Achieving You and Your Team’s Impossible Goals Through Flow

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With us today is Chris King.
He's a peak performance executive coach and

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motivational speaker who is focused on truth. He's the co author of Renegotiate Your

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Existence, Unlock Your Impossible Life.
We'll be talking about what he's learned about

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how we form beliefs and how they
serve or don't service, and the work

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he does to help people to quickly
achieve impossible goals through flow. You doing

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today from plaid coom in Mexico,
where he spends about half of the year.

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Normally he's in Los Angeles. Chris, welcome to Working on Purpose.

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Thank you so much for having me. I'm grateful to be here. I'm

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some of that I've found you.
You are minding your very own business when

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someone sent me to knock on your
door, and I'm very happy that that

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happened. So great to meet your
great to have you on Christy. You're

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ready, I'm ready. I think
you are just a little bit of energy.

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Yeah right, I think you had
enough coffee today. I think you're

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all right your natural lull to be
honest with you, I know this about

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you. Yeah, just you're you're
the human spark plug. So right right.

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They asked me what my sign is, I say, neon. You

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know that's so great. All right, so let's get right into this.

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And for people who don't know what
you do your world, you're a peak

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performance executive coach and obviously a motivational
speaker. So first, what do you

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mean by peak performance? I just
had a conversation with somebody else about something

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that I thought was so mainstream,
which is conscious capitalism, and then this

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whole idea of what that was.
So maybe we have a different idea about

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what you do peak performance. How
do you describe it? Yeah, well,

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you know, the thing is,
and I get some feedback on this,

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like, you know, peak is
spelled really weird on your website.

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Yeah, that's not a typo,
it's it's that way p is p i

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que because what we're talking about,
Yes, we are talking about exponential increases

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in velocity in creativity. We're talking
about lowering stress levels. We're talking about

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everybody in the organization being a high
performer. But the work that we do

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and the way we do the way
we do it is particularly disruptive. It's

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it's an assault on the ego.
So peak is very upsetting. It is

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uncomfortable work, quite simply. It
is not for the faint of heart.

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But it's always worth it. When
I say that the juice is always worth

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the squeeze, I love that.
Okay, So right out of the gate,

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of course, I have to just
rive it in on the idea of

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impossible goals. I have done some
work for around transformation and innovation and this

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idea of people say well, we
can't do that. There's this big can't

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you know that, that performance barrier, and there's something for you you do

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something. There's something about this whole
thing about impossible goals. Why impossible goals,

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Chris, Well, because we can
achieve so much more than we think

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we can, you know, and
and you know the Navy seals talk about

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this, the twenty x rules.
Right, you can achieve twenty times more

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than you think you can. If
your life depended on if you can.

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If you think you can run a
mile, you can probably run twenty and

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and when we stretch beyond what we
think is possible, you know, maybe

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we don't get all the weight of
the impossible that we thought we would,

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that we hoped we get to,
but we get a lot farther. So

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focusing on possible is already limiting yourself. Hmm. That's that is very distinguishing.

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I love that. Okay, so
you already mentioned something about I think

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it was some kind of a torture
technique that you used it to fulfill these

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results. Are just kidding your methodology. Speak to a little bit of your

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methodology, please, Well, it's
it's difficult to say it's my methodology,

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right, this is this is all
based in science essentially, It's it's it's

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a combination of who I am,
what I've learned, and how I'm applying

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it. Right when I was a
kid in grade school, every teacher I

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ever had told me I was disruptive. Well, I couldn't agree more,

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to be honest with you, because
that's where the process starts. It's we're

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going to disrupt everything that's happening in
an organization and within an individual. Peak

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performance through our lens is nothing more
than getting your psychology and your physiology to

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work for you instead of against you. So you mentioned the whole can't thing,

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right, somebody says I can't.
Well, there's like a neurochemical cocktail

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associated that with the mental framework behind
that. So in our work, it

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is about aligning everything you have and
everything you are with the outcomes that you're

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looking for. Your thoughts, your
feelings, your actions, all of your

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resources, time, money, energy, everything you've got physical space, all

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of this can be aligned and purpose
towards an outcome. So it's all about

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leverage, right. A lot of
performance organizations talk about efficiency or productivity.

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We look through the lens of leverage, how do we get a whole lot

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more using a whole lot less.
So, as you're speaking, one of

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the things I'm very present to Chris
because I do some of that work as

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well, is I can I can
imagine a couple of different scenarios as you're

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doing the work that you're doing.
One is that you're creating an environment,

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a situation of possibility for people to
step into and see themselves more than they

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could see themselves before. So you're
helping that maybe add a lens to their

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viewing perspective. That's one possibility The
other possibility is that you in their narration

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of who they are and what they're
up to and how they go about life,

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you can start to notice, Wow, do you recognize that you actually

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do this differently than other people?
Do you cross this river in a whole

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different way somebody else does? So
I kind of can imagine a couple of

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ways that you go about elevating and
enlightening people to this impossibility mindset. Can

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you speak a little bit more to
you know how you do it? Well?

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As I said, the first thing
is to disrupt everything, and then

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because and then it's a process of
accountability. This is where things start to

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get really uncomfortable. Right, we
look through the lens of one hundred percent

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response ability. Okay, we don't
work in a world of blame and fault.

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That's that's old school kind of thinking. Right. When we look at

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responsibility, think of it as a
hyphenated word, right, response hyphen ability

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your ability to respond to something.
And what we do is we couple that

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with the idea of ownership. When
we have responsibility for something, we have

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ownership of it. So think about
your cell phone for a second. If

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it's sitting on the table, it's
not your phone. You have no power

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to affect that. The second you
take ownership of that and it becomes yours,

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you empower yourself to affect it,
to do something with it. So

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what we'll do is with it,
whether it's an or an individual or a

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team, we're going to disrupt their
existing patterns, bring conscious awareness to them,

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and disrupt them. Then we're going
to go through We're gonna look at

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everything through the lens of one hundred
percent responsibility ownership for the situation or for

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the goal, or whatever it is
we're trying to do. Then what we're

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gonna do is we're going to start
doing behavior modification. And you're you're actually

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gonna know probably more about this than
I am, right, because behavior modification

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is the key part. But if
we can set conditions and behaviors in the

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organization, we can start to produce
these exponential increases in speed and creativity and

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eliminate stress levels. And this is
what is known as flow. This is

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what athletes call being in the zone
or runners high. It's all driven by

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your natural neurochemistry. Anybody can get
into a flow state if you set the

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conditions and behaviors to so that it's
a flow rich environment. It basically becomes

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the natural end result of setting the
stage for it. Okay, awesome.

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Two things. Oh, So when
I hear the word responsibility, especially in

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the hyphenated format, I go to
logotherapy. Are you versed at all in

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locotherapy and Victor Frankl's work I've read? Okay, no is the short answer.

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I'm familiar with it. I will
say this much. One of my

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colleagues as a man named Tom Drucker, who's just a very sweet and brilliant

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man. He's got a very extensive
and impressive career and it all started when

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when he worked for Victor Frankel way
back then. And so I read man

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search for Meaning, you know,
and and after working with Frankel, he

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was actually mentored by Maslow himself.
So his pedigree is ridiculous. Oh I'm

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so envious. Yeah, okay,
because I that's definitely bled over for sure,

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because I am a local therapist that's
a Victor Frankle space, and so

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I immediately registered that. In the
second point, I definitely want to make

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about your methodology, your approach that
I love is this empowering right when you

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could be you can help uple understand
that no, no, no, no,

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you are a response able for this. You can this is within your

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reach. That is empowering and I
really really admire and appreciate that. Well,

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thank you. It's it was a
painful lesson that I learned. Actually,

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well that's where I wanted to go
next. My friend, you know,

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you can run for me, but
you can hide because I'm I'm an

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identity researcher, So you know,
I have to. I got to get

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the goods on just how it is
that you became this human being that you

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can do this work today. So
what's the story A little bit of a

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you know, a narration of how
it was that you that you got into

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the world of work and how you
land where you are today. Yeah,

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that okay. So the cliffs notes
is, I did a master's program in

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spiritual psychology and I saw that I
went to hippie school as I like to

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call it, uh, you know, And I've and I've trained and collaborated

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with the best you know, Stephen
Coottler's organization, the Flow Research Collective,

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Jamie Whale at the Flow Genome Project. I've trained with retired and actually actively

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currently trained with retired US Navy Seals. I mean this is these are all

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organizations that are oriented around performance.
Now I have a very long and intimate

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relationship with flow itself. I was
an ice hockey player. I was I

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was trained to how to race go
carts and cars when I was a kid,

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So I understand what it means to
be in the zone. I didn't

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really know that, you know,
what how that worked in terms of the

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neurobiology behind it. I learned that
much later. But ultimately this became the

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delivery vehicle for anything that I wanted
in my life. Because my my life,

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you know, I didn't come out
of a box this way. I

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was a disaster. I grew up
in a very privileged neighborhood in a very

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scary house. And so so at
one point I realized while none of my

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childhood history or any of this was
my fault, all of it was my

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responsibility. And that was when I
started to sort of, you know,

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renegotiate my my life on this planet. So I have another perspective that I

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want to share with you and just
sort of try this on. So I

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have this thing when I do when
I do my strength Finder workshops, I

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always asked the crowd. When you
were a kid, somebody you got you

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were told by a few people that
you're two whatever. And there's always a

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negative adgetip afterward two and people will
readily, you know, can produce you

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know, a few words or you
know a one in particular that come afterward

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too. You said your teacher said
that you were a disruptor, disruptive.

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Yeah, they said I was disruptive. That's it, right, that is

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that that's who you you the role
you've been playing in the world, right,

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And and so you disrupted even you
know, even your own homeostasis in

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your own home, and you know
by by recognizing that you weren't the victim

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to it, you were responsible for
it. And and here you are disrupting

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lives tremendously by helping people achieve the
impossible. I mean, that is a

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disruptor, Chris. And so I
think it's really interesting when you start to

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peel back and you can see that
this stuff has been with us forever,

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right, Yeah, it's just a
matter how to your point, how do

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we express it? And what vehicle
do we use to be able to serve

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from it? Yeah? How do
you relate to whatever it is? You

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know, like how you relate to
the issue is the issue. I was

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told I was disruptive. I told
it, I talked too much. I

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was told that people would pay me
to shut up. Well when I started,

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you know, to realize that this
was actually a good thing. Now

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they pay me not to m you
know, yeah, pay you not to

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not to shut up because you're you
know, so it's just it is rather

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comical that you are a motivational speaker
as well. Right, so, and

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so this is what I find so
fascinating about life. This somehow we can,

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you know, pay attention to the
voices that actually help us find our

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way and ignore those people that may
be well intentioned or just misguided. And

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you know, forget those who told
you, you know, that you're too

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disruptive and you know, too talkative
and to be quiet. Right, imagine

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if you had he did those those
words. Oh I did for a long

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time, you know, I shut
myself down. I stopped talking. I

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really went into a shell. I
mean, there are any numbers of strategies,

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you know, because this was not
accepted by my peer group. And

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I will tell you what I've learned
is that everything, everything about you is

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a gift and if you do not
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misidentified it. There's nothing wrong with
you, Okay. I know right now

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somebody's going, there's totally these things
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It's a misidentification. Nothing is wrong
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is an architecture to you that is
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whatever your mission, whatever that thing
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how do I recognize this for the
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put it into service. I completely
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that front. So my daughter,
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kid, Chris like, I'm going
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don't know, five six seven or
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conversation and he said, very very
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she could be anything she wants to
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an investment banker or an accountant.
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speaking by the way, I said, you know, I don't know have

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you just started watched this kid at
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a kid who literally she walks out
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door and she's braces into the way. She goes, Mamma, do you

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smell that breeze? And I'm just
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know, I just don't quite see
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away, how about his day we
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the world and discover her her unique
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make that work in the world.
He said, sounds dumb, but I'll

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go with it, And to his
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no surprise, a chef. So
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she had her own business cards and
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things and go someone a weekend with
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that, but we did. We
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for her. And wouldn't it be
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right, that would be the thing, right? So I think you

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and I both stand for that.
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help but pass on. Given what
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I'm glad you shared that because you're
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I think parenting is a process of
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have to break. But let's grab
our first break. Alreadicals so fast.

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I'm doctor Elease Cortez, who are
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is a peak performance executive coach and
motivational speaker who's focused on truth. We've

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been talking a bit about his journey
of how he got to be where he

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he does in his work. After the

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break, we're going to continue pealing
back those layers and hearing more about this

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thing about truth. Stay with us, We'll be right back. Doctor Elise

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She helps companies visioneer for greater purpose
among stakeholders and develop purpose inspired leadership

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and meaning infused cultures that elevate fulfillment, performance, and commitment within the workforce.

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please visit her at a lease Cortez
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Elise Cortez dot com. Now back to

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working on Purpose. Thanks for staying
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program. Before we get back into
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invite you to check out my book
that I brought out a couple of years

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ago. It's called Purpose Ignited,
How Inspiring Leaders ignite passion at elevate cause

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it's on Amazon now and I really
wrote it to a weekend reader to their

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passion and purpose and transform them into
inspirational leaders who will actually elevate people to

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want to make them come to work
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content as a basis for the violen
In Sparted Leadership program and the Grater Gusto

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Program, So hopefully check it out
if you're just joining us. My guest

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is Chris King's peak performance executive coach
and motivational speaker who's focused on truth.

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He is the co author of renegotiate
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I'm your host, doctor release Cortez. And so I promised a quick story,

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and then I have I have a
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man. So, speaking of being
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looking for a team members, go
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want to help elevate, I had
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a man who got me out of
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was eighteen to work for him in
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when I was just that, within
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told me that I had to go
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and do something with myself. And
the thing about that Chris was the reason

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he did that is because he saw
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right arm administrative assistant. He said, you could do so much more,

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and it would be a crime to
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I could do anything beyond what I
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that potential, we start and help
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ache for it, right, that's
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the work that you're doing. So
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I know that this doesn't happen overnight, but you know I have to

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ask. I mean, you are
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I first talked to you some months
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want to understand if you can articulate
force, what has called you to do

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this work that you're doing today?
Where does this come from? I don't

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like being told now, sorry was
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surprised. I don't like pig tolden
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me what can't be done. Okay, I live in a town where people

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pay like thirty dollars for avocado toast. I mean, trust, but you

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can do anything, all right?
I think that, you know, my

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father probably probably the brilliant man,
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To this dad. I don't say
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that because he's probably the brilliant,
most brilliant man I've ever met. He's

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an electro magnetic compatibility engineer okay,
wow, who never went to college and

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barely graduated high school. He's just
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he would say, you know,
when I was very young, he would

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tell me how rakhelcitrent I am.
I love that way, right, I

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mean, just give an idea of
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I think that's I just I don't. I love to find the odds.

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I love an underdog. I love
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love it when they say there's no
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how the hell did you do that? Okay, Now I got to

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stop at this point in interviewing another
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I gotta believe that you have just
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as I say, step into their
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thought they could do. Can you
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of a story or some examples of
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course, Yeah, you know there's
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and she said, I have some
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she said, it's all the things
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ago. And I say more about
this, she said, Look, I

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went from my parents to my husband's
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stood on my own say I've stalled
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ceiling. It's just it's a mess. I've never owned a home. I've

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like she had all of these things
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my life is not what I wanted
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I started working together, and I
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fire, like she was so ready, so terrified, and I'm like,

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that's right where I need you to
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really wanting it and willing to work
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she was like, I'll do whatever
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She could nowhere near afford our our
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on fire. I'm like, I
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care what she's paying me, what
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about to happen, and I want
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right. So we started working together
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promotion and a bonus. On top
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fifteen year disastrous relationship where she was
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partner. She got extracted from that. She bought a house she's a first

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time homeowner, a place in La
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happened, she a position to open
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was then in talks like would you
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had she gotten it? The home
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it out. She buys a place
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alternate reality. Now the place in
the position in Arizona did not come through,

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but they actually told her, you
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anyway, it's not a good fit. There's something else happening. So now

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the wheels are turning in a whole
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this happened, but the way she
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job in Arizona where it would have
created her her she is like, cool,

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what's next? Cool, what's next? Now? This is normally a

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several like this, This kind of
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nine months? Wow, that's awesome, Chris. So I have this this

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phrase that I like to use,
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this. You know, the work
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when you get to actually watch someone's
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transforming themselves, it is the most
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I'm so glad you mentioned that,
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us through the lens. Oh you're
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sure, But the work that we
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We're talking about the subatomic. We
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know you have. And this is
again, you know, as Cottler says,

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it's leveraging everything. It's getting your
psychology and your physiology to work for

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you instead of against you. And
if you understand anything about quantum mechanics,

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about physics, you understand that the
simple act of watching something has an effect

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on the thing you're watching it right
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is all science. This is not
woo hippie nonsense. You know. So

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when we talk about law of attraction, the power manifestation. You know,

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Joe dispends the talks about talks about
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effect, working hard and getting results, you're causing the effect through positive intention,

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through neurobiology, through energy. Right, everything is energy. You just

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taught me so much there. But
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power and there is being. There's
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they get something from my witnessing that
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Thank you for that, Chris.
That is just a gift. No

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no charge, I hope I can't
afford. Okay, good, good,

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good, okay, good, okay. Now we've got to get to what

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I teased up before the break here, and that's this little thing about truth

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that you that you seem to be
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you say you're focused on truth?
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how so well? I look at
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me. One of my teachers,
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who it is. One of my
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thing where she says truth isn't really
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happen? Did it not happen?
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again here I am being you know, you know, playing around and you

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know quantum geek world, right,
and and so truth is a frequency,

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it's a vibration, it's a residence. Right, and this is this is

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different. My truth is not your
truth. Right, It's a completely different

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kind of thing. So in our
world again, there's no good or bad.

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There is aligned or align. And
the trick is to align everything you have

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and everything you are with where you
want to go, what you want to

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have, the experience you want to
create. Oh my, or you are

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such a You're such an eminently quotable
guy, Chris, you really are.

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I love how you articulate your thoughts. That. I love that truth is

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a frequency. You're welcome. That's
not mine. I appreciate that that.

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Yes, I got that. Thank
you. However, you did share it

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with us. And you're the first
that I've ever had a share having to

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bay share with me. So thank
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your teacher. Okay, so next
we have to talk about your pretty darn

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recent book that you co authored.
It's pretty amazing. Renegotiate, renegotiate your

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life. So first, you know, I know what it takes to write

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a book, because I've written a
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thinking when I agreed to this,

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But first I got to know what
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the first question. Well, I've
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for the better part of a decade. And the book I would have written

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over the years would be different books
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think I would be proud of.
This one really landed. It started,

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as you know, I'm just gonna
write this kind of marketing piece and and

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as you can, as you might
imagine, there's a lot of content in

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here, and getting that organized was
a real challenge. So so my co

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arth author, Michael Ashley. He's
brilliant, He's written for Disney's, his

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pedigree is ridiculous, and he looks
like he's about fifteen years old. It's

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kind of annoying. But so he
was able to to get inside my head

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and he just gets me. You
know, he's he's done the reinvention thing.

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He's been on the hero's journey,
you know, like he he and

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I had walked similar paths. So
he was able to extract all of this

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from my my head, get it
structured and organized so that I could write

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something. And so as I started
writing, you know again, I thought

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this was gonna be it's a marketing
piece. But in the process of I

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I actually started to give a crap
about it, and that's when everything changed.

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And so so the book is renegotiate
your existence. I mean, you

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know, you can renegotiate contracts,
you can renegotiate your job or your salary,

421
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you can renegotiate your relationships. I'm
telling you, you can renegotiate your

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entire experience on this planet if you
understand how to do it. Because ultimately,

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your reality is a result. It's
an end result of a system,

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and any system can be hacked,
optimized, recoded if you understand that system

425
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well enough, okay, And one
of those systems that I definitely wanted to

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talk about in which I alluded to
an ever beginning of the show is you

427
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have a whole chapter entitled taking Ownership
of your Beliefs, and of course That's

428
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terribly compelling to me because I understand
the power of beliefs. So what have

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you learned about belief formation and how
we can change that formation well through the

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lens of responsibility? What is a
leaf? I can define a belief in

431
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one word? Is a choice?
Right. As you know, beliefs are

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choices that I have not taken responsibility
for. The sad I take responsibility for

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that, for that choice right,
the second I take responsibility for that belief.

434
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I can choose any belief I want, right and my opportunity if not

435
00:29:25.440 --> 00:29:27.960
obligation. If I'm to be a
good steward of my purpose, a good

436
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steward of my mission, my obligation
is to make the choice, select the

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belief that aligns with that. So
what I tell clients that want to buy

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a house, or want to get
a promotion, or want to launch a

439
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company and sell it to Google for
billions of dollars or whatever. There are

440
00:29:44.799 --> 00:29:48.920
certain luxuries when you work with us
at status flow that you cannot afford anymore

441
00:29:48.519 --> 00:29:53.240
right, I'm not good enough,
I don't deserve it, I'm not lovable.

442
00:29:55.400 --> 00:30:03.160
You cannot afford these luxuries of playing
small in more right, Once there

443
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is awareness. There is choice.
Yeah, and so let's talk about that

444
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whole thing of awareness really quick.
It's fascinating, right. We do so

445
00:30:11.759 --> 00:30:14.720
much stuff on autopilot, right,
The way we drive our cars, the

446
00:30:14.759 --> 00:30:17.079
way we take a shower, the
way we put our makeup, on the

447
00:30:17.119 --> 00:30:21.119
way we everything, it's on autopilot, right. So the opportunity is to

448
00:30:21.319 --> 00:30:25.440
make those beliefs conscious. Right.
See, can you say a bit about

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you know, how to how to
help people do that? Well, it's

450
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you know, getting help, right, I mean, because essentially what you're

451
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talking about is, you know,
it's it's like a mechanic working on the

452
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car that he or she is driving. It's very difficult to do. You've

453
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got to have some outside perspective.
I can tell you this much. Understanding

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how you relate to everything is a
great is a great way to start understanding

455
00:30:49.839 --> 00:30:55.799
what your beliefs are, because ultimately
the world is a mirror. It is

456
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reflecting back to you everything you think, everything you feel, everything you believe.

457
00:31:00.480 --> 00:31:06.200
Right, your reality is based started
right here and is being reflected back

458
00:31:06.200 --> 00:31:07.799
to you out there. So if
you want to know what you believe about

459
00:31:07.839 --> 00:31:12.880
something, look at something right,
Notice how you feel about it. The

460
00:31:14.319 --> 00:31:18.079
more you cling to a belief,
the more charge you're going to have around

461
00:31:18.079 --> 00:31:19.720
it. Just get on social media, have somebody say something you disagree with.

462
00:31:21.559 --> 00:31:27.000
There's a very strong way hope believe
demonstration number one. Yes, excellent,

463
00:31:27.079 --> 00:31:30.079
Chris. All right, let's grab
our last break here. I'm Elise

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Cortez, your host. We were
in the air with Chris King. He's

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a peak performance executive coach and motivational
speaker who has focused on truth. We've

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been talking about just what that means
to him, as well as some of

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those important navigating beliefs that help guide
whether what we get in like or whether

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we don't. After the great continue
the conversation, stay with us. We'll

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be right back. Doctor Release.
Cortez is a management consultant specializing in meaning

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00:31:52.640 --> 00:31:57.400
and purpose and inspirational speaker and author. She helps companies visioneer for greater purpose

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among stakeholders and developed purpose inspired leadership
and meaning infused cultures that elevate fulfillment,

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performance, and commitment within the workforce. To learn more or to invite a

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00:32:09.880 --> 00:32:15.680
lease to speak to your organization,
please visit her at Elise Cortez dot com.

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Let's talk about how to get your
employees working on Purpose. This is

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00:32:25.519 --> 00:32:30.240
Working on Purpose with doctor Relise Cortez. To reach our program today or open

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00:32:30.279 --> 00:32:37.720
a conversation with Elise, send an
email to Elise ali se at Elise Cortez

477
00:32:37.880 --> 00:32:44.519
dot com. Now back to Working
on Purpose. Thanks for staying with us,

478
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and welcome back to Working on Purpose. One other rails before we get

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back to Chris, I have to
share with you that after spending about two

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years of putting together an anthology of
women's stories from around the globe, their

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story, their intimate stories, how
they've discovered their purpose, are now serving

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from it. It's now they will
on an Amazon It's called Passionately Striving and

483
00:33:00.599 --> 00:33:06.359
Why. It's twenty five stories.
And so I wrote that actually I curated

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that, I should say, to
be able to help you find a way

485
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to look at those pathsies they took
to find their purpose and see if that

486
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helps you find yours. So help
you pick a copy of that up as

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well. Also, by the way, I'm out scouting for men who I've

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discovered their purpose. I want to
share that in this collection as well.

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So if you know anybody for this
program for the initiative, let me know

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as well. If you're just joining
us. My guest today is Chris King.

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He is a peak performance executive coach
and motivational speaker who's focused on the

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00:33:30.000 --> 00:33:35.839
truth. He's the co author of
Renegotiate Your Existence, Unlock Your Impossible Life.

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00:33:35.880 --> 00:33:38.480
I'm your host, Doc Julie Quartez. So, Chris, just before

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we went to that last break,
we were talking about beliefs, and so

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the next thing I want to do
really quick about that because I just I

496
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just know the power of beliefs,
and I love that you've got a whole

497
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chapter devoted to this. I want
to have you talk to us a bit

498
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about how we can replace those outdated, unserving beliefs with more productive ones.

499
00:33:55.319 --> 00:33:59.759
How do we get rid of that
past garbage. Oh that's a tricky one

500
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because because we're talking about a system. You know, as you know,

501
00:34:01.759 --> 00:34:06.160
everybody's got that operating system in their
head that's been running since they were about

502
00:34:06.200 --> 00:34:07.079
six years old, right, you
know, you, you and I will

503
00:34:07.079 --> 00:34:09.679
call it a belief system, right, but it's been running since we're six

504
00:34:09.760 --> 00:34:14.159
year old. This is our understanding
of reality. Right. So so this

505
00:34:14.199 --> 00:34:20.320
doesn't really change all that easily.
And there are any number of tools to

506
00:34:20.400 --> 00:34:24.719
do this, and some of them
are very subtle. So somebody will say

507
00:34:24.719 --> 00:34:28.679
something this is true, this is
a factor, or whatever, and and

508
00:34:28.960 --> 00:34:35.360
I like, I like to play
in in the world of absolutes, because

509
00:34:36.119 --> 00:34:39.519
very little is absolute, right,
right, So when I said something,

510
00:34:39.599 --> 00:34:45.360
this is a fact, is it
absolutely true? Like you know who I

511
00:34:45.400 --> 00:34:47.920
love? I love Byron Katie's work
on this Byron Katie in the work.

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It's brilliant there She's got books and
everything. But there's four questions, right,

513
00:34:54.239 --> 00:34:59.079
So the questions are you know you
have a belief? Is this true?

514
00:34:59.239 --> 00:35:00.440
Question number one? Well, of
course it's true. This is my

515
00:35:00.480 --> 00:35:06.719
experience, this is true. Okay, great, Can I absolutely know this

516
00:35:06.800 --> 00:35:08.639
is true? Okay? Now right
there, the wheels are going to start

517
00:35:08.639 --> 00:35:13.760
to come off a little bit because
again, that absolute word gets very tricky.

518
00:35:14.079 --> 00:35:17.760
Right. The next question is what
happens when I tell this story?

519
00:35:19.400 --> 00:35:22.039
Right, Well, like the story
that I'm not good enough or I don't

520
00:35:22.039 --> 00:35:27.159
deserve it, or somebody doesn't like
me or whatever. Well, I show

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00:35:27.239 --> 00:35:29.559
up in this way or I behave
a certain way, or I have these

522
00:35:29.599 --> 00:35:32.519
feelings, right, you know whatever? And then my favorite question number four,

523
00:35:32.719 --> 00:35:37.199
who would I be without that story? Oh? I love that?

524
00:35:37.320 --> 00:35:42.159
Yes, I know that really powerful
right. These are very simple kinds of

525
00:35:42.199 --> 00:35:45.440
things, you know, But I'll
tell you what it boils down to.

526
00:35:45.599 --> 00:35:50.239
What if you're wrong? Like,
look, I get it. It's logical.

527
00:35:50.280 --> 00:35:52.320
The neocortex is doing what it does
right, You're logical. That makes

528
00:35:52.320 --> 00:35:55.400
perfect sense. The math plays out, it agrees with your experience. It

529
00:35:55.559 --> 00:36:01.159
makes sense. And what if you're
wrong? There is a way you can

530
00:36:01.199 --> 00:36:05.519
do that? What if there is
a way that you could improve your life

531
00:36:05.559 --> 00:36:08.159
work balance. What if there is
a way that you could take more time

532
00:36:08.159 --> 00:36:12.599
off or not have to do emails
on vacation. What if you're wrong?

533
00:36:12.760 --> 00:36:15.320
Can your ego handle that? Because
I'll tell you what. I asked this

534
00:36:15.400 --> 00:36:19.199
question of my clients all the time. Do you want to be right or

535
00:36:19.199 --> 00:36:22.159
do you want to be effective?
Do you want to be right or do

536
00:36:22.199 --> 00:36:24.159
you want to be happy? Do
you want to be right or do you

537
00:36:24.239 --> 00:36:28.679
want to actually get what you say
you want? Are you willing to be

538
00:36:28.840 --> 00:36:36.039
wrong in order to do it?
Nicely? Illustrated? I certainly recognize and

539
00:36:36.320 --> 00:36:38.199
in the phrase, and I'm sure
I did it myself. You know well.

540
00:36:38.199 --> 00:36:43.360
The fact of the matter is,
you know wow, And so I

541
00:36:43.440 --> 00:36:46.920
love you. You're saying and would
you say are you sure you're and what

542
00:36:47.000 --> 00:36:50.360
if you're wrong? What if you're
wrong? And what if you're wrong?

543
00:36:51.000 --> 00:36:53.519
Right? Because it's quote you know
what I said in the book too.

544
00:36:54.800 --> 00:36:58.920
You know, if you argue,
if you argue for your limitations, you

545
00:36:58.920 --> 00:37:02.679
get to keep them, right,
you want good? Right? Okay,

546
00:37:02.760 --> 00:37:07.519
you're right. Congratulations, you're right. You still have terrible life work balance,

547
00:37:08.119 --> 00:37:10.719
right, Yeah, and you're never
gonna be amount to anything. You're

548
00:37:10.800 --> 00:37:16.599
right. Perfect, Let's celebrate,
right, right? Yeah, aren't you

549
00:37:16.639 --> 00:37:20.000
glad? You're right? You're right. The problem that the rest of my

550
00:37:20.039 --> 00:37:22.639
life is not quite what I wanted
to be? Yeah. Yeah, let's

551
00:37:22.760 --> 00:37:25.320
let's rewrite that story, shall we. Right. So, another thing that

552
00:37:25.360 --> 00:37:29.519
you said that was really interesting when
we first spoke, as you mentioned to

553
00:37:29.519 --> 00:37:31.719
me sort of in passing, and
I thought it was interesting. You said

554
00:37:32.159 --> 00:37:37.239
that you generally find people that you
you who seek out to work with you.

555
00:37:37.519 --> 00:37:40.000
That if you look at the gender
division, is that men are looking

556
00:37:40.000 --> 00:37:45.000
for for success and women are looking
for relief. I think that's really interesting.

557
00:37:45.039 --> 00:37:50.199
Can you say more about those general
trends? Yeah, So I'm gonna

558
00:37:50.280 --> 00:37:53.119
use binary genders because number one,
it's it's ease of conversation. Number two.

559
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It's statistically accurate. So so the
men that that approach us are it's

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the way that men and women seem
to, in my experience, in the

561
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experience of the organization, relate to
their worlds and their work. Okay,

562
00:38:08.440 --> 00:38:13.119
as a man of my generation,
I am pretty high on my priority list,

563
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like top three. I'm a gen
X or top three most of the

564
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time, right, yeah. Yeah. A woman in our target demos say,

565
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you know, mid thirties to early
fifties, she is dead last on

566
00:38:23.719 --> 00:38:29.239
her priority list. Yeah, everything
else the job and the kids, and

567
00:38:29.280 --> 00:38:31.039
the house, and her mom and
the car, and then all the things

568
00:38:31.039 --> 00:38:36.320
come first, and she ends up
getting leftovers of her own life. So

569
00:38:37.280 --> 00:38:39.719
men come to us, their business
owners. They want more efficiency, more

570
00:38:39.760 --> 00:38:44.519
productivity, more it's very masculine drive, more success as they define that.

571
00:38:45.239 --> 00:38:49.320
Women are looking for more relief.
And one of my teachers, doctor Robert

572
00:38:49.320 --> 00:38:52.079
Holden, says something that's so beautiful, and I've used this as and it

573
00:38:52.159 --> 00:38:57.039
says, if it seems like there's
something missing from your life, it's probably

574
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you. Oh that's great. Yes. So the women that come to us,

575
00:39:01.280 --> 00:39:04.559
and that's why I phrase it is
life work balance. They need better

576
00:39:04.599 --> 00:39:07.800
life work balance, not work life
balance, but life work balance, like

577
00:39:07.199 --> 00:39:10.960
their businesses and their lives are running
them instead of the other way around.

578
00:39:13.159 --> 00:39:16.719
The hamster will completely turned that around, right back in the driver's seat of

579
00:39:16.719 --> 00:39:21.039
empowerment. So I want to I
want to give a phrase that I've used

580
00:39:21.079 --> 00:39:22.840
before, Chris, and listeners and
viewers just listen to this because it's it's

581
00:39:22.920 --> 00:39:25.360
really got some power, especially if
you find yourself at the bottom of the

582
00:39:25.360 --> 00:39:30.480
heap. So if you are literally
settling for the used coffee grounds of your

583
00:39:30.480 --> 00:39:36.039
own life, yet you serve a
fresh browed cup of yourself to everyone else

584
00:39:36.039 --> 00:39:39.320
you encounter, what's going on here? Who's winning here used coffee grounds of

585
00:39:39.320 --> 00:39:44.119
your own life? Or putting that
up with somebody else that you expect to

586
00:39:44.119 --> 00:39:47.599
be on a higher playing field with
you. That is such a powerful I

587
00:39:47.639 --> 00:39:50.639
love coffee, by the way,
but you know when I look at those

588
00:39:50.679 --> 00:39:52.679
grounds that get thrown away in the
garbage can at the end, at the

589
00:39:52.760 --> 00:39:55.400
end of the experience, it's not
where I want to be, right,

590
00:39:55.960 --> 00:40:00.360
And therein lies the reflection. Remember
I said the world is a mirror,

591
00:40:00.440 --> 00:40:04.639
right, So what is this reflecting
back to you? What is the script

592
00:40:04.880 --> 00:40:08.760
that drives that that paradigm. I
don't deserve it. They're more important.

593
00:40:08.800 --> 00:40:14.719
My needs are less than like,
look at what we're telling ourselves through the

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lens of Oh, I'm so generous. No, there's no, there's no

595
00:40:17.639 --> 00:40:22.159
nobility in being the martyr. Okay, that's a victim construct. We don't

596
00:40:22.159 --> 00:40:25.880
do victim here ever, right,
So being the martyr is not you know,

597
00:40:25.960 --> 00:40:30.000
it's the aircraft thing. Put your
mask on first, right, right?

598
00:40:30.960 --> 00:40:32.119
Well, and I think there's also
this other thing right that. So

599
00:40:32.239 --> 00:40:35.880
I'm sure you encounter this all the
time, Chris, it's the whole imposter

600
00:40:36.000 --> 00:40:38.559
syndrome. But what if people see
what if people reckonnist? I really shouldn't

601
00:40:38.599 --> 00:40:42.360
be doing this job. I really
don't know what I'm doing. And you

602
00:40:42.400 --> 00:40:45.400
know something, there's this idea that
I don't really deserve this anyway, right,

603
00:40:45.440 --> 00:40:50.599
I mean, I know you encounter
that. Yeah, that's we run

604
00:40:50.599 --> 00:40:52.719
into imposters. I mean, shoot, I've done it right, Like I

605
00:40:52.760 --> 00:40:58.000
was locked into that for years.
You know, even when I started working

606
00:40:58.000 --> 00:41:02.039
in the Neuroscience Institute, there were
these people there were way above me in

607
00:41:02.119 --> 00:41:07.559
terms of pedigree, in terms of
tenure, and there were some people that

608
00:41:07.639 --> 00:41:09.639
were doing like even the corporate organization. I mean, you know how corporate

609
00:41:09.639 --> 00:41:13.920
works. Corporate doesn't always do the
smartest things right. And I was like,

610
00:41:14.039 --> 00:41:16.119
there's got to be somebody smarter than
me up that food chain that seems

611
00:41:16.119 --> 00:41:21.800
how dumb this is and apparently not
right, you know, so, and

612
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I'll tell you there's And again it's
all about tools, you know, for

613
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us in my organization, it's all
about what are the tools that we need

614
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to use right to start employing.
And so if somebody is saying, oh,

615
00:41:31.280 --> 00:41:35.320
I'm not good enough for a Honda
a Chord, I'm just going to

616
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go for that Honda Civic. I
said, if you're telling yourself you're not

617
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good enough for the Honda of Chord, launch up to that Mercedes, I

618
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go the other way with this,
you know, yeah, I just I

619
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so appreciate the empowerment stands. And
then another thing that we have to talk

620
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about, because this is working on
purpose after all, is you said to

621
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me in the exchange that we had
that you do not use the word purpose,

622
00:41:54.760 --> 00:42:00.320
but rather you prefer to help people
align with their own magnetic north is

623
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just delicious. So say more about
that. Well, look, I don't

624
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have advice for anybody nobody is qualified
to tell you what to do. I

625
00:42:12.719 --> 00:42:15.840
know a lot of people think there
are right and look, there are consultants,

626
00:42:15.840 --> 00:42:16.719
you know. And what I say
to people is, look, if

627
00:42:16.880 --> 00:42:21.000
when you don't know what you don't
know, hire a consultant. When you

628
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don't know what you do know,
hire a coach. Because consultants have answers,

629
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coaches have questions. And it's all
about a listening insight because as as

630
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we sit here right now, you
have every answer to every question, every

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solution to every problem that you are
ever going to run into for your entire

632
00:42:42.800 --> 00:42:45.440
life is in there somewhere. So
it's not a question of knowing or not

633
00:42:45.559 --> 00:42:50.199
knowing. It's a question of access. I don't have to figure out your

634
00:42:50.199 --> 00:42:52.960
answer for you, because you have
it. What I got to figure out

635
00:42:52.000 --> 00:42:57.719
is what's the barrier? What is
stopping you from accessing what you don't know?

636
00:42:57.800 --> 00:43:00.400
You know? And once we figure
out how to access that, what

637
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do I need to do to support
you in relating to that and then aligning

638
00:43:05.280 --> 00:43:07.639
it with the outcome that you're looking
for. I'm not in the advice business.

639
00:43:07.639 --> 00:43:10.079
The coaches that work for me are
not in the advice business. We

640
00:43:10.119 --> 00:43:14.039
are here to figure out how to
give you, how do you get you

641
00:43:14.119 --> 00:43:15.960
to give you your advice and then
support you if you're doing what you don't

642
00:43:16.079 --> 00:43:21.079
already know you need to do,
but you're about to find out. Yeah.

643
00:43:21.159 --> 00:43:23.519
And the other thing that I think
that that that we both do because

644
00:43:23.519 --> 00:43:28.360
I do more consulting inside of organizations
than I do coaching, So we have

645
00:43:28.360 --> 00:43:30.880
a complement charity here. But what
I also find is that when I'm working

646
00:43:30.920 --> 00:43:34.760
with my leaders, even one on
one, if I'm doing a programs at

647
00:43:34.760 --> 00:43:37.440
an organization and then I also work
for leaders, what I find is that

648
00:43:37.480 --> 00:43:40.079
when we have our time together are
if you want to call it a coaching

649
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session, what I find is that
that session alone, that time that they've

650
00:43:44.559 --> 00:43:49.000
set aside for themselves already is an
opening for them because they don't usually do

651
00:43:49.039 --> 00:43:51.760
that for themselves. Right, So
this is a this is a it's a

652
00:43:51.840 --> 00:43:55.039
dance floor that they don't usually allow
themselves to step onto. So already there's

653
00:43:55.079 --> 00:44:00.400
a different there's all there's a different
listening for themselves. There's a different listening

654
00:44:00.440 --> 00:44:02.920
to me and to our exchange.
Right, It's just it's it is,

655
00:44:04.480 --> 00:44:08.239
It's glorious. It's a glorious place
to get to be with somebody. Yeah,

656
00:44:08.320 --> 00:44:10.920
yeah, it really is. You
get access in a way that most

657
00:44:10.920 --> 00:44:14.840
people don't. Well, you know
what I've come to understand from me,

658
00:44:14.960 --> 00:44:17.119
Chris, is what I what I
realized is that I want to. I

659
00:44:17.159 --> 00:44:20.880
want I want to. I want
to chew on the barrel the marrow of

660
00:44:21.960 --> 00:44:24.480
the bone of life, right,
I want the substance. And so these

661
00:44:24.519 --> 00:44:30.000
conversations are intimate. You know,
there's we're not talking about superficial things that

662
00:44:30.079 --> 00:44:35.360
anybody can talk about. We're talking
about the intimate stuff of their lives and

663
00:44:35.360 --> 00:44:38.039
their hopes and their dreams. That's
where I want to be. Yeah.

664
00:44:38.400 --> 00:44:42.199
Yeah, that's that's where the magic
is. That's where the brilliance is.

665
00:44:42.239 --> 00:44:46.000
That's that's where the truth is.
M back to that beautiful work truth.

666
00:44:46.639 --> 00:44:50.079
Okay, so we're coming to the
clothes here. It happens. It goes

667
00:44:50.119 --> 00:44:52.599
by so fast, especially when we
have a good, interesting, lively,

668
00:44:52.679 --> 00:44:58.079
energetic conversation like this. Of course, so people off the atmosphere sometimes Yeah,

669
00:44:58.119 --> 00:45:00.920
yeah, no, I love it. It's great. So I have

670
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:02.360
one have two more questions for you. This next question is, you know,

671
00:45:02.960 --> 00:45:06.400
if you have another story or something
else you can share with us,

672
00:45:06.440 --> 00:45:09.320
because those stories gives us give an
asset access to how it is that you

673
00:45:09.400 --> 00:45:14.840
help people, what they present when
they try to get enrolled with you and

674
00:45:15.119 --> 00:45:19.519
help from you. Another story maybe, well, I had a client that

675
00:45:20.239 --> 00:45:22.199
you know, I want to tell
a different one. Actually it's very similar.

676
00:45:22.199 --> 00:45:23.920
There's some that are there, the
really hard kind of stuff. I

677
00:45:24.000 --> 00:45:28.679
have a client right now and we're
about I think we're about halfway through,

678
00:45:29.519 --> 00:45:35.960
you know, the committed program,
and he's he's about he's about my age,

679
00:45:36.039 --> 00:45:42.159
about fifty, and he's he's sort
of been on this hamster wheel in

680
00:45:42.639 --> 00:45:47.000
his personal life in terms of dating. He still had a very youthful orientation

681
00:45:47.119 --> 00:45:52.800
towards it, and you know,
there's there's just some alignment problems with really,

682
00:45:53.800 --> 00:46:00.840
how do I say this locking in
somebody that is aligned with the lifestyle

683
00:46:00.880 --> 00:46:05.400
that he's looking for, and you
know, because he wants it, wants

684
00:46:05.400 --> 00:46:07.800
stable, it wants grounded and all
this kind of stuff. But he kept

685
00:46:07.880 --> 00:46:15.719
chasing after really dysfunctional, toxic relationships. And now there are a lot of

686
00:46:16.199 --> 00:46:21.679
assumptions we can make about his child
or whatever. Ultimately it boils down to

687
00:46:21.760 --> 00:46:27.119
his relationship with his father. Strangely
enough, so it was this approval seeking

688
00:46:27.239 --> 00:46:30.880
kind of thing, right, And
so when he realized, you know what,

689
00:46:30.920 --> 00:46:37.440
I'm going to insert myself into a
situation that and into a framework where

690
00:46:37.440 --> 00:46:40.440
I'm going to be with a toxic
person who will never approve of me,

691
00:46:40.920 --> 00:46:45.960
that I can continue to chase the
approval and never get it. Because this

692
00:46:46.039 --> 00:46:49.679
was his relationship with his father,
right. His father died less than a

693
00:46:49.760 --> 00:46:52.159
year ago. So now he's introducing
people to replace Dad, to be the

694
00:46:52.199 --> 00:46:57.320
disapproval kind of thing. And here's
the weird thing, right, is that

695
00:46:58.320 --> 00:47:06.239
part of what seems like it might
be happening right now is that this piece

696
00:47:06.320 --> 00:47:10.559
of him is really scared of the
ego death. And I know you understand

697
00:47:10.559 --> 00:47:16.599
this, right, the ego,
because what happens when the chase for approval

698
00:47:16.760 --> 00:47:22.440
is over, that piece has no
purpose according to that piece, right,

699
00:47:22.480 --> 00:47:27.880
that aspect of his of his persona, and is going to resist that.

700
00:47:28.000 --> 00:47:30.960
It's going to survival, right,
This little piece of his psyche needs to

701
00:47:30.960 --> 00:47:31.840
survive. So it needs to be
on the hamster wheale. It's like,

702
00:47:31.840 --> 00:47:37.719
look, maybe it's time, right, Maybe maybe it's time to let dad

703
00:47:37.760 --> 00:47:38.800
go. Maybe it's time to let
this go, maybe, you know.

704
00:47:38.920 --> 00:47:44.679
And so he's in a really uncomfortable
place right now, and it's a real

705
00:47:44.760 --> 00:47:49.000
soft spot. And it's so beautiful
to watch this strong, you know,

706
00:47:49.559 --> 00:47:52.840
burly guy. He's just man's man. You know he can slam two by

707
00:47:52.880 --> 00:47:57.559
fours together and just be in this
soft, beautiful space where he's so gentle

708
00:47:57.599 --> 00:48:02.920
with himself. It's just watching his
transformation is just such. It's the most

709
00:48:02.960 --> 00:48:06.920
honoring thing I can think of.
I can't imagine doing anything else with my

710
00:48:06.920 --> 00:48:09.039
life. It's such. I'm so
honored to witness this stuff. Chris.

711
00:48:09.079 --> 00:48:12.679
That's so beautiful. What a great
way to finish where we're at the close

712
00:48:12.719 --> 00:48:15.079
here, but this show is to
listen to by people around the world.

713
00:48:15.199 --> 00:48:21.159
What would I like to leave them
with saying like fifteen seconds or so fifteen

714
00:48:21.199 --> 00:48:25.840
seconds what if you're wrong? Ah, great way to finish, beautiful,

715
00:48:25.960 --> 00:48:29.639
Chris. You are a delight and
a gift to the world. I'm so

716
00:48:29.719 --> 00:48:30.639
glad to know you and have you
in my life. Thank you for being

717
00:48:30.639 --> 00:48:34.239
on the show and sharing yourself,
your thoughts, in your heart with our

718
00:48:34.280 --> 00:48:37.440
listeners and viewers across the world.
My pleasure. Thank you so much for

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having me. It's been a pleasure
absolutely. Listeners and viewers. If you

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want to learn more about Chris King, his work, his book, start

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by visiting his website status flow dot
net. Last week, we missed the

722
00:48:46.960 --> 00:48:50.760
live show you always catch it be
your recorded podcast. We run there with

723
00:48:50.800 --> 00:48:53.960
doctor Rick Garlic talking about some of
the factors contributing to the great resignation plaguing

724
00:48:54.079 --> 00:48:59.360
organizations across the world, and how
pride in the work we do elevates engagement

725
00:48:59.360 --> 00:49:01.920
and performance. Next week, we'll
be in there with Amy Herman talking about

726
00:49:01.920 --> 00:49:07.639
her book Fixed to To, How
to perfect the fine art of problem solving.

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See you there. Remember that works
at least a third of our life.

728
00:49:08.960 --> 00:49:15.559
So let's work on purpose. We
hope you've enjoyed this week's program.

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Be sure to tune into Working on
Purpose featuring your host, Doctor Elise Cortez,

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00:49:20.679 --> 00:49:24.559
each week on the Voice America Empowerment
Channel. Together, we'll create a

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world where business operates conscientiously, leadership
inspires impassioned performance, and employees are fulfilled

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00:49:32.320 --> 00:49:37.400
in work that provides the meaning and
purpose they crave. See you there,

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Let's work on Purpose.