What Are You Doing to Realize the Person You Ache to Become?

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There are some people that make their
work just another thing they have to do,

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and there are those that make their
work something that they want to do.

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Welcome to Working on Purpose with your
host Elise Cortez. In our program,

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we provide guidance and inspiration from those
people who have found deeper meaning and

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personal connection to their work life.
It's beyond nine to five. It's working

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on Purpose. Now Here is your
host, Elise Cortez. Welcome back to

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the Working on Purpose Show. Thanks
be tuning in again this week. I'm

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your host, Elise Cortez. Join
you live from Dallas, Texas, which

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is home base for me. If
you've been tuning in for a while,

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meaningful and purposeful lives and equipping leaders
inside organizations to cultivate meaning and purpose that

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elicits passion inspired contribution, innovation,
and persevering performance. I talk with my

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guests to draw on their expertise and
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workforces across the globe. Each week. In these conversations, I hope you

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Let's open a conversation to explore what's
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I might be able to help.
Whether you want to learn more about how

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your company or conference at any rate. I'm glad we're connected, and thanks

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for listening. Now on to this
week's program with us today is Rachel Stewart,

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the author of Unqualified Success, bridging
the gap from where you are today

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to where you want to be to
achieve massive success. She started as what

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she calls an unqualified office manager of
Titan Restoration of Arizona and rising to executive

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vice president over the last ten years, helping to build the company from two

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to twenty two million, with a
primary focus on accoun ability, profitability,

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and company culture. In this conversation, she will share some of the most

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important lessons she's learned from navigating her
own journey, confronting what she thought she

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was unqualified to do, stepping into
how she could create the person and success

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she aspired for. She joins the
day from Mesa, Arizona. Rachel,

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Welcome to Working on Purpose. Thank
you so much for having me. I'm

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happy to be here me too.
I'm so glad we found each other.

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And as I've told you now a
couple of times, I loved your book

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and I can't wait to share it
with you with our listeners. I think

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that anybody who's been listening for a
while will really get some real value out

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of it. So let's open with
who you are, who your book really

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serves. And so you told me
in our opening conversation that it's for anyone

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on a growth trajectory and likely feeling
unqualified for that next level. And you

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say that this does not mean that
you're unqualified for that level. But the

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aim of a book is to help
readers gain awareness of the important differentiation and

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then manage any feelings of insufficiency in
order to do the work in the world

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that you want. And I love
that. So managing mindset, fear all

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the different things we're going to talk
about today. So kudos on really creating

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a really tremendous piece of literature.
Well, thank you. Well, I

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think the feeling of unqualification is pretty
universal and it doesn't just them. You

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know, it isn't contained to our
work life. You know, I often

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feel very unqualified to be a parent
or to do a lot of different things.

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So the question is like, what
do we do with that feeling of

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unqualification? And you know, if
we can build tools and habits around those

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feelings then and combat it, then
we can do really amazing things in the

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world. I really agree with that
and just quickly send so much of what

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I'm up to in the world is
to empower and inspire people to live their

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best, fullest possible life that is
full of passion, inspiration, and purpose.

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Yeah. You're always going to be
growing and stepping into new territory to

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get there, so we need your
wisdom, your experience, and your tools

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to get there. So that's why
I was so happy to have you on

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the show. Yeah. Well,
it's really exciting to be talking about it.

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So yeah, and it's important we
do need to talk about it,

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and what there was just so many
great pearls, and I'm going to go

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about our conversation a little bit different
than I normally do because I really felt

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that the way that you created your
work, there's so many quotable things in

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there. So listeners, as we
go through this conversation, I am going

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to be quoting and engaging Rachel and
various pieces of conversation just because of the

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quotes and where they start from.
So one of them is you site a

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woman named Michelle Craig is having said
quote, each of us, if we

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are honest, feels a gap between
who we are and where and who we

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want to become. We yearn for
greater personal capacity. These feelings create an

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urgency to act end quote. So
what's cool about that for me is this

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totally aligns with what Victor Frankel and
other existential psychologists say, and that's my

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space that the tension between who we
are and aim to become is actually essential

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for well being. Can you say
more about your we are coming from on

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that? Yeah? So I think
that the yearning that each of us have

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inside of us to reach for something
bigger can be a powerful motivator if we

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let it. And you know,
at a very basic level, it's what

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gets us out of the bed in
the morning. But then if we can

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harness it on even like deeper levels, it's the driving factor that can help

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us reach our dreams and go from
one step after the next. And to

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me, it's not something that is
ever dormant. It doesn't stop for me.

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So once I hit one goal or
one drain, then it's constantly on

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me. Okay, I want that
next, want, I want whatever's next.

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And so if we harness that,
it can be such a powerful motivator

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to keep us, you know,
engaged in what we really want in our

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life. Yeah, and the question
is if, and we're going to get

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to some of that a little bit
later in the conversation because that's critical.

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But your first your own story is
interesting and I think an example of what

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we're talking about here. I mean, you talk about in your book of

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becoming a bookkeeper in two thousand and
eight, at the beginning of the recession,

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after you've had three of your four
children naturally with no pain medication.

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I might add, Wow, that
is an incredible testament and expression of the

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concepts in your book. I think
so for our readers who don't yet know

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you as I do having read your
book, can you give us just a

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little bit of a sketch of how
you ended up entering the workforce in two

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thousand and eight and under what circumstances
and kind of what's evolved from there.

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Yeah. So I was a stay
at home mom, Like you said,

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I had three little kids, and
so most of my life I was spending

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keeping tiny humans live. And I
did a little bit of dabbling with some

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graphic design and book lay out on
the side, but primarily I was,

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you know, washing faces and full
the laundry, and and we had just

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bought a home and we're kind of
living the American dream just fucking away.

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But the Great Session of two thousand
and eight hit and my husband lost his

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job and we lost half the value
in our home basically overnight. So we

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were left trying to kind of figure
out what we were going to do and

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how we were gonna make things work. So I had kind of an opportunity

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that presented itself. At the time, I hadn't even necessarily made the decision

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that I was going back to work. We had talked about it. My

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husband wanted to start his own business, and we knew that that was going

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to require some capital. So anyway, I had an opportunity to take a

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job as a bookkeeper. I wasn't
really qualified to do that or be an

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office manager, but one thing that
I had developed in my life was the

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ability to figure things out. And
so I guess I just dived in and

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got back into the workforce and figure
out that I could figure it out along

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the way, and it was just
opened the door to so many opportunities and

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so much growth, and so it
has been a blessing in so many ways.

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Well, and I think you're incredibly
humble about that. And again,

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what's so great about what you've done
is you in your book have taken us

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along for that ride, that journey, and it's it's it's a great journey

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to beyond listeners. So when you
pick up our book, I'm telling you

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it's very inspiring. And you have
done a lot in at the short eleven

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years we're talking about here. Well, thank you. It has definitely been

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a fun thing. And the latest
thing that has been exciting is starting at

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technology company me and that has been
a whole other learning adventure. I guess,

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so I feel like, you know, just as I have some things

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figured out. I'm starting back at
the at the bottom of the total pole

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again. But that's I think what
makes it really fun. We get opportunities

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to continue to stretch ourselves. That's
exactly right now. That's on top of

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your other role too in the restoration
company. Yeah, that's correct. Me

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and the owner of that and a
couple of other partners. We we recognize

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the need in the space we were
at, and there was there was a

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technology gap that just needed to be
failed, Like we weren't able to grow

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our business the way that we wanted
to. And so after some some talking

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about it for a long time,
we finally just pulled the trigger and said,

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okay, let's let's jump into this
space and start something. So that's

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amazing. Just really quick, let's
grab a question from Tiffany here. She

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wants to know if you can just
answer briefly, did you I think I

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know the answer to this. Did
you feel bad for going back to work?

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She wants to know. She says, I know, I did you

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know what? I think that that's
always a struggle for women, right like

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you know, it's just such a
powerful thing that we do in our homes

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as we raise our children. But
you know, we have powerful things that

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we can do out in the world
too. So yes, it was a

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struggle. Luckily, I had family
that was close and so my kids were

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primarily raised by my parents while I
went back to work, and then we

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were able to kind of transition into
in home nanny and I was able to

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work from home some more. But
yeah, it is a struggle for sure,

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beautifully answered. Okay, so the
next thing I want to bring us

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back to here, and you know
I talked about this on it in our

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first call, and you cover it
beautifully in your book. But this is

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the profound importance of mindset, and
so see a little bit about your perspective

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on mindset and how we can manage
ours to achieve what we want. Yeah,

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so this is the very first chapter
in my book for a reason.

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I think it is the foundation that
leads to all of our results. And

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so many times we think that if
we take action, then our feelings will

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change, like Okay, if I
get this promotion, then I will suddenly

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feel qualified. Or if I do
this, if I get this next degree

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or next certification, then I'll be
I'll feel ready to then go for the

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promotion that I've always wanted. And
I think so many times we have that

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backwards, waiting for our feelings to
change before we take you know, before

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we take the next step or we
take action, thinking that's going to cause

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our feelings to change. And if
we can take a step back and take

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a look at what thoughts are creating
those feelings to begin with, Like,

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if we really examine the thoughts and
start working on the thought and our mindset,

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then we're going to have such better
results. We're gonna be able to

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come at it from a place of
confidence, if that makes sense. So,

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if if you can start with your
mindset first, it's going to make

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all the difference. Yeah. And
what I would say too, and you

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talk about this a little bit later
too, is just you know, really

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getting clear about about the the future
that you want to you want to live

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into, and that sort of can
generate a feeling that can help you get

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the right mindset in order to take
appropriate actions. I think that that part

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of your book is extreme. Well, the whole thing is quite quite well

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done, but that is extremely important
and gives us so much access. Rachel.

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So I love that you started with
that first. Thank you. Yeah,

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thoughts create feelings and that spurs action, and a lot of times we

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get that out of order. Yeah, yeah, Well, and the other

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thing you talk about along those lines
that I think is also really critical,

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as we as human beings oftentimes fail
to understand how our mindset and our thoughts

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run us automatically, and we are
not even aware that we're limiting ourselves or

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making decisions based on how you know, our mind is working on our behalf

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without our say so. I think
your point about the need to reexamine our

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own thoughts about ourselves and what we
can do is essential. As those thoughts

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might be, as you say,
out of fashion. I love that,

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like they have maybe been stuck in
a closet for too long and should be

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just maybe given away to some other
home. Yes, clean out your thought

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closet, just do some spring cleaning. So so many things that we you

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know, we think it's part of
our identity, like this is just the

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type of person that I am,
Like I'm just not a people person.

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And we say that ourselves, like
to ourselves all the time like that's a

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reality, But really it's just the
thought and then that creates our reality.

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And if we could change our thought
like that, you are a people person,

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or that you have the capacity to
become a people person and just switch

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out that old thought for something new
that's more, you know, more fitting,

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and we'll serve you so much better, will be so much more flattering,

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you know, open thoughts, oh, and open opportunity. I'll tell

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you for me, and this is
for you Rachel and listeners. I can

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tell you. For years I said
two things about myself. One, I'm

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technical challenged and backward, and too
I'm not creative. And the world that

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has opened up by saying, m
I don't really know how to do that

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yet on the computer or you know, with whatever gadget I'm trying to get

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going has opened such a space and
I no longer at all think I'm not

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creative. Oh my god, just
what I've been able to do this year.

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Would never tell you that I'm not
creative. So but I said those

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things for years and believe them wholeheartedly. Right, And really, we get

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to believe whatever we want, and
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it becomes our reality. So we
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I give some tools for that in
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you can do it, because you
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change the thought? When that's just
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like it's truth. But your brain
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can switch your thoughts out, then
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find evidence of that new thought to
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to me, that's so fun,
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we can change and adapt. I
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one of the other things that you
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say everything is quote figure outable,
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when you look at the world like
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Rachel, then yes, everything is
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that comes from Marie poor Leo,
but it's something that I have just grasped

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onto so heavily because it really can
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world that we live in where information
is so accessible, like we can have

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an overflow of information, but you
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and there's really no problem that isn't
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dive in and figure out. So
if you're waiting until you have all the

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answers, then you're probably never going
to movie. But if you can go

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okay, I don't know that,
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now and know that I can figure
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get to work. That's it.
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sleeves and on that note, let's
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purpose. Thanks for steine with us, and welcome back to working on purpose.

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If you're just joining us. My
guess is Rachel Stewart, the author

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of Unqualified Success, bridging the gap
from where you are today to where you

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want to be to achieve massive success. She started as what she calls an

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unqualified office manager of the Titan Restoration
of Arizona and rising to executive vice president

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over the last ten years, helping
to build a company from two to twenty

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two million dollars with a primary focus
on accountability, profitability, and company culture.

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I'm your host, Elis Cortez.
Before we get back into the dialogue,

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let me recognize one of one of
our listeners online. Ben Ben says

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he wrote in both my parents worked
and my grandparents watched me at the time,

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I think it made me a better
person. What I want to acknowledge

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about that, Ben and the rest
of the listeners is that is a perfect

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example of how mindset works and your
choice of choosing your mindset. You could

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feel sorry for yourself and say,
oh, woe is me, my parents

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weren't around, But that's not the
stance you're taking. And I really want

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to applaud that that is a much
more healthy, empowering stance to look at

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the way you were raised. So
kudos to you, Ben, So back

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to us, Rachel, there is
again so much I want to be able

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to pull out of you before we
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became familiar with the vision concept you
talk about in your book a few years

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ago and use it to consult leaders
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another level. And you write,
and I quote, for anyone with a

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desire to succeed, make progress in
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qualified, one of the keys will
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live from that future rather than the
past unquote. So an example of someone

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from your book that you might want
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us that would further illustrate that point. There's one in mind that I thought

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of, But do you have a
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actually something I learned from my dad
and it has been so powerful in my

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life. But our minds are powerful
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the reality, making the vision that
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of my favorite examples of this,
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Sarah Blakely and when she was selling
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or may not be aware of her, but she is the founder of Spanks

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and at one point in her life
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door. But she had a vision
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knew what that was going to be, like the kind of disposable income that

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she would have, the kind of
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like how she would be leading.
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she was like really would revisit often
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brain doesn't like the disconnect, right, this vision of where of what we

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want and where we are, and
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to like shorten that that that uncomfortable
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you know, when opportunities provided itself, when she had this idea to do

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spanks, Uh, then that was
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work trying to figure out how to
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to put so much work into it
creating this company. But it all started

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with the vision that she had and
making that a reality. And there's what

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I always tell people that I'm working
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know, if you can create a
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that's irresistible, it just pulls you
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and that's your opportunity as a human
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And you know, you know Arnold
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like him doing it. Jim Carrey
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in the future for acting services and
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was a starving, starving actor.
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reality. And if anybody would have
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is possible? Do you think that
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That's the other thing is it cannot
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You know, if you're operating from
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realistic, you're doing yourself a disservice. I agree completely. In fact,

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another thing that I have to quote
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relative to this whole topic you write, and here's the quote. I'm in

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charge of the vision for my life, and I'm in charge of the outcomes.

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The future is my property. I
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we finally stop coddling and nurturing the
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to applicate this responsibility and start taking
counsel from the part of us that can

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believe impossible things, that's when things
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then that a new future is created
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that is so crisp, so compelling
and right on. Thank you. I

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love it because it's empowering. So
nothing is as motivating as personal accountability and

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being accountable to our own thoughts and
our own vision. And when we understand

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that we control it all, then
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victims of circumstance or victims of the
things around us. And like open

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the doors to so many, so
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that's what I'm all about as empowerment
inspiration. So I'm right there with you.

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Okay. The next thing we got
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way you talk about it is incredibly
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first, for our listeners, how
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the grit is the ability to stay
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required to make the only and painful
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painful and excruciating moments that like procede
achievement of any kind. And so it's

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the ability to be able to be
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definition. And then if we go
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really accessible for us, the readers
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go on to tell us that staying
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ingrained biological mechanisms of avoiding pain,
seeking pleasure, and conserving energy. That

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was so accessible and brilliant to me. See a little bit more about those

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three areas that we're trying to avoid
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in who we are, right,
It's our survival mechanisms that come from way

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back when that we are creatures that
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conserve energy, avoid pain, and
what that means is that we survive.

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So those you know, ingrained mechanisms
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keep us alive, but they don't
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and hit our dreams. So what
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natural part of ourselves and be able
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of it is recognition going okay,
this is just my brain trying to keep

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me alive. So thank you brain. Now I'm moving forward. Yeah,

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so let's just stay alive as you
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almost like a you know, I'll
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it doesn't allow us to transcend to
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our ability to want to play safe
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not be uncomfortable like avoid pain.
Those those type of things are going

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to be what what limit you and
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be. And now along those lines, we're getting even closer to what I

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consider to be some of the real
gold and what you created. But here's

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another another great quote that's going to
get us more into this discomfort space to

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help our listeners gain access to that
so quote, it turns out that if

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you have a desire to grow and
evolve and are not acting on it,

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you were already in discomfort. You
live with a constant nagging feeling, dissatisfaction

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with your life, a persistent unhappiness
from not meeting your potential. You are

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perpetually carrying the discomfort as wasted days
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I can unequivocally say that I lived
and experienced that I was a member of

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the very walking dead, that I'm
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was several years ago when I was
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I was not living to my potential, and I hated myself for it,

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and I was dying a thousand deaths
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there's going to be discomfort either way, And so you get a choice between

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whether you want to live the discomfort
of an unfulfilled, unrealized life or the

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discomfort that comes with really stretching yourself
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scary. And so really that's a
personal personal choice, but I think you

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can definitely say that the discomfort that
you have in you reaching for your dreams

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is so like it's such a better
discomfort. There's a payoff that comes with

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that versus you know, just looking
back with regret. Absolutely, and we're

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going to get an next into something
that I think is critical for our listeners.

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So listeners, no sleeping right now, please listen up. This is

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really important. So along the lines
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Victor Frankel and other existential psychologists like
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of getting to here is an existential
vacuum. When there's something missing and we

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know there's something more than we that
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it, the existential vacuum. And
here's where it gets really important, listeners.

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So Rachel, as you discuss in
your book, we humans try mightily

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to ignore this discomfort by buffering away
our feelings of this discomfort, and we

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do it by overreating, over drinking, spending hours on social media, accountless

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other ways to try to distract from
the gnawing discomfort of stagnation. This is

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so important, So listeners, if
you find yourself doing a lot of these

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things, examine what's under that.
So Rachel say more about this. This

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is I think this is a critical
concept that you're servicing right here in your

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book. Yeah. Well, we
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you know, it's just it's what
we go to when we want to avoid

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the difficult things in our lives.
And you know, sometimes it can be

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as simple as okay, you know, scrolling through social media and stuff to

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avoid making that difficult sales call or
doing something that could be a little bit

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challenging. And so then we buffer
and we find other distractions and everything.

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But when you can recognize what your
particular numbing agent is and then try to

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put it in a box, it
can be really helpful. So let's say

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you are using social media as that
buffer against doing some hard things, and

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you find yourself on there a lot
and you're just mind mostly scrolling, and

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what you can do is say Okay, I'm only going to check social media

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between you know, two and three
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I'm so you you kind of put
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you're you don't because a lot of
these things we do unconsciously and it just

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becomes habitual for us, and then
we we just realize we wasted you know,

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a lot of a lot of time
doing something that that could have been

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better spent elsewhere. So trying to
put it in a box and contain it

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a little bit and recognize what your
numbing agents are and when you're you're going

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to them. What's great about that
advice, I think, Rachel, is

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you're not saying, hey, just
stop social media, scrap it all together,

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throw it out with the bathwater.
You're not saying that You're you're you're

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very distinctly saying you're being very intentional
about how to manage how much you allow

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yourself to be in that kind of
a numbing agent or that activity. And

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I think think that's incredibly useful and
something that our listeners can really grab hold

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of and use and bring in it
our lives. Yeah, and I think

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intentional is the correct work right,
because we can't be on all the time.

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We can't be like at this high
level all the time. So there

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are there are times and moments where
you're going to need to take a step

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back and disconnect from some of these
things. It's just it's just finding out

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when you're using it to none and
when maybe it's you're intentionally using it as

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a break from from what you're doing. Fair enough, let's grab our last

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break here. I'm Elise Cortez,
your host. We've been on the air

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with Rachel Stewart, the author of
Unqualified Success, bridging it out from where

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you are today to where you want
to be to achieve massive success. To

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join today from Mesa, Arizona.
After the break, we're going to continue

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our conversation and specifically talk about fear. Stay with us, We'll be right

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to working on purpose. Thanks.
Just this to works if you're just turning

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your prosis. Rachel Stewart. She's
the author of Unqualified Success, bridging the

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gap from where you are today to
where you want to be to achieve massive

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success. She started as what she
calls an unqualified office manager of Tighten Restoration

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of Arizona and has risen to executive
vice president over the last ten years,

435
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up and to build a company from
two to twenty two million dollars with a

436
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primary focus on accountability, profitability,
and company culture. I'm your host at

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last Cortez. So, as I
sort of said before we came into this

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next break, we got to talk
about fear, which is such an important

439
00:32:35.000 --> 00:32:37.839
elephant in the room when it comes
to achieving our next level of wherever we

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are aspiring for. So once again, Rachel and in listeners, I have

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to read a few sentences from the
book because they're so witty and perfectly situate

442
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how we need to embrace fear.
So here we go quote, rather than

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spending all your energy resisting fear,
when it shows up with this extra luggage

444
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and its suggested list of annoying detours, you can just recognize it as necessary

445
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part of your human experience, especially
when you were taking your life to a

446
00:33:00.160 --> 00:33:05.279
new level going somewhere. Fear is
going too. But fear never gets to

447
00:33:05.400 --> 00:33:07.519
drive, never gets the steering wheel. It doesn't get to give directions,

448
00:33:07.880 --> 00:33:12.400
question the route, consult the map, or even control the radio. It

449
00:33:12.519 --> 00:33:15.319
just gets to sitting back with its
headphones on and go for a ride,

450
00:33:15.480 --> 00:33:20.279
hitching a lift with you on the
way to your dreams. Unquote Rachel love

451
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that it's so awesome. What a
great way to distinguish fear and take the

452
00:33:25.880 --> 00:33:30.440
smack out of it. Right,
Yeah, well, I definitely think that

453
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the sooner we can realize that that's
just part of the journey, and anytime

454
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we're going to be stepping out and
doing something big, there is going to

455
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be fair. And so when you
can go okay, you know it's a

456
00:33:43.359 --> 00:33:51.880
lump for the ride. It's coming
and expose yourself more to that idea,

457
00:33:52.359 --> 00:33:54.839
and you know the feelings that come
along with fear, you can recognize that,

458
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Okay, it's not that scary.
I can just move on and move

459
00:33:59.079 --> 00:34:01.079
forward. Well. The other thing
that I think is so brilliant about what

460
00:34:01.160 --> 00:34:07.039
you do in that passage, Rachel, Again it aligns with logotherapy and existential

461
00:34:07.039 --> 00:34:09.679
psychology, especially logo therapy, is
the use of humor. Humor is an

462
00:34:09.679 --> 00:34:15.599
incredibly useful human tool. And to
be able to make fun of fear,

463
00:34:15.800 --> 00:34:20.880
this horrible thing that off of controls
our lives, is pretty powerful. Yeah.

464
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Well, and often we can look
back at it, and we can

465
00:34:23.519 --> 00:34:29.039
do that really well after the fact. So it's being able to make that

466
00:34:29.159 --> 00:34:32.519
part of the present that because a
lot of times can you can look back

467
00:34:32.559 --> 00:34:36.280
at something and be like, I
can't believe I was so afraid of this,

468
00:34:36.480 --> 00:34:38.920
you know, and you can laugh
at it after the fact. But

469
00:34:39.280 --> 00:34:45.039
making that more a part of your
present, like you know, REALI having

470
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a sense of humor with it,
I think takes the sting out of it,

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can be a little bit less terrifying. Absolutely, And I just got

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an image. I think it'd be
really fun listeners if you actually give you

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your fear and name or you know, whether it's a passage or something,

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and put it on a you know, a stuffed elm or something, and

475
00:35:05.400 --> 00:35:07.079
actually strap it in your car and
take it with you to the next big

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meeting. Wouldn't that be fun?
That's awesome? Careful and the mind is

477
00:35:13.760 --> 00:35:15.599
a terrible thing when it gets undirected, right, I could go on all

478
00:35:15.639 --> 00:35:19.480
different kinds of directions. See,
and you said, and you at one

479
00:35:19.519 --> 00:35:22.639
point that you weren't creative. No, and I told you before. Now

480
00:35:22.679 --> 00:35:27.119
that I've grasped it totally, so
I'm going for it. But okay,

481
00:35:27.159 --> 00:35:30.760
so the next one thing we got
to talk about, just right right there

482
00:35:30.800 --> 00:35:37.559
up with fear is this other f
word that's that's failure. And again you

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say failure is quote simply the natural
result of innovation and creativity as we push

484
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past our current boundaries and explore what's
still possible unquote. And that you also

485
00:35:45.840 --> 00:35:51.480
say, framing failure as a weight
to the goal rather than an unpleasant detour

486
00:35:51.559 --> 00:35:55.199
on the other end of the road, can change everything unquote. Completely agree.

487
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Any examples that you can help us
better end stand how those really show

488
00:36:00.800 --> 00:36:06.159
up for us? Yeah? For
sure, So I really love something that

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Mayo Clinic started doing and it's called
the Queasy Eagle Award, and they it's

490
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given out to ideas that, you
know, despite significant effort, a lot

491
00:36:15.559 --> 00:36:20.639
of work and inspiration, didn't quite
make the cut. They just ended up

492
00:36:20.760 --> 00:36:23.559
being a failure. And so they
have this award called the Queasy Eagle where

493
00:36:23.599 --> 00:36:29.360
they celebrate all of these ideas.
And what's so cool about that is that

494
00:36:29.440 --> 00:36:35.280
it took the shame and embarrassment out
of failure and put it where it really

495
00:36:35.280 --> 00:36:38.320
should be, which is just it's
just an idea that didn't work that you

496
00:36:38.360 --> 00:36:42.159
know, we tweak it, we
fix it. You know, it's nothing

497
00:36:42.239 --> 00:36:47.440
about it. It's not a statement
of our worth or any anything else.

498
00:36:47.599 --> 00:36:55.199
And it resulted, this Queasy Eagle
Award resulted in a significant number of ideas

499
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that have now become patents and have
made these you know, it's taken Mayo

500
00:37:04.079 --> 00:37:07.239
to a whole other level of innovation
because they were they just had this award

501
00:37:07.280 --> 00:37:14.079
called the Queasy Eagle Award, and
they spent time celebrating it. Yeah,

502
00:37:14.119 --> 00:37:15.400
and I've heard and you say it
in your book, I think in different

503
00:37:15.440 --> 00:37:19.199
ways too. But I've heard many
organizations and leaders that I work with,

504
00:37:19.360 --> 00:37:22.119
say yeah, let's fail fast.
Let's how many failures can we actually generate

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00:37:22.159 --> 00:37:25.480
here to get onto the next amazing
thing that if we didn't have those failures,

506
00:37:25.639 --> 00:37:30.199
we wouldn't ever uncover for sure.
And there's so many stories about that,

507
00:37:30.280 --> 00:37:34.719
and you look back and it's easy
to see in other people or in

508
00:37:34.800 --> 00:37:38.760
other organizations, and a little bit
harder to apply because it feels so personal

509
00:37:38.960 --> 00:37:44.760
when it's our failure. But if
that's something that we can do often is

510
00:37:44.800 --> 00:37:49.559
celebrate, celebrating and looking for failure, then you're we are going to succeed

511
00:37:49.599 --> 00:37:53.639
that much faster. Well, And
that might get to one of the other

512
00:37:53.639 --> 00:37:57.239
really great points that you and I
talked about on the phone as we were

513
00:37:57.280 --> 00:37:59.639
talking about what we wanted to discuss. And then of course it's in your

514
00:37:59.639 --> 00:38:05.440
book and it's it's vulnerability. And
I found what you write about is incredibly

515
00:38:05.480 --> 00:38:08.679
refreshing, especially as it relates to
leaders. And you say it's good for

516
00:38:08.760 --> 00:38:12.360
leaders to have a slight bit of
vulnerability, if not a good bit,

517
00:38:12.840 --> 00:38:15.559
and not stand in hey I've got
this all figured out. Why do you

518
00:38:15.599 --> 00:38:21.239
think that? Why do you take
that stance? Well, I think for

519
00:38:21.280 --> 00:38:24.559
a couple of reasons. One,
I think it gives us a space to

520
00:38:24.559 --> 00:38:28.320
not be perfect, to not have
it all figured out. But also I

521
00:38:28.360 --> 00:38:31.559
think what it does for our teams
and the people that were surrounded with because

522
00:38:32.280 --> 00:38:36.639
you know, they get to be
a part of that journey, they get

523
00:38:36.639 --> 00:38:39.840
to be helping the solution to figure
it out, they help they get There's

524
00:38:39.920 --> 00:38:45.679
just so much more energy and innovation
and when you can approach things from a

525
00:38:45.760 --> 00:38:51.360
beginner's mindset that maybe you know and
asking why and what if? What if

526
00:38:51.360 --> 00:38:53.880
this wasn't true or what if I
don't know that and that's okay, you

527
00:38:53.920 --> 00:38:59.159
know, And so being able to
lead from that place, I think when

528
00:38:59.239 --> 00:39:01.440
you get so much more innovation and
buy in from your team. But two,

529
00:39:01.719 --> 00:39:07.280
there's so much less pressure and stress
I think on you as a leader.

530
00:39:08.320 --> 00:39:14.599
H I completely agree with all that. I appreciate that as I read

531
00:39:14.639 --> 00:39:16.719
your book. There's one thing that
I think probably that showed up for me

532
00:39:16.880 --> 00:39:21.639
that I resonated with so strongly and
why I love your book, and it's

533
00:39:21.760 --> 00:39:24.239
I think it's it's what I would
call it's human agency. Agency is the

534
00:39:24.320 --> 00:39:29.039
idea of how it is we make
things happen. There's so much in your

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00:39:29.119 --> 00:39:31.480
in your book about being able to
make something happen, and I just want

536
00:39:31.480 --> 00:39:37.119
to call that out as really a
phenomenal way to describe and distinguish what you've

537
00:39:37.119 --> 00:39:43.239
done. Thank you. I yeah, I think you know, there's I

538
00:39:43.239 --> 00:39:47.719
think there's a lot of ways to
get there. But I have bound success

539
00:39:47.760 --> 00:39:52.400
in the habits and characteristics that I
talked about in my book, and the

540
00:39:52.559 --> 00:39:54.639
exercise is to help build that.
And that's the other thing is I think

541
00:39:54.639 --> 00:40:00.400
that all of this we can learn
along the way. It It doesn't have

542
00:40:00.480 --> 00:40:05.599
to be something that's built in us
or natural like we don't have to be

543
00:40:05.719 --> 00:40:10.559
naturally talented in any of these things. There are skills and characteristics that can

544
00:40:10.599 --> 00:40:15.599
be developed. Yeah, it's not
that, oh was I born to be

545
00:40:15.639 --> 00:40:17.840
a fantastic human being? It can
I be successful or am I doomed to

546
00:40:17.880 --> 00:40:21.760
failure? And that goes back kind
of the back to mindset, the growth

547
00:40:21.840 --> 00:40:25.239
mindset, which you know which trump's
the fixed mindset. So I love that

548
00:40:25.280 --> 00:40:29.239
too. And the next thing I
want to talk about too, that I

549
00:40:29.280 --> 00:40:32.280
think is just so important again speaks
to agency and making things happen, and

550
00:40:32.360 --> 00:40:36.519
it's the idea of showing up.
So you say, quote in a world

551
00:40:36.559 --> 00:40:40.440
obsessed with discovering phenomenal talent, there
is very little attention paid to the quiet,

552
00:40:40.480 --> 00:40:45.079
continuous act of showing up phenomenal.
Yes, agreed, say more about

553
00:40:45.119 --> 00:40:52.360
that, Well, I think this
is a little self serving, this part

554
00:40:52.440 --> 00:41:00.400
of my book, because I don't
consider myself a strong talent, so I

555
00:41:00.440 --> 00:41:04.880
don't think I would win that award
for many different things in my life.

556
00:41:04.920 --> 00:41:08.679
But one thing that I did have
the ability to do was to work hard

557
00:41:08.800 --> 00:41:13.199
and to show up. And so
I saw that a lot in my life,

558
00:41:13.719 --> 00:41:17.239
and I got that award a lot
like running cross country and track.

559
00:41:17.400 --> 00:41:21.000
You know, I'd get the hardest
Worker award or whatever, and they're like,

560
00:41:21.320 --> 00:41:27.639
you know, she gets out there
and tries hard. But one thing

561
00:41:27.679 --> 00:41:30.920
I learned from that is that just
by showing up every day, it is

562
00:41:31.000 --> 00:41:37.039
amazing what you can actually accomplish in
your life. And just being there and

563
00:41:37.159 --> 00:41:42.119
putting in the hours and putting in
the hard work. I'll take a hard

564
00:41:42.119 --> 00:41:46.920
worker over you know, somebody extremely
talented and bright any day of the week.

565
00:41:47.239 --> 00:41:51.519
And that's something that I've learned.
As you know, I've been hiring

566
00:41:51.599 --> 00:41:57.679
and growing my team and everything is
those people that are really committed, that

567
00:41:57.719 --> 00:42:00.880
are going to come in and dig
in and give their heart and you know,

568
00:42:00.920 --> 00:42:05.239
work with passion and everything like that. The technical skills the other things

569
00:42:05.320 --> 00:42:07.880
I you know, we can train, we can work around that, but

570
00:42:07.440 --> 00:42:13.119
that's that's something that can't be taught. And I think there's just a lot

571
00:42:13.119 --> 00:42:16.360
of power to that. I agree, you know, and to that bit

572
00:42:16.400 --> 00:42:21.159
about showing up, I really related
to that and resonated with it too from

573
00:42:21.480 --> 00:42:24.400
my own experience. And when I
do read author's work to get prepared for

574
00:42:24.440 --> 00:42:28.480
the show, I often try to
really make sure I can try the stuff

575
00:42:28.519 --> 00:42:30.639
on for myself so I can see
how it works and it helps me better

576
00:42:30.679 --> 00:42:35.079
speak about it. So for me, what I would showcase about showing up

577
00:42:35.199 --> 00:42:38.239
is I have been hosting this radio
show for more than four and a half

578
00:42:38.320 --> 00:42:43.360
years, and so today you are
number episode two hundred and forty seven.

579
00:42:43.880 --> 00:42:47.800
So I get to continue to show
up and continue catalyzing my own thinking and

580
00:42:47.880 --> 00:42:52.679
understanding of meaning, purpose, inspiration, motivation in the workplace and in life

581
00:42:52.679 --> 00:42:58.559
because I host the show and I've
really come to see for me Rachel,

582
00:42:58.639 --> 00:43:02.880
that in doing so, this show
is an amazing catalyzing platform for me,

583
00:43:02.960 --> 00:43:07.880
and I continue to do it because
it helps me become a better thought leader,

584
00:43:07.920 --> 00:43:12.880
a better speaker, a better practitioner, better business leader. But if

585
00:43:12.920 --> 00:43:16.719
I didn't show up, I wouldn't
get that. That's that's awesome. I

586
00:43:16.719 --> 00:43:22.840
mean that that really talks speaks to
you know what it is and you know

587
00:43:22.119 --> 00:43:27.760
it just the small simple acts that
we do every day, like over a

588
00:43:27.840 --> 00:43:30.960
period of time, they start,
you know, making a huge impact and

589
00:43:31.440 --> 00:43:37.119
they can change the trarectory of where
we're going. And so I love that

590
00:43:37.199 --> 00:43:40.960
example that you gave. Thank you. I do too. And one of

591
00:43:40.960 --> 00:43:43.599
the other things that I do want
to talk about because we do have a

592
00:43:43.639 --> 00:43:45.840
little bit of time to cover it, is this is important for our listeners,

593
00:43:45.880 --> 00:43:51.920
for wherever they are. But you
you distinguish in your book and you

594
00:43:51.960 --> 00:43:55.199
say you quote start with where you
are end quote, which has a difference

595
00:43:55.199 --> 00:43:59.920
between which is difference than what somebody
else might say, which is fake it

596
00:44:00.079 --> 00:44:01.599
until you make it. I really
like that because it's so much more real.

597
00:44:02.159 --> 00:44:06.000
But you say, there is a
huge difference between a person who plays

598
00:44:06.039 --> 00:44:09.679
small and scared because they might be
exposed as an ignorant fraud and someone who

599
00:44:09.679 --> 00:44:14.280
may not know everything but plays all
out because they are one hundred percent confident

600
00:44:14.480 --> 00:44:17.320
they can figure it out. That
is spectacular. Say more about that.

601
00:44:19.800 --> 00:44:23.480
Yeah, so again, this is
something that I feel so passionately about,

602
00:44:23.639 --> 00:44:29.039
Like it's just you know, really
get in and give it a go.

603
00:44:29.920 --> 00:44:31.679
And so yeah, some people say
fake it till you make it, or

604
00:44:31.679 --> 00:44:36.039
start where you are, whatever it
is, but there's so much power in

605
00:44:36.199 --> 00:44:39.880
just beginning the journey and then so
much can be figured out along the way,

606
00:44:39.960 --> 00:44:45.480
and there are going to be challenges, and you know, I'm trying

607
00:44:45.519 --> 00:44:49.599
to think back about where I've heard
this, but somebody once told me that,

608
00:44:50.079 --> 00:44:53.519
like what is the most powerful currency
or what makes the company the most

609
00:44:53.599 --> 00:45:00.519
valuable is how many problems you have
solved along the way. And you know,

610
00:45:00.679 --> 00:45:05.000
and I think that that's really what
it is. Is it's just if

611
00:45:05.000 --> 00:45:08.239
you're waiting until we have it all
figured out or there's perfect answers or perfect

612
00:45:08.280 --> 00:45:14.559
solutions, you're you'll never get going
and the opportunity will think will pass by.

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And especially the way the world's moving, which technology is advancing so fast

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and innovation happens so quickly, and
companies are scaling at such a rapid pace,

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Like if you're waiting until you have
solutions or you feel like you're ready,

616
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it's gonna be gone, and so
it's too late. I just think,

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yeah, jump in with both feet
and give it a going, and

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if it ends up being, you
know, a queasy eagle, and so

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be it. But I think more
often than not that will surprise ourselves with

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what we got. Another quick image
on that one as you were talking,

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Rachel, so, I got the
image of you know, somebody, any

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of us standing on a big diving
board, scared to death to jump into

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the deep end. But we,
you know, take our left hand,

624
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plug our nose, close our eyes, jump off that diving board into the

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deep end, and you know,
just trust that we'll get there. And

626
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I do think it does require a
leap of faith to really go for what

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we want in life. So again, that's so much of why I wanted

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to share with my listeners, And
what you've written is awesome and so helpful.

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You. Yeah, so this is
a perfect way for us to finish

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the show. I think, because
it showcases so well why I continue to

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showcase this show about leaders, authors
and experts like you. You say quote,

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when we set aside our fears and
the many readings, we can't do

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something as we are unqualified to do
it. We progress personally, but simultaneously

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we lift others and allow them to
rise with us. Our unqualified success always

635
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has a ripple effect. Would you
please say more about that? That is

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beautiful and I completely agree with that. Yeah, yeah, you know,

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I just think that as we chase
our dreams, we give other people the

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permission to chase there. So so
often I think that the people around me

639
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go, oh, wow, she
can do it. I could do it,

640
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you know, because they they've been
around me enough to know that there's

641
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nothing, you know, incredibly special
about me. But you know, they're

642
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like, oh okay. So one, it gives permission for people to go

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after their dreams. But I think
the other thing is that provides opportunities and

644
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you know, as you grow,
as you learn and develop, those are

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those are skills and thoughts that you
can share with the people around you.

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And you know, I think,
like you're following in your community, how

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how much have people learned and grown
because of you? Because you were willing

648
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to take that step right and to
do things that we're scary and to start

649
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out and just put yourself out there
in the world and put your work out

650
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there, and you know the ripple
effect that you've had on your community,

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and so I think as all of
us do our work, that those opportunities

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arise and we have such a you
know, we can do so much good.

653
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I agree, And two things to
that. So today, Rachel,

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you are my ripple effect and for
our listeners as well. And the second

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thing I want to say related to
that is, yes, I'm on a

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mission to make a difference in the
lives of one million people before I find

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my way into the earth, and
that is to help them better activate,

658
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discover their passion, inspiration and purpose. And so the ripple effect is really

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important to me. That's that's phenomenal. I love that. And you know,

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as you do your work, and
you know what benefit are those people

661
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who who are gaining benefit from you
passing on to somebody else, you know,

662
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So it's you're going to impact a
million people, but then by those

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million people impacting others, how many
people were you back? That's exactly the

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point exactly we need to close here. But I want to give you a

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chance just to say, say,
maybe in fifteen seconds, what would you

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like to leave a listeners with today. Yeah, I'm just excited to see

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what people do with their unqualified journeys, and you know, just to do

668
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the hard work, have a little
faith, be braved and jump in and

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you know, and let's support each
other on the journey. Sounds good to

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me. Thank you so much,
Rachel for writing your book, being on

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the show, sharing yourself listeners.
If you want to learn more about Rachel

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Stewart, visit her at unqualified tools
dot com. Last week, if you

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missed the live show, you can
always catch it be recorded podcast. We

674
00:49:30.960 --> 00:49:34.920
were on the air with Meredith Elliott
Powell, keynote speaker and author of Own

675
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It, Redefining Responsibility, Stories of
Power, Freedom and Purpose. We talked

676
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about the new business frontier we're working
in the corporate, with the corporation being

677
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defined to serve not just shareholders,
but the broader community of customers, employees,

678
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suppliers in the community. And we
contracted that to the old world of

679
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employee engagement with the new and we
helped individual employees understand how to claim their

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own responsibility and opportunity to claim their
level of engagement career advancement without relying on

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any organization to do it for them. Very inspiring conversation. Next week we'll

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be on the air with Carl Monger, who's the founder of the Gallant Few,

683
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an organization which helps military professionals transition
to civilian life with purpose and well

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being. See you there. Remember
that work is at least one third of

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our life, so let's work on
purpose. We hope you've enjoyed this week's

686
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program. Be sure to tune in
to Working on Purpose featuring your host Alice

687
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Cortez, each week on the Voice
America Empowerment channel. This week, find

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your life's purpose at work.