What Are You Doing to Realize the Person You Ache to Become?

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There are some people that make their
work just another thing they have to do,

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and there are those that make their
work something that they want to do.

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Welcome to Working on Purpose with your
host Elise Cortes. In our program,

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we provide guidance and inspiration from those
people who have found deeper meaning and

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personal connection to their work life.
It's beyond nine to five, it's working

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on Purpose. Now Here is your
host, Elise Cortes. Welcome back to

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the Working on Purpose Show. Thanks
for tuning in again this week. I'm

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your host, Alis Cortes, don't
you and live from Dallas, Texas,

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which is home base for me.
If you've been tuning in for a while,

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create more meaningful and purposeful lives and
equipping leaders insight organizations to cultivate meaning and

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purpose that elicit's passion inspired contribution,
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speaking and developing workforces across the globe. Each week. In these conversations,

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and thanks for listening. Now onto
this week's program with us today is Rachel

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Stewart, the author of Unqualified Success, bridging the gap from where you are

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today to where you want to be
to achieve massive success. She started as

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what she calls an unqualified office manager
of Titan Restoration of Arizona and rising to

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executive vice president over the last ten
years, helping to build the company from

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two to twenty two million, with
a primary focus on acount ability, profitability,

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and company culture. In this conversation, she will share some of the

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most important lessons she's learned from navigating
her own journey, confronting what she thought

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she was unqualified to do, and
stepping into how she could create the person

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and success she aspired for. She
joins to today from Mesa, Arizona.

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Rachel, Welcome to Working on Purpose. Thank you so much for having me.

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I'm happy to be here me too. I'm so glad we found each

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other. And as I've told you
now a couple of times, I loved

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your book and I can't wait to
share it with you with our listeners.

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I think that anybody who's been listening
for a while will really get some real

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value out of it. So let's
open with who you are, who your

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book really serves. And so you
told me in our opening conversation that it's

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for anyone on a growth trajectory and
likely feeling unqualified for that next level.

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And you say that this does not
mean that you're unqualified for that level.

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But the aim of the book is
to help readers gain awareness of the important

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differentiation and then manage any feelings of
inufficiency in order to do the work in

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the world that you want. And
I love that. So managing mindset fear

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all the different things we're going to
talk about today. So kudos on really

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creating a really tremendous piece of literature. Well, thank you. Well,

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I think the feeling of unqualification is
pretty universal and it doesn't just them.

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You know, it isn't contained to
our work life. You know, I

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often feel very unqualified to be a
parent or to do a lot of different

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things. So the question is like, what do we do with that feeling

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of unqualification? And you know,
if we can build tools and habits around

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those feelings then and combat it,
then we can do really amazing things in

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the world. I really agree with
that and just quickly send so much of

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what I'm up to in the world
is to empower and inspire people to live

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their best, fullest possible life that
is full of passion, inspiration, and

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purpose. Yeah. You're always going
to be growing and stepping into new territory

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to get there, so we need
your wisdom, your experience, and your

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tools to get there. So that's
why I was so happy to have you

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on the show. Yeah. Well, it's really exciting to be talking about

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it. So yeah, and it's
important we do need to talk about it,

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and what there was just so many
great pearls. And I'm going to

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go about our conversation a little bit
different than I normally do because I really

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felt that the way that you created
your work, there's so many quotable things

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in there. So listeners, as
we go through this conversation, I am

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going to be quoting and engaging Rachel
and various pieces of conversation just because of

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the quotes and where they start from. So one of them is you cite

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a woman named Michelle Craig is having
said quote, each of us, if

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we are honest, feels a gap
between who we are and where and who

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we want to become. We yearn
for greater personal capacity. These feelings create

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an urgency to act end quote.
So what's cool about that for me is

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this totally aligns with what Victor Frankel
and other existential psychologists say, and that's

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my space that the tension between who
we are and aim to become is actually

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essential for well being. Can you
say more about where you're coming from on

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that? Yeah? So I think
that the yearning that each of us have

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inside of us to reach for something
bigger can be a powerful motivator if we

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let it. And you know,
at a very basic level, it's what

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gets us out of the bed in
the morning. But then if we can

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harness it on even like deeper levels, it's the driving factor that can help

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us reach our dreams and go from
one steck after the next. And to

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me, it's it's not something that
is ever dormant. It doesn't stop for

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me. So once I hit one
goal or one dream, then it's constantly

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on me. Okay, I want
that next, I want whatever's next.

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And so if we harness that,
it can be such a powerful motivator to

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keep us, you know, engaged
in what we really want in our life.

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Yeah, And the question is if
we're going to get to some of

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that a little bit later in the
conversation, because that's critical. But you're

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first. Your own story is interesting
and I think an example of what we're

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talking about here, I mean,
you talk about in your book of becoming

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a bookkeeper in two thousand and eight, at the beginning of the recession,

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after you've had three of your four
children, naturally with no pain medication.

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I might add, Wow, that
is an incredible testament and expression of the

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concepts in your book. I think
so for our readers who don't yet know

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you as I do having read your
book, Can you give us just a

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little bit of a sketch of how
you ended up entering the workforce in two

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thousand and eight and under what circumstances
are kind of what's evolved from there.

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Yeah. So I was a stay
at home mom, Like you said,

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I had three little kids, and
so most of my life I was spending

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keeping tiny humans live and I did
a little bit of dabbling with some graphic

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design and book lay out on the
side, but primarily I was, you

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know, washing faces and bulb the
laundry. And we had just bought a

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home and we were kind of living
the American dream, just plugging away.

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But the Great Risk Session of two
thousand and eight hit and my husband lost

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his job and we lost half the
value in our home basically overnight. So

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we were left trying to kind of
figure out what we were going to do

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and how we were going to make
things work. So I had kind of

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an opportunity that presented itself. At
the time, I hadn't even necessarily made

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the decision that I was going back
to work. We had talked about it.

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My husband wanted to start his own
business, and we knew that that

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was going to require some capital.
So anyway, I had an opportunity to

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take a job as a bookkeeper.
I wasn't really qualified to do that or

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be an office manager, but one
thing that I had developed in my life

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was the ability to figure things out. And so I guess I just dived

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in and got back into the workforce
and figured out that I could figure it

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out along the way. And it
has just opened the door to so many

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opportunities and so much growth, and
so it has been a blessing in so

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many ways. Well, and I
think you're incredibly humble about that. And

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again, what's so great about what
you've done is you and your book have

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taken us along for that ride,
that journey, and it's it's it's a

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great journey to be on listeners.
So when you pick up her book,

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I'm telling you it's very inspiring.
And you have done a lot in the

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short eleven years that we're talking about
here, Well, thank you. It

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has definitely been a fun thing.
And the latest thing that has been exciting

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is starting a technology company me and
that has been a whole other learning adventure.

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I guess. So I feel like
you know, just as I have

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some things figured out. I'm starting
back at the at the bottom of the

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total pull again. But that's I
think what makes it really fun. We

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get opportunities to continue to stretch ourselves. That's exactly right now. That's on

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top of your other role too in
the restoration company. Yeah, that's correct.

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Me and the owner of that and
a couple of other partners. We

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recognized the need in the space we
were at, and there was there was

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a technology gap that just needed to
be failed, Like we weren't able to

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grow our business the way that we
wanted to. And so after some talking

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about it for a long time,
we finally just pulled the trigger and said,

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okay, let's jump into the space
and start something. So that's amazing.

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Just really quick, let's grub a
question from Tiffany here. She wants

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to know if you can just answer
briefly, did you I think I know

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the answer to this? Did you
feel bad for going back to work?

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She wants to know. She says, I know, I did you know

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what? I think that that's always
a struggle for women, right, like

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you know, it's just such a
powerful thing that we do in our homes

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as we raise our children, but
you know, we have powerful things that

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we can do out in the world
too. So, yes, it was

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a struggle. Luckily, I had
a family that was close and so my

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kids were primarily raised by my parents
while I went back to work, and

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then we were able to kind of
transition into in home nanny and I was

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able to work from home some more. But yeah, it is a struggle

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for sure, beautifully answered. Okay, so the next thing I want to

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bring us back to here, And
you know I talked about this on it

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in our first call, and you
cover it beautifully in your book. But

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this is the profound importance of mindset, and so see a little bit about

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your perspective on mindset and how we
can manage ours to achieve what we want.

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Yeah, so this is the very
first chapter of my book for a

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reason. I think it is the
foundation that leads to all of our results.

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And so many times we think that
if we take action, then our

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feelings will change, like Okay,
if I get this promotion, then I

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will suddenly feel qualified. Or if
I do this, if I get this

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next degree or next certification, then
I'll be I'll feel ready to then go

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for the promotion that I've always wanted, and I think so many times we

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have that backwards, waiting for our
feelings to change before we take you know,

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before we take the next step or
we take action, thinking that's going

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to cause our feelings to change.
And if we can take a step back

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and take a look at what thoughts
are creating those feelings to begin with,

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Like, if we really examine the
thoughts and start working on the thought and

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our mindset, then we're going to
have such better results. We're going to

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be able to come at it from
a place of confidence, if that makes

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sense. So if you can start
with your mindset first, it's going to

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make all the difference. Yeah,
And what I would say too, and

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you talk about this a little bit
later too, is just you know,

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really getting clear about the the future
that you want to live into, and

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that's sort of con generate a feeling
that can help you get the right mindset

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in order to take appropriate actions.
I think that that part of your book

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is extreme. Well, the whole
thing is quite quite well done, but

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that is extremely important and gives us
so much access. Rachel. So I

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love that you started with that first. Thank you. Yeah, thoughts create

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feelings, and that spurs action,
and a lot of times we get that

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out of order. Yeah, yeah, Well, and the other thing you

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talk about along those lines that I
think is also really critical is we as

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human beings, oftentimes fail to understand
how our mindset and our thoughts run us

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automatically and we are not even aware
that we're limiting ourselves or making decisions based

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on how you know, our mind
is working on our behalf without our say

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so. I think your point about
the need to re examine our own thoughts

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about ourselves and what we can do
is essential. As those thoughts might be,

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as you say, out of fashion. I love that, like they

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have maybe been stuck in closet for
too long and should be just maybe giving

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away to some other home. Yes, clean out your thought closet, right,

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just do some spring cleaning. So
so many things that we you know,

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we we think it's part of our
identity, like this is just the

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type of person that I am,
Like, I'm just not a people person.

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And we say that ourselves, like
to ourselves all the time, like

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that's a reality. Pet. Really
it's just the thought and then that creates

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our reality. And if we could
change our thought like that, you are

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a people person, or that you
have the capacity to become a people person

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and just switch out that old thought
for something new that's more, you know,

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more fitting and will serve you so
much better, will be so much

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more flattering, you know. Oh
and thoughts, oh and open opportunity.

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I'll tell you for me, and
this is for you Rachel and listeners.

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I can tell you. For years
I said two things about myself. One,

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I'm technical challenged and backward, and
too I'm not creative. And the

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world that has opened up by saying
I don't really know how to do that

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yet on the computer or you know, with whatever gadget I'm trying to get

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going has opened such a space and
I no longer at all think I'm not

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creative. Oh my god, just
what I've been able to do this year.

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Would never tell you that I'm not
creative. So but I said those

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things for years and believe them wholeheartedly. Right, And really, we get

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to believe whatever we want, and
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our reality. So we can very
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some tools for that in the book
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thought when that's just the truth and
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something that I have just grasped onto
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superpower. And especially in the world
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accessible, like we can have an
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google or YouTube just about anything and
there's really no problem that isn't solvable,

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but you can't really kind of dive
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waiting until you have all the answers, then you're probably never going to it

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moving, but if you can go
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grab our first break. I'm your
host, Alis Cortes. We've been on

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Aleasecortes dot com. Now back to
working on purpose. Thanks Christine with us,

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and welcome back to working on purpose
if you're just joining us. My

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guest is Rachel Stewart, the author
of Unqualified Success, bridging the gap from

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where you are today to where you
want to be to achieve massive success.

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She started as what she calls an
unqualified office manager of the Titan Restoration of

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Arizona and rising to executive vice president
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build a company from two to twenty
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accountability, profitability in company culture.
I'm your host, Alis Cortes. Before

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we get back into the dialogue,
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Ben Ben says he wrote in both
my parents worked and my grandparents watched

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me. At the time, I
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What I want to acknowledge about that, Ben and the rest of the listeners

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is that is a perfect example of
how mindset works and your choice of choosing

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your mindset. You could feel sorry
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me, my parents weren't around,
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And I really want to applaud that
that is a much more healthy, empowering

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stance to look at the way you
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Ben. So back to us,
Rachel, there is again so much I

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want to be able to pull out
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together. And I became familiar with
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book a few years ago and use
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working to themselves to and at a
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quote, for anyone with a desire
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or simply to feel more qualified,
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ability to manage your future and live
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that you can maybe share with us
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one in mind that I thought of, But do you have a favorite one.

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has been so powerful in my life. But our minds are powerful machines and

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they can go to work creating the
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a reality. And so one of
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use it in the book is Sarah
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to our So the listeners may may
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but she is the founder of Spanx
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was selling copiers a printer's door to
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where she wanted her life and she
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like the kind of disposable income that
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the opportunities, the impact, like
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she made this very vivid vision that
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this vision of where of what we
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subconsciously it will go to work trying
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right, that disconnect, And so
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when she had this idea to do
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was I think her her brain going
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do this and and then obviously she
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creating this company. But it all
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making that a reality. And there's
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with leaders inside organizations especially, is
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compelling vision for yourself that's so inspiring, that's irresistible, it just pulls you

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into it, that's part of what
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human being. Yeah, for sure. And you know, you know,

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Arnold Schwarzenegger talks a lot about this, like him doing it. Jim Carrey

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he wrote himself a ten million dollar
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you know, and this is when
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asked, hey, do you think
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this you know, is this realistic? That's the other thing is it cannot

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be realistic. It should not be
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from okay, what is probable,
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I agree completely in fact, and
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from your book that I just love
that's relative to this whole topic you write,

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and here's the quote. I'm in
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and I'm in charge of the outcomes. The future is my property.

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I own all of it. And
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unqualified, insecure side of ourselves that
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counsel from the part of us that
can believe impossible things, that's when things

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can really start to change. It
is only then that a new future is

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created and becomes available to step into. Unquote that is so crisp, so

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compelling and right on. Thank you. I love it because it's empowering.

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So nothing is as motivating as personal
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and our own vision. And when
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then we free ourselves up from being
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of the things around us, and
like open the doors to so many,

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so many possibilities. Absolutely, and
of course that's what I'm all about,

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is empowerment inspiration. So I'm right
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thing we got to talk about is
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is incredibly what I like to call
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how do you define grit? So, the grit is the ability to

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stay in discomfort. And it's the
mental power required to make the lonely and

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painful push through the vulnerability and sometimes
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precede achievement of any kind. And
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be there in the hard place and
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I'm right there. I love that
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go on a little bit further and
this gets really accessible for us, are

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the readers and the listeners. Now, then you go on to tell us

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that staying in discomfort means directly confronting
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pain, seeking pleasure, and conserving
energy. That was so accessible and brilliant

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to me. See a little bit
more about those three areas that we're trying

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to avoid. Yeah, so this
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it's our survival mechanisms that come from
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that want to protect ourselves. We
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and what that means is that we
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mechanisms that we have don't serve us. They keep us alive, but they

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don't serve us when we want to
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what we really have to do is
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able to put that aside and recognize
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this is just my brain trying to
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brain. Now I'm moving forward.
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you know, just beings on maybe
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just say a biological level, but
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higher selves for sure. For sure. So you know, those are things

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that we have to overcome. Is
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stay in the pack, or you
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keep you from being what you really
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we're getting even closer to what I
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goals and what you created. But
here's another another great quote that's going to

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get us more into this discomfort space
to help our listeners gain access to that.

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So quote, it turns out that
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and evolve and are not acting on
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persistent unhappiness from not meeting your potential. You are perpetually carrying the discomfort as

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wasted days and self contempt unquote.
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that I lived and experience that I
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that I'm living my purpose now to
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when I was actually still married and
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to my potential, and I hated
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a thousand deaths every day in the
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the thing that we have to come
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discomfort either way, And so you
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live the discomfort of an unfulfilled,
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really stretching yourself and reaching outside and
doing things that are scary. And so

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really that's a personal personal choice,
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the discomfort that you have in you
reaching for your dreams is so like,

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it's such a better discomfort. There's
a payoff that comes with that versus you

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know, just looking back with regret. Absolutely, And we're going to get

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next into something that I think is
critical for our listeners to listeners, no

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sleeping right now, please listen up. This is really important. So along

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the lines of what we're talking about
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like me refer to this state that
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existential vacuum. When there's something missing
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that we yearn for. That's what
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where it gets really important, listeners. So, Rachel, as you discussed

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in your book, we humans try
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our feelings of this discomfort, and
we do it by overeating, over drinking,

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spending hours on social media, and
countless other ways to try to distract

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from the gnawing discomfort of stagnation.
This is so important, So listeners,

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if you find yourself doing a lot
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critical concept that you're servicing right here
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we all have our favorite numbing agent, and you know, it's just it's

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what we go to when we want
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be as simple as okay, you

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know, scrolling through social media and
stuff to avoid making that difficult sales call

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or doing something that could be a
little bit challenging. And so then we

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buffer and we find other distractions and
everything. But when you can recognize what

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your particular numbing agent is and then
try to put it in a box,

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it can be really helpful. So
let's say you are using social media as

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that buffer against doing some hard things, and you find yourself on there a

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lot and you're just mind mostly scrolling, and what you can do is say

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three on Saturday afternoons, and other
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kind of put some things to limit
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of these things we do unconsciously and
it just becomes habitual for us, and

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then we we just realize we wasted
you know, a lot of a lot

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of time doing something that could have
been better spent elsewhere. So trying to

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put it in a box and contain
it a little bit and recognize what your

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numbing agents are and when you're you're
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advice, I think, Rachel,
is you're not saying, hey, just

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stop social media, scrap it all
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You're not saying that. You're you're
very distinctly saying you're being very intentional

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about how to manage how much you
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a numbing agent or that activity.
And I think that's incredibly useful and something

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that our listeners can really grab hold
of and use and bring in their lives.

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Yeah, and I think intentional is
the correct word, right, because

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we can't be on all the time. We can't be like at this high

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level all the time. So are
there are times and moments where you're going

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to need to take a step back
and disconnect from some of these things.

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It's just finding out when you're using
it to them and when maybe it's your

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intentionally using it as a break from
what you're doing. Fair Enough, let's

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grab our last break here. I'm
Alice Cortez, your host. We've been

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on the air with Rachel Stewart,
the author of Unqualified Success, bridging the

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gap from where you are today to
where you want to be to achieve massive

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success. She joined you today from
Mesa, Arizona. After the break,

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we're going to continue our conversation and
specifically talk about fear. Stay with us,

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We'll be right back. Alis Cortes
is a speaker and engagement and development

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catalyst. She designs and delivers professional
development, leadership and engagement workshops and can

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bring her expertise to your organization.
She will help ignite meaningful development within your

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workforce that will increase employee engagement,
performance and retention. To learn more or

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to invite Elise to speak to your
organization, please visit her at www dot

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Elise Coortes dot com. She would
welcome the opportunity to help get your employees

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working on purpose. This is working
on purpose with Elise Cortes. To reach

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our program today, send an email
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Now back to working on purpose with
this one being back to working on

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purpose if you're just turning out versus
Rachel Stewart. She's the author of Unqualified

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Success, bridging the gap from where
you are today to where you want to

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be to achieve massive success. She
started as what she calls an unqualified office

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manager of Titan and Restoration of Arizona
and has risen to executive vice president over

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the last ten years up to build
a company from two to twenty two million

435
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dollars with a primary focus on accountability, profitability, and company culture. I'm

436
00:32:25.359 --> 00:32:30.960
your host, Alice Cortes. So, as I sort of said before before

437
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we came into this next break,
we got to talk about fear, which

438
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is such an important elephant in the
room when it comes to achieving our next

439
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level of wherever we are aspiring for. So once again, Rachel and listeners,

440
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I have to read a few sentences
from the book because they're so witty

441
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and perfectly situate how we need to
embrace fear. So here we go quote,

442
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rather than spending all your energy resisting
fear when it shows up with this

443
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extra luggage and its suggested list of
annoying detours, you can just recognize that

444
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it's necessary part of your human experience, especially when you were taking your life

445
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to a new level going somewhere fear
is going to. But fear never gets

446
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to drive, never gets the steering
wheel. It doesn't get to give directions,

447
00:33:07.920 --> 00:33:12.200
question the route, to consult the
map, or even control the radio.

448
00:33:12.400 --> 00:33:14.880
It just gets to sit in back
with his headphones on and go for

449
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a ride, hitching a lift with
you on the way to your dreams.

450
00:33:17.480 --> 00:33:23.279
Unquote, Rachel love that it's so
awesome. What a great way to distinguish

451
00:33:23.640 --> 00:33:29.920
fear and take the smack out of
it, right, Yeah, well,

452
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I definitely think that the sooner we
can realize that that's just part of the

453
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journey and anytime we're going to be
stepping out and doing something big, there

454
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is going to be fair. And
so when you can go okay, you

455
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know it's a lump for the ride
it's coming, and expose yourself more to

456
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that idea and you know the feelings
that come along with fear, you can

457
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recognize that, Okay, it's not
that scary. I can just move on

458
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and move forward. Well. The
other thing that I think is so brilliant

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about what you do in that passage, Rachel, Again it aligns with logo

460
00:34:05.799 --> 00:34:08.840
therapy and existential psychology, especially logo
therapy, is the use of humor.

461
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Humor is an incredibly useful human tool, and to be able to make fun

462
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of fear, this horrible thing that
off of controls our lives, is pretty

463
00:34:17.800 --> 00:34:22.960
powerful. Yeah. Well, and
often we can look back at it,

464
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and we can do that really well
after the fact. So it's being able

465
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to make that part of the present
that because a lot of times you can

466
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look back at something and be like, I can't believe I was so afraid

467
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of this, you know, and
you can laugh at it after the fact.

468
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But making that more a part of
your present, like you know,

469
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real having a sense of humor with
it, I think takes this thing out

470
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of it can be a little bit
less terrifying. Absolutely, And I just

471
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got an image. I think it'd
be really fun listeners if you actually give

472
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your fear a name or you know, whether it's a passage or something,

473
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and put it on a you know, a stuffed down or something, and

474
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actually strap it in your car and
take it with you to the next big

475
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meeting. Wouldn't that be fun?
That's awesome. Careful the mind is a

476
00:35:13.920 --> 00:35:15.920
terrible thing when it gets undirected,
right, I could go on all different

477
00:35:16.000 --> 00:35:19.760
kinds of directions. See, and
you said, and you at one point

478
00:35:19.840 --> 00:35:22.719
thought you weren't creative. No,
and I told you before. Now that

479
00:35:22.840 --> 00:35:27.239
I've grasped it totally, so I'm
going for it. But okay, so

480
00:35:27.559 --> 00:35:30.039
the next fun thing we got to
talk about just right right there up with

481
00:35:30.320 --> 00:35:37.039
with fear, is this other f
word that's that's failure. And and again

482
00:35:37.440 --> 00:35:42.039
you say failure is quote simply the
natural result of innovation and creativity as we

483
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push past our current boundaries and explore
what's still possible unquote. And that you

484
00:35:45.480 --> 00:35:51.039
also say, framing failure as the
way to the goal rather than an unpleasant

485
00:35:51.119 --> 00:35:55.199
detour on the other end of the
road can change everything unquote. Completely agree.

486
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Any examples that you can help us
better underderstand how those really show up

487
00:36:01.000 --> 00:36:06.440
for us. Yeah, for sure. So I really love something that Mayo

488
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Clinic had started doing and it's called
the Queasy Eagle Award, and they it's

489
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given out to ideas that, you
know, despite significant effort, a lot

490
00:36:15.559 --> 00:36:20.599
of work and inspiration, didn't quite
make the cut. They just ended up

491
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being failure. And so they have
this award called the Queasy Eagle where they

492
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celebrate all of these ideas. And
what's so cool about that is that it

493
00:36:29.760 --> 00:36:35.599
took the shame and embarrassment out of
failure and put it where it really should

494
00:36:35.639 --> 00:36:38.440
be, which is just it's just
an idea that didn't work that you know,

495
00:36:38.559 --> 00:36:42.559
we tweak it, we fix it. You know, it's nothing about

496
00:36:42.960 --> 00:36:47.679
it. It's not a statement of
our worth or any anything else. And

497
00:36:47.960 --> 00:36:55.280
it resulted, this Queasy Eagle Award
resulted in a significant number of ideas that

498
00:36:55.400 --> 00:37:04.400
have now become patents and have these
you know, it's taken Mayo to a

499
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whole other level of innovation because they
were they just had this award called the

500
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Queasy Eagle Award, and they they
spent time celebrating it. Mm hmmm.

501
00:37:13.880 --> 00:37:15.000
Yeah. And I've heard and you
say it in your book. I think

502
00:37:15.039 --> 00:37:19.159
in different ways too, But I've
heard many organizations and leaders that I work

503
00:37:19.199 --> 00:37:22.440
with say, yeah, let's fail
fast. Let's how many failures can we

504
00:37:22.480 --> 00:37:24.639
actually generate here to get on to
the next amazing thing that if we didn't

505
00:37:24.679 --> 00:37:30.800
have those failures we wouldn't ever uncover
for sure. And there's so many stories

506
00:37:30.840 --> 00:37:34.440
about that, and you look back
and it's easy to see in other people

507
00:37:34.599 --> 00:37:38.079
or in other organizations, and a
little bit harder to apply because it feels

508
00:37:38.119 --> 00:37:43.679
so personal when it's our failure.
But if that's something that we can do

509
00:37:43.840 --> 00:37:49.199
often is celebrate, celebrating and looking
for failure, then we are going to

510
00:37:49.199 --> 00:37:52.760
succeed that much faster. Mm hmmmm. Well, and that might get to

511
00:37:53.119 --> 00:37:55.519
one of the other really great points
that you and I talked about on the

512
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phone as we were talking about what
we wanted to discuss. And then of

513
00:37:59.039 --> 00:38:02.480
course it's in your book, and
it's it's vulnerability. And I found what

514
00:38:02.599 --> 00:38:07.760
you write about is incredibly refreshing,
especially as it relates to leaders, and

515
00:38:07.880 --> 00:38:10.679
you say it's good for leaders to
have a slight bit of vulnerability, if

516
00:38:10.760 --> 00:38:14.960
not a good bit, and not
stand in hey, I've got this all

517
00:38:15.000 --> 00:38:17.159
figured out. Why do you think
that? Why do you take that stance?

518
00:38:20.599 --> 00:38:22.840
Well, I think for a couple
of reasons. One I think it

519
00:38:22.920 --> 00:38:27.440
gives us a space to not be
perfect, to not have it all figured

520
00:38:27.480 --> 00:38:30.679
out. But also I think what
it does for our teams and the people

521
00:38:30.760 --> 00:38:35.639
that were surrounded with because you know, they get to be a part of

522
00:38:35.719 --> 00:38:38.039
that journey, they get to be
helpy the solution to figure it out,

523
00:38:38.119 --> 00:38:44.239
they help they get There's just so
much more energy and innovation and when you

524
00:38:44.320 --> 00:38:50.239
can approach things from a beginner's mindset
that maybe you know and asking why and

525
00:38:50.400 --> 00:38:53.679
what if this wasn't true or what
if I don't know that and that's okay,

526
00:38:53.840 --> 00:38:58.760
you know, and so being able
to lead from that place, I

527
00:38:58.840 --> 00:39:00.719
think when you get so much more
innovation and buy in from your team,

528
00:39:01.079 --> 00:39:07.719
but too, there's so much less
pressure and stress I think on you as

529
00:39:07.840 --> 00:39:10.840
a leader. H I completely agree
with all that. I appreciate that.

530
00:39:14.000 --> 00:39:16.280
As I read your book. There's
one thing that I think probably that showed

531
00:39:16.360 --> 00:39:21.280
up for me that I resonated with
so strongly and why I love your book,

532
00:39:21.320 --> 00:39:23.280
and it's I think it's it's what
I would call it's human agency.

533
00:39:23.440 --> 00:39:28.559
Agency is the idea of how does
we make things happen? There's so much

534
00:39:28.639 --> 00:39:30.920
in your in your book about being
able to make something happen, And I

535
00:39:31.239 --> 00:39:36.800
just want to call that out as
really a phenomenal way to describe and distinguish

536
00:39:36.840 --> 00:39:42.920
what you've done. Thank you.
Yeah, I think you know, there's

537
00:39:43.159 --> 00:39:47.239
I think there's a lot of ways
to get there. But I have found

538
00:39:47.280 --> 00:39:52.360
success in the habits and characteristics that
I talked about in my book and the

539
00:39:52.599 --> 00:39:54.719
exercises to help build that. And
that's the other thing is I think that

540
00:39:54.800 --> 00:40:00.519
all of this we can learn along
the way. It It doesn't have to

541
00:40:00.599 --> 00:40:05.599
be something that's built in us or
natural like, we don't have to be

542
00:40:05.760 --> 00:40:10.559
naturally talented in any of these things. There are skills and characters that can

543
00:40:10.639 --> 00:40:15.119
be developed. Mm hmm. Yeah, it's not that, oh was I

544
00:40:15.199 --> 00:40:16.920
born to be a fantastic human being? And can I be successful? Or

545
00:40:16.920 --> 00:40:20.920
am I doomed to failure? And
that goes back kind of the back to

546
00:40:21.000 --> 00:40:23.800
mindset, the growth mindset, which
you know, which trumps the fixed mindset.

547
00:40:23.920 --> 00:40:28.719
So I love that too. And
the next thing I want to talk

548
00:40:28.760 --> 00:40:31.079
about too, that I think is
just so important again speaks to agency and

549
00:40:31.440 --> 00:40:35.599
making things happen. And it's the
idea of showing up, so you say,

550
00:40:35.760 --> 00:40:39.039
quote in a world obsessed with discovering
phenomenal talent. There is very little

551
00:40:39.119 --> 00:40:45.440
attention paid to the quiet, continuous
act of showing up phenomenal yes a grade

552
00:40:45.480 --> 00:40:50.800
say more about that. Well,
I think this is a little self serveying

553
00:40:51.519 --> 00:40:57.920
this this part of my book,
because I don't consider myself a strong talent,

554
00:41:00.119 --> 00:41:04.440
so I don't think I would win
that award for many different things in

555
00:41:04.480 --> 00:41:08.000
my life. But one thing that
I did have the ability to do was

556
00:41:08.039 --> 00:41:12.480
to work hard and to show up. And so I saw that a lot

557
00:41:12.559 --> 00:41:16.880
in my life, and I got
that award a lot like running cross country

558
00:41:17.000 --> 00:41:20.599
track. You know, I'd get
the hardest Worker award or whatever, and

559
00:41:20.679 --> 00:41:25.800
they're like, you know, she
gets out there and tries hard. But

560
00:41:27.280 --> 00:41:30.280
one thing I learned from that is
that just by showing up every day,

561
00:41:30.639 --> 00:41:37.519
it is amazing what you can actually
accomplish in your life. And just being

562
00:41:37.639 --> 00:41:40.800
there and putting in the hours and
putting in the hard work. I'll take

563
00:41:40.840 --> 00:41:46.519
a hard worker over you know,
somebody extremely talented and bright any day of

564
00:41:46.599 --> 00:41:50.880
the week. And that's something that
I've learned. As you know, I've

565
00:41:50.920 --> 00:41:57.119
been hiring and growing my team and
everything is those people that are really committed

566
00:41:57.599 --> 00:42:00.320
that are going to come in and
dig in and give their heart art and

567
00:42:00.679 --> 00:42:04.679
you know, work with passion and
everything like that. The technical skills the

568
00:42:04.760 --> 00:42:07.440
other things I you know, we
can train, we can work around that,

569
00:42:07.719 --> 00:42:12.800
but that's that's something that can't be
taught, and I think there's just

570
00:42:12.880 --> 00:42:16.079
a lot of power to that.
I agree, you know, into that

571
00:42:16.239 --> 00:42:20.840
bit about showing up. I really
related to that and resonated with it too

572
00:42:21.000 --> 00:42:24.320
from my own experience. And when
I do read author's work to get prepared

573
00:42:24.320 --> 00:42:28.159
for the show, I often try
to really make sure I can try the

574
00:42:28.199 --> 00:42:30.360
stuff on for myself so I can
see how it works and it helps me

575
00:42:30.440 --> 00:42:34.840
better speak about it. So for
me, what I would showcase about showing

576
00:42:34.920 --> 00:42:38.039
up is I have been hosting this
radio show for more than four and a

577
00:42:38.079 --> 00:42:43.360
half years, and so today you
are number episode two hundred and forty seven.

578
00:42:43.960 --> 00:42:47.679
So I get to continue to show
up and continue catalyzing my own thinking

579
00:42:47.760 --> 00:42:52.360
and understanding of meaning, purpose,
inspiration, motivation in the workplace and in

580
00:42:52.440 --> 00:42:58.599
life because I host the show and
I've really come to see for me Rachel,

581
00:42:58.639 --> 00:43:02.840
that in doing so, this show
is an amazing catalyzing platform for me,

582
00:43:02.960 --> 00:43:07.559
and I continue to do it because
it helps me become a better thought

583
00:43:07.639 --> 00:43:10.440
leader, a better speaker, a
better practitioner, a better business leader.

584
00:43:12.639 --> 00:43:16.440
But if I didn't show up,
I wouldn't get that. That's that's awesome.

585
00:43:16.639 --> 00:43:21.920
I mean that that really to speaks
to you know what it is,

586
00:43:22.039 --> 00:43:25.360
and you know it just the small
simple acts that we do every day,

587
00:43:25.719 --> 00:43:30.000
like over a period of time,
they start, you know, making a

588
00:43:30.119 --> 00:43:35.199
huge impact and they can change the
tra directory of where we're going. And

589
00:43:35.360 --> 00:43:40.360
so I love that example that you
gave. Thank you. I do too.

590
00:43:40.480 --> 00:43:43.400
And one of the other things that
I do want to talk about because

591
00:43:43.400 --> 00:43:45.559
we do have a little bit of
time to cover it, is this is

592
00:43:45.639 --> 00:43:51.039
important for our listeners for wherever they
are. But you you distinguish in your

593
00:43:51.079 --> 00:43:54.679
book and you say quote start with
where you are in quote, which has

594
00:43:54.719 --> 00:43:59.599
a difference between which is different than
what somebody else might say, which is

595
00:43:59.639 --> 00:44:01.360
fake until you make it. I
really like that because it's so much more

596
00:44:01.400 --> 00:44:05.679
real. But you say, there
is a huge difference between a person who

597
00:44:05.719 --> 00:44:09.440
plays small and scared because they might
be exposed as an ignorant fraud and someone

598
00:44:09.519 --> 00:44:13.760
who may not know everything but plays
all out because they are one hundred percent

599
00:44:13.840 --> 00:44:17.199
confident they can figure it out that
is spectacular, Say more about that.

600
00:44:19.800 --> 00:44:23.480
Yeah, So again, this is
something that I feel so passionately about,

601
00:44:23.719 --> 00:44:30.039
like just you know, really get
in and give it a go. And

602
00:44:30.400 --> 00:44:31.920
so yeah, some people say fake
it till you make it, or start

603
00:44:31.960 --> 00:44:36.400
where you are, whatever it is, but there's so much power in just

604
00:44:36.840 --> 00:44:39.840
beginning the journey and then so much
can be figured out along the way,

605
00:44:39.960 --> 00:44:45.599
and there's there are going to be
challenges and you know, I'm trying to

606
00:44:45.960 --> 00:44:49.400
think back about where I heard this, but somebody once told me that,

607
00:44:50.119 --> 00:44:54.119
like what is the most powerful currency
or what makes the company the most valuable

608
00:44:54.760 --> 00:45:00.480
is how many problems you have solved
along the way. And you know,

609
00:45:00.719 --> 00:45:05.480
and I think that that's really what
it is. It's just if you're waiting

610
00:45:05.679 --> 00:45:08.880
till we have it all figured out
or there's perfect answers or perfect solutions,

611
00:45:09.280 --> 00:45:15.239
you'll never get going and the opportunity
will will pass by. And especially the

612
00:45:15.280 --> 00:45:20.000
way the world's moving, which technology
is advancing so fast and innovation happens so

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quickly and companies are scaling it such
a rapid pace. Like if you're waiting

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until you have solutions or you feel
like you're ready, it's going to be

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gone and so it's too late.
I just think, yeah, jump in

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with both feet and give it a
going, and if it ends up being,

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you know, a queasy eagle,
I'm soree it. But I think

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more often than not that will surprise
ourselves with what we got. Another quick

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image on that one as you were
talking, Rachel, so, I got

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the image of somebody, any of
us, standing on the big diving board,

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scared to death to jump into the
deep end. But we, you

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know, take our left hand,
plug our nose, close our eyes,

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jump off that diving board into the
deep end, and you know, just

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trust that we'll get there. And
I do think it does require a leap

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of faith to really go for what
we want in life. So again,

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that's so much of why I wanted
to share with my listeners, and what

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you've written is awesome and so helpful. You. Yeah, so this is

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a perfect way for us to finish
the show, I think, because it

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showcases so well why I continue to
showcase this show about leaders, authors and

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experts like you. You say quote. When we set aside our fears and

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the many reasons we can't do something
as we are unqualified to do it,

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we progress personally but simultaneously we lift
others and allow them to rise with us.

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Our unqualified success always has a ripple
effect. Would you please say more

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about that? That is beautiful and
I completely agree with that. Yeah,

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you know, I just think that
as we chase our dreams, we give

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other people the permission to chase their
So so often I think that the people

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around me go, oh, wow, she can do it. I could

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do it, you know, because
they they've been around me enough to know

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that there's nothing, you know,
incredibly special about me. But you know,

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they're like, oh, okay,
So when it gives permission for people

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to go after their dreams. But
I think the other thing is that provides

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opportunities and you know, as you
grow, as you learn and develop,

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those are those are skills and thoughts
that you can share with the people around

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you. And you know, I
think, like your following in your community,

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how how much have people learned and
grown because of you because you were

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willing to take that step right and
to do things that were scary and to

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start out and just put yourself out
there in the world and put your work

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out there. And you know,
the ripple effect that you've had on your

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community and so I think as all
of us do our work, that those

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opportunities arise and we have such a
you know, we can do so much

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good. I agree, And two
things to that. So today, Rachel,

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you are my ripple effect and for
our listeners as well. And the

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second thing I want to say related
to that is, yes, I'm on

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a mission to make a difference in
the lives of one million people before I

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find my way into the earth,
and that is to help them better activate,

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discover their passion, inspiration and purpose. And so the ripple effect is

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really important to me. That's that's
phenomenal. I love that. And you

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know, as you do your work, then you know, what benefit are

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those people who are gaining benefit from
you passing on to somebody else, you

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know. So it's you're going to
impact a million people, but then by

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those million people impacting others, how
many people will you pect? That's exactly

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the point exactly we need to close
here. But I want to give you

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a chance just to say, say, maybe in fifteen seconds, what would

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you like to leave a listeners with
today. Yeah, I'm just excited to

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see what people do with their unqualified
journeys, and you know, just to

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do the hard work, have a
little faith, be brave and jump in

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and you know, and let's support
each other on the journey. Sounds good

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to me. Thank you so much
Rachel for writing your book, being on

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the show, sharing yourself listeners.
If you want to learn more about Rachel

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Stewart, visit her at unqualifiedtools dot
com. Last week, if you missed

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the live show, you can always
catch it be recorded podcast. We were

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on the air with Meredith Elliott Powell, keynote speaker and author of Own It,

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Redefining Responsibility, Stories of Power,
Freedom and Purpose. We talked about

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the new business frontier we're working in
with a corporate, with the corporation being

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defined to serve not just shareholders,
but the broader community of customers, employees,

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suppliers in the community. And we
contrasted that to the old world of

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employee engagement with the new and we
helped individual employees understand how to claim their

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own responsibility and opportunity to claim their
level of engagement and career advancement without relying

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on any organization to do it for
them. Very inspiring conversation. Next week

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we'll be on the air with Carl
Monger, who's the founder of the Gallant

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Few, an organization which helps military
professionals transition to civilian life with purpose and

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wellbeing. See you there. Remember
that works at least one third of our

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life, So let's work on purpose. We hope you've enjoyed this week's program.

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Be sure to tune in to Working
on Purpose, featuring your host Alis

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Cortes, each week on the Voice
America Empowerment Channel. This week, find

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your life's purpose at work