Empowering Girls to Change the World

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There are some people that make their
work just another thing they have to do,

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and there are those that make their
work something that they want to do.

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Welcome to Working on Purpose with your
host Elise Cortes. In our program,

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we provide guidance and inspiration from those
people who have found deeper meaning and

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personal connection to their work life.
It's beyond nine to five. It's working

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on Purpose. Now Here is your
host, Elise Cortes. Welcome back to

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the Working on Purpose Show. Thanks
for tuning in again this week. I

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am your host, Elise Cortes.
Joining you live from Dallas, Texas,

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which is home base for me.
If you've been tuning in for a while,

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then you know this program is all
about helping people create more meaningful and

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purposeful lives and equipping leaders insight organizations
to cultivate meaning and purpose that elicits passion

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inspired contribution, innovation, and persevering
performance. I talk with my guests to

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draw on their expertise and share in
my own experience consulting, speaking and developing

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workforces across the globe. Every week. In these conversations, I hope you

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walk away with something you can immediately
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bring it out to the world.
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leadership program for yourself and your team, which are offered on site or via

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Now onto this week's program with us
today is Maria Fuller, the founder

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and thought leader behind Raising a Powerfulgirl
dot com, an online education and community

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platform that connects profession from all over
the world to parents raising girls to educate

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and empower them on their parenting journey
with the goal of fostering independence, leadership,

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and strong personal identity in girls so
they can change the world. I

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love that. Maria is also the
founder of the Empowered Girl net excuse me,

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Empowered Girl movement dot com and their
online web application for girls called the

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Empowered Girl app dot com for clever, creative and inquisitive girls. She knows

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you today from Connecticut, Maria.
Welcome to Working on Purpose. Thank you

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so much Elise for having me.
I'm so excited to be here and I

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love the work that you're doing in
the conversations that you're holding because we can

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actually find joy and purpose in the
work that we do. So it's really

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awesome that you are spreading that message
to everyone. Thank you, Maria.

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I think it's a profoundly critical message, especially considering that we spend at least

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forty percent of our lives at work. Let's make sure that that is a

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joyful part of our existence. Please. In fact, just quickly to that

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end on One of the names I
go by when people will introduce me,

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or when I introduce myself is I
call myself the Anti Undertaker because I am

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really out to awaken the walking dead. There so many people out there that

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are literally walking dead. Through their
lives and they don't even know what Maria.

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So I love so much what you're
up to and why I wanted to

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have you on the show is because
one, I think your message and your

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movement is really powerful and I've joined
it. And two, you're an example

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of somebody who is really really living
their purpose. Yeah, well, thank

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you. I'm excited to be here
in chat today. It's going to be

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a great conversation. I am too. And let's give a shout out to

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Suzanne Brown. She is the one
who connected us, and she thought that

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you were up to something that would
align with what I like to celebrate,

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and she's right, So thank you
Suzanne in Austin, Texas. She's all

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about empowering moms and getting them to
make sure that they can live with work

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life balance and all kinds of other
amazing things. So it's a good fit

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there too. So to kick us
off, Maria, I got it.

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You know, I got to start
with the big fat why question, right,

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I want to understand help our listeners
understand, because I already have some

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idea why you're so focused on empowering
our next generation of girls. Yeah,

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So, you know, I think
at the end of the day when if

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I have to really pick one topic
of why I'm doing this work, and

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I'll break it down a little bit, it really is about women's leadership.

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And when I talk about women's leadership, most of the time people think that

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means women in politics are women running
a business. But that's not just what

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women's leadership is about women. For
me, women's leadership it begins with self

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leading their own lives. And so
in order to be a leader, you

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have to know where you're going first
in order to bring people along with you.

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And so if we want to create
a culture and we want to get

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girls into leadership wherever that may be, it has to start with them understanding

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who they are, finding purpose in
the world, and leading their own lives.

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And for me, as a young
g girl, I'm a former recovering

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perfectionist and a people pleaser. I
was that really good little girl. I

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was a Catholic school girl, wore
the uniform, had the excellent grades,

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was always on either full academic scholarship
or close to it in high school and

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in my first year in university,
and I always knew what I needed to

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do to from a response from someone
else. And that's kind of how we

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raised children to run in the world
is to let's see what response we're eliciting

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from people. And for me,
I learned what I needed to do to

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be called the good girl. But
what happened for me is that when I

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hit college, it was kind of
an awakening for me when I realized that

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I really didn't know who I was
at my core. I had been told

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how to dress my entire life from
uniformer or my mother actually taking a little

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bit of control and how I dressed
outside of school to how I was supposed

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to think. You know, the
the current education system really is spoon feeding

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children knowledge. There's really no opportunity
to really get creative, find your purpose.

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There really isn't purpose driven or passion
driven education, and so I never

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had that opportunity to explore. And
going from my first career in medicine and

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then becoming an entrepreneur, there were
so many instances in my life where I

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was just struggling with these simple little
areas that really was back to like my

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mindset and knowing what I wanted,
what I wanted at my core, and

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making decisions based off of that and
not making other people happy, and so

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I when I, you know,
embarked on motherhood, I really didn't want

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to raise girls. I was really
terrified about having daughters. And the universe

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smiled and laughed twice and sent me. Sent me Alexa first. And Alexa

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is ten, and she was really
the catalyst to cracking me open and to

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she really unraveled me from my entire
pregnancy, through my birth experience, through

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the first few years with her that
were challenging. That that girl crackt me

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wide open to my core and I
had to start from the inside out finding

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who I was as a woman,
as a as a human being, and

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then as a mother, and how
I wanted to show up in the world

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in order to raise and guide my
daughters. And then the universe laughed again

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and sent me Ariya, who has
taught me to She she embodies the spirit

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that I was as a young girl, which that is that unconquerable spirit,

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fearless, knows exactly what she wants
in life, doesn't take no for any

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answer, lives lives her best life
every single day and is creative and thoughtful

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and compassionate, and you know,
watching watching them grow up and being able

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to guide them on their journey I
really wanted to know what the challenges were

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that they were going to face as
girls, and how could I make their

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journey a little bit easier so that
they are able to find their purpose much

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sooner than I did, and go
out into the world and make the impact

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that I know they were here,
they were sent here to make. Oh

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my gosh, how beautiful was all
of that? Just a couple of things

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real quick. One. I think
what's amazing about what you just shared with

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us right there, is that when
people are asking you all the time,

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at least you know, I don't
know how to find my purpose. And

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there's some ways to do that.
And one of the ways is to look

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at the very thing that's been bothering
us our whole life, that we've been

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dealing with and you know, trying
to wrestle with and in your case,

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you know, getting over being a
perfectionist of people pleaser, and then of

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course having your two beautiful daughters sent
to you by the universe special delivery.

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You know, what you didn't ask
for and you got. I just I

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think there's so much in your story
if people will just look into their own

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lives and see what are they really
concerned with and how could they start to

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address those things that they're concerned with. It's just such a great way to

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start looking for a purpose themselves.
And I don't know if that's the way

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that it occurred for you, but
there's, at least to me, some

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of what you're shared came out that
way. Yeah, you know, I

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think for me. And something I
tell people is that life doesn't happen to

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us, it happens for us.
And there are two ways that you can

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look at your life experience. You
can dwell on all the hardships and the

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hard times that you had in your
life, or you can look at all

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of the incredible lessons and you know, journeys that you have had that have

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led to you to where you are. And So if you were to ask

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me, you know, ten years
ago, if I could even imagine doing

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the work that I'm doing right now, I would have said absolutely not.

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There's I can't even imagine, excuse
me being in this position. But it's

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really come from getting to know who
I am and connecting with my intuition.

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And I think that's something that's really
important for people to think about, that

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feeling inside and it shows up for
all of us very differently. For me,

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it's like a warmth feeling inside of
my heart and my chest area.

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And I actually use this when I
practiced medicine and it assisted me a lot

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in doing really important work in critical
care medicine and in the work that I'm

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doing now and going through my journey
and really listening to my heart and saying,

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you know, what is it you're
supposed to be doing? Why is

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this showing up in my world?
What is this teaching me? My life

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has really been a series of pivot
moments that have led me to doing this

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work that I'm doing today. And
it really started I needed to be that

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perfectionist, people pleasing girl. I
needed that experience to understand why it is

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I'm doing this now. And the
university that I went to that was a

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horrible fit. I needed to have
that experience to bring me to the one

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that I went to. You know, my accent as a paramedic and that

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ended my career that I loved has
all They have all brought me to this

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moment. And so for those people
out there thinking, like you know that

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you're in a career that maybe you
don't have passion and you don't know why

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try to connect, you know,
with your inner self. You know,

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what are those whispers that you hear? Maybe it comes up in dreams or

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in thoughts, or in flashes of
images of something that really lights you up,

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or or something that fires you up
that maybe makes you a little angry.

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And for me, there was anger
behind this. There's a lot of

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anger behind my work. And anger
is not a bad feeling. Emotions aren't

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negative or positive. And this is
something that I teach parents and I teach

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girls. Emotions are they just are. But it's our response to those emotions

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that we can determine whether they are
good or bad. And a couple of

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years ago, I found myself,
you know, in the current political climate

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that we're in, looking at what
was going on for girls and women these

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days, looking at the really startling
statistics that girls, young girls are facing

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regarding mental health. Some of the
most startling ones that we're seeing right now

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is that there's been almost a twenty
percent increase in completed suicides of girls ages

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ten to fourteen years of age in
the last ten years. And for me,

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that's terrifying as a mother and as
a woman, and it made me

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so angry, and I took that
anger, which was energy and passion and

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purpose and drive, and said,
what am I going to do with this?

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And what we teach our girls and
you know, my own girls and

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the empower Girl movement is you have
a choice. You can sit when you

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see a problem in the world.
You can sit and whine about it and

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do nothing, or you can go
out into the world and try to make

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a change. And it can start
with you and then go to your inner

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family and then to your community and
branch out that way. And that's kind

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of how I got to where I
am today. Oh, there were so

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much good stuff in that and I
really appreciate that the way that you positioned

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anger, because you're right, I
can tell you I've done some amazing things

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in my life on anger, amazing
things and positive things. And I really

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appreciate how you situated for us the
power of that emotion and how we can

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respond to it and use it to
channel and to that end, what I'd

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love to do for our listeners,
just if you can briefly it, because

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we could probably spend the hoshol talking
about this. But you mentioned a few

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things like the suicide, you mentioned
the people pleasing and such that you talked

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about before, But what else is
going on in the world that makes your

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work so necessary? You know,
it's really looking at I mean, you

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can look at it from a perspective
of social policy, health care. I'm

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proud to say that Connecticut actually this
week, with the help of some really

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amazing women, some who I know
very closely, we passed one of the

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most progressive paid family medical leaves that
exists in the country right now. And

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it's a pretty progressive plan that allows
families, you know, new families and

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they have a baby, or families
have a child member that gets sick,

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or a family member gets sick,
to be able to take twelve weeks off

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paid and be able to be present
and take care of their families. You

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know, the fact that this is
something that we really question fight about so

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often is to me kind of shocking
and eye opening. And you know,

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looking at having been a mom and
having been a working mom, and I

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am a strong advocate for not having
to choose motherhood over a career, and

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I'm a you know, I talk
about it all the time. My girls

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are really important to me, but
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I've been in that position of understanding
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balance motherhood and all of the pressures
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you know, traditionally being the primary
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in the in the early years,
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load that they're caring and then trying
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workplace or you know, when you're
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oftentimes men maybe don't weigh on it
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going out in the world, it's
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like to be a woman and the
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with all the time being a woman
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have that experience. And it's not
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if it's like, if you're not
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it's like to be a woman,
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that are in their best interest?
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in all aspects of my life.
You know, from when my girls go

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to school or they're an event that
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leader standing up in the front of
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I don't want my girls going to
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the room, because it's important for
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world to be able to see themselves
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world doing big work. And so
one of the most powerful ways that we

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have of teaching girls to go out
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and to be advocates and to make
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doing that. And so it's really
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and it's I know it's it's kind
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and over again, but it has
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they say it to me. If
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for me to know that I can
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these women out there that are doing
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that all those little girls all over
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leaders and they can do incredible things. And then we start shifting the balance,

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or we're opening up dialogue and conversation
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that aren't being met for women and
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well. It's really about just having
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still don't have. Wow, beautiful
Maria here here, I'm with you.

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We're doing this together. And with
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I'm your host, Alice Cortez.
We've been on the year with Maria Fuller.

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She is the founder and thought leader
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Empowered Girl movement. She joined us
today from Connecticut. We've been talking a

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why it's so important. After the
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couple of her brands to see how
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Now back to working on purpose.
Thanks for staying with us, and

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welcome back to working on purpose if
you're just joining us. My guest is

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Maria Fuller, the founder and thought
leader behind Raising a Powerful Girl in the

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Empower Girl movement. She's spent nearly
a decade working with women of all ages

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to help shit unhealthy beliefs and break
down stereotypes surrounding pregnancy, motherhood, body

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image, self esteem, parenting,
women in leadership, and much more.

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I'm your host Atlas Cortes, So
Maria at this point, I would love

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since we've really set up why you're
doing what you're doing now, i'd like

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to share with our guests or our
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you're actually doing? How is it
that you're doing this work? So let's

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first talk about the movement, the
Empowered Girl movement. One. I just

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love the idea of a movement,
and of course I did join yours.

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How could I not? But let's
talk in perhaps some detail about really what

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you're up to there. Sure,
so you know, the Empowered Girl movement,

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it's really funny to actually stemmed from
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daughter. I'd done work for years
using photography as a tool to work on

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body image and self esteem and confidence
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starting to just create conversation and through
my work and being an ap researcher,

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I started just diving into more of
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of you know, what was going
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method to talk with them, to
help them to kind of connect with who

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they are at their core, ask
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before, to get them to just
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their small, hinner circles and think
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you know, the Empowered Girl movement
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more conversation amongst girls that they needed
to be exposed to. And so there's

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a really great article that was written
in the eighties by an actual writer and

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she talks about when we're looking at
just children's literature, there's this concept of

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mirrors and windows, and so for
children, it's really important that they are

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able to see themselves and I talked
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experience, who they are in somebody
else, and that helps to remove isolation.

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It makes them feel like they are
part of this world. They are

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not alone in their experience and what
they're going through. And what I've found

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through my research is that isolation is
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and depression in young girls today and
teens and tweens. And what's happening is

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that they're going through, you know, the transition of childhood to adolescence.

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Their body is changing, their brain
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becoming reorganized and restructured, and they're
they're you know, they're starting to go

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through puberty and all of these changes
are happening. Social dynamics start to really

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change, and they feel a little
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alone, because what's happening is that
girls at this age aren't really having conversations

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on like how they're feeling. How
like six months ago they were extremely organized

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and now like they lose everything left
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of control. And there you know, hormones are starting to kick in.

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And so what I wanted was for
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share these conversations with other girls,
for other girls to listen and identify with

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them and say, oh wow,
yes that's me. I feel like that

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too. And when that happens,
they're like, oh wow, I'm normal.

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this was a huge one for me. When I became a mom,

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everything was happening. It was the
first time and I felt like everything that

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was going on in my life was
abnormal. So I felt like I was

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a bad mom because ten years ago, we really weren't talking about like postpartum

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depression, which I suffered through in
a couple of other things. So I

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wanted girls to be able to have
that and then I wanted them to have

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a window. And for me,
it's really important for girls, and this

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is talking about inclusivity and diversity and
girls to have a window into other girls

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worlds and to understand some challenges that
they may be facing. And this is

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really where we start building empathy.
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today. When we look at,
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which is actually really rampant, it's
actually much harder to detect and for administrators

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to actually deal within traditional boy bullying
because it's done from more of a psychological

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perspective. But when we build empathy
inside of children, we actually help the

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mental health crisis. And so empathy
is it happens when we teach girls about

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other girls around the world that have
overcome challenges. So maybe it's a girl

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that lost her hands when she was
fifteen months old to meningitis and now she

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has bionic robot hands, but she's
able to hear that girl talk about how

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it's hard for her when people stare, or it's hard for her when people

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ask questions, but how that girl
has overcome challenges and it's given her an

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amazing experience in life, and how
she's met incredible people, and she's going

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out into the world and making a
difference. And we're able to do all

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of this, which is really important
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well as working with girls one on
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So it's really trying to give girls
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thrive that transition from childhood to adolescence, which is really right now, such

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a rocky period for girls. It's
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and it's really hard for parents as
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much in there that what you're up
to in the movement, Maria, and

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I really really applaud everything you've said
so far, and just a couple more

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things I want to I want to
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that you talk about the importance of
developing a strong and healthy mindset that's critical

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for girl's success, and I completely
agree with that. I do a lot

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of work around changing an altering mindset
to how are people and to let them

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give a lens to what they can
become, who they can become, and

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what they have overcome. Say more
for us about what you're doing with trying

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to develop this mindset. Yeah,
so mindset is, you know, is

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so important and everything that you do, I mean, science backs it up.

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the business, we see athletes talking

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about the power of mindset. And
it wasn't you know, it was something

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that I had struggled with and it
wasn't until I actually started interviewing girls that

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I realized how much we needed to
work on this. So I do an

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interview series with girls that we do
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for girls. I'm also in the
price of the process of writing up like

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a documentary style book for girls,
and I came up with this questionnaire uh

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that I was going to ask these
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it was based off of the work
I had done in prior years when I

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was using photography as a tool and
one of the ice breaker questions that I

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had. One of the first questions
I asked I would ask girls is what

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are you good at? And when
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stunned at the responses that I would
get because girls would be really quick to

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tell you the things that they're bad
at, things that are hard for them,

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or give you opinions on things,
but when you ask them to self

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reflect and to list what they're good
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didn't know, they had no idea. Because when we look at society and

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what we see out there, just
look in terms of like advertising and media,

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everything that you see is a fix
to a problem or something that is

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bad on you, in you,
or with you. It's all over the

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place. We are raising kids to
focus on their faults, and when we

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ask girls to talk about the things
that they're good, then we bash them

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and we tell them that they're bragging, or that they're cocky, or they're

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obnoxious, and so they stop focusing
on that. And that was actually my

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experience. This is something I'm actually
still currently working on myself, is acknowledging

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what I'm good at, and that's
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really honing in on the things that

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you're good at, teaching girls that
they have a choice every day when they

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wake up. You know, we
talk about the reality of life, and

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so life is this journey and there
are dark moments and hard moments, but

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within that there's always there's always some
light and it's your choice to find the

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light, to find the lesson.
And so you can go into your day

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and you can focus on all the
bad things that happened today and grumble about

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it, or you can say,
these things today were challenging or frustrating for

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me, but I was able to
do this, and I was able to

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find, you know, the better
moments and when we're able to shift that

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mindset. And it's really talking also
about growth mindset, which is kind of

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a buzzword these days. So if
people you know might resonate with that and

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more, we're teaching them to take
control over their own thoughts. You know,

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we talk a lot about taking control
over your own body, what you

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put into your mouth, how you
exercise, what you say, but we

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don't really train kids to have control
over their thoughts, that they have a

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choice. And if you have ever
been around a child, you would know

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that one of the biggest hurdles that
you have as a parent is that children

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constantly battle you for power. They
want to be in control. Just look

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at a toddler. Any issue you
have in parenting is a is a control

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issue. And so when you teach
girls they can have control over what they

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think or how they look at an
experience. It becomes really empowering for them,

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and they feel safe and they feel
in control and they feel like they

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can handle things, as opposed to
a mindset of why are all of these

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things happening to me? This is
so horrible, I don't have control.

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And it all leads back to really
mental mental health and resiliency in girls that

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we really need to be working on
in building with them. There's so many

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great things you said there, Maria, so much good stuff for our listeners

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across the globe to really latch onto. One thing that I really want to

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call out from my lens that as
I listened to this is when you talked

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about, you know, we're telling
girls, you know, not to brag

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or whatever, and when they when
they don't know, they don't know the

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answer to I don't know what I'm
good at. Guess what happens about twenty

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or thirty years later, they show
up around my world looking for executive coaching

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because they're not getting promoted, they're
not getting the jobs that they want,

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and they don't know why. And
a lot of reason they don't know why

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is because they're not able to talk
about and socialize and articulate their value what

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it is they can do, whereas
many of their male counterparts can if they

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haven't been can do the same way. So I really think that what you're

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up to here is critical. If
we're going to raise another more women in

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the world to become leaders and really
start to change the world, they've got

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to elevate themselves, and so I
would rather have them do that. You

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know, when they're really young and
you get to them, then they have

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to wait till get to me later
on to help. So I really want

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to call that out for our listeners
who are like, hmm, you know,

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how come maybe I'm not where I
want to be. Why aren't I

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one of those leaders? Are you
one of those people that have been given

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that message of you don't brag and
if you don't know what you're good at

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and you're not people are women are
always apologizing when I asking what they're good

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at, They you know, kind
of pull it out, like, oh,

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it's the most painful thing to talk
about what I'm good at or what

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I love to do. Ah.
So I really applaud what you're doing,

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Maria, and I know that's just
the tip of the Iceberg. Let's grab

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our last break really quick so we
can finish strong here. Isn't it amazing

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how fast it goes? I'm your
host of Lisa Cortez. We've been on

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the air with Maria Fuller. She
is the founder and thought leader behind Raising

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a Powerful Girl and the Empowered Girl
movement. She joined it today from Connecticut.

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After the break, we'll talk more
about some other things she's up to,

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including the app she has created for
young girls. Stay with us,

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We'll be right back. Alise Cortes
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purpose. This is working on Purpose
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today, send an email to a
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back to working on Purpose. Thanks
for seeing with us, and welcome back

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to working on Purpose if you're just
tuning in. My guest is Maria Fuller,

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the founder and thought leader behind Raising
a Powerful Girl in the Empowered Girl

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movement. She has spent nearly a
decade working with women of all ages to

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help shed unhealthy beliefs and break down
stereotypes surrounding pregnancy, motherhood, body image,

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self esteem, parenting, women in
leadership, and much more. I'm

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your host, Alise Cortes, So
Maria, for this this last segment here,

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I really want to drill down,
if we can, on the Powered

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Girl app that you've created one.
I think it's amazing you've created an app

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that's just awesome, and I believe
it's for girls age seven to sixteen.

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But tell us more about why you
created that, what's in it and how

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can girls benefit? Yeah. So, you know, going back to what

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we were talking about, things were
good at years ago, I would have

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told you I'm horrible at technology.
I don't have a background in technology at

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all. Last summer, my nine
year old daughter wanted to be on the

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iPad. We were a low tech
household. We don't use a lot of

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technology because of you know some research
that I've done and how I wanted to

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introduce technology, and we had a
conversation. She really wanted to be on

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the iPad and my response back was, you know, there's we have specific

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ways that we use technology in our
home. What you're trying to do right

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now doesn't fit those guidelines. There's
nothing good on the iPad that's going to

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be really good for your mind,
body and spirit. If it did,

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then you could spend more time on
it. But it doesn't exist. And

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that's, you know, like one
of those universe laughing moments where my daughter,

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who embodies everything that I'm teaching,
looked back at me and said,

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well, why don't you create it? Mom? And we had one of

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those like Freaky Friday moments where we
switched bodies and I became nine and I

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rolled my eyes and I think I
did like a whole full body shr and

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I was like, I can't do
that. I can't just build an app.

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And I walked away and she came
after me. She's like, I

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want to have a conversation about this, mom, And I was like okay,

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and she's like, if you could
make it, and she kind of

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like, give me a little attitude, and I loved it. What would

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it be? What would you want
me to know? What do you want

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me to learn? What would it
look like? And it was really amazing.

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And I said a few things to
her and she was kind of like

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happy with it and walked off.
And you know, I was really disappointed

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in my reaction to that, because
right there is something that I'm trying to

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teach my daughters. If you see
a problem in the world, like I

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said before, you have two choices. You can sit and whine about it,

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or you can do something about it. And we always talk about just

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trying things, trying things that are
new and unfamiliar and seeing what happens.

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There was no danger in me trying
to even create an app, but I

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automatically went to the mindset of I
can't do that because I don't have that

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training. That would be too scary, that would be too hard. So

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you know, this my mindset on
that is exactly what I'm trying to fixing

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girls, because that is still where
I'm going and I'm the founder of this

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movement and this is something I actively
work on every day. But these patterns

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of behavior take a very long time
to break, and so I sat at

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the computer and I googled how to
build an app, and I did it

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in eight weeks and we launched it, and we actually launched it for the

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Apple Store and Google Plan and ended
up pulling it out of the Apple Store

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because of a bug that it had. And also because I wanted this to

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be a platform that was really inclusive
across a multiple socioeconomic backgrounds and demographics,

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and so I wanted something that could
be accessible by computer, like say,

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to use a computer at the public
library, as well as like an iPad

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or tablet or mobile device where traditionally
apps that are built for the Apple Store

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or Google Play can only be used
on a tablet or mobile device. So

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I pulled it through it in the
garbage can and rebuilt it again. And

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the second time going through the process
of rebuilding what we actually have now was

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actually fun for me, because I
had gone over that mental hump of I

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can't do this, this is scary, and instead it was this is exciting.

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I know what I'm doing, and
so now I can say, like

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I've gotten really good at self teaching
technology and it's actually exciting to me.

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And what a blessing that was to
have my daughter challenge me to create this,

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and then I took that risk and
went and did it. And now

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I have this incredible skill that I
never knew I had. So I built

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this platform and it really it goes
with the movement, and it was focused

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on the six tenants to really empower
girls and the hold on marine. Before

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you say that anything that can hold
on a second, we got to stop

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and back up and celebrate that you
created an app in eight weeks at the

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playful suggestion of your nine year old
daughter, which I just love that she

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just somehow positioned herself to to,
you know, put you into a place

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where she knew that she would address
that. We got to celebrate all of

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that. Okay, all of that
is just phenomenal, stunning and exactly why

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we need to be behind this empowering
a strong girl. What is it called

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a strong girl? Yeah? Empowered
girl? Yeah, power. Exactly why

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we need to be doing this.
Okay, really cool, Sorry I just

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had to do that. Okay,
hit the tenants. These are great tenants.

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Yes, So our six tenants are
mindfulness, gratitude, purpose, mindset

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relationships, and humanitarianism. And these
are the areas that I feel that we

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need to be giving girls tools and
skills and stories to empower them to go

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out and to change the world.
The mindfulness is really about being able to

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be present in the moment. We
are a very busy society. There's a

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lot of technology in our faces.
We're being pulled in ten thousand different directions.

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To be able to have the skills
to quiet your mind, to be

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able to process, to be able
to be present are really really important.

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Gratitude. There is so much science, there's actually neuroscience behind why gratitude is

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so important. I did a a
several month long course with Berkeley University and

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the Science of Happiness, and you
know, I'm an avid learner. I

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love to learn. So that course
was really incredible to incredible for me because

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there was a lot of neuro scientists
on there talking about the power of gratitude,

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of having a daily gratitude practice,
of being able to see what you're

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thankful for and see the bounty that
you have among you, you know that

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you're surrounded with and be grateful for
that really helps with mental health and having

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a positive and healthy mind. And
so we wanted girls to have those skills

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purpose We're not we don't have an
emphasis anywhere in the world with girls finding

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their purpose. It really boggles my
mind that our education system. Kids come

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in, we spoon feed them curriculum, We test them on the curriculum,

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We spoon feed them, and then
the end of high school comes, we

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go and we say to them,
what do you want to be when you

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grow up? And they're like,
I don't know. Aren't you supposed to

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be telling me that. You've been
telling me, you know, my entire

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life, and now we're supposed to
add to figure it out. Like that

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to me boggles my mind. And
so I really want girls to think about

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what they love, what are they
passionate about, What are the problems they

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see in the world, How can
they fix that? How can they address

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that? And we share with them
awesome girls that are doing cool things like

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Greta Thunberg, who's a fifteen year
old girl. She's she has aspergers,

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she's from I believe, Sweden,
and she is she's been nominated for the

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Nobel Peace Prize because she's actively striking
for climate change and she is she is

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completely disrupting the conversation on climate change
at fifteen years of age. Awesome,

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that's what they need to hear you
know, mindset again, we talked about

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the power of mindset and giving them
those skills that they need. Relationships,

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relationships take work, understand, I
mean, what a good relationship is Creating

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boundaries. Boundaries are so important.
We don't learn boundaries till we're older and

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we've been stepped all over and then
we start creating them. So girls need

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to create boundaries and know how to
do that, and choose healthy relationships and

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know what a healthy relationship is and
navigate it. And humanitarianism. Humanitarianism to

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me is so important. There's so
many parents that come to me and they

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say that, you know, my
girls, my daughter's sad, she's maybe

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she was bullied, she's having a
hard time. She just doesn't she just

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doesn't have drives, she doesn't have
motivation. And you know, I always

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say to them, is what is
she doing outside of her circle, in

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her community, outside of school,
the clubs, the dance, the gymnastics.

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What is she doing that's purpose driven? And I always tell parents one

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of the most powerful things we can
do is get our children out into the

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community and use their hands and do
good work for others. There is so

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much power when you you serve another
human being and you help someone, whether

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it's walking dogs at a pound because
you love animals, or mucking stalls at

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a stable, or going to a
soup kitchen, or going to a nursing

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home and playing board games something.
When girls do that, they feel like

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they are wanted in the world.
They realize that they can actually help others

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and make an impact and that increases
self esteem and self confidence in ways that

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we couldn't do otherwise. And so
looking at the world and understanding that you

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know, we're all in this together, and some of us have more privilege

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than others, and for them to
know, like I need to be doing

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stuff also to not only help myself
but help others. That's when girls actually

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start to become advocates for other people. It'll become easier for them to use

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their voice when they're helping someone else, and when they find strength in that

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voice, than I'll eventually be able
to use that voice and help themselves.

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It's really interesting how it's easier for
us sometimes to defend others than it is

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to defend ourselves. So the humanitarian
aspect is really important, and we do

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all of this through sharing stories through
our inspiring story series on there. There's

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videos on self care, teaching girls
about self care and then giving them lots

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of different ideas and what that actually
looks like and incorporating it into their life.

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There's meditations, they're coloring mandalas,
we teach them bullet journaling, which

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helps with like executive functioning and goal
setting and organization, which is really important

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at this time because their brains are
being rewired and they're all feeling a little

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disorganized. So we're helping them to
become a little bit more organized so that

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they feel more in control. Because
again, it's back to that wanting to

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feel in control and not feeling as
frazzled and for it to be fun,

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a fun space online that's safe and
is healthy for them. So for those

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parents that don't want their kids on
technology or they're grumbling because they want to

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be on it, here's an environment
that's been created for them that's going to

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give them tools that they really need. It's safe, it's uplifting, and

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it's empowering. And this summer we're
launching a several week long course to teach

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digital citizenship for girls, so to
learn how to navigate the online space in

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an empowered and healthy manner to find
out how they can actually connect with amazing

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women all over the girls and follow
them and be inspired by them, and

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how they can use their voice,
even at their young ages, to amplify

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others and to make change. And
so, really everything you know when I'm

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trying to parent my girls or I
give suggestions to other parents is instead of

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taking away things from girls or putting
so many restrictions on it, let's look

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at it from a point of how
do we teach them to utilize or to

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00:44:00.280 --> 00:44:02.960
do what it is they want to
do in a way that's safe, that's

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healthy, and that's good for them, and then giving them the tools and

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the education that they need to navigate
that. So instead instead of saying Instagram

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is horrendous, let's teach girls how
to connect with girls like Greta Thunberg or

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women like Merret Moore who's a principal
ballet dancer and an astrophysicist. These are

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00:44:24.320 --> 00:44:29.480
girls that they should be following on
Instagram. These are women that will inspire

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00:44:29.559 --> 00:44:34.239
them to think outside of their small
circles. And that's how media can actually

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become really powerful for them. Maria, you are such a rockstar. I'm

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inspired by everything that you're up to. I thank you so much for that,

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and it's so great. I completely
agree with every single thing that's come

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out of your mouth. I love
your tenants of the Empower Girl movement and

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then the empower Girl App. I
love all of that. I completely agree

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with all of that now really quick. So in terms of the app itself,

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is to do they have to request
membership or how does it work?

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Yep? So it's an online membership
based community. We have a membership for

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quarterly memberships or yearly memberships. They
can go to www dot Empowered Girl appapp

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dot com and join there. It's
accessible. It's a mobile responsive web application,

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so we teach you how to create
the app like feel shortcut to a

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phone or an iPad for quick and
easy access, but it can also be

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accessed from a computer, so there's
lots of different ways that they can be

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accessing this on there, and it's
one way communication so that they're not able

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to chat with anyone else. We
wanted to keep it really nice and safe.

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I appreciate that very much. I
was just about to ask about that

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piece of it there in case somebody
was able to gain access and start to

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interact. That's great. I love
that we're here close to the end of

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the show already, We've got a
couple of minutes left. I want to

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make sure and give you the chance. There's so much I know you can

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share, but maybe in just a
or so, what would you like to

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make sure our listeners get you know? I think you know. If you

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are listening to this and you're struggling
and you're not happy in your career,

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think about some problems that you see
in the world, think about things that

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excite you, think about things that
you might like to change. And even

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though you may not be able to
change careers right now, you know you

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can always have the opportunity to go
out into your community and get your hands

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dirty and help out in that manner, and you never know where that might

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lead you. So it doesn't always
have to be this giant leap into something

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else. It could just be something
that you dabble in on the side and

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that might pivot into something else,
and into something else, into something else.

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So follow follow that, follow follow
your heart on those things that call

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to you. And for parents,
in terms of raising powerful girls, please

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join us on raising a powerful girl
you know, listen to what we're saying.

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One of the most important ways that
we have of teaching girls is by

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modeling the behavior that we want to
see in the world. And that starts

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with yourself. And so if you're
struggling with mindset or body image, or

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self esteem or confidence, when you
work on yourself, you actually empower your

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daughters as well. And so you
know, I always tell moms that,

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you know, it's so great when
you're able to work on yourself because then

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you're teaching your daughter the same skills. Wow, Maria, so many great

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things, and I really also want
to I want to applaud again what you're

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saying about for girls and women to
follow, inspiring women that they can emulate.

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These are strong, positive examples of
women and girls doing something in the

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world, as opposed to maybe,
you know, I don't know, maybe

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just just some of their peers or
other people that maybe they can't get as

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much inspiration and education from. So
there was so much who gave us today,

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and I want to thank you and
applaud what you're doing in the world.

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It's really important work. Thank you
so much for having me honor just

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an honor, and so listeners I
really encourage you to go off go and

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seek out what Maria Fuller is up
to. If you go to her website

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raising apowerfulgirl dot com, you'll be
able to have access to her podcast,

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to the app that she was just
talking about, and just learn more about

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what she's what she's up to,
and how maybe you can join the effort

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and join the movement. It's very
easy to do, so I did it

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very quickly if you missed the show. Last week, we were on the

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air with Matt Johnson. He is
the CEO and founder of a company called

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motive X, and what we talked
about was how much leaders can do to

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lead people to intrinsically motivate themselves by
changing the work environment, job task,

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and the very team structure. It
was a very encouraging message, especially for

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those companies who want to focus more
on engaging their present talent better instead of

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replacing the talent that's that's walking out
the door. So really the idea of

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engagement versus replacement or recruiting. Next
week, we'll be on the air with

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Mel Mitchell. He is the author
of Kinetic Life, Unleash Your Potential.

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We'll be talking about how to help
people transition to their next big whether that's

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the next first or higher lane leadership
world that you're going for, or you're

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leaping into your purpose. No matter
what, see you there. Remember that

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work is at least a third of
our life, So let's work on purpose.

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We hope you've enjoyed this week's program. Be sure to tune in to

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Working on Purpose, featuring your host
Alis Cortes, each week on the Voice

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America Empowerment Channel. This week,
find your life's purpose at work