The Power of Gratitude - Giving Thanks in Life, Work, and Leaders

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There are some people that make their
work just another thing they have to do,

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and there are those that make their
work something that they want to do.

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Welcome to Working on Purpose with your
host Elise Cortez. In our program,

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we provide guidance and inspiration from those
people who have found deeper meaning and

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personal connection to their work life.
It's beyond nine to five. It's working

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on Purpose. Now Here is your
host, Elise Cortez. Welcome back to

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the Working on Purpose Show. Thanks
for tuning in again this week. I'm

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your host, Elise Cortez, joining
you from Dallas, Texas, which is

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home base for me. This program
is all about helping people more meaningfully and

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productively connect with their work and equipping
organizations to do the same for their employees.

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So I bring on guests who have
a particular perspective or experience that I

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think expands the conversation about meaningful and
productive work. And I often draw on

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the meaning and work research I've been
doing a little last fifteen years, as

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well as my own experience consulting,
including the work I do today and in

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Singing, which is a global management
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Thank you jobbing dot com great partnership. Last week, if you miss

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the show live, you can always
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the air with Suzanne Brown, who
is a strategic marketing and business consultant,

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ted X speaker, and an expert
and advocate for professional part time working moms.

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She's also an author in our book
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she hopes to empower moms to think
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part time working moms. This week
we have rather a special episode if we

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can with us is Sherry Elliott Eerie, who is an author, speaker,

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coach and trainer in the area of
human resources and talent management. She is

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the author of Ties to Tattoos,
Turning generational differences into competitive advantage, and

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also the book called You Can Have
It All, just not all at once.

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And especially special holiday episode we'll be
kicking off the US Thanksgiving holiday,

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giving our own thanks for the abundance
in our lives and talking about the power

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of gratitude and how it can be
leveraging our personal, professional, and leadership

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lives for increased relationship and business results. Sherry Jones just today right here next

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to me and my office studio,
Sherry, welcome back to Working on Purpose.

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Thank you. I'm so honored to
be here and excited about the topic.

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I am too, And as you
know, as we were hatching this

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whole idea, we were talking about
how wonderful it is. Thanksgiving is my

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favorite holiday, follows my favorite season. You're from Canada and we just finished

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Thanksgiving in your country. Correct,
Correct, It's in October. October,

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Okay, So to kick us off
for this conversation, I do want to

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just presence for our listeners, and
I know we have listeners from all over

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the world here who are tuning in. So if this isn't your holiday,

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Please just join in and experience it
for me sharing what Thanksgiving means is it

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really is a time to gather people
who I care about who are important to

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me, or reach out to people
who I can't have next to me and

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thank them for being in my life. And so, as you know,

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because you've been a part of this
tradition for years, one of the things

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I do is I host as many
people who I can get to come to

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my house for Thanksgiving, and then
includes people that I've worked with, friends,

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people in the community, people I've
served with community service, my friends,

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my family, and then of course
anybody who doesn't have a place to

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go. And I love that.
So, as you know, Wednesday night

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is the big prep night, and
so I under the auspice that we're going

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to have a little bit of wine
and do a little bit of work.

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I bring in unsuspecting people who are
going to chop celery and carrots and onions

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and get everything ready for the day
to I feed them, and my job,

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I think is just to top off
their glass and make sure they're having

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a good time. But that's the
kickoff to the holiday. And then Thanksgiving

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is a beautiful day for me full
of wonder magic, great smells, friends

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coming in and out, and the
day filled with abundance and blessing. So

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that's what Thanksgiving means to me.
What about you? Wow? Okay,

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how do I talk that? I
don't know that I need to because I

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get to be here and experience it
with her. Thanksgiving to me is very

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different because I moved to the United
States twenty years ago and I realized my

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family was in Canada. But I
had this beautiful opportunity to create my new

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family in the United States, and
that meant I could choose my community.

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And so sitting here today with Elise, so many years later, I am

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so grateful for the community I have
been able to surround myself with and have

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them as part of my life.
And so even just sitting here today,

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I'm very grateful for the chance Elise
and I took on each other. Like

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we said, it was love at
first site when we met, and so

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I'm super grateful for being president enough
to see when somebody shows up in my

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life so powerfully. So that's what
I'm grateful for. Thank you, Sarah.

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Yes, I remember when we met
years ago and I came to call

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on you for business, and that's
the wonderful thing, right. So when

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we work out and we put ourselves
in the world and we show up authentically

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and we show up with good intentions, which I think we both did at

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the time, something magical can happen. And so part of what I wanted

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to cover in this conversation here,
because the show is about the world of

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work and how we engage with it, how our productive of how it becomes

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meaningful for us is I wanted to
also talk about how when we live and

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work from that place of gratitude and
we can appreciate the people that we meet,

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we can appreciate new prospects, our
colleagues, our team, our clients,

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and the most important thing is we
recognize that we acknowledge that our appreciation

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for them using words, whether they're
spoken or whether they're written. The power

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of that in terms of how we
connect. So I want to talk next

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about that and hear your perspective on
what I just said there. Yeah,

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it is. It's hugely important because
first you have to be aware and present

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in order to see those moments in
order to connect with people, especially your

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employees or people in the community.
I had this opportunity recently to help Puerto

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Rico with getting toothbrushes and toothpaste to
them. And if I hadn't been present

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and just thinking about what it is
I could do for them, I wouldn't

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have had that opportunity. Not what
people can do for me, but what

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could I do that's meaningful for them? And I think that's really part of

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it, is finding out what's meaningful, whether it's your employees or your family

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member or community, and just really
giving them what they need, not what

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you want, because it's very different. And so I think that shows that

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you are showing up in a way
that people can receive and it matters to

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them. You Know what I'm thinking
about as you talk about that, Sherry,

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is I think about two things.
One is how we as individuals tend

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to choose and give gifts. And
then I think about how in the workplace

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we tends as individuals and as leaders
to recognize and thank the people who are

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part of our organization. So giving
a gift, right, so sometimes we'll

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just say, well, I'll give
whatever I've got, this extra thing and

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maybe this person might like it.
Whatever. Another approach to giving gifts that

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I really, really, really appreciate
is much more thoughtful. It takes much

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more time, right is And that's
really considering what do I know about this

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person? What matters to this person? Not what do I think they need

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or should I give them a self
improvement book or something like that, but

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what is it that they really love
that delights them when when I see them,

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and if I have to be present
enough to know that and then to

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reach across and to be able to
ascertain that in order to choose the right

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gift and then give it in a
way that really lands for that person in

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a way that I intend it,
that shows how much I appreciate them,

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how much I'm grateful for having them
in my life, and and have the

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message come across says, you really
matter to me, you mean something to

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me. Yeah, that's very powerful
because you're showing them that they matter.

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And that's huge just knowing that they
matter in your life, that you took

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that time. One of the things
I'll say from a generational perspective, years

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ago, there used to be a
lot of big parties and there was all

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this decline, and I remember Fox
four News had asked me why I thought

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that, and I was like,
well, have you seen the recession we're

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in and this was, like I
said a few years ago. But in

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addition, not all generations wanted to
have the same Christmas party, So to

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them, it's more like torture for
a millennial to go to a fancy ballroom

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and have to get dressed up and
hang out with their boss. That's not

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a reward, that's a punishment.
And so it doesn't fit everybody, and

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so you really do have to look
at it and go what matters to them,

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not to me, especially from an
employee perspective, because you want them

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to feel like they matter and they're
engaged and you're paying attention. I really

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appreciate that you brought that up in
terms of the generational perspective, and this,

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after all, you are the generational
guru, so I would expect that

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we get some sprinkling of this and
that wisdom that comes with it. And

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you're also reminding me too, is
that over the years that I've done leadership

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development work in large organizations and gone
out to help leaders be able to presence

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themselves as leaders and it'd be more
effective. One of the things, of

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course, that we will generally teach
is the importance of being able to convey

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just this, being able to tell
people what they did, why it was

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important, and how much it means
to you as a leader or to the

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organization is so incredibly powerful to drive
business results, to drive trust, to

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drive engagement. And what's wonderful about
that? Whenever I've done that exercisary,

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one of the things I'll do is
I'll ask people to remember when they were

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recognized like that. Hopefully this won't
get me too bad, like I've been

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known to cry in the year before
it could happen again, I'll jump in,

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okay. Good. Is what's wonderful
about that is when you ask people

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to tell you those stories, very
often they will be moved to tears and

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it's something that they maybe that happened
maybe fifteen or twenty years ago, and

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presusing it for them today still summons
tears because it's still that meaningful. And

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we have the ability to do that
through our words, through being present,

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as you were saying, and making
sure that we make the intention to do

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that in our relationships at work and
certainly at home. Yes, absolutely,

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and that does require that level of
consciousness. And I don't know if any

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of the listeners have done us.
If you are on the road tonight,

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give me a heads up. But
have you ever driven home and got into

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your garage and went, how did
I get here? You know? And

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that's pretty scary because that happens a
lot, and that shows we're not present

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in our life. That's just one
opportunity. And so when we show up

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and we actually are aware. How
about a conversation one on one and you're

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sitting there with somebody, an employee
or a friend, and you're not looking

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at your phone. Okay, because
to me, when someone's looking at their

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phone constantly, I don't have their
attention and I think I'm not as important

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as their phone. Or you are
looking at them right in the eye and

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you are with them, You're listening
to the story, you're you've moved in,

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you want to know more. That
is very powerful. And that's when

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we are right there in the moment
with them and we are creating opportunities,

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We're creating relationships, we are creating
magic. Just like how we met,

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we looked across the table and we're
like, who cares about business? I

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want to know you? And it
takes that, it takes that opportunity where

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you are present, you know you're
reminding me, Sherry, it's such a

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yummy conversation. And I'm not just
saying that because we're about to quick Thanksgiving

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dinner, But it is so wonderful
when you can be in that space to

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be able to really see someone like
you're talking about. Listen. I've heard

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it said before, and I think
it's true that the greatest human need is

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to be understood. And I think
there's something to that. And so when

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we can really see someone for who
they are and we then recognize what's special

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about that and why it was important, the gratitude that comes back from the

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other person to us is immeasurable.
It's not that's not the reason we do

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it right right. But I can
remember in the years that I was doing

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my meaning and Work research and I
was collecting data from one hundred and fifteen

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people and having a nineteen minute intimate
conversation with people about why they chose the

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work that they did, What is
it that they find meaningful about that,

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Why is that important to them?
Why is it important to who they are

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as a human being? What was
interesting, Sherry is I could feel people

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if I wasn't in person with them, I could feel them literally melting into

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the phone because it's so wonderful to
be heard and listened to on that level.

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Absolutely, it's the living on that
level of the genders, a place

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of gratitude and connection that is Frankly, I would say, unless you do

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something horrible, almost irreversible, this
is true. People will always work for

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that connection. I had the opportunity
to be one of at least one hundred

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and fifteen interviews, but I think
we went longer than ninety minutes, dare

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I said, but that question,
when you asked me that, it was

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like going back to why have I
worked in human resources forever? Yeah?

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You know, I think about it, and I have a degree in accounting,

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but I'm horrible at balancing my own
checkbook. So I wanted to work

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with people. And when you ask
me that, I was like, Wow,

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that's it. That was the magic
for me to keep showing up and

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doing what I do because I absolutely
love it, and that kind of makes

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you radiate and glow and you attract
other people like minded people. That's another

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thing. I was having a conversation
with somebody in preparation for the show she's

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going to be on next week,
and she's going to be talking about how

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we how we manifest things in our
lives, and she was talking about how

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when we when we live in a
good place, we would no matter what,

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we reverberate energy, right, we
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have going on for ourselves. So
when we live in a place of gratitude

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and we walk through life with a
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dance and skip of attitude, we
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wavelength. Absolutely you are, and
what we do product to the universe does

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come back. And that's the challenge. When you want to switch what's going

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on, you really have to go, Okay, I need to fake it

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till I make it, and no
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kind of people in my life and
that kind of positivity well and even on

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the personal realm. So one of
the things that she and I talked about

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in preparation for the show is when
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significant others, right, it's really
easy for us to consider that, well,

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there's eighty percent of the things that
I like about this person, but

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it's twenty that are really that really
kind of chat my hide. We tend

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to pay attention to the twenty percent. Why are you laughing because my spouse

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is walking around outside over listening to
this, right, And so when it's

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so important what we pay attention to. And so if we pay attention to

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what do we appreciate about that person
that eighty percent and we language that versus

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what if we language the twenty percent
that we don't appreciate. It's amazing the

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difference in our connection of relationship.
Absolutely, and that person feels lit up

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and appreciated and they feel like they
want to do more of it. So,

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whether it's in your family or relationship, imagine what that's like for your

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employees. Instead of looking at what
they're not great at, tell them what

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they are great at. And so
I know that goes for you. A

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conversation with strengths finding and it's going
and I keep mind framed on my desk,

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my five strengths, and I look
over to it regularly to remember what

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am I good at and stay in
that zone because I'm a lot more creative

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and I'm a lot more efficient if
I stay within my strengths because I'm not

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wanting to look at the things I
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those will happen, honestly, and
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So I want to stay in that
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How do we help our employees and
show them, hey, this is

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great, You're in that eighty percent. Let's focus on that, no question,

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and then on the other side of
that, going back to this whole

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notion of living and standing in a
place of gratitude, when we as leaders

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can do that for our people,
when we can look at our team and

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go even though not night, even
though, and in addition to you're very

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different from who I am Employee one
or employee two, and I love that

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about you. I think it's amazing
that you are able to be the analytical,

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detailed person that I can't be.
Make what I want to poke my

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eyeballs out. But without you,
we would be missing some of the core

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crucial data that we need. And
I want to be able to recognize and

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empower that. And what we know
is that whatever it is that makes us

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who we are, we always here
in our life. Both I wish you

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weren't so detail oriented and so analytical, and how great it is that that

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you are so which messages do we
choose to listen to? Yeah, yeah,

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hopefully it's the ones that empower us
and make us feel valued. Well

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and right, we know that that
doesn't always happen, right, And so

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part of again what I wanted to
be sure and cover for this for this

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segment is as leaders, especially when
we think about what results do we want

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to really accomplish? You got to
do it through your people. And one

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important way to do that is to
be able to really see your people for

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what unique human beings that they are
and make sure that they know that they

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know that you know their value.
Yes. I recently spoke for a college

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here locally, and before we were
adjourned from the event, they had little

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videos of all their new employees and
they were telling them who they are and

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what matters to them, and everybody
in the audience was listening to it.

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So all the professors, everybody they
work with, So instead of maybe connecting

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with one or two, now everybody
they work with pretty much has now met

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them visually and heard what matters to
them and the job they do and why

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they chose to come work for that
organization. Powerful two minutes, Max,

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and all of the faculty are watching
this. It was amazing to me.

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That is amazing And who was I
just talking to the other day about this

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about an organization and you're bringing me
to mind about this good practices with an

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organization. This is a smaller organization
wherein each candidate, each finalist candidate gets

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to meet the president of the company
before they even make an offer. Can

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you imagine speaking of a place of
gratitude, the president is making time for

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me before I even come into the
organization. And that's also part of my

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assessment process talk about appreciation. Yeah, absolutely, And obviously when the president

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makes time for this, it really
shows how important and how critical the team

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members are fitting together and where they
have to sign off on it and they

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have to be available to see how
that person fits in the puzzle. Because

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we don't want to work with everybody
who's like us. God forbid. We

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need difference, we need diversity,
we need change. We do and perfect

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time for our first break Already it
goes so fast. Sherry, I'm Elis

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Cortez, your host. We went
on the year of Sherry Elliott Jury,

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who is an author, speaker,
coach, and trainer in the area of

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human resources and talent management. She's
the author of Ties to Tattoos, turning

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generational differences into competitive advantage and also
you can have it all, just not

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all at once. She joins us
today from right here in my Dalla's office

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studio. We've been talking a bit
about the power of gratitude at work.

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and welcome back to Working on Purpose
if you're just joining us. My guest

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is Sherry Elliott Yury, who is
an author, speaker, coach, and

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trainer in the area of human resources
and talent management. She's the author of

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Ties to Tattoos, turning generational differences
into competitive advantage, and also the book

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called You Can Have It All,
just not all at once. I'm your

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host Elise Cortez. So before the
break, Sharry, you and I were

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chatting a bit about just the importance
of gratitude in our personal and our professional

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lives and certainly as leaders. For
this next segment, I want to kick

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off with just some of the thoughts
that you had. I know that in

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preparation for the show, you did
a little bit of looking into the kinds

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of things that really speak to you
around gratitude and thanks. I wanted to

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give you a chance to chat and
share those things. Yeah, it's wonderful.

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Thank you. So yes, I
could not just show up and wing

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it. I had to have a
few things. I had to go back

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and go, Okay, how do
I show gratitude to my clients? And

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you know, what are some of
the things I've recommended to some of my

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clients on how they work with their
employees. So here's just a few,

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and at least i'd love to get
your feedback is you know, when we

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work and we try to get a
new client, we work really hard.

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And one of the things I like
to do is always remember the client that

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we have work is hard to keep
them as we did to get them.

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And that's to me really amazing because
we go out there gangbusters and what happens

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after so so that they know that
we appreciate them, and we're going to

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stay keep telling them how much we
appreciate them, so they know how important

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that business is. Can I get
time into absolutely what I'm getting present too

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when you say that, Sherry,
what I'm reminded of is my years of

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recruiting, and I remember how many
how much You're right, how much effort

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we as an organization and the expense
that we would put into attracting these prospects

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to us and then putting them through
a long interview process and trying to woo

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them away from either their present employer
or from other opportunities to come into an

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organization. That was a lot of
effort and a lot of expense. And

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you're absolutely right. Once we got
them in the door, it did we

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always do a great job of being
able to nurture that relationship, show them

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that we cared to develop them,
make sure that that same effort of wooing

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them showed up in the post higher
process. That is such a great point.

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Yeah, and I think it's absolutely
true, and especially from that perspective

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as well, and even if it
doesn't work out that they become a client,

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keeping in touch with them, sharing
them little tidbits, maybe it's your

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newsletter, whatever it happens to be, because that may change someday. So

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it's still just because you didn't win
them over at the beginning. There's other

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ways to still stay connected and let
them know they're still important to you.

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They're not just a chunk of business. Absolutely, that's really important. One

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of the other things that I think
is really helpful is a handwritten note.

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Those things have gone away. Most
people don't write handwritten notes. We send

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a text with some emojis and you
know, links, and or we send

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an email. But sitting down and
writing a card that you thoughtfully picked out

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for somebody. I know, for
me, I have a huge drawer in

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my office that have all these sparkly
cards for women, some with like high

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heeled shoes and some that have motorcycles
for men. So I can go into

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my box and choose the right card
for the right person and write them a

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note. And you know, I
try to do spell check first before I

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write the note, just in case, but I make sure that it's something

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I want to tell them, Like
I appreciate them for something, showing them

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that gratitude because I specially picked out
that card for them, and then I

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wrote my note, put a stamp
on it, and went to this place

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called the mailbox. And you're right
today because we do realize how much on

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digital communication getting something physically deliberate to
us stands out. Now, there's just

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one little small issue I had with
that, and you, as my friend,

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probably notic. What if you have
such bad penmanship that when you do

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go to the trouble of sitting in
that card and they receive it and they

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call you open the stay at least
thank you very much for the card?

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What did it say? Well?
And it's like, and I know I've

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received many of your beautiful cards.
It's like, okay, was there drinking

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involved or was it? You know? I know, So you know,

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you can always type it on the
computer and cut it out, paste it

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inside if you need to. But
it's just it doesn't matter what it says.

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It's the thought because I know I
pieced together the messages you've sent me,

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and I'm like, you know,
it's beautiful. She thought about me

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and she sent me a card.
Love it, So you know that's the

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point it doesn't stop you sending cards. That's exactly right. Yeah, yeah,

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so it doesn't matter, okay,
as long as they got the intention.

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Okay. Good. One of the
other things is what about doing random

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acts of kindness? Yes, just
random. It doesn't have to be at

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the end of the year where so
many clients now are doing these holiday parties

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and something else. What if you
just like donated to the company's favorite charity,

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or what if you did something that
gave back and it was just random.

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Nobody asked you to just happenstance.
One of the new client thank you

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is that I really enjoy is customize
ice cream and they deliver it to the

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client and you can write what you
want and they will print it on the

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pints of ice cream. And so
I've just sent it to them so they

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could have a sun Day and in
my thanks and so they printed that on

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the front and then it sent them
all the little items and I didn't have

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to do a thing, but I
got to craft the message. And it

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wasn't because they were need my contract
or anything. It was just because I

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wanted to tell them that I appreciated
them and them getting their custom ordered flavored

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ice creams with their name on it
made them feel really great and special.

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Oh, that is incredibly special.
And for me, when you talk about

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random acts of kindness, one of
the things I think about is my whole

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life purpose that I walk through life
personally, professionally everywhere I go. It's

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just who I am is I'm about
uplifting humanity. That's what I care about.

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And I want to sprinkle that magic
dust everywhere that I go. And

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so what I will oftentimes do and
I can't help the share. I'm not

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doing this because I want something in
return. I just can't help it.

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Is that when I'm out and about
and I notice somebody that I feel like

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I want to recognize somehow, I
will just come up and I will just

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say is directly and generally as I
can what it is that I appreciate,

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Like I might say too. I've
said to many many women, you look

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beautiful today, and it's amazing to
me their responses. They are generally overwhelmed

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by that. It's like they're they're
really moved by that. And I think,

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gosh, that's all it takes to
really amaze people is to simply give

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them a real, genuine compliment.
I don't want anything in return, not

410
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looking for anything. I just want
to recognize you, and you see them

411
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really almost just undone by that.
It's so easy, the random acts of

412
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kindness. Yeah, it's like your
ability is like huge to be able to

413
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do that, to touch people.
I have. When you're saying in my

414
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office that she leaves sparkle everywhere she
goes, yeah, it's kind of like

415
00:27:52.960 --> 00:27:55.839
that. I just visualize you with
your sparkle. Yeah, just going around

416
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and giving everybody a little sparkle for
you. And I like that. That's

417
00:27:59.119 --> 00:28:00.880
how I like to roll through life. Not everybody appreciates that about me,

418
00:28:00.960 --> 00:28:03.240
but I like it, and that's
how I tend to go. I can't

419
00:28:03.240 --> 00:28:06.799
help, but it is who I
am. That's the funny part, because

420
00:28:07.200 --> 00:28:11.680
you and I are both very differentness. I'm an introvert in an extrovert world,

421
00:28:11.799 --> 00:28:15.359
and so you're an extravert at an
extrovert world. And for you to

422
00:28:15.400 --> 00:28:17.440
go up and talk to somebody,
it's like, oh, no, big

423
00:28:17.480 --> 00:28:19.079
deal. For me, I'm like, oh, do I really have to

424
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go talk to one more person?
But I know that I have to make

425
00:28:22.759 --> 00:28:26.640
the effort to do that, and
so I am very choose wisely and know

426
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that I can make a difference for
that person because I know how much effort.

427
00:28:30.200 --> 00:28:33.079
So all you introverts out there,
it is possible to live in an

428
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extrovert world. You just got to
work at it. That's exactly right.

429
00:28:37.279 --> 00:28:41.480
Yeah, let's see. One of
my others is I read a lot of

430
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books, and I get a lot
of books from Amazon from other authors asking

431
00:28:45.640 --> 00:28:49.680
me to do like a review,
and so Amazon delivers regularly and under that

432
00:28:49.759 --> 00:28:53.759
guys, I try to tell my
husband that it's other books might be a

433
00:28:53.799 --> 00:28:57.400
real fancy pair of shoes. I
don't know, but I get these books

434
00:28:57.480 --> 00:29:02.279
and I have this opportunity to reach
them and at least do a review.

435
00:29:02.680 --> 00:29:07.279
I love the idea of sharing books
that you think are impactful with your clients,

436
00:29:07.319 --> 00:29:11.799
your co workers, you know,
anyone else, because they may not

437
00:29:11.880 --> 00:29:15.319
come across that same book, but
that message is important for them. And

438
00:29:15.519 --> 00:29:18.759
I've had so many people get excited
when that book shows up in the mail

439
00:29:18.400 --> 00:29:22.640
or I asked them do they read
on iPad or a kindle? I can

440
00:29:22.680 --> 00:29:26.559
just send them a link to it
and buy that for them because I found

441
00:29:26.599 --> 00:29:30.519
that book had some nuggets of information
that they may want. And I never

442
00:29:30.559 --> 00:29:33.240
send my book. I never send
my book because I always highlight and start

443
00:29:33.359 --> 00:29:37.880
all these pages. So I send
them a new copy and I just leave

444
00:29:37.920 --> 00:29:41.759
them a little note of what I
found really might connect for them. I

445
00:29:41.799 --> 00:29:44.960
have to weigh it on that in
a couple fronts. One, you have

446
00:29:45.079 --> 00:29:48.000
sent me books before. You have
sent me books that I have really really

447
00:29:48.039 --> 00:29:52.759
appreciated and really made a profound difference
to me, and you're right when I

448
00:29:52.799 --> 00:29:56.279
receive them. One you get a
special gift in the mail from Amazon.

449
00:29:56.319 --> 00:29:59.119
It's wrapped and everything. I'm like, Wow, this is so cool.

450
00:29:59.160 --> 00:30:02.000
Did I forget that I would have
this book? That's a gift. Wow.

451
00:30:02.680 --> 00:30:06.640
So there's that. And then the
other thing is too is as getting

452
00:30:06.680 --> 00:30:08.799
to host the show, a lot
of my guests who are authors will send

453
00:30:08.839 --> 00:30:12.160
me their book in advance, and
I see that as a gift. They've

454
00:30:12.200 --> 00:30:15.799
given me their book, and obviously
it's in preparation for the show, but

455
00:30:15.920 --> 00:30:19.480
I see that as a gift,
and I'm grateful for that, and I'm

456
00:30:19.480 --> 00:30:23.920
grateful for they're giving me a piece
of themselves that they poured themselves into and

457
00:30:23.960 --> 00:30:26.480
then we get to talk about it
in the air. It means something to

458
00:30:26.519 --> 00:30:30.960
me. Yeah, that's wonderful to
hear because I'm working on two new books,

459
00:30:30.000 --> 00:30:33.400
so I'm really glad to hear that. Okay, good that it doesn't

460
00:30:33.440 --> 00:30:37.759
go unnoticed, So that's wonderful.
Never So that's one of the other ones

461
00:30:37.799 --> 00:30:41.799
that I find really helpful. What
about when you're like in a restaurant,

462
00:30:41.799 --> 00:30:45.519
You could be out with a client, could be with employees or family members,

463
00:30:45.519 --> 00:30:48.799
and you give a bigger tip than
what they would expect. We recently

464
00:30:48.880 --> 00:30:56.160
had my father in law's eightieth birthday
at a local steakhouse here and it was

465
00:30:56.240 --> 00:31:00.079
beyond phenomenal. So not only did
I write them a note, but I

466
00:31:00.079 --> 00:31:03.920
went online and gave them a great
rating on Facebook. So the power of

467
00:31:03.960 --> 00:31:07.680
social media to use it for good. And so what happened out of that,

468
00:31:07.440 --> 00:31:11.079
We had so much cake left over, and it was a scrumptious cake

469
00:31:11.160 --> 00:31:14.279
that we had at our wedding party, and I gave it to the restaurant

470
00:31:14.400 --> 00:31:18.799
and all the staff were so grateful. And today my husband went in for

471
00:31:18.880 --> 00:31:23.440
lunch and the wine connoisseur came over, the event manager came over, and

472
00:31:23.720 --> 00:31:29.000
they were so generally happy to see
him, even though it was really me.

473
00:31:29.240 --> 00:31:33.680
But that's okay, They were so
happy to see him in gratitude for

474
00:31:33.759 --> 00:31:37.440
all the things that you know,
we did to promote them in a way

475
00:31:37.480 --> 00:31:41.960
that I thought might matter to them. And because I'm very fortunate and obviously

476
00:31:41.039 --> 00:31:45.920
very grateful for the following I have
on my social media, what a better

477
00:31:45.960 --> 00:31:48.119
way that I can actually send that
out and say, you know, this

478
00:31:48.160 --> 00:31:52.480
restaurant did a phenomenal job. Try
them out easy, but it was impactful.

479
00:31:55.319 --> 00:31:57.240
Yeah, And I think that's that's
another great thing that you're bringing up,

480
00:31:57.240 --> 00:32:00.640
Sherry. Is that right? We're
so quick to complain when we don't

481
00:32:00.640 --> 00:32:04.400
get the service that we want,
But how quick are we to be able

482
00:32:04.400 --> 00:32:07.279
to trigger pull a great social media
message that says, oh my gosh,

483
00:32:07.319 --> 00:32:12.720
this restaurant, these employees rocked it. Yeah. Yeah, and it makes

484
00:32:12.759 --> 00:32:16.599
a huge difference. We're taking salsa
lessons right now, and God bless our

485
00:32:16.640 --> 00:32:19.839
sausa instructor. It's all I have
to say. And you know, I

486
00:32:19.880 --> 00:32:22.440
did a shout out on Facebook for
her because I'm like, I'm a lefty

487
00:32:22.519 --> 00:32:24.720
and she's been doing a great job, and I just want people to know

488
00:32:24.799 --> 00:32:30.119
that this person really shows up and
she puts up with us for an hour

489
00:32:30.160 --> 00:32:32.000
and she makes us laugh, and
we can learn to dance at the same

490
00:32:32.039 --> 00:32:37.279
time. So why not share that
gift with others in a way that they

491
00:32:37.319 --> 00:32:39.039
may be able to receive that and
want to go, Hey, you know

492
00:32:39.079 --> 00:32:43.079
that sounds like fun. Maybe I'll
try and reach out to her. This

493
00:32:43.160 --> 00:32:45.279
might be a little bit of stream
of consciousness here, Sherry, so forgive

494
00:32:45.319 --> 00:32:52.119
me if it is. But you're
reminding me too of just the simple value

495
00:32:52.279 --> 00:32:57.920
of people just looking your way and
acknowledging you in terms of you're walking down

496
00:32:57.920 --> 00:33:00.680
the way or they're walking past you. I'm amazed how many people walk past

497
00:33:00.720 --> 00:33:04.359
us today and there's no eye contact. Now, my Joe, I'm an

498
00:33:04.359 --> 00:33:07.319
extrovert and I don't push myself on
people most of the time. Most of

499
00:33:07.359 --> 00:33:12.720
the time you probably witnessed otherwise.
But but but what I what I'm getting

500
00:33:12.759 --> 00:33:15.839
at is when I think again back
on the workplaces, I've done many many

501
00:33:15.880 --> 00:33:21.920
employee engagement surveys and done the rollout, and of course the number one variable

502
00:33:22.519 --> 00:33:27.519
most for most organizations is people want
to be valued and appreciated. And I

503
00:33:27.559 --> 00:33:30.599
remember distinctly there was an organization that
we were working with years ago and they

504
00:33:31.000 --> 00:33:37.960
got low scores on their engagement and
The qualitative commentary was nobody even says hello

505
00:33:37.160 --> 00:33:43.119
here. Wow. The executives walked
down the hall and they're in their their

506
00:33:43.160 --> 00:33:45.480
notebooks and their calendars, and they
don't even look up to notice that I've

507
00:33:45.519 --> 00:33:51.279
passed by, and I feel so
small and so insignificant. Yeah, right,

508
00:33:51.319 --> 00:33:53.839
and so that simple thing of just
even saying hello to someone can be

509
00:33:54.839 --> 00:33:59.680
immeasurable in terms of impact. Yeah. Years ago, I was working with

510
00:34:00.839 --> 00:34:05.000
one of my clients. It's a
tribal nation, and the CFO would walk

511
00:34:05.039 --> 00:34:08.039
down the hallway with purpose and very
driven, and he'd have his head down

512
00:34:08.119 --> 00:34:12.840
and he would like storm through the
hallway. Well, even that body language

513
00:34:12.880 --> 00:34:16.000
didn't show that he was open.
Everybody was afraid of him, when actually

514
00:34:16.000 --> 00:34:20.079
it was a very nice, approachable
person. But you had to get him

515
00:34:20.119 --> 00:34:22.760
away from the hallway because he was
walking to his next meeting. And once

516
00:34:22.800 --> 00:34:27.719
we helped him, understand, if
you stand up stead and hunched over,

517
00:34:27.760 --> 00:34:31.320
well you'll have a better posture and
two people will talk to you because you

518
00:34:31.360 --> 00:34:36.400
look very scary and unapproachable, and
so stand up, be open. And

519
00:34:36.440 --> 00:34:38.960
it's like the way we're sitting right
now. We're not sitting behind a desk

520
00:34:39.039 --> 00:34:43.760
or I think we're sitting side by
side. Employees love that. Then they

521
00:34:43.760 --> 00:34:46.880
don't feel like they're being dictated to
when they show up into their boss's office.

522
00:34:46.880 --> 00:34:52.320
They're just having a conversation and you're
another human being. Imagine that you're

523
00:34:52.360 --> 00:34:53.840
not like the boss. So I
want to come up from behind the desk,

524
00:34:53.880 --> 00:34:57.440
sit in front of me, sit
together with me. What a concept.

525
00:34:58.320 --> 00:35:00.519
And I don't know how many other
point do you have to cover?

526
00:35:00.519 --> 00:35:01.760
Because I was going to chime in
a one more thing to go right here?

527
00:35:01.920 --> 00:35:05.199
So one other thing that I want
to say about what you just said

528
00:35:05.199 --> 00:35:08.079
there is and the great thing that
each of us do coaching, in terms

529
00:35:08.119 --> 00:35:12.480
of being an executive coach or a
leadership coaches, so much of what we

530
00:35:12.599 --> 00:35:15.519
tend to do is we help people
put them here up for themselves right so

531
00:35:15.559 --> 00:35:20.400
they can reveal what it is that
they're doing and then start to unpack how

532
00:35:20.480 --> 00:35:22.400
is that impacting people and is it
getting you the results that you really want?

533
00:35:23.039 --> 00:35:25.239
Do you know that when you storm
down the hall like this, that

534
00:35:25.320 --> 00:35:29.760
people the message you're giving them is
that maybe I don't know, I wasn't

535
00:35:29.800 --> 00:35:32.679
there, You're not important, I'm
really busy. I'm monetear and for some

536
00:35:32.679 --> 00:35:37.519
people that kind of energy is really
intimidating, it's very scary for others.

537
00:35:37.599 --> 00:35:39.239
For others it's like, you know, that's kind of exciting and I like

538
00:35:39.280 --> 00:35:43.559
the competitive edge to it. But
so what I also want to get to

539
00:35:43.760 --> 00:35:49.519
is that to be able to practice
gratitude as leaders, sometimes it does help

540
00:35:49.760 --> 00:35:52.599
to be able to get some perspective
from other people, whether it's a coach

541
00:35:52.679 --> 00:35:55.559
or somebody else in your organization,
to be able to hear how do we

542
00:35:55.599 --> 00:35:59.800
tend to show up for people?
Do we tend to show up as demanding?

543
00:36:00.119 --> 00:36:02.360
Or when we do say what we
think is gratitude, does it come

544
00:36:02.400 --> 00:36:07.039
off that way? Do people see
it as a great message that they're moved

545
00:36:07.079 --> 00:36:09.119
by and inspired by, or it
does it come off as shallow? Right?

546
00:36:09.199 --> 00:36:15.000
Because you want something so helping people
to get really present to how it

547
00:36:15.079 --> 00:36:19.320
is they're showing up and is that
the impact that they really want in terms

548
00:36:19.320 --> 00:36:22.400
of adding in this kind of a
gratitude mindset, is I think really important,

549
00:36:22.440 --> 00:36:28.679
really critical. Absolutely. One of
my friends who's a very good counselor

550
00:36:28.719 --> 00:36:30.920
and she does a lot of work
with women, she says, put down

551
00:36:30.920 --> 00:36:36.119
the magnifying glass and pick up the
mirror and just that visual. For me,

552
00:36:36.199 --> 00:36:39.559
it's just huge because it is there. It takes a strong leader in

553
00:36:39.559 --> 00:36:45.480
person and professional to want to hear
feedback and then to actually take it and

554
00:36:45.519 --> 00:36:49.440
do something with it, because it
does sting at first, and a lot

555
00:36:49.440 --> 00:36:52.320
of them kind of like, oh
really, am I really like that?

556
00:36:52.400 --> 00:36:53.840
And then, like you said,
it's like, what do we want to

557
00:36:53.880 --> 00:36:57.679
be known for? What are we
going to do differently? And that's when

558
00:36:57.679 --> 00:37:04.000
they have that opportunity they're looking in
the mirror choose m hm. You know

559
00:37:04.199 --> 00:37:06.480
again, that goes back to the
choice thing. And I want to tell

560
00:37:06.519 --> 00:37:09.079
just a short little story here and
that it has to do with you.

561
00:37:09.199 --> 00:37:14.159
When we when we can inculcate this
idea of look that back to the lens,

562
00:37:14.519 --> 00:37:19.679
how do we choose to see people? Probably the most amazing person to

563
00:37:19.719 --> 00:37:22.639
me in my life, and I've
had several of them, so it's hard

564
00:37:22.639 --> 00:37:25.320
to choose. But my my maternal
grandmother, very special woman to me.

565
00:37:25.400 --> 00:37:30.000
She's been gone from many many years, but I used to write her love

566
00:37:30.079 --> 00:37:35.320
letters and they would be addressed to
the two It said to TiO, the

567
00:37:35.480 --> 00:37:40.119
most amazing grandmother on the planet po
Box one three six called Phil Washington,

568
00:37:42.639 --> 00:37:45.000
and she would get these letters and
back then, I guess I could write

569
00:37:45.039 --> 00:37:49.079
legibly enough she could actually read them. But she would call me on the

570
00:37:49.119 --> 00:37:51.880
phone and she said to me,
she would say, you sure know how

571
00:37:51.920 --> 00:37:55.440
to make a little old lady feel
special. Oh and right, And that's

572
00:37:55.480 --> 00:37:59.760
the point. I'm like, you
deserve that. How many years that you

573
00:37:59.800 --> 00:38:02.679
have made me feel special? So
that practice of really being able to take

574
00:38:02.719 --> 00:38:07.920
that looking glass and really aim it
on the other person in a way that

575
00:38:07.960 --> 00:38:12.639
you can deliver a message that really
lands for them. Absolutely, that's very

576
00:38:12.639 --> 00:38:15.440
touching. I hope to be that
kind of grams for my granddaughter. And

577
00:38:15.480 --> 00:38:19.360
if she doesn't think so, I'll
help her realize it. Yeah, that's

578
00:38:19.440 --> 00:38:22.800
right. We'll help your presence that. Yeah, and you know to that.

579
00:38:22.880 --> 00:38:25.679
And it's funny. I'm teaching a
class right now, so their Methodist

580
00:38:25.760 --> 00:38:30.880
University, and it's an internship class, and the students are actually required in

581
00:38:30.920 --> 00:38:34.440
their report to presence what they think
they did well that week. And part

582
00:38:34.480 --> 00:38:37.079
of the reason they do that is
because their boss has to actually see it.

583
00:38:37.760 --> 00:38:40.239
And sometimes it's important to be able
to remind the boss just what it

584
00:38:40.320 --> 00:38:44.000
is that we do well. Yes, maybe they missed it or maybe it

585
00:38:44.000 --> 00:38:46.079
didn't register for them as something all
that great. And that's the whole reason

586
00:38:46.119 --> 00:38:49.880
I have them write these reports and
get their boss to sign it, is

587
00:38:49.880 --> 00:38:52.800
because it opens the channel of communication
between the employee and the boss. Yes,

588
00:38:52.880 --> 00:38:55.079
and that's a lot better than waiting
till the end of the year to

589
00:38:55.119 --> 00:39:00.119
do a performance appraisal when they don't
remember all the great stuff. So you

590
00:39:00.159 --> 00:39:02.760
need to keep your own woohoo box, and you know your own reports.

591
00:39:02.840 --> 00:39:06.960
I have a love box at home, and when a client or a friend

592
00:39:07.000 --> 00:39:08.119
sends me a card and I know
I've got lots of years in there,

593
00:39:08.360 --> 00:39:10.800
I just put it in there.
And when I'm feeling like I need a

594
00:39:10.800 --> 00:39:14.920
little juice or pick me up,
I opened my love box and it gives

595
00:39:14.960 --> 00:39:19.639
me that I actually have one of
those love boxes too. Here we are,

596
00:39:19.760 --> 00:39:22.360
it's time for another break. I'm
a last Cortez, your host.

597
00:39:22.440 --> 00:39:23.880
We put on the air with Sherry
Elliott Jury, who was an author,

598
00:39:24.000 --> 00:39:28.239
speaker, coach, and trainer in
the area of human resources and talent management.

599
00:39:28.559 --> 00:39:31.920
She used the author of Ties to
Tattoos, Turning generational differences into competitive

600
00:39:31.960 --> 00:39:36.280
advantage, and also the book called
You Can Have It all, just not

601
00:39:36.320 --> 00:39:37.960
all at once. She joins us
today from right here next to me in

602
00:39:38.000 --> 00:39:43.159
my Dallas office studio. After the
break, we'll continue our conversation about gratitude

603
00:39:43.159 --> 00:39:45.679
and the power it can impact within
organizations. Stay with us, We'll be

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Now back to Working on Purpose. Thanks

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for staying with listen and welcome back
to Working on Purpose if you're just tuning

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in. My guest is Sherry Elliott
Jury, who is an author, speaker,

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coach, and trainer in the area
of PO resources and talent management.

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She's the author of Ties to Tattoos, Turning generational differences into competitive advantage,

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and also the book called You Can
Have It All, just not all at

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once. I'm your host, Alice
Cortez. So for this final segment here,

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Sherry, I wanted to kick it
off with this notion of within organizations,

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how leaders can use the power of
gratitude to really enroll and inspire people

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to perform at a higher level or
to continue performing when you know, when

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it's tough. So what I'm reminded
of is that the work that we do

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it Insidney, and we do a
lot of breakthrough project work, organizational transformation

634
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work, wherein an organization has identified
a critical business imperative that they need to

635
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get done, they need to accomplish
they promised either the shareholders or various other

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people, and it's going to really
take something in the organization to move against

637
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the drift and really enable and empower
people to act and think differently to be

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able to produce that result. And
so oftentimes when we're doing our coaching with

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the individual leaders that are powering those
particular projects, it gets tiring, right,

640
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It gets really tiring. And so
part of what will oftentimes find ourselves

641
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doing in the coaching sessions is we
ask, what have you done lately to

642
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be able to thank your team for
all the amazing work that they've done.

643
00:43:13.239 --> 00:43:16.159
Oh my gosh, I haven't really
done very much. We've been so busy.

644
00:43:16.639 --> 00:43:21.639
Totally get that, totally understand that, right. However, what if

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you just simply did a little event, something to be able, something that

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brought them together that was fun and
cheerful. You got them together around bowling

647
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or a picnic or something to be
able to show them, hey, you

648
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matter, we really appreciate you.
Let's do something fun and celebrate. So

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I wanted to kick that off for
this part of the segment. I know

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you had a few of the things
that you wanted to talk about, but

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to me, that's another example of
how leaders can show gratitude in terms of

652
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how they lead to make a difference
in their teams. Especially over the holidays.

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Everybody's got their own kind of stress
going on, whether it's just work

654
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related they might have. I know, I worked for a domestic violence shelter

655
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and that was actually their biggest time
of year. Is sure families had Christmas

656
00:44:01.320 --> 00:44:06.199
and they don't close. Shelters don't
close twenty four seven. So it was

657
00:44:06.280 --> 00:44:09.639
really important that we gave the staff
some time off. And you know,

658
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I wouldn't inhale babies, for instance, but they got to take some time

659
00:44:13.960 --> 00:44:16.239
off. They got taken out for
lunch, and so even just something as

660
00:44:16.280 --> 00:44:20.119
simple as that going hey, you
know what, we know you're working really

661
00:44:20.159 --> 00:44:22.960
hard through this season, and we
really appreciate it. Can we get you

662
00:44:23.119 --> 00:44:28.599
lunch? And it really makes a
difference for them just to have that opportunity,

663
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And that means it shows you're paying
attention to what they're experiencing, not

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from your level, but from their
level. You're reminding me of something that's

665
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fun for me. You brought me
right back to nineteen ninety eight Seattle,

666
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Washington. I was at that time
selling information technology staffing services. So I'd

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go and call out on it leaders
who needed staffing, usually augmented or contract

668
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staffing, and I would do one
of two things, Sherry, speaking of

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food, is I would either now
or on the lunch our. I knew

670
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one of my hiring managers was,
you know, probably heads down in a

671
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project. I would call them up
and say, what do you want today?

672
00:45:05.519 --> 00:45:07.679
Chinese or Vietnamese? I picked it
up for you, and I'd bring

673
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it. And it was a way
to thank them for their business, thank

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them for being a client of mine, for entrusting me with your business and

675
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letting me serve you in this way. So it wasn't a hard but it

676
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took. It just took being a
little intentional. The other really fun thing

677
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that I would do oftentimes is this
was a way of business development. So

678
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those of you who are in business
developer sales, this is for you.

679
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So on Friday afternoon, I make
a bunch of calls and I would I

680
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would call my prospects that I wanted
to see on Monday, leave a message

681
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saying, hey, I'm going to
be here on Monday. I'll come by

682
00:45:38.119 --> 00:45:42.760
and see you. It's at least
Cortez from x y Z company. Sunday

683
00:45:42.880 --> 00:45:45.360
night, I would be at home
and I would make a whole bunch of

684
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homemade cookies and I put them in
this cloth line basket. And the next

685
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morning I'd show up at their place
of business and I would say, hey,

686
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I'm here to see Bob Jones or
whoever else it was. And I

687
00:45:55.639 --> 00:46:00.440
would set my cookies down in front
of receptionist and they would say do you

688
00:46:00.519 --> 00:46:04.000
have an appointment? And I would
say, well, I think he's expecting

689
00:46:04.039 --> 00:46:06.800
me because I left a message,
right, and if cookies were there,

690
00:46:06.880 --> 00:46:10.639
wafting, wafting right, and she
would call and she would say, Bob,

691
00:46:10.840 --> 00:46:15.320
there's an at least Cortest here to
see you. She has cookies,

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and they would let me in,
right. But it was a way to

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00:46:20.039 --> 00:46:23.199
be able to sort of thank in
advance for the opportunity to see them.

694
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And it's amazing what food can do
in that way. Oh yeah, did

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you know I brought you a plate
of cookies tonight? Yes? I do,

696
00:46:30.039 --> 00:46:32.039
Yes, I do. So.
Yeah. Food is a way of

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00:46:32.079 --> 00:46:37.199
showing love sometimes and appreciation. So
what better way than that? I don't

698
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know. I think that having grown
up in the restaurant business. First,

699
00:46:40.440 --> 00:46:44.599
my parents were farmers, and of
course so we created right we were we

700
00:46:44.679 --> 00:46:50.360
were actually raising wheat and sugar beets
to feed families, and then later on

701
00:46:50.440 --> 00:46:52.119
we got in a restaurant business,
and so there is something about the whole

702
00:46:52.159 --> 00:46:55.000
food thing, and I'm certain that's
a big reason that I still love to

703
00:46:55.039 --> 00:47:00.599
host Thanksgiving the way that I do. Absolutely my first job and owning a

704
00:47:00.679 --> 00:47:04.039
business was a catering company. So
I think that's why we have so many

705
00:47:04.159 --> 00:47:06.800
different connections that way. You and
I. I don't think I know how

706
00:47:06.840 --> 00:47:09.480
to make mashed potatoes for less than
fifty and you don't know how to throw

707
00:47:09.559 --> 00:47:13.519
Thanksgiving for less than a hundred.
So you know, it's just inherent in

708
00:47:13.599 --> 00:47:17.679
who we are. Yeah, yeah, And it's exhausting, right, but

709
00:47:19.280 --> 00:47:22.679
there it's a true labor of love. And so you know, however,

710
00:47:22.760 --> 00:47:25.599
it is that we presence ourselves to
be able to connect with people in our

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00:47:25.639 --> 00:47:29.480
lives, and this is true for
us as colleagues, right to be able

712
00:47:29.519 --> 00:47:32.039
to thank our colleagues for an amazing
work. I work with some amazing people,

713
00:47:32.119 --> 00:47:36.320
Sharry and a lot of the consultants. I'm so proud to call them

714
00:47:36.360 --> 00:47:40.800
my associates, and they do profound
amazing work. Their ability to look my

715
00:47:42.000 --> 00:47:45.920
direction, see me and thank me
for being their colleague and helping them deliver

716
00:47:46.079 --> 00:47:50.719
something is truly astounding to me.
That they have the presence to be able

717
00:47:50.760 --> 00:47:53.199
to say that to me in a
way that really moves me. Makes a

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00:47:53.239 --> 00:47:57.320
real difference in how I show up
for work too, absolutely, And you

719
00:47:57.400 --> 00:48:00.119
know, I thought about one another
example. I get requests just like you

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00:48:00.239 --> 00:48:04.519
do. Do we know anybody who
would be good on your radio show or

721
00:48:04.719 --> 00:48:09.119
as another speaker? And referring to
somebody we know and trust is also a

722
00:48:09.199 --> 00:48:12.719
way of saying, you know what
they matter to me. They're important to

723
00:48:12.719 --> 00:48:15.480
me, and I know they'll do
a great job. And that's a huge

724
00:48:15.519 --> 00:48:19.760
compliment. You may not always know
it, but surrounding yourself with teams of

725
00:48:19.840 --> 00:48:23.719
professionals that you know you can help
your clients or partners out by giving them

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00:48:23.800 --> 00:48:28.400
referrals to somebody that's really need to
take care of them. It's a compliment,

727
00:48:28.800 --> 00:48:32.480
especially in the business society, it
is, and that it also reminds

728
00:48:32.519 --> 00:48:36.320
me too of just, you know, the notion of being of service to

729
00:48:36.400 --> 00:48:39.880
people, whether you employ a servant
leadership mentality or however it is that you

730
00:48:40.320 --> 00:48:45.440
see your faith informing how you roll
through life. But to be of service

731
00:48:45.559 --> 00:48:49.679
to someone is it, I think
a fantastic way to be able to illustrate

732
00:48:49.760 --> 00:48:53.599
who you are, express yourself and
also to illustrate your gratitude for getting to

733
00:48:53.679 --> 00:48:57.840
be connected to that person. Yeah, yeah, that's great. Yeah.

734
00:48:58.079 --> 00:49:00.280
Yeah. One of the other things
that when I was doing my research of

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00:49:00.480 --> 00:49:05.800
some of the things that I did, I actually googled it on more because

736
00:49:05.800 --> 00:49:07.800
I knew there was more. And
one of the things that I never thought

737
00:49:07.840 --> 00:49:13.280
of is showing our self gratitude.
I was like, I saw that,

738
00:49:13.360 --> 00:49:15.920
and I was like what, say
what? And I'm learning to have I

739
00:49:16.079 --> 00:49:19.960
joke and say, my boundaries are
sticks right now, but they're getting better

740
00:49:20.000 --> 00:49:22.760
and they're getting stronger fence. They're
not like gonna be a little sticks for

741
00:49:22.880 --> 00:49:25.760
long, so watch out world.
But one of the things I was really

742
00:49:25.880 --> 00:49:30.199
surprised, and I didn't even occur
to me, is what about telling ourselves

743
00:49:30.719 --> 00:49:36.239
or doing something for ourselves that really
empowers and lights us up so we can

744
00:49:36.320 --> 00:49:39.360
show up that way in the world. Because when we're down, we're tired,

745
00:49:39.519 --> 00:49:44.320
and you know, we're overworked,
it's hard to have sparkle and magic

746
00:49:44.639 --> 00:49:49.880
and glow when we don't tell ourselves
how great we are. Oh my gosh,

747
00:49:50.000 --> 00:49:52.119
you are so right. And the
few times when I think to do

748
00:49:52.280 --> 00:49:57.519
that for myself, the difference it
really makes, as I like to say,

749
00:49:57.559 --> 00:50:00.480
immeasurable. And I do do that
sometimes time when I need to intentionally

750
00:50:00.800 --> 00:50:05.360
alter how something occurs for me,
how a situation, an opportunity, how

751
00:50:05.400 --> 00:50:07.480
I even occur for myself in a
situation because I need to be able to

752
00:50:07.559 --> 00:50:10.719
perform, or I want to have
a different outcome, or I want just

753
00:50:10.840 --> 00:50:15.480
a different experience. And I catch
myself going, okay, Cortez, just

754
00:50:15.599 --> 00:50:19.079
to sack hold on here, this
is what's what you've done well, and

755
00:50:19.199 --> 00:50:21.679
this is what I think you should
be happy about it, grateful for and

756
00:50:21.800 --> 00:50:27.440
so you're right, there's something about
that that totally alters my whole experience of

757
00:50:27.519 --> 00:50:30.599
myself and how whatever it is that
I'm connected to. Yes, absolutely,

758
00:50:30.840 --> 00:50:34.639
and it is. It's a powerful
way to show up. And it's just

759
00:50:34.760 --> 00:50:37.400
a small thing. It's like going, Okay, what do I need and

760
00:50:37.519 --> 00:50:39.920
how can I change something for myself
so that I can be more of service

761
00:50:40.000 --> 00:50:45.639
to others. You Know what I
think about with that is I think about

762
00:50:45.239 --> 00:50:49.840
again, in the individual coaching sessions
that I've I've been privileged to do,

763
00:50:50.079 --> 00:50:52.599
is we do ask our clients tell
us about the winds that you've had.

764
00:50:53.239 --> 00:50:57.960
And usually, more often than not, the women have a harder time conjuring

765
00:50:58.079 --> 00:51:01.159
up what they did well, claiming
they did well, And there's so much

766
00:51:01.239 --> 00:51:06.840
power when when they can, we
can actually get them to language and claim

767
00:51:07.239 --> 00:51:09.039
you know what. Today I spoke
in front of a crowd of one hundred

768
00:51:09.039 --> 00:51:13.199
and fifty people and I rocked it. The message was there and they got

769
00:51:13.280 --> 00:51:15.960
it, and I'm so excited and
I feel so great about my performance and

770
00:51:15.000 --> 00:51:19.760
who I was in that moment.
And we have to usually encourage them to

771
00:51:19.840 --> 00:51:22.639
do that, but when they do
the power of that is so incredible.

772
00:51:23.199 --> 00:51:27.280
Yeah, that brings me back to
just acknowledgement. I had dinner with a

773
00:51:27.320 --> 00:51:30.039
friend last night and she was leaving
and she was telling me, and she's

774
00:51:30.079 --> 00:51:32.679
just like mid forty. She said, I'm going back to school to get

775
00:51:32.719 --> 00:51:37.159
my degree. And she's like,
you know, I might as well start

776
00:51:37.280 --> 00:51:38.119
now. But she was kind of
like, she goes, I'm a little

777
00:51:38.159 --> 00:51:40.559
embarrassed. And I turned to her
and I was getting ready to walk to

778
00:51:40.639 --> 00:51:45.719
my car, and I said,
don't be embarrassed, be proud. Don't

779
00:51:45.800 --> 00:51:49.960
don't be embarrassed to tell people you're
you're gonna be fifty anyway. Why not

780
00:51:50.159 --> 00:51:52.239
finish your degree and then you get
to choose something else that you want to

781
00:51:52.320 --> 00:51:55.840
do. But that when that's I
heard those words out of her mouth,

782
00:51:57.000 --> 00:52:00.639
it made me do a three sixty
and turn around and go, hold on

783
00:52:00.760 --> 00:52:02.760
a second. I would like you
to think about that and be proud of

784
00:52:02.840 --> 00:52:07.639
it. And that was my small
gift to her, because she was looking

785
00:52:07.679 --> 00:52:12.639
at it from a whole other framework, and so I was super proud of

786
00:52:12.679 --> 00:52:15.360
her, and I wanted her to
know that, but also for her to

787
00:52:15.480 --> 00:52:19.280
feel that and stand taller with it, I think it's incredible. Well,

788
00:52:19.360 --> 00:52:22.960
sometimes we do need other people,
or we can certainly benefit other people being

789
00:52:22.000 --> 00:52:25.840
able to give us another perspective on
something. And I think one of the

790
00:52:25.920 --> 00:52:29.400
things that I appreciate about that,
and I say it when I go out

791
00:52:29.440 --> 00:52:32.679
and speak on my modes of engagement
and my passionate purpose stuff that I speak

792
00:52:32.760 --> 00:52:37.159
from, is that to be able
to get another perspective in a way that

793
00:52:37.239 --> 00:52:43.239
lets us continue to rewrite our life
story which includes us as the author and

794
00:52:43.320 --> 00:52:47.480
the main character, is incredible because
we then get the chance to reinvent or

795
00:52:47.679 --> 00:52:52.920
recast ourselves as we accumulate those life
experiences and see things from a different vantish

796
00:52:52.000 --> 00:52:57.480
point, one that ideally is more
grateful and appreciative. Yeah, absolutely,

797
00:52:57.880 --> 00:53:01.320
And forgiving there and forgiving there's another
good. Yeah, absolutely when it's important,

798
00:53:01.440 --> 00:53:06.000
and forgiving ourselves because I know people
are really good at beating themselves up,

799
00:53:06.039 --> 00:53:09.119
and it's forgiveness of self is important
too, and that is a certain

800
00:53:09.159 --> 00:53:14.119
I think forgiveness of self I think
qualifies in the general gratitude camp for sure.

801
00:53:14.360 --> 00:53:19.400
Absolutely. Yeah, it's kind of
taking We started this about energy in

802
00:53:19.480 --> 00:53:22.000
the beginning, but it's taking that
energy of saying what you don't like about

803
00:53:22.039 --> 00:53:25.960
yourself and forgiving yourself to converting it
into what do I do well? And

804
00:53:27.079 --> 00:53:30.119
putting that energy out into the universe. What a difference it makes, right,

805
00:53:30.239 --> 00:53:35.519
really, what a difference it makes
when somebody is literally skipping along because

806
00:53:35.599 --> 00:53:40.119
they feel that energy is positive and
strong, versus feeling beaten down by the

807
00:53:40.199 --> 00:53:44.960
world or by what they think that
they missed. I'll give a quick story

808
00:53:44.960 --> 00:53:47.400
about that, your guest for next
week. I met her back in May

809
00:53:47.599 --> 00:53:52.079
and I was sitting at a little
local pub in Frisco and I just finished

810
00:53:52.079 --> 00:53:54.519
working out, so when I was
stinky and you know, all sweaty had

811
00:53:54.559 --> 00:53:58.760
no business being in there, and
there was like this networking thing going on.

812
00:53:58.920 --> 00:54:00.920
And it first I was a little
ear tadd by because I'm like,

813
00:54:00.320 --> 00:54:04.559
I'm here to chill out with my
friends. And I look over to my

814
00:54:04.679 --> 00:54:07.119
left and there's this very beautiful woman
and she has this book in her hand.

815
00:54:07.800 --> 00:54:12.280
And I immediately went to the book
and I followed the energy and went

816
00:54:12.360 --> 00:54:14.960
straight to her and I said,
you wrote a book. I want to

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know you. And it took me
four or five months to get back to

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a place where I could meet with
her in person. But all I did

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was pay attention to the energy that
she was giving off, and that was

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incredible. It was like the glow, the magic, but you got to

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be aware to take it. Yeah, and to that end too, in

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terms of how it is that we
individuals walk through life. Are we conscious

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of how the energy we're putting out
there? Yes, so, Sherry here,

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we are already at the end of
the show. I don't know where

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the time goes. But last word
you want to give to our listeners today

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thirty seconds be present, show up
fully for yourself and everybody else, and

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you will make a difference, very
powerful and very succinct. Short not knowing

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for short. Now, it's wonderful. It's very wonderful that. Yes,

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well, I have so appreciated as
always having you on the show. Every

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time we talk, I get something
new from you. I see you differently

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and more deeply. And I really
appreciate you being here with me on Thanksgiving

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Eve. Yes, I'm excited.
Thank you. If you want to learn

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more about Sherry Elliott jury, the
work she does speaking and consulting, or

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her books, visit her website.
It's generationalguru dot com. So let me

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spell that for you. G E
N E r A t I O n

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A L g U r u dot
com. Generational Guru dot com and join

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us next week when we talk with
Tanya Waring, the founder of Manifesting Mindset.

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We'll be talking about her work teaching
executives, entrepreneurs, and everyday people

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how to get what they want in
business in life using her proprietary manifesting process.

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See you then, remember that work
is at least one third of our

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life, so let's work on purpose. We hope you've enjoyed this week's program.

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Be sure to tune into Working on
Purpose featuring your host, Alice Cortez

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every Wednesday at six pm Eastern Time
three pm Pacific Time on the Voice America

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Empowerment Channel. This week, find
your life's purpose at work