00:28:52.200 --> 00:28:56.480
love it? I know well,
And I think that was part of what

434
00:28:56.559 --> 00:29:00.960
I said about connecting to myself is
you know, I was really good.

435
00:29:00.039 --> 00:29:04.559
I should want an oscar. Honestly
about learning to fake it you Honestly,

436
00:29:04.799 --> 00:29:08.519
I was a sexual antorectic. I
looked really good and said it really well,

437
00:29:08.519 --> 00:29:12.319
but honestly, that wasn't really my
thing. And I felt like I

438
00:29:12.359 --> 00:29:15.440
was missing out on something. And
you know, I was like, how

439
00:29:15.480 --> 00:29:18.359
come everybody else seem so happy?
Why does this sound so good? You

440
00:29:18.400 --> 00:29:21.799
know? And I just really felt
like I was missing out so on something.

441
00:29:21.839 --> 00:29:25.119
And I was approaching my fortieth birthday
and I was like, there's something

442
00:29:25.200 --> 00:29:29.559
to this, and I really wanted
to understand. And the more I got

443
00:29:29.599 --> 00:29:32.559
in touch with myself and the more
in tune I got with my body,

444
00:29:32.960 --> 00:29:37.640
the more I realized it is the
life force. It is something to be

445
00:29:37.880 --> 00:29:42.880
cherished and to understand it is not
a woman where she can connect with that

446
00:29:44.000 --> 00:29:48.480
life force, she is unstoppable.
She has a glow about herself because once

447
00:29:48.519 --> 00:29:52.400
she can do that for herself,
she can show her partner, and she

448
00:29:52.599 --> 00:29:59.119
is beyond capable of anything else.
She is creative. She opens up all

449
00:29:59.640 --> 00:30:03.240
of her energy well, and I
really appreciate that. Understand that because you

450
00:30:03.279 --> 00:30:07.000
know the work that I've done too, and myself after I got divorced,

451
00:30:07.240 --> 00:30:10.160
as you know, you were part
of that journey. And you're right.

452
00:30:10.279 --> 00:30:14.480
When you cultivate that aspect of yourself, your own creativity, your own sexuality,

453
00:30:14.559 --> 00:30:18.920
your own connection to your own being, it is amazing what happens around

454
00:30:18.000 --> 00:30:22.480
creativity, expression, your energy in
life, and who you draw into your

455
00:30:22.480 --> 00:30:26.920
circle. It's amazing, absolutely,
And it's fun too, because there's been

456
00:30:26.920 --> 00:30:30.319
times that I'll get dressed up and
I'll walk into just a Starbucks, even

457
00:30:30.359 --> 00:30:33.799
for something for fun and giggles,
and I'll just walk in and I'll just

458
00:30:33.839 --> 00:30:37.119
be like, I want to see
who's going to look at me today?

459
00:30:37.480 --> 00:30:40.319
Just for fun and it's not because
I know, Mary, it's not for

460
00:30:40.400 --> 00:30:44.279
that, and I know I'm Agrams, but it's just who can I get

461
00:30:44.400 --> 00:30:47.759
to just you know, I just
want to feel sexy today. I just

462
00:30:47.799 --> 00:30:51.319
want to feel powerful. I just
want to feel you know. And it's

463
00:30:51.359 --> 00:30:56.160
that. It's nothing about wanting sex
with somebody. I just want to feel

464
00:30:56.319 --> 00:31:00.119
sassy. I just want to get
whatever it is. And you know it's

465
00:31:00.160 --> 00:31:03.880
very helpful too. And what we
do for work speaking, we want that

466
00:31:03.000 --> 00:31:07.680
connection with our audience. It's nothing
to do with sex. It's we want

467
00:31:07.720 --> 00:31:11.799
to have connection. We want to
be able to do that absolutely. In

468
00:31:11.799 --> 00:31:15.079
fact, what I was thinking about
when you were talking about that, Sherry,

469
00:31:15.079 --> 00:31:17.640
and I do that too, because
what either way I say that is

470
00:31:17.640 --> 00:31:21.359
that is you're flirting with life.
You're flirting with other people, and people

471
00:31:21.720 --> 00:31:25.359
on the receiving the end of that
are catching your energy and so they're being

472
00:31:25.440 --> 00:31:29.680
seen too, right, And so
it's a beautiful exchange of energy and connection

473
00:31:29.799 --> 00:31:33.440
and recognition of the other person that
I think it's really beautiful and fun.

474
00:31:33.440 --> 00:31:36.759
And to your point, it's not
about hey, I want to take you

475
00:31:36.799 --> 00:31:38.519
home and aspects with you. It's
just about let's celebrate this moment. You're

476
00:31:38.559 --> 00:31:41.839
in it, I'm in it,
but both alive. This is amazing,

477
00:31:41.960 --> 00:31:45.000
right to me. I didn't even
have words to that. When you and

478
00:31:45.039 --> 00:31:47.599
I met, we didn't even have
words. We just said we were like,

479
00:31:47.720 --> 00:31:49.359
fell in love with each other.
We did. We didn't even know

480
00:31:49.480 --> 00:31:52.519
we did, but we didn't know, you know, and now we know

481
00:31:53.079 --> 00:31:56.400
the energy that you know, we
know what that was. But you know,

482
00:31:56.400 --> 00:31:59.279
back then we said we fell in
love with each other, which we

483
00:31:59.319 --> 00:32:02.640
did, but now it's so much
deeper. I get it now. I

484
00:32:02.720 --> 00:32:06.759
do too. In fact, I
actually just recently learned what part of it

485
00:32:06.799 --> 00:32:08.319
is underneath that, and I'll share
with you and the listeners and viewers.

486
00:32:08.680 --> 00:32:14.200
It's called limbic resonance. So what's
it turns out that isn't that awesome limbic

487
00:32:14.240 --> 00:32:17.400
resonance. There's actually like that.
And so what happens is our emotions and

488
00:32:17.440 --> 00:32:22.880
our meaning systems register on the limbic
brain level, and that's the mammal brain,

489
00:32:22.000 --> 00:32:27.200
so the middle center brain. So
what happens is that's where our meaning

490
00:32:27.240 --> 00:32:30.000
is registered and it's anchored around an
emotional topic for us, that's its anchoring

491
00:32:30.039 --> 00:32:34.079
point. That's why it registers so
important for us and we feel the way

492
00:32:34.079 --> 00:32:37.680
that we deal when something is meaningful. And then when we're with other people

493
00:32:37.720 --> 00:32:42.039
who share a similar sort of sort
of meaning structure, what happens is our

494
00:32:42.119 --> 00:32:45.599
limbic resonance is happening on the same
level. There's like a vibrational connection that

495
00:32:45.640 --> 00:32:52.359
happens between people. Isn't that cool? That's cool? Yeah, I got

496
00:32:52.400 --> 00:32:55.480
to you might so me too.
That's sexing. I'm right. Let's let's

497
00:32:55.480 --> 00:32:59.039
and on that note, let's go
ahead and grab our last break. I'm

498
00:32:59.039 --> 00:33:01.400
your host atlist Quarte. We're going
on with Sherry Elliott Yurie. She is

499
00:33:01.440 --> 00:33:05.759
a sex and intimacy empowerment coach,
writer, blogger, and teacher. She

500
00:33:05.880 --> 00:33:09.319
joins today from Frisco, Texas.
We've been talking about her journey from survival

501
00:33:09.359 --> 00:33:13.319
to thribal and after the break,
we're going to talk more about some of

502
00:33:13.319 --> 00:33:17.519
the essential ingredients that she uses in
her work to ignite energy Eurotic Energy.

503
00:33:17.759 --> 00:33:22.319
Stay with us, We'll be right
back. Doctor Release Cortez is a management

504
00:33:22.359 --> 00:33:28.680
consultant specializing in meaning and purpose and
inspirational speaker and author. She helps companies

505
00:33:28.759 --> 00:33:35.920
visioneer for greater purpose among stakeholders and
develop purpose inspired leadership and meaning infused cultures

506
00:33:35.960 --> 00:33:40.759
that elevate fulfillment, performance, and
commitment within the workforce. To learn more

507
00:33:42.000 --> 00:33:45.640
or to invite a Lease to speak
to your organization, please visit her at

508
00:33:45.680 --> 00:33:50.079
a lease Cortez dot com. Let's
talk about how to get your employees working

509
00:33:50.160 --> 00:34:00.440
on purpose. This is working on
Purpose with doctor Release Cortez. To reach

510
00:34:00.480 --> 00:34:05.079
our program today or open a conversation
with Elise, send an email to Elise

511
00:34:05.680 --> 00:34:12.079
ali se at Elise Cortez dot com. Now back to working on purpose.

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Thanks for staying with us, and
welcome back to working on purpose. If

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00:34:15.639 --> 00:34:17.599
you're just tuning in. My guest
is Sherry Elliott Jury. She's a recovered

514
00:34:17.719 --> 00:34:22.000
HR executive who lived in a sexless
marriage. After experiencing her own sexual healing

515
00:34:22.000 --> 00:34:25.599
and awakening in twenty fourteen, she
transformed her career path and it's now a

516
00:34:25.639 --> 00:34:30.960
full time sex and intimacy empowerment coached
writer, blogger, and teacher. She's

517
00:34:30.000 --> 00:34:34.559
the author of the book called sixty
nine of My Dirtiest Secrets Awakened. Your

518
00:34:34.599 --> 00:34:37.519
central Goddess, I'm your host,
Elise Cortez. So let's get a little

519
00:34:37.519 --> 00:34:40.960
technical specific, shall we. We've
been talking about this good juicy stuff called

520
00:34:42.000 --> 00:34:45.679
sex. Now let's go a little
bit deeper here under that. So in

521
00:34:45.679 --> 00:34:50.079
your book, you offer six essential
ingredients that work together to ignite your erotic

522
00:34:50.199 --> 00:34:53.039
energy, personal power, centual intelligence, to enable your centual empowerment. I

523
00:34:53.079 --> 00:35:00.719
love that, So share with those
those six ingredients and why they're important components.

524
00:35:00.119 --> 00:35:04.199
I tried to look back at,
like what were the key ingredients,

525
00:35:04.199 --> 00:35:07.000
Like I was making a cake,
and so the first one for me was

526
00:35:07.039 --> 00:35:10.599
emotion, and it was like,
dig up what you know when I looked

527
00:35:10.599 --> 00:35:15.239
at emotion and voice, and so
first let's let's go to voice first.

528
00:35:15.239 --> 00:35:17.320
So like, dig up your old
story and you know, set it on

529
00:35:17.400 --> 00:35:21.960
fire. You know, I love
my little opinion fire out there that I

530
00:35:22.079 --> 00:35:23.960
use my little thing. Put it
on in there. Get rid of it.

531
00:35:24.039 --> 00:35:28.199
Whatever that old story is, get
rid of it. Emotions, we

532
00:35:28.440 --> 00:35:31.119
we can lock those up in our
body. And so whatever old emotions you

533
00:35:31.159 --> 00:35:34.880
have around things in your life,
like it could be your divorce, it

534
00:35:34.920 --> 00:35:37.440
could be sexual trauma, whatever it
happens to be, figure that out and

535
00:35:37.480 --> 00:35:40.159
get rid of those. You know, there's yoga you can get rid of

536
00:35:40.199 --> 00:35:43.840
for trauma and the body. Get
rid of it because it's all stored up

537
00:35:43.840 --> 00:35:46.480
in there and that baggage. You
cannot bring that into new relationships. It's

538
00:35:46.519 --> 00:35:50.360
kind of heavy, so you might
want to figure out a way to release

539
00:35:50.400 --> 00:35:52.679
that old step. And then our
body. You know, there's parts of

540
00:35:52.719 --> 00:35:57.039
my body. I used to weigh
two hundred and seventy pounds, pretty much

541
00:35:57.079 --> 00:36:00.440
double what I am today. You
know there's times when I look in the

542
00:36:00.440 --> 00:36:04.679
mirror, I still see that lady. So get real comfortable with who you

543
00:36:04.679 --> 00:36:07.639
are. Love your body, Appreciate
her for whoever, or him, for

544
00:36:07.719 --> 00:36:12.760
whoever they happen to be. Just
make peace with her, because him or

545
00:36:12.800 --> 00:36:15.679
her, because it's not going to
get better, and just have to say

546
00:36:15.679 --> 00:36:22.320
things are getting any different. Give
yourself permission play. Don't let anybody else's

547
00:36:22.480 --> 00:36:27.480
judgment for your fantasies or you know
what, set some parameters, some boundaries,

548
00:36:27.519 --> 00:36:29.760
but you know what, go out
and play. If you're married,

549
00:36:29.840 --> 00:36:32.840
as long as you're two consenting adults
in a relationship or in a partnership,

550
00:36:32.960 --> 00:36:37.400
go out there and have some fun, because that's what it's supposed to be.

551
00:36:37.559 --> 00:36:42.599
Fun, okay, and then desire, what is your desire? Ignite

552
00:36:42.599 --> 00:36:45.719
it. I gotta say this book
wasn't my first desire. But now that

553
00:36:45.760 --> 00:36:47.880
I'm on that track, it's fun
and I'm going to keep doing it.

554
00:36:47.920 --> 00:36:51.760
So what is your desire? Is
it to write a book? Is it

555
00:36:51.760 --> 00:36:54.000
to own a bed and breakfast in
another country? Do it? Learn a

556
00:36:54.039 --> 00:36:59.800
new language, have fun with it
as then what is your Then find out

557
00:36:59.800 --> 00:37:04.559
how embody that zen do that,
find out what tap into your centual goddess

558
00:37:04.880 --> 00:37:07.760
and really enjoy that. So those
are the sience that I came up with

559
00:37:08.199 --> 00:37:14.000
that helped me determine what captain to
the centual goddess and let me live my

560
00:37:14.079 --> 00:37:15.840
centual life. I love it.
I love it so much. And in

561
00:37:15.920 --> 00:37:20.000
part because, as you know what, I'm out speaking to audiences and I

562
00:37:20.000 --> 00:37:22.000
talk about the importance of passion,
inspiration and purpose. And when I ask

563
00:37:22.119 --> 00:37:24.679
the crowds, what are you passionate
about? If you know what, the

564
00:37:24.800 --> 00:37:30.039
number one response that I get is
family. No, it's I don't know.

565
00:37:30.440 --> 00:37:31.679
They don't know what they're passionate about. I know. I'm like,

566
00:37:31.840 --> 00:37:35.880
you get this one precious life and
you don't know what you're passionate about.

567
00:37:36.159 --> 00:37:39.679
So I really like that you've given
us access through these six essential ingredients because

568
00:37:39.920 --> 00:37:43.960
if you can start to answer those
questions for yourself, you open something and

569
00:37:43.960 --> 00:37:46.159
get present to that space. Yes, and that's where we get to the

570
00:37:46.159 --> 00:37:50.039
next question that I think it's really
really cool share is you talk about your

571
00:37:50.159 --> 00:37:53.239
use of self discovery questions to determine
where we've gotten complacent in life. I

572
00:37:53.360 --> 00:37:57.280
really resonate with that, not just
from my own life book, that work

573
00:37:57.280 --> 00:38:00.280
could I do with my customers and
my clients. So see more about that

574
00:38:00.400 --> 00:38:04.519
self discovery process. Well, I
like it because as I was putting them

575
00:38:04.559 --> 00:38:07.199
together, I was thinking of some
clients and some friends and you know,

576
00:38:07.360 --> 00:38:12.719
some conversations we've had over wine and
some evenings and just thinking about like where

577
00:38:12.800 --> 00:38:15.679
have we pecked out me included?
And that's how those questions came up,

578
00:38:15.719 --> 00:38:20.119
Like when do we go on autopilot
and we're just you know, going along

579
00:38:20.199 --> 00:38:22.159
to get along? And that could
be including our work, you know,

580
00:38:22.199 --> 00:38:28.039
whether it's partnerships, work, you
know, and our and our self love,

581
00:38:28.280 --> 00:38:31.880
connection in our in our physical fitness, because those have been a lot

582
00:38:31.920 --> 00:38:36.679
of the different times. And so
when we get complacent, it's sometimes that's

583
00:38:36.719 --> 00:38:39.719
when some of those warning bells go
off, right, so we go oh,

584
00:38:39.760 --> 00:38:43.559
And I was listening to a lady
this morning, I called into a

585
00:38:43.599 --> 00:38:45.000
talk show and she said, oh, it's been here since I had sex.

586
00:38:45.320 --> 00:38:51.000
Well, that complacency might have been
like eighteen months ago, if not

587
00:38:51.360 --> 00:38:53.280
longer, that she should have had
that warning bell, you know, those

588
00:38:53.280 --> 00:38:59.239
things when we get into comptancy,
it gets so easy. Then we get

589
00:38:59.280 --> 00:39:01.079
into a rut, and then we
need to dig out of the ditch,

590
00:39:01.159 --> 00:39:04.880
and you know, it just gets
worse. And so that's why I thought

591
00:39:04.920 --> 00:39:07.880
those questions were really helpful, because
those would have been really easy for me

592
00:39:08.000 --> 00:39:13.639
back then. Had I noticed that
I was getting complacent about maybe my exercise

593
00:39:13.719 --> 00:39:15.199
routine, about my self care.
Oh, I've stopped going to see my

594
00:39:15.280 --> 00:39:19.719
friends. Right, those are all
things that are triggers. Didn't let me

595
00:39:19.760 --> 00:39:22.400
know that I'm not doing the self
care I need to do, or thinking

596
00:39:22.480 --> 00:39:25.719
somebody for advantage. You know this
because you've been in my life for a

597
00:39:25.719 --> 00:39:30.239
long time. But I recognized very
much that I had fallen into a state

598
00:39:30.360 --> 00:39:36.159
of apathy and complacency. You know, somewhere in the beginning of twenty fifteen,

599
00:39:36.159 --> 00:39:38.199
I had such a fantastic twenty fourteen, and then two thousand and fifteen

600
00:39:38.199 --> 00:39:43.039
happened. And when I look back
on that share I was absolutely an apathetic

601
00:39:43.039 --> 00:39:46.679
complacency and yet and that was definitely
feeling some kind of depression, and part

602
00:39:46.679 --> 00:39:50.840
of it came from because I knew
I was not living the life that I

603
00:39:50.920 --> 00:39:53.639
wanted for myself. I wasn't going
for my dreams, and I hated myself

604
00:39:53.639 --> 00:39:58.440
for it. But I was complacent
in that, and that towards the end

605
00:39:58.480 --> 00:40:00.760
of that year. Of course,
that's when I went through my worse process.

606
00:40:00.960 --> 00:40:04.239
So the result of that, so
I really but the importance of being

607
00:40:04.280 --> 00:40:07.199
able to get present of that sooner
rather than later so you can do something

608
00:40:07.199 --> 00:40:09.519
about it is essential. Yeah,
yeah, And that's one of the reasons

609
00:40:09.559 --> 00:40:14.440
I thought some of those questions kind
of gave us an idea of where are

610
00:40:14.480 --> 00:40:17.599
we with it? Because it is
easier sometimes to stay in the boat instead

611
00:40:17.639 --> 00:40:21.079
of like rocking it, right.
I mean, it's like, well,

612
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we have a nice home, we
have a nice life, and everything's okay.

613
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And that's why it's hard to go, well, why don't we start

614
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rocking it and start asking questions?
It's well, why should we right right

615
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right right by the way before we
forget? I have to know I've got

616
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a burning question. Okay. In
your book, you talk about having being

617
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out at a restaurant eating with one
of your friends and she has such a

618
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gusto for eating? Is it me
though? Why you? Of course it

619
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is for eating. It's like making
a lot of the food absolutely right,

620
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and it trans in. Let me
tell you. It's the same app but

621
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diet that goes there everywhere. So
I want you she's talking about me.

622
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I wouldn't mind if you use my
name, but okay, then I'll put

623
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your name in now that I have
permission absolutely on air. Listeners and viewers.

624
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You've heard it, so you know. It's kind of like a when

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you have a hairy mitt selling moment
right in the restaurant, right, that's

626
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me. I can do that.
Yes, at least could food. That's

627
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a good example about enjoying life to
the fullest. That's the point. It

628
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can be food, It could be
anything. It could be the travel.

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And this is you know, this
is one of my favorite things. Is

630
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like, if you're gonna have water, why not even just put it in

631
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a beautiful wine glass. I'm not
having wine right now, but I have

632
00:41:40.519 --> 00:41:45.320
spa water right here at home in
a beautiful wine glass. We can still

633
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do fun things to treat ourselves well, it just doesn't have to be some

634
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day. We can tra up,
We can do great things to do this

635
00:41:53.280 --> 00:41:58.679
self care every day. In fact, let's talk about that. Let's grab

636
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that real quick, because I've been
having a lot of conversations with people in

637
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this pandemic who are not taking time
for self care because they feel like,

638
00:42:05.199 --> 00:42:07.559
well, I'm stuck at home anyway, Who's going to notice I don't throw

639
00:42:07.599 --> 00:42:09.639
my camera on if I'm on a
zoom call. And what happens is that

640
00:42:09.719 --> 00:42:13.960
just makes it worse. We get
more, we get further down down the

641
00:42:14.239 --> 00:42:16.840
downward spiral. We do actually take
the time to take care of ourselves.

642
00:42:17.039 --> 00:42:21.880
Put makeup on for us women,
you know, put on a decent nice

643
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shirt and shave men for you right
looking at you, Look at your beautiful

644
00:42:24.840 --> 00:42:29.360
earrings, the beautiful lipstick. Right, these things make a difference to how

645
00:42:29.400 --> 00:42:32.920
we feel and how we care for
ourselves. Yes, absolutely. And you

646
00:42:32.920 --> 00:42:37.039
know, having worked at home for
so many years, unless you know,

647
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before when we could go out and
speak and train, the days I would

648
00:42:42.239 --> 00:42:45.719
work at home office, I still
had to do the hair in the makeup

649
00:42:45.719 --> 00:42:50.079
thing because I didn't feel like I
was at my job unless I did dress

650
00:42:50.159 --> 00:42:53.480
up and show up and so that's
always been important to me. And about

651
00:42:53.519 --> 00:42:58.000
the first three or four weeks of
COVID trust me, the sweatpants, the

652
00:42:58.000 --> 00:43:01.039
ponytail, the no makeup was a
big thing. But about the fourth week,

653
00:43:01.079 --> 00:43:05.719
I went MM, because my husband
worked from home too, and I

654
00:43:05.760 --> 00:43:08.360
didn't think that was fair to him
to have to see this face that way

655
00:43:08.719 --> 00:43:13.079
every day. You know, if
you honestly, that would be a rut

656
00:43:13.199 --> 00:43:16.480
and that would be complacency. Totally
understand that. In fact, I addressed

657
00:43:16.519 --> 00:43:20.440
for my man too. I mean, that's just that's important. It says

658
00:43:20.480 --> 00:43:22.599
I respect you, and I respect
myself and I care about us. So

659
00:43:22.719 --> 00:43:27.320
yes, exactly, I want to
make sure that we presence this for our

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listeners and viewers. And how you
talk about intimacy, you say it includes

661
00:43:30.960 --> 00:43:35.920
feelings of closeness, safety, connectiveness, and truth. That's intense. Say

662
00:43:35.960 --> 00:43:40.239
more. Yeah, there's a great
quote by Oriah Mountain Dreamer. She wrote

663
00:43:40.280 --> 00:43:45.920
the invitation and she says, do
you like who you are when you're alone

664
00:43:45.960 --> 00:43:50.159
in those quiet moments? And that's
one of my favorite quotes by her,

665
00:43:50.199 --> 00:43:54.800
And the other one is are you
willing to risk hurting another to honor yourself?

666
00:43:55.199 --> 00:43:58.639
And for the longest time. That
second one just freaked me out because

667
00:43:58.639 --> 00:44:00.199
I was like, what do you
mean? And it was really like,

668
00:44:00.239 --> 00:44:05.199
are you willing to hurt someone else
to be really true to who you are

669
00:44:05.239 --> 00:44:09.920
and what you need? And that
to me spoke volumes about intimacy and really

670
00:44:09.960 --> 00:44:14.679
honoring who you are. Can you
be alone in those quiet moments like when

671
00:44:14.679 --> 00:44:17.320
the lights go out at night and
when you are single and you live alone?

672
00:44:17.800 --> 00:44:22.519
Do you like the person you are? That was a really big question,

673
00:44:22.559 --> 00:44:25.840
and I wrote that in my journal
a lot after I became single.

674
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Do I like who I am?
To me? That was the ultimate intimacy

675
00:44:30.480 --> 00:44:36.360
question. Do I like the person
I'm showing up as in my work with

676
00:44:36.400 --> 00:44:39.239
my friends, all of it?
I like that? That's beautiful. And

677
00:44:39.480 --> 00:44:44.320
intimacy is such a yummy thing,
right, Emotional intimacy, physical intimacy.

678
00:44:44.519 --> 00:44:47.400
It's just so It's such a beautiful
part of life we've been given and being

679
00:44:47.440 --> 00:44:51.639
able to access it is so important. Again, all the more reason that

680
00:44:51.719 --> 00:44:54.039
the work you're doing is important.
And I want you to say something about

681
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the sea Gell network you created.
That's fantastic. What's that all about?

682
00:44:58.639 --> 00:45:01.559
Yeah? I decided that I want
to to start interacting more with I get

683
00:45:02.000 --> 00:45:05.599
these questions a lot when I'm out
with people and they find out this is

684
00:45:05.599 --> 00:45:07.880
the work I've been involved in,
and I'm stepping into it one hundred percent

685
00:45:07.920 --> 00:45:10.559
now. So I thought, well, now with COVID, we can't really

686
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see each other very often, so
I would start a Facebook group for ze

687
00:45:15.599 --> 00:45:19.920
out for people asking questions and wanting
to have online forums once a week,

688
00:45:19.960 --> 00:45:22.280
and so that should be out next
week, and we'll have a great little

689
00:45:22.280 --> 00:45:27.280
Facebook group where we can have one
on one dialogue. And just because we

690
00:45:27.360 --> 00:45:30.599
can't do one on one FaceTime,
so we might as well do it on

691
00:45:30.679 --> 00:45:34.519
the Facebook group. I like it. I like it. And then you'll

692
00:45:34.599 --> 00:45:37.480
have a line of candles and other
products coming out as well. So it's

693
00:45:37.480 --> 00:45:40.519
not enough here to be speaking and
writing and handling people's intimate sext lives.

694
00:45:40.559 --> 00:45:44.320
We're else. We've got candles going. That's awesome. Well, not just

695
00:45:44.360 --> 00:45:45.639
candles, but I wanted to,
you know, for me, when I

696
00:45:45.679 --> 00:45:50.639
start doing self love and appreciation and
making sure I want to take good care

697
00:45:50.679 --> 00:45:53.760
of myself and setting the mood.
Candles were a big thing for me that

698
00:45:53.960 --> 00:46:00.719
set the mood and bath products and
all that and so smells and a perfect

699
00:46:00.800 --> 00:46:05.199
light and then also making sure they
were healthy. And so I've started researching

700
00:46:05.199 --> 00:46:09.559
and doing some relationships or candles.
Sensual Pleasures is the name of the company

701
00:46:09.639 --> 00:46:15.440
that I started for a different line
of candles and bath products that will be

702
00:46:15.679 --> 00:46:21.719
under the Centual gal umbrella. So
it's been fun explore that. I love

703
00:46:21.760 --> 00:46:24.719
it. I love it. I
can't wait for samples. Absolutely, So

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00:46:24.800 --> 00:46:28.519
we're at the end already. Share. So you know what this show is

705
00:46:28.559 --> 00:46:30.760
all about, helping people find meaning, passion, inspiration, and purpose in

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00:46:30.800 --> 00:46:32.760
their lives and their work. What
do you want to leave listeners with.

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00:46:34.679 --> 00:46:37.880
I want people to remember that,
as you say, they have one precious

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00:46:37.920 --> 00:46:42.679
life. Embrace who you are,
love who you are, and go out

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00:46:42.719 --> 00:46:46.239
and shine in this world. Share. It is such a miracle to get

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00:46:46.239 --> 00:46:50.079
to be your friend. I'm grateful
that you came on the show. You're

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00:46:50.119 --> 00:46:52.480
sharing what you're doing in the world, an important work that you're doing,

712
00:46:52.519 --> 00:46:54.800
and you're really putting yourself out there
and I'm ready to appreciate. Love you

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00:46:55.239 --> 00:46:59.599
in t your issue. Thanks for
having me, love you to thank you.

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Welcome listeners. If you want to
learn more about Sherry her journey to

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survivingto thriving and the work she does
as a sex and intimacy empowerment coach or

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00:47:07.280 --> 00:47:10.119
her book. Visit her at centualgau
dot com. So that is spelled z

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E N s U l A s
u A L gau g A L right.

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SHARE's that right, yeah, centualgal
dot com centual gl okay. So

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last week, if you missed the
live show, you can always catching your

720
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recorded podcast. We were on the
r Danny Gutnek, who is the CEO

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of Pathways, and we were talking
about his fascinating book called Meaning at Work

722
00:47:30.280 --> 00:47:32.199
in Its Hidden Language. That's where
I learned about Limbic residence. By the

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00:47:32.199 --> 00:47:35.599
way, next week we'll be on
the air with Steve Brown. He's the

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00:47:35.639 --> 00:47:38.239
author of The Innovation Ultimatum, which
is the subject of our conversation. See

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00:47:38.239 --> 00:47:40.320
you're there. Remember that work is
at least a third our life. So

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00:47:40.559 --> 00:47:50.280
let's work on Purpose. We hope
you've enjoyed this week's program. Be sure

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00:47:50.320 --> 00:47:54.159
to tune into Working on Purpose featuring
your host, doctor Elise Cortez, each

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week on the Voice America Empowerment Channel. Together, we'll create a world where

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business operates conscientiously. Leadership inspires impassioned
performance, and employees are fulfilled in work

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that provides the meaning and purpose They
crave see you there. Let's work on purpose.