Women on Purpose Thought Leadership Summit

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There are some people that make their
work just another thing they have to do,

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and there are those that make their
work something that they want to do.

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Welcome to Working on Purpose with your
host Elise Cortes. In our program,

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we provide guidance and inspiration from those
people who have found deeper meaning and

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personal connection to their work life.
It's beyond nine to five. It's working

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on Purpose. Now Here is your
host, Elise Cortes. Welcome back to

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the Working on Purpose OW. Thanks
for tuning in again this week. I'm

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your host, Alise Cortes. Joining
you live from Dallas, Texas, which

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is home base for me. If
you've been tuning in for a while,

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then you know this program is all
about it helping people create more meaningful and

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productive personal and work lives and equipping
leaders, insight organizations to cultivate meaning and

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purpose that elicits passion inspired contribution,
innovation, and persevering performance. I talk

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with my guests, draw on their
expertise, and share my own experience consulting,

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speaking and developing workforces across the globe. Every week. In these conversations,

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I hope you walk away with something
you can immediately put to use in

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your life. That you come alive
with the possibility of living with passion,

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working on purpose, and are inspired
to discover for yourself just how big and

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fulfilling your life, work and leadership
can be. And if you do catch

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and thanks for listening. Now onto

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this week's program with us today is
Diane maclay. She is a personal empowerment

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coach for a forward thinking mid level
professional women. She is a contributing author

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to the fourth volume of the book
Dreaming Big, Being Bold, inspiring stories

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from trailblazers, visionaries and change makers. And together she and O are working

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collaborati collaboratively on a Working on Purpose
Thought Leadership summit in Portland, Oregon in

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September of twenty nineteen. We're so
excited about that. We'll be talking about

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the importance of developing women as professionals
and leaders, how forward thinking companies embrace

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that are investing in women to grow
and elicit their contribution, and of course

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the summit we're working on together.
Diane joins us today from an area outside

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of Portland, Oregon. Diane,
welcome back to Working on Purpose alas my

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friend. Thank you for having me
again. It is so exciting and awesome

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to be in collaboration with you and
lighter fires for the world to see.

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It is so amazing, And I
want to tell our listeners a little bit.

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Well, let's just start there.
You and I met last year sometime

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somehow. I think you found me
first and asked me to be a guest

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on what you were working on there, and we had an interview about that.

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I had you on my show.
That's how we began, and that's

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where we just discovered that we had
some fantastic synergy and collaboration and that together

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we could create something bigger than we
could be by ourselves. And that's really

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really how the magic began. Yeah. Indeed, and as you say that,

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you know, literally my heart is
racing. I feel like getting up

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and dancing right now, because I
feel like when women as individuals find their

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purpose and they can live and work
in their passion, they can be powerful

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in and of themselves. But as
you and I have discussed offline and in

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some of our collaborative conversations, is
that when we can combine those forces and

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we can actually help women rise up
and occupy a much bigger space than what

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they could do on their own.
And I'm so grateful do I have that

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opportunity to do that with you.
Yeah, And likewise, in fact,

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to that end, Iane, last
Friday, I was the keynote speaker for

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the International Association's on Business Communicators here
in Dallas, and what I was talking

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about my keynote was called charge Living
with Passion, working on purpose, and

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Communicating with potency. But the whole
idea was the notion of really the need

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to be able to get help and
step into a space where you can cultivate

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that passion, that inspiration, that
purpose that you do need. It helps

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to be around other people that are
up to similar things and learning and growing

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from them to get to get into
that space where you can really get access

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to that, and then when you
do live and work from purpose, the

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difference it's a game changer, right. I mean, there were women in

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the audience that I ask who in
the audience knows your purpose? And a

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couple hands went up. I say, what's it like? And they said,

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Oh, my gosh, it's energizing. It gives me courage. It

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helps me make decisions that are that
I wouldn't normally make, that are bigger

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and bolder than I normally would make. It's a great place to be well,

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it is, And I think as
thought leaders in our own field and

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as collaborators with a synergy, I
think they have a responsibility to other women

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in the world. You know.
I was looking at some statistics about our

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Congress. So I'm not typically a
political person, but I've been struck by

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how prominent women in Congress and in
the Senate this particular year alone have been

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and it's actually made me want to
tune in and listen more and support women

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in high levels of leadership. And
that's awesome in the political environment. It's

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also working well at a lot of
layers in corporations. But we have a

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lot of women in the United States
that can be effective leaders at their own

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position. They can lead from whatever
space they're in. They don't have to

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be in corporate America, but they
often don't feel like they have the voice,

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or they may not be effective,
or they don't feel like they're heard

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the way they want to be.
And I feel like you and I,

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working with Purpose and the Thought Leadership
Summit that we'll be doing in September gives

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us an opportunity to lift those women
up and let their voices be heard in

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a way that not only empowers them, but can trickle back into their organizations

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and agencies that they currently serve.
I love what we're up to, Diane,

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and I too. I'm very very
excited about it. I'm very proud

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of it. I feel like this
is an important contribution. It's something that's

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very necessary out there. And to
that end, I think probably makes sense

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for our listeners who maybe don't know
you, would you just shay it a

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little bit about your background Diantel,
But help us understand what you did before

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you got into this space and how
what you've learned from that part of your

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life and career has assisted you.
Sure, thank you very much for that,

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you know, I have. I
have some really good fortune in my

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life where for half of my life, from almost all my career, I

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literally had the opportunity to work in
the dream job that I wanted since I

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was a kid, and I was
being working in the outdoor recreation field.

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And for nearly twenty two years I
worked in a male dominated government agency.

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And that's not a bad thing.
I learned a lot from the men that

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I was working with, and I've
learned a lot about how to lead.

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But I always felt like I had
to adapt to kind of a masculine line

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of thinking. I know we're going
to get into this later in the show.

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But to be able to step away
from that when it no longer served

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me, and to find a new
fire, a new passion in coaching and

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writing and empowering other women to connect
to themselves and to connect to nature and

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leverage choice in a way that serves
them. I am so fortunate to have

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a second opportunity to step into a
new purpose in the second half of my

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life, and I'm super excited about
that, and I so applaud that right

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because there's so many people that I
think do need and want to reinvent themselves

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and continue their journey to growth and
empowerment and transformation and really realizing all they

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can be in this life. And
to your point, I mean you work

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with empowerment as well. We need
help with that. I mean, it

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doesn't usually happen all by itself.
We need some kind of a catalyst to

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stimulus. And that's why I call
myself a purpose and engagement catalyst. And

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in fact, just to share a
bit about my background for our listeners that

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don't know, I've been in the
human capital space for about twenty some years

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now. We started in recruiting and
when on through the ranks of employee learning

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and development, and then employee engagement, leadership development, organizational development, organizational

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transformation, and today everything that I
do because of the work that I've done

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in my own research investigating meaning and
work and identity and then hosting this show.

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What I've learned from all those four
years is really helping people to develop

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meaning and purpose in their lives and
their work as leaders as individual contributors,

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because I know the difference it makes. It's not only good for how we

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show up in the world. It's
good for our physical health, it's good

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for our relationships, it's good for
our longevity. There's just a million ways

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to be able to come back to
why this is a good idea. So

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that brings us back then, Diane, in fact, let me say one

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more thing real quick about my background, just to go back and what you

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said about bringing up more leaders and
helping even to develop some political leaders.

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Last June of twenty eighteen, one
of my friends who I met in a

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leadership program that I was thinking for
myself. Her name is Kim Olson.

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She was running for the Texas Agriculture
Commissioner here in Texas, and she convened

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a group of eighty six women,
all Democrats running for a seat and somewhere

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in the state of Texas. And
she asked me, will you come and

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you know, m see the conference
and then you give us also a session

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on the importance of you know,
staying staying true to our purpose. And

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I did. And I'll tell you, Diane, being around that group of

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women and a room all up to
something, but also needing each other right,

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getting something from each other from the
experience of being developed together as they

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pursued their individual race was an incredible
experience. Well, and that's phenomenal.

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You know that you get to have
that opportunity to be infirm those women,

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to support women that are looking for
their own purpose, and then to have

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that reflected back to you, that
you that your work is actually meaningful to

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other people around you. And I
think that leads to the point of what

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we're trying to do, is that
not only can women be thought leaders at

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whatever level they are in their corporation
or their agency, or their family or

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their community, but there are some
women out there who don't know what their

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purpose is or maybe it's gotten lost
in translation, or they forgot or it's

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not defined. And what's really awesome
about being in that type of a space

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is you get to hear other women's
sense of purpose and their sense of meaning

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and it helps, I think when
we integrate that into our own mind space

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and heart space. I think it
also helps us get more clear about what

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we want to put into the world
and what we want to take back out

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of the world. Oh. I
think that was so beautifully articulated. I

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love that, and then saying one
more thing about why this is important at

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least from my vantage point. Another
thing that I really appreciate about what we're

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up to, Diane, is there
are so many organizations that recognize, to

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our earlier point that the contribution of
women as thought leaders as influencers is so

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important and they make organizations better.
There's a lot to be said about how

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women are recognized as more nurturing leaders
that know how to raise employee engagement and

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connection, performance fulfillment. They're good
at that, and so more and more

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organizations, at least the forward thinking
ones are starting to really recognize and embrace,

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Hey, we need to develop women
professionally as leaders as influencers as best

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we can because we need their contribution. And so a big reason for me

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that I think the work that we're
doing is so important is to really start

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to address and serve that space in
the world of really helping organizations to develop

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leaders like that. Whether they're to
your point, thought leaders or influencers,

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they make a real difference inside organizations
and they need to be developed exactly and

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we can't just rely on high levels
of corporation that have lots of money for

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development programs. We can't just rely
on the political environment. We have to

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start this at our level. It's
a grassroots thing, you know, I

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kind of I've heard a lot of
people say this is the Year of the

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woman. I mean that there are
a lot of stories and examples, both

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good and bad, that are bringing
women to have their voice come out and

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to share their stories, whether it's
promotion or family, or trying to balance

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work life and home life, or
whether it's things that have happened to them

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that have developed them for who they
are. And I think that it's important

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that we have these conversations in a
public forum inner communities, so that we

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were not just waiting for corporations to
hand it down to us, that we,

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as female thought leaders, are creating
that environment of nurturing and compassion and

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raising engagement among our peers and among
our mentors and among the people we serve,

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so that it's not a top down
approach, that it's actually being built

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as a foundation from the bottom up. I mean, women occupy more than

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fifty percent of the population, and
women that are forty five to sixty occupy

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twenty percent of that. And you
know, women that are twenty five to

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thirty are about thirteen percent, So
there's a pretty large need out there,

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I think, for this information to
be built from the ground up, which

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is what you and I are trying
to do with the summit in September and

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what we're doing with the radio show
here today. And to that point,

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I want to take it just a
little bit further down down down the field

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if we can, and that is
to say that, you know, there's

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a lot of organizations that are that
I appreciate and I applod that they oftentimes

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have a women's development initiative or a
women's leadership development initiative within the organization,

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and that is great, and I
support that, and I do a lot

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of work inside organizations to support and
contribute to those those initiatives. However,

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the part that I think that we're
contributing uniquely that's really important is to be

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to take women outside of those environments
that they're in, take them out of

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that, bring them into a different
space together with other women they can learn

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from, get best practices from,
and to get a wholly different perspective from,

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and then take that back into their
workspaces to cascade that into the organization

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to infuse it with really you know, what's what may be considered some best

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in thought practices around what we're addressing, the meaning, the purpose, the

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fact that we're going to be talking
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feminine and masculine energies, et cetera. There's just some stuff in there that

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Letting the women go to other summits
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fresh perspective to bring back home,
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the leaders of the free world meet
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Uh you know nuclear arms, you
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how we become allies, support each
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as thought leaders follow a similar and
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bringing summits together where we have like
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for everybody. I completely agree,
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for us too. That's a perfect
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welcome back to working on Purpose.
If you're just joining us. My guest

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is Diane McLay. She is a
personal enprownment coach to forward thinking mid level

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professional woman. She is a contributing
author to the fourth volume of the book

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Dreaming Big, Being Bold, inspiring
stories from Trailblazer's visionaries and change makers,

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and together she and are working collaboratively
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Summit in Portland, oregan in September
of twenty nineteen. Diane, over the

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break, you and I were chatting
a little bit about your experience earlier,

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what it was like to work in
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that would be useful for us to
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some women who are in that space, what we're up to might be even

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more useful. Thank you for that, you know, I think that from

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speaking from my own experience, I
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independent woman. And what I'm realizing
now, and we're we're going to

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get to masculine and feminine energy a
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what I'm really realizing now is that
when I can have balance and I can

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feel harmony with my whole self,
all the pieces of myself, I actually

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I functioned much better in all parts
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my local community, and in my
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And what I realized is in the
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state and federal government because I felt
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I was strong and because I was
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couldn't ask for help or I shouldn't
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that it was my responsibility as a
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of how others, strong and independent
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on their own. And what I
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a long time to figure it out. It actually took me leaving and not

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being in that environment anymore to realize
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of strength. And it does two
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push me up against adversity or failure
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invites someone else to step into their
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And amazing how holistic both people can
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woman, but in particular women.
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is is taking women out of their
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like minded space where they can feel
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and then cascade it back into their
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just think that's important because sometimes you
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until you recognize that something is missing, and sometimes you have to get out

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of your environment and be challenged by
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is you need or want, beautifully
said Diane. Couldn't agree more fantastic,

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And I thank you for that.
That was the addition that I was hoping

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for. Thank you awesome. Yeah. So I think next what I want

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to see, what I want us
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just really considering what's going on in
the world of work, and people feel

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so incredibly overwhelmed, and you know
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to be way out of hand.
People are just burnt out, it seams,

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and and yet work represents forty percent
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a lot. If it's not giving
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from us than it gives, then
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already we want to be able to
address that experience for women, which we

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will in the summit, But then
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one step further from the female advantage
point, and that is there's more and

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more discussion about the workplace being inhospitable
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if they want to try to juggle
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becomes really you know, do I
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or even crazy as a mom running
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my meetings at work, or should
I just go ahead and step out of

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the workplace for a while. And
more organizations are losing women in that battle,

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and so this is part of us
addressing what for women to be healthy

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and strong and to contribute their voice
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what we're after here because I think
it addresses an enormous problem in the world

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workplace. What are your thoughts about
that. You know, I'm not a

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parent, but I know a lot
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the things that I notice is that
if a woman in particular makes a choice

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to temporarily step away from the workplace
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and her family the way she wants
to with purpose and meaning, when there's

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a point where her kids go to
college or they graduate college and they don't

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need mom anymore. It actually creates
a big barrier for women to come back

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into the workplace. Absolutely, That's
one thing I see is that how do

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we help women lessen that gap or
fill that gap with less stressful ways,

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but still meaningful and important ways that
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community in a paid corporate kind of
space. That's one thing. But the

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second thing is is that even if
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push pull. Do your parent do
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but when I did work in corporate
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that. And for you personally,
did you feel like when you were working

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in corporate America that you had the
support that you needed as a parent to

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take care of your family life.
Do you feel like the expectation was that

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you show up regardless? No?
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certainly. I mean I worked for
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certainly, you know there were times, I mean I missed a lot of

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tennis matches, I missed a lot
of things that happened at my daughter's school

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when I was working inside the corporate
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If i'm if i'm if I'm on
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a program someplace. But at least
I have more of the power of choice,

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which of course we're going to talk
about too, but see, it

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makes a big difference. Well,
I love the fact that you just brought

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the power of choice, and I
would add to that the powerful of the

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power of deliberate choice or a productive
choice, because sometimes we can all make

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choices that aren't really great for us
or the people around us. One of

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the things I really believe a lot
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lulled into complacency or complacency or we
think that we don't have options because this

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is the way it is. But
if you look back in history, women

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didn't have a right to vote,
that's the way it was until they did,

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until they started using their voice to
get the vote. Women didn't serve

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in political positions until they did.
Women didn't ascend to leadership and corporations until

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they did. And I think what
we have an opportunity here is to stop

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the spinning wheel for a minute,
and as women, we can say,

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is it true that the system or
the process that has been set up for

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me is finite and it can't be
changed? And if the answer is,

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well, maybe it could be changed. I think the next step is is

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that what I coach people on is
the first step is awareness. You have

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to know that something needs to change
or has to change. And once you

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have awareness, you have the ability
to start generating options. Can you work

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one day from home? Can you
cut out early on Friday because you put

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ten hours in Monday through Thursday?
Can is there a project that you can

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take on for two or three months
that fits the need of a growing family

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but also meets the needs of the
corporation. And one thing I've heard you

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say is that when we can function
in balance and when we have meaning and

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purpose, it actually benefits everybody in
the equation. Absolutely, it cascades all

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over the place, it really does. And so you know, I know

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that a big part of your focus
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in that space and I will learn
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the whole idea of deliberate choice and
being intentional about that, and then of

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course the other piece that I think
is just so important is for us to

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really help the women find their voice. I mean, that's such and contribute

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it, learn how to speak it
because a lot of women have been conditioned

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that they need to be asked to
speak, or need to be invited to

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the party or whatever it might be. And helping them find their voice and

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then share it is part of what, of course we're up to as well,

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and from my perspective, I know
the importance of that, especially when

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we know that women, for the
most part, what they're looking for is

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they do want to create an environment
at work that is compelling and fulfilling for

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others to work in. They want
to nurture people that are in their stead

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and they've got more of a chance
to do that when they start using their

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voice, finding more of their voice, which is also connected of course to

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their passion, their inspiration and their
purpose. But the voice piece is really

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important. Will you say a little
bit more about that from your advantage point,

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because you also bring a fresh perspective
on that, well, I think,

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thank you. I think there's a
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there's a difference between finding your voice
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difference between using it and being really
effective when you use it, And so

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some of this is about how can
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you a quick brief example. I
have a niece who's twenty. She's starting

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the job application process and the cover
letter writing. And you know, I've

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coached her a little bit on you
have about four to six seconds in a

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cover letter to get someone's attention.
So what's important to my niece right now

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is explaining who she is and why
this is important, and she wants to

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be seen and her as a young
woman emerging into the workforce. But quite

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honestly, her first sentence is all
about that and not the purpose of why

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she's writing. So what I've coached
her on a little bit is you can

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use your voice a little bit more
effectively. Make the first statement in your

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cover letter, what is it you
want? I'm applying for this job.

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Here's my resume. There is nothing
wrong with being that forward, thinking,

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that blunt, and just blatantly stating
to somebody I want a job from you,

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you know, in a little bit
better of course, But I think

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sometimes women have we feel like we
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justify why we're even at the table, why we're even having a conversation.

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So one of the first places is
where can we how can we cut through

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some of the noise or the static
that surrounds us or comes from our own

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head, and how do we do
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first thing we say can get heard
by a male dominated organization or structure,

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And then what happens after that once
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structure what we say so that one
we're asking for what we want and we

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do it with integrity and strength,
and also in a way that can be

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a win win for everybody. Does
that make sense the way? I'm absolutely

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absolutely beautiful. Yes, I completely
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my work and my vanished point,
Diane, I've done a lot of work

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over the years convening groups of women
specifically, so when you get women together,

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one they can better understand and be
free to speak and share their vulnerabilities

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and speak their mind. And two
we really want to be able to help

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bring them up together. And when
women come together, there's an incredible force

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that happens, and I've seen it
over and over again, and women stand

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stronger shoulders shoulder. They learn from
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As I've been out speaking Diane over
the last several several months, especially when

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I'm speaking on what will you do
through one precious life and the importance of

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cultivating passion, inspiration and purpose.
Invariably, when I finished speaking, I

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get a few women that will come
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some of those really important things that
have happened in their lives that have

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been you know, real trials for
them, real adversity. And they then

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say, this is how I've either
helped me become who I am today or

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whatever else happened along the way.
But what I've come from that too,

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just those things bringing women together.
From that, Diane emerge this great idea

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that I had. I think,
Matt, I said, you know what,

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now that I've heard a few of
these stories, I'm going to start

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And I did. I started a
monthly women's storytelling session here in the Dallas

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Fort Worth area. And yeah,
and it started by hearing these these women

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who told me their stories. And
you know, one was about and you

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know, a major after divorce reinvention
situation, and the other one was about

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surviving and now thriving after a horrible
sexual assault. And the reason I've begun

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communities these these events is because I
know that when women come together about things

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like that one, there the connection
is so strong. Women need that.

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That's that's nurturing for the soul.
And something about storytelling and sharing experiences with

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others that people say, oh,
she got through that, I can do

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it too, I'm inspired by that
is so important. You know. I'm

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smiling right now because as I look
to the right of my desk, I

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have when I go out into nature, sometimes I find pieces of water bark

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that just feel they speak to me, and I have the words storyteller would

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burned onto this piece of bark,
and it's to my right where I can

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see it all the time, and
it reminds me that it's a piece of

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who I am, not just as
a woman, but a person, a

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human. We all have stories,
women in particular, and I think,

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you know, we've seen a lot
of political and social events come to light

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in the last two or three years
about women's stories, and I think there

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is something really magical and powerful about
telling a story. Not only can if

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you tell a story well you.
Obviously, if you're speaking, you're probably

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saying something that ten or twenty or
one hundred or or a million other people

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want to say but don't feel like
they have the strength. That's the first

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thing. But the second thing is, regardless of what culture you're in,

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regardless of what gender you are,
what race you are, storytelling is inherently

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part of the the fabric of being
human. You know. That's why we

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have history. It's why you know
we can move forward into the future because

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based on stories, we learn and
we grow, and we can effectively literally

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light this you know, this this
global change by telling our stories, and

435
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when we can feel safe, when
we can feel like we've been heard,

436
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that we've been respected, that we
feel safe, and that we can contribute

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in a positive way, humankind wins, regardless of whether you're a manera woman.

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I completely agree with that, Diana. Of course, as you know,

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you and I have spoken about making
that part of the centerpiece of the

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summit. Is also important because it's
a really important art and skill to be

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able to learn how to do well. You mentioned using your voice well,

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telling your story well is really important. And also i'll just quickly share to

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that end, I've also started up
a mon monthly lunch and learn series here

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in collaboration with a company called in
Premise, and we call it the Munch,

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00:32:06.599 --> 00:32:09.680
Mingle and Muse series. I love
it. And the speaker on May

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twenty first is talking about storytelling,
so just that it's really important. So

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let's grab our last break here,
Diane, it's happening so fast. I'm

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00:32:19.839 --> 00:32:22.319
Alie Cortez, your host. We've
been on the air with Diane McLay.

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She is a personal empowerment coach to
forward thinking, mid level professional women.

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He joins us today from outside the
Portland, Oregon area. Stay with us,

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00:32:30.200 --> 00:32:43.759
we will be right back. Alis
Cortez is a speaker and engagement and

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development catalyst. She designs and delivers
professional development, leadership and engagement workshops and

453
00:32:49.920 --> 00:32:53.720
can bring her expertise to your organization. She will help ignite meaningful development within

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your workforce that will increase employee engagement, performance and retention. To learn more

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00:33:00.119 --> 00:33:04.559
or to invite Elise to speak to
your organization, please visit her at www

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00:33:04.680 --> 00:33:08.920
dot Elisecortes dot com. She would
welcome the opportunity to help get your employees

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00:33:09.160 --> 00:33:20.319
working on purpose. This is working
on purpose with Elise Cortes. To reach

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our program today, send an email
to a lease Alise at Aleasecortes dot com.

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Now back to working on Purpose.
Well, thanks for staying with us

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and welcome back to working on Purpose
if you're just tuning in. My guest

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is Diane McClay, who is a
personal environment coach to forward thinking mid level

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professional women. She is a contributing
author to the fourth volume of the book

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Dreaming Big, Being Bold, inspiring
stories from trail Blazer's visionaries and change makers.

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Together, she and I are working
collaborative to create the Woman on Purpose

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Thought Leadership Summit in September twenty nineteen
in Portland, Oregon. Okay, Diane,

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So for we've got start a last
segment here and I want to if

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we can spend a little bit of
time talking about the the inquiry into masculine

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and feminine energy as part of the
summit. Sure, And I think that's

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a great invitation, And I'll be
transparent that I feel like this is a

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space that's evolving for me. But
in my story, you know, I

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always felt like I had to figure
it out, I had to force a

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solution, I had to make it
work. And what I'm realizing is you

473
00:34:24.719 --> 00:34:28.360
know, I've had a shoulder injury
and that kind of laid me up for

474
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a little bit, and I've had
to kind of learn more patience, and

475
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I had to learn to accept what
is coming at me and work with it

476
00:34:36.039 --> 00:34:38.800
in that moment. And as I'm
as I'm doing my own personal work,

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I'm running into lots of thought leaders
about masculine and feminine energy and the two

478
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are not exclusive. In fact,
there's a lot of men who have feminine

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energy and that doesn't mean they're gay. But there's a lot of women who

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have masculine energy and that doesn't mean
that they can't be reason with. There's

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a balance that has to come in
order for us to feel whole and really

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true live in our purpose. And
I feel like exploring that and understanding the

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difference between those can be really helpful
for the people who come to the summit

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and for our listeners. Agreed.
Let me add on that from my Banta's

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point. What I find so often
in the workplace when I'm inside organizations doing

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leadership development work or whether it's more
employee engagement collaboration kind of work, or

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culture work, I am amazed,
especially when I'm in the space of talking

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about passion and inspiration. So many
women are like, oh, no,

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I definitely can't show emotion at work. No, no, I have no,

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I don't do that. They've been
so conditioned not to show emotion at

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work. So this whole beautiful array
of that spectrum of human emotion that we've

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been given to stand in that lets
us bring our passion, our inspiration,

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and live in our purpose. For
a lot of women has they cut that

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off when they come into the front
door. And yet men don't seem to

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be hampered by that. They they're
okay to be move to tears when they

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get inspired, but women are like, uh uh, I'm not doing that.

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So I think there's a real opportunity
here to help us bring back humanity

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into the workplace by helping both men
and women get access to both their masculine

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and feminine energies. Sure, and
I think, you know, it's not

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just about like the physical sense of
coming to tears if something makes us sad.

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But I think it's about being present
with whatever is happening in the moment.

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You know, For me personally,
I know I've apologized to my peers.

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Oh I'm sorry I'm crying, you
know, right right, And so

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first of all, not being apologetic
for actually having feelings, but secondly understanding,

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okay, what's why is that serving
me or what's happening at a different

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level, and how can I work
with it and how can I engage it

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so that it's it helps me help
my voice be heard rather than keeps my

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voice from being heard. Yes,
and I as in from you know,

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my space of purpose and meaning is
in so doing it gives us more access

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to the beauty of life and frankly, our own purpose or whatever our connection

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to our spirituality is. It gives
us access to that. And it's just

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it's so important it is. And
I think, you know, I can't

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quote who I got this from,
but you know, we're in our work

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worlds, we're typically human producers.
We make things, we have a budget,

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00:37:27.159 --> 00:37:30.639
we get things done on time,
we turn things out. We're always

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pushing to make something or create something. But in reality, we're human beings.

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We have an opportunity to be and
appreciate and see and receive and not

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always be in high production mode.
And I know that's been a shift for

519
00:37:45.800 --> 00:37:50.440
me stepping into the coaching world and
into the writing world is that often my

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00:37:50.559 --> 00:37:52.760
coach tells me, staying the step
you're in, and you know, the

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masculine energy side of me would be
like, I have to get this done.

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I've got more things to do.
The sooner I get it done,

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the more I can get done.
And it's kind of this destructive cycle that

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we can stay in. But when
my coach says to me, die,

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stay in the step, be in
the space you are, where do you

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00:38:10.400 --> 00:38:15.400
urge, where do you need to
be? It's okay. That's inviting a

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00:38:15.440 --> 00:38:20.920
softer, more open, feminine approach
to problem solving. Mm hmm. That's

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beautiful and that and that brings me
to where I wanted to go to next

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in the conversation for what we're up
to in the summit. There's there's a

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reason that this summit is going to
be happening in the outside of the Portland,

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Oregon area, somewhere in the Portland, organ area as we just as

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we look at venues, and that
is I'm from Portland, I or from

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Oregon. I spent many many years
there, and of course you live in

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that space too, and you actually
are further grounded in really the environment than

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I am. But what I know
about the whole world of the of well

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being, and certainly passion and inspiration
is the importance of finding being connected to

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nature. There's magical and mystical experience
that can that comes from being connected to

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nature. And so that's such an
important reason that people understand that there's a

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reason we're bringing people from across the
nation to Portland, Oregon to be able

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to connect in that outdoor space.
Not that we're going to be camping outdoors

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per se, but there will be
activities that are designed to dance with nature.

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And I'll just quickly share a couple
weeks ago, I was getting ready

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to I came home at eight o'clock
at night, and I got out of

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00:39:22.719 --> 00:39:27.920
my car and I immediately over my
head there was an owl in the tree

545
00:39:28.000 --> 00:39:32.199
and he sang to me, whoo, and I looked right up and I

546
00:39:32.280 --> 00:39:37.039
returned his songo, and we had
this exchange for like I don't know,

547
00:39:37.079 --> 00:39:39.039
six times, back and forth.
And I was just in awe of that.

548
00:39:39.480 --> 00:39:44.119
And when you can let that feeling
and when you get connected to nature

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wash over you, it gives you
something. It really gives you something.

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And it's not that hart, but
you got to plug into it, and

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00:39:51.639 --> 00:39:55.239
so I'm really excited that part of
what we're up to here is providing that

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kind of opportunity to connect with nature. Will you say a bit about your

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perspective on that too, sure?
And I you know, your story gave

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me jewels and goosebumps at the same
time, and it made me literally just

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00:40:08.480 --> 00:40:14.480
look up in my office at the
feathers that I have above me, and

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00:40:14.559 --> 00:40:17.199
in the words like trust and adapt
and empower and persistent and those are all

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things that nature just does. And
to be able to first of all,

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hear something and pause and receive it, that's standing in that feminine energy,

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you know, the masculine energy might
say, oh this is crazy, this

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sounds crazy. We have to define
this more scientifically. But you have a

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curiosity, a childlike curiosity, which
you embraced and that brought you a sense

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of peace. So nature isn't just
about magical and mystical connections. It's literally

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physically. You can calm your heartbeat
by sitting next to a tree, listening

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00:40:52.280 --> 00:40:57.559
to a stream, turning off your
cell phone, turning off email. And

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sometimes the biggest connection can happen when
we disconnect, literally disconnect from electronics disconnect

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00:41:06.000 --> 00:41:09.519
from the busy mind of ourselves.
One of my favorite things to do is

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just go sit in the middle of
the forest and there's a spot where there's

568
00:41:13.719 --> 00:41:19.320
an old seedar log that served its
purposes of a tree at one point,

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00:41:19.400 --> 00:41:22.480
and it's now a nursery log for
a bunch of other small seater and hemlock

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00:41:22.519 --> 00:41:29.119
trees, and I just like to
sit right next to it and just sort

571
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of narrow my vision. First I
see trees, and then I see little

572
00:41:31.320 --> 00:41:34.920
saplings, and then I see pine
cones, and then I see an ant

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00:41:35.039 --> 00:41:38.320
carrying a seed. And I can
literally be there for five minutes and have

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00:41:38.400 --> 00:41:42.400
it feel like an hour or an
hour, and have it be like five

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minutes. And I think that the
muses you talked about, you know,

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munching, mingling and muses, And
I think that when we can touch base

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00:41:51.079 --> 00:41:54.599
with nature, I think it opens
a way that we can think about things

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00:41:54.639 --> 00:41:59.800
differently, and the muses come in
and we feel permission to be creative and

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00:42:00.000 --> 00:42:02.119
curious. That's what I like about
it. I love that, and also

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00:42:02.280 --> 00:42:06.639
too, what I also know from
the work that I've been doing and the

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00:42:06.880 --> 00:42:09.920
research that I've been doing, is
is that part of what we're losing in

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today's fast and furious, uber connected
technology world is that connection to nature.

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And it's one of the things that
we can when we step back, we

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00:42:19.880 --> 00:42:23.960
step back into it and connect with
it. It gives us that access to

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00:42:24.840 --> 00:42:29.199
a vital life force, and it
gives us a way to be able to

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00:42:29.239 --> 00:42:30.679
shut down the rest of the world, as you were saying, and step

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00:42:30.719 --> 00:42:35.679
into that sacred space, which is
where we can get access to our own

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00:42:35.960 --> 00:42:38.960
purpose, what lights us up,
our own inspiration. And those are today

589
00:42:39.199 --> 00:42:44.039
really vital resources that you bring back
into the work world that make all the

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00:42:44.079 --> 00:42:46.559
difference in the world. But you've
got to develop them. Just like exercising

591
00:42:46.639 --> 00:42:51.920
and taking your vitamin every day and
brushing your teeth should be on that level.

592
00:42:51.920 --> 00:42:55.599
But people, you know, they're
not having they're not having a nice

593
00:42:55.679 --> 00:42:59.840
nutritious diet on a regular basis of
that. And so for us to be

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able to give a path, to
be able to get access to that and

595
00:43:02.320 --> 00:43:07.360
start a way forward connected to nature, I think is so important. Well,

596
00:43:07.599 --> 00:43:08.880
I agree, and you know,
the three words that pop into my

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00:43:09.000 --> 00:43:15.360
mind that are kind of pillars are
discovery and transformation and connection. And I

598
00:43:15.400 --> 00:43:17.800
know you've got a couple of pillars
for h you know, for purpose and

599
00:43:19.199 --> 00:43:23.480
finding your fire. But when when
we can stop and look around and see

600
00:43:23.559 --> 00:43:28.840
what there is, then there's there's
more. You know, we get we

601
00:43:28.880 --> 00:43:34.719
get bigger when we when we pause. I completely agree with that. Absolutely.

602
00:43:34.760 --> 00:43:36.960
I've had some this weekend. In
fact, I ran twelve and a

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00:43:37.000 --> 00:43:39.719
half miles around White Rock Lake here
in Dallas, and for the last three

604
00:43:39.719 --> 00:43:44.840
miles, Diane, literally I spent
them in tears of gratitude. I don't

605
00:43:44.840 --> 00:43:47.280
care who sees me crying, I
don't care. It was so beautiful and

606
00:43:47.320 --> 00:43:51.960
I was so grateful to see all
the interaction and the birds and the squirrels

607
00:43:51.960 --> 00:43:53.880
and everything else, and I was
just it just washed over me, and

608
00:43:53.920 --> 00:44:00.000
I was overcome by the beauty and
really, frankly, how grateful I am

609
00:44:00.119 --> 00:44:02.880
my own life. I hear you, you know, and I keep thinking

610
00:44:02.880 --> 00:44:06.280
of like it's a rippling a pond, right, you know. You take

611
00:44:06.320 --> 00:44:10.800
a little moment of time to reward
yourself and be curious and to have appreciation

612
00:44:10.880 --> 00:44:15.119
and gratitude, and next thing you
know, you're bringing that back to your

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peers and your subordinates and your supervisors
and your community and your workplace and somebody

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else you know, says oh,
I want what she has, and then

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they go and they do the same
thing, and next thing, you know,

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a ripple has been you know,
stone has been cast into a pond.

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And we don't know where the ripple
is going to end up, but

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we know that there's movement and there's
forward action in that space. Absolutely right,

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And I love how you've really,
you've really encapsulated. It's just why

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we're doing this right, is to
be able to convene a group of women

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from across the nation to Portland,
Oregon, bring them together in a way

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that is powerful, that lifts them
up, supports them, gives them tools,

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helps them stand in their passion,
inspiration, purpose, helps him understand

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their intentional choice, drawing from their
masculine, feminine energies, et cetera,

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and all kinds of other amazing things. Because we want desperately for them to

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be those thought leaders, to bring
that back into their communities, their families,

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the organizations they work for, and
begin to deposit that beautiful contribution back

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in That's exactly it. Right when
we were talking about creating this, we

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were like, what do what?
What service do we want to provide?

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And that's it exactly. And your
words, you know, when when you

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and I first met, you shared
them. You said, passion is what

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we put in and inspiration is what
we take out. Mm hmmm, mm

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hmmm. That's what we put into
the world, you know when we when

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we do all of these things,
and we do them with purpose and with

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passion and holistically mm hmm. Yeah. And what's so great about that is

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we give our passions, right,
So what is it we're giving up ourselves

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and we want these women to be
to be to be really effective and fulfilled

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women out there in the world of
work and just across their lives. They

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we need to develop and to nurture
those passions to give them out to the

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world because that in itself is energy
and at the same time, to keep

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ourselves fueled and strong and also childlike, as you say, we need to

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be able to see and be present
to what it is about the world and

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our experiences that inspire us, give
us energy, give us life in order

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to keep that cycle of energy moving. It's just so important. Indeed,

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Hey, would you mind, I
just opened my book and I came across

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the what if poem that I shared
with you while ago would you mind if

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I share that with your listeners and
we can cut out for the rest of

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the day. Let's do it.
So this was inspired by my citer log

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and the question is what if what
if this moment created a ripple in the

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pond? What if the idea in
your head spread to your heart and beyond?

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What if you adapted ever so slight
And what if this moment could change

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your story overnight? What if the
smallest change created the most significant effect.

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What if you choose how to show
up and you choose what happened next?

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Oh, that is gorgeous, Diane, That's beautiful. That's what we're inviting

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women to do, right, is
secure choice. They can change and create

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an impact that can cascade and ripple
back into their communities and their families and

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their places of work with passion and
purpose. Yes, and that is worthy

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of their one precious life. Well, like, we could talk forever on

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this. I know, I know
what we can right And that's the great

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thing is we're just going to keep
these conversations going and keep bringing in more

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other people that want to be in
the conversation and want to be part of

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the process. So, coming down
to the end here, at Diane.

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I want to first make sure that
people know how to find you if they

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if they want to engage you with
conversations. So how would you direct them

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to reach out to you? They
can find me. They can send me

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an email. Coach with Diane at
dianemclay dot com and that's d I A

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N E dot m C c l
A Y dot Coach with Diane at dian

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McLay dot com. I have a
Twitter account at coach with Diane, Instagram

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coach with Diane, and I'm on
LinkedIn Diane McLay. Awesome, well,

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my friend, and I really so
enjoy you and I so enjoy collaborating with

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you. I can't wait to bring
this summit to life in September of twenty

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nineteen Woman on Purpose Thought Leadership Summit
in Portland, Oregon. So thank you

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very much, Diane for being here
with me talking about what we're up to

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and sharing our hearts with our listeners, and thank you for the opportunity.

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And I would just say to the
listeners, if they have an interest in

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attending that summit, drop Lisa I
and email. I'm sure Lisha will give

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you her credentials. At the end
of the show. We don't have it

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completely worked out yet, but we'd
love to see if this lands with you,

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see what kind of interest is out
there, and we'd like to connect

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with you to serve you the best
way we can. Awesome, Yes,

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listeners, you can find me,
as I said at the beginning of the

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show, Elise at a Leascortes dot
com dot com. Okay, so if

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you missed the show last week,
had a really interesting conversation with Karen Hoyos.

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She wrote a book called Purpose,
the Ultimate Quest, and she is

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a personal transformation expert that's helped more
than forty million people across the globe on

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their paths to purpose. She was
an amazing little sparkplug thirty nine years old.

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She's just awesome. So if you
miss the show, go find the

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podcast. Next week we are going
to be on the show with Get This

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Rabbi Daniel Cohen talking about his book
What Will They Say About You When You're

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Gone? All about really creating a
legacy for yourself and reverse engineering your life.

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It'll be awesome. So you then
remember that work is at least one

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third of our life, So let's
work on purpose. We hope you've enjoyed

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this week's program, be sure to
tune in to Working on Purpose, featuring

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your host Alis Cortes, each week
on the Voice America Empowerment Channel. This

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week, find your life's purpose at
work.