Purpose Quest: Hug Your Ego to Get to Your Essence

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There are some people that make their
work just another thing they have to do,

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and there are those that make their
work something that they want to do.

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Welcome to Working on Purpose with your
host Elise Cortes. In our program,

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we provide guidance and inspiration from those
people who have found deeper meaning and

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personal connection to their work life.
It's beyond nine to five. It's working

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on Purpose. Now Here is your
host, Elise Cortes. Welcome back to

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the Working on Purpose Show. Thanks
for tuning in again this week. I'm

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your host, Elise Cortes, Joinyuli
from Dallas, Texas, which is home

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base for me. If I've been
tuning in for a while, then you

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know. This program is all about
helping people create more meaningful and purposeful lives

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and equipping leaders inside organizations to cultivate
meaning and purpose that illicit's passion, inspired

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contribution, innovation, and persevering performance. I talk with my guests to draw

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on their expertise and share my own
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thanks for listening. Now onto this
week's program with us today is Karen Hoyos.

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She is a global transformational leader,
celebrity coach, best selling author and

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speaker, and she's considered one of
the most influential leaders in the area of

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personal development. Given her life to
her purpose so that every person can see

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it as possible to live on their
own. She's the author of the recently

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published book called Purpose, the Ultimate
Quest. We'll be talking about some key

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points from the book and tools you
can put to use. Don't you discover

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your own purpose? She joins today
from Miami, Florida. Karen, Welcome

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to working on Purpose. Oh Annie, I'm so excited to be here with

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you. Like it? Thank you. It is so wonderful to have you.

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Ah right, a little energy,
whoo, let's do this thing.

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I'm so happy that your publisher found
me and I read your entire book from

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one place still last and I loved
every moment of it. So I want

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to get as much out of it
this conversation as we possibly can generate for

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our listeners, so they too can
experience you and at least to get an

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introduction to you. So yeah,
you're welcome, Karen, Thank you,

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And I want to talk in this
first segment about you know, purpose on

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the planet, et cetera, and
why you're here. And before we do

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that, I really want to present
something really powerful that you put into the

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book. And I was just astounded
to read that, according to spiritual and

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scientific sources, only one percent of
the world's population is fully living to the

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life's purpose. Hello, I didn't
realize it was that low. No wonder,

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we're out there working on this.
Share your perspective of that. Yes,

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Well, First of all, I
want to thank you for generating this

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space for people to be inspired to
find and leave the life purpose. I

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really acknowledge you work on Earth,
and MAYGD on the universe continue blessing you

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so you may continue also impacting the
life of so many people that need your

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message. Thank you, Karen,
as you as you know yourself. It's

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an amazing, precious gift to get
to live your purpose, and I'm grateful,

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very grateful that I get to do
it, So thank you for that,

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of course, my dear. And
to touch on this first important key

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point that you just mentioned, it
was very surprising for me to you when

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I found out this is the six
At the same time, it's very inspiring

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for me because if only one percent
of the population of this planet is living

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their life purpose, and there is
so much goodness going on, and so

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many people are now being transformed,
inspired to live a better life, to

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leave a legacy. More and more
people are into personal developers. Personal growth

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spiritual growth is because the light is
always more powerful than the darkness, and

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we know this. The darkness is
just the absence of light. And when

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we understand that every one of the
of us in this planet have a purpose

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and have that light, and when
we recognize that if there is a lot

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of darkness around us, it's just
the world calling us for our lives,

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and then we can each and every
one of us take responsibility for our part

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and choose to make a difference.
But we all know that we cannot make

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a difference outside if we don't start
within us first. So the first step

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here is recognize first, what is
that part of me that I doesn't see

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my life yet? What is a
part of me that it's still in the

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past, that it's still trapped in
the pain of what happened to me in

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my life's experiences, that I haven't
let go, that I haven't a heal

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that does not allowing me yet to
shine my life to the world. That

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is such a beautiful way to get
us present to this topic. Karen,

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Oh my gosh. Now, then
now we're going to add something else,

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another layer to that, which I
think is just incredible. So if only

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one percent of the population is living
to the life's purpose. You go on

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in your book to say that research
has shown that when we increase this number

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two three percent, then the entire
planet can be shifted to a level of

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consciousness where peace will be possible.
That blows me away. That is such

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a great thing to work toward.
Yes, Yes, it's that motivation that

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inspired me to continue moving forward despite
of all the challenges that you will find

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and you will face when you decide
to leave your life purpose. And as

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you know a little bit about my
story, I'm a survivor of domestic violence.

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So I went through a lot of
difficulties in my life. I had

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a gun pointing to my head at
one point of my life, and it

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was very difficult because I had the
knowledge of personal development, but I didn't

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really know how to use it.
So for me, for someone who almost

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died, for someone who went through
so much abuse, physical and emotional abuse,

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to know that I had hoped to
know that I had an opportunity not

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only to change my life, but
to find purpose within what happened to me.

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It was for me just a way
to create in new life. It

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was a calling for me to say, well, if I was able to

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shift what happened to me. That
means that many other people can do so.

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And that's what the three percent goes
through. Is our responsibility. The

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people who are listening right now,
you and I, we have a responsibility

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to share what's good. We have
a responsibility to share the tools that have

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made a difference in our life,
and that by sharing that, we give

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other people the opportunity and to remind
them who they really are. We don't

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have to tell people who they are, because they already know everyone of us.

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We know who we are inside.
We just have to take away the

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distructions of our ego, the little
voice in our head, the false self

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that we have in our mind that
that that we're not enough, And when

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we take that out of the way, we can get connected to our really

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true self, which is our essence, and from there start building a new

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life. A couple things to that
really quick. So one, I love

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the way that you and I wanted
to talk about how that you distinguish essence

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and ego, and well, I
want to say more about that a little

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bit later as well as we talk
about some of the healing piece that you

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talk about in your book. But
that whole bit about talking when I'm out

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sharing with audience is what my message
is around meaning and passion, inspiration and

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purpose. You're absolutely right here,
and that's what's been happening is some of

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the audience members get really present to
I want that that I want something more

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for myself. I know there's something
more for ourself, and that is where

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I really make my connection and then
start to see the possibility of making the

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difference that I want to make.
And to my point mind view, my

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unique purpose Lens is to be able
to help so many people across the world,

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Karen, who are literally walking through
life dead and most of them don't

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even know it. Yes, exactly, and this is your calling. And

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I know you are leaving your purpose. I know you are fulfilled. I

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can hear it in your energy,
in the essence of how you communicate who

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you are being when nobody is looking, what is behind the scenes. It's

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not when you have your show,
but really who you are being as a

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person. And that is what's possible
when people find their purpose, when people

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start living their purpose. And we
all have the same opportunity, and I

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believe that it is not only our
right but or responsibility to fulfill our calling

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to fulfill our purpose because as we
are happy, as we found that joy

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within our hearts, and then we
can share with other people and we give

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them the opportunity for them to do
the same. But we can give what

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we don't have. We can only
share that inspiration when we start leaving it

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ourselves. And that's what's possible with
purpose. I know that to be true,

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and I love that's so resounded with
me when I was reading your book,

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and in fact, when I want
to do two things next. I

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want to be able to one presence
for our listeners. How you articulated your

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purpose in your book and I'm happy
to read that unless you want to say

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it. And then I want to
talk about those six kinds of people in

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the world that you talk about relative
to the relationship to the key and purpose.

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That's what I want to do next. So do you want me to

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Can I read what you wrote in
the book for coururse? Okay? Yes,

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and you comment and add to it. But so this is what she

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said, listeners are so beautiful.
So Karen's purpose is my life's purpose is

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to awaken human consciousness through purpose so
that more people choose to evolve consciously and

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transform the quality of our human existence
into one of harmony, peace and love.

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Wow, it touched my heart and
I get move And even though I

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have been doing this, my dear
for fifteen years now in November, it's

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going to be sixteen years and I
have over forty thousand graduates of my seminars,

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still I am still moved by the
power of those words, because this

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is a purpose that is bigger than
me. This is a purpose and a

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vision that is bigger than myself.
That everything I ever thought I was going

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to create. And even though the
mind always doubts what the hearts creates,

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it's just so beautiful that by choosing
every single day to heal my life,

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to let go, to create,
to live in a state of gratitude,

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to contribute, to make a difference, I have been able to not only

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make a difference for my life,
but for so many others. So actually,

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I'm very touched by this beautiful purpose. It is a reminder for me

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that I still have so much to
do, but a celebration for what is

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already been done. Mm hmm.
I completely agree. And what I think

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is so great is we're both up
to heightening the vibration of humankind. That's

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both really what we're up to,
and I think it would be extremely useful

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for our listeners to be able to
let you you share a bit about those

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six groups people you identified, and
let's see, listeners, if you can

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identify which group that you're in.
So these are how you describe these These

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These are people based on the relationship
to the key to open the door to

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their purpose. And so the first
group you talk about are the lost ones

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that they're unaware they possess the key. Who say more about this group so

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our listeners can get presents they might
be in this bucket. Yes, and

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I love how we're doing it.
You mentioned it and then I comment on

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it so perfect. It's like I
feel like I'm inside the book right now.

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But I love it. Yes,
So the people that are lost,

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So we all have met people or
have encounter people that they don't really know

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why they're here. Maybe they are
lost in the streets, or they take

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drugs, or they have any other
type of addiction. They don't want to

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leave. They they're not really present
in this life. They don't want to

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be here, their loss, they
don't know their value. Maybe they have

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gone through a lot of pain in
their life and they have given up.

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So these are the people that are
lost. And now it's not that they

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don't have a purpose, because we
all have a purpose. It's just that

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they don't know that they have a
purpose. And we are all born with

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the key. And what is the
key is faith is and this key of

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faith and I'm not talking about religion
faith. I'm talking about the knowingness within

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our heart that we are here to
make a difference, that we are here

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for something more than your survived.
We all have that knowingness in our heart

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and that's what I call the key, and that key is the one that

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opens the door of our purpose.
And this first group, they don't know

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they have a purpose, they don't
know they have the key, and they

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have pretty much given up. Now
they may also join the next group,

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but most of them right now they're
you us, in that space of limbo,

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not knowing where to go, no
knowing what to do, and annoying

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who they are. Mm hmm Okay. So that's the first group. The

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second group is you call the seekers, and they they know they have the

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key and are seeking to open the
door to their purpose. So tell us

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more about them. Yes, So
seekers are people and I was there,

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and I'm sure you were there too. I was there too, yes,

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exactly, in which you find the
people that are committed to find their purpose

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so they know they have the key
to open the door of their purpose.

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So they know they're aware there is
a purpose for their life. They just

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don't know it yet. And in
my case, I was reading many books

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and I was going to different started, different religions, and I was always

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seeking for the truth. So these
are the people that are looking for the

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answer, what is my purpose?
Who am I? Why am I here?

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And is the first They're hungry to
know why they came to this planet.

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And this is a great group because
people that start in this group and

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eventually move to the other groups and
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Is the one that really leaves great
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a seeker, to also join other
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So it's a great movement of people
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is, because the paths are different
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powerful one, a secret who's hungry
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truth. He will find the door. The seeker will find the door of

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his purpose for sure. Now the
question is what are you going to do

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once you find it, which probably
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they found their purpose, they look
at the door, but they have

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not yet opened it. Say more
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dangerous place, my dear, because
here are people that have a lot of

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knowledge. So maybe they have a
study a lot, that have done a

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lot of seminar personal development training,
they read a lot of books. They

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are very eloquent in talking about purpose
and why they're here. They know what

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their purpose is, they know what
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but yet they're still not doing it. It's like you're talking about you're not

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acting, and without an action,
there is no reaction. And this is

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a danger place because you can get
very comfortable because if you have a good

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life, but it's not exactly what
you know you came here to live,

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but it's good, it's easy to
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here they end up just watching through
the windows, the clear window that you

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can see everything that is possible that
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see the happiness, you can see
the abundance. You can see the fulfillment

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and you can talk about it,
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So it's like hello, most your
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and those are the people that we
need to wake up. Now, hold

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your thoughtver to a second. I
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time to really go into the other
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careen, So listeners, hang on. I'm your host, Elise Cortez.

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Thanks for staying with us, and
welcome back to working on Purpose if

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you're just joining us. My guest
is Karen Hoyos. She is a global

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transformational leader, celebrity coach, speaker, and bestselling author. She's considered one

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of the most influential leaders in the
area of personal development who has given her

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life to her purpose so that every
person sees that it's possible for them to

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live their own She's the author of
the recently published book Purpose, the Ultimate

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Quest. I'm your host, Elise
Cortes. So, just before the break

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and we were talking about the six
different kinds of people that you've identified relative

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to the world of Purpose. We
talked about the last ones, the seekers

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of spectators, and now we come
to the braves, which you say have

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found their purpose, chosen to use
to keep open the door to follow their

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dreams. Who are they exactly?
These are the action takers These are the

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people that have chosen saying yes to
their purpose even though they don't know the

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how. And this is very important
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it's because they don't know the how. And I will promise you the

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how will come to you once you
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before I talk more about this group, it's important to understand how do you

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find this door? Right? How
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ask yourself this question. If you
had all the money in the world and

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all the time to enjoy it,
what would you do with your time?

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Well, what is your passion?
What is it that is in your heart

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that if you don't have to work
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don't have to work for money,
use for love and passion. That's exactly

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what you will do. And once
you know what it is, either being

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a life coach, radio host,
continue doing what you're doing, an architective

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doctor, or something very different than
what you're doing right now, or just

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find that passion that is in your
heart, your your abilities that you combine

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for the service of other people because
you just love it. That's what your

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door is. That is the door
I'm talking about when I'm talking about the

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door of your purpose, is your
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in the world. And every time
that someone said this is said, I'm

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going for my dreams. This is
said, even though I may not know

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how many people may be said,
it's not going to be possible to me.

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Many people said, Karen, you
will never make it. When I

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started this journey, this was an
industry of men. There were it was

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run by men. I was very
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It is like I didn't really see
the criteria what a spiritual master will be

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or a spiritual coach or business coach, because I didn't match what the profile

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people had. So once you find
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you will encounter a lot of negativity
of the collective ego. And that's why

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I call them breaks, because they
are the ones that have the courage to

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say, no matter what, but
the heck, I'm gonna just open the

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door. I'm gonna follow my colent. I don't know what is in the

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other side. There is a knowingness
in my heart that this is what I

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must do. So I decide to
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Oh that's just beautiful. How you're
render that right. If that doesn't

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call people in, I don't know
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that's got to get the get us
then too. The next group, which

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you call the defeated, the ones
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their maybe they couldn't quite handle what
came at them. Yes, more about

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them. And you know, this
is a very challenging group because it's for

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me, very challenging to mention,
because it's like the ones that had it

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already know what it is. It's
like they taste the waters, they try

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the waters, but and then they
decide, you know what, I can

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do this. I'm not enough.
I don't have what it takes. Why

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and why this happens is because once
you open the door of your your purpose,

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your ego, your ego gets really
loud, like the little voice in

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your head. And when I'm talking
about the ego, I'm talking about your

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false self is who you think you
are, the little voice in the head

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that is always talking, judging.
And if someone is listening right now and

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saying, one little voice in my
head, I don't have any voice in

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my head, baby, Karen,
because it's Colombia and I'm crazy in Miami

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clarent some voice I'm talking about,
right, that is not one that is

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always judging our heart choices. There's
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Is If the soul say yes,
the ego will always say no, and

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it will try to convince you that
you don't have enough, that you don't

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know enough, that this is not
the right moment. That maybe later,

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And that's when people give up,
when they decide to listen to the little

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voice and said, you know what, I'm not worthy of this, I'm

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not worthy of these, this purpose
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No? And then the bills start
showing up and financial situations, financial

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challenges. Things start getting really messy
here because it's a crucial moment when we

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choose either to continue moving forward,
to persevere, or to give up.

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And a group of people here all
decide, you know what, I'm not

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good enough, I'm not gonna do
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And that's when they are out of
the game. And it's sad because many

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of them take their life with them
because they cannot live with the pain of

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living what they know they have to
do. Because once you find your purpose

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and just start leaving your purpose,
and you choose not to manifest or to

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move forward. It's like having a
spider in your face, like a hairy,

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a smelly spider in your face.
Whatever you go, you cannot present,

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it's not there. So you cannot
be in peace unless you choose to

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move forward. The way the two
presents said, there's got to be people

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listening to this program that are going, oh my gosh, that's me and

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so right. You need help out
their folks. If you're in this space,

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any of these places, you need
help, especially that one. Well,

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then that brings us to the last
one. Your favorite one is,

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you like to say, the chosen
ones, those who have faced everything to

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fulfill their destiny. Yes, And
the grain news is, no matter where

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you are, speaker, spectator,
brave, even the defeated one, even

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if you were like, you know
what, I'm not going to be able

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to do this and you already gave
up. No matter what group you are,

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you can be part of the choosen
Chosen One. You can, Yes,

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you can. It is a right
that every one of you have.

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If you're listening to me, I
want you to think about someone who inspires

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you. Maybe it's Mother Teresa,
maybe was Gandhi, Mother Luther, King

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Jesus. Any leader in life who
is already is not here a transitional way.

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We're still here the job. Whatever, anyone that you are inspired by,

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I want you to think of their
life. They all went through kaka.

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Okay, they all have their own
piece of kaca. You know we're

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not gonna put here per filming up
of kaka. We need to clean it

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up and we have to recognize that
it's just part of life. We'll all

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go through stuff. And no matter
where you are, what situation you are

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living, if you choose, if
you choose to move forward, if you

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choose to use your key open the
door, and even if you fell many

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times, you decide to get up
again and said, you know what,

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I don't know how is this going
to work? But if I have a

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calling in my heart, if I
have a knowing in my essence, it's

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because God knows what he is doing. And whatever your belief is, maybe

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it's God's universe. Use whatever label
works for you. In my case is

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God. And I know that if
God puts a calling in your heart,

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is because you are capable, because
you what it takes because everything that happened

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in your past before now was part
of a perfect plan for you to be

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ready to fulfill your purpose. And
those are the chosen Ones. You are

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the chosen ones. And this group
for now in this planet is only one

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percent of the population, but we
are manifested that every day are more and

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more. These are the people who
are shifting the consciousness of humanity. These

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are the people that are ending racism, even though we are going to so

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many things right now. These are
the people that stand for equality. These

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are the people that stand for opportunities. These are the people that believe in

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equal rise, that believe that every
person in this planet deserves to fulfill their

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purpose, to fulfill their dreams.
These are the people that help other people

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to do the same. Many people
say, well, but there are more

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bad people than good people. I
don't believe in that. I believe the

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people that are really doing the goods. What they do is to help other

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people to do the same. And
that's what you have to do with You're

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not there yet on the Chosen One
group, but you want to be there.

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Surround yourself with people that are there, and if they're not part of

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your closed circle, Well, study
them, like what you're doing with this

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show. You get inspired, you
study the life of people, you read

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about them, You chernel what these
people have been doing in the life,

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of what they did in their life
to overcome adversity and challenges and how they

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came to be who they are.
Because I'm telling you, if you are

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listening to this right now and you
are inspired, if you have a calling

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in your heart, is because you
are meant to be in part of this

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group and so chosen one. It's
because you are the chosen one. You

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are it like when you're playing Tad
Tad, You're it. This is it.

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That's so great And the way that
you help us really understand that space

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of you that it's there, it's
just up for us to be able to

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get in touch with it and then
live it. It's the opportunity and that

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whole bit about being able to be
part of this work to transform the consciousness

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of the world. That's definitely what
I'm up to and I'm grateful and proud

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to be in this and working in
a space with you, Karen. It's

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it's amazing and I want to help
more people get there. So yes,

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right, I mean so one of
the things that you talk about in your

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book that's so interesting. I've never
seen this done before. You've said it

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a couple of times, is you
distinguish the essence and the ego, and

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you say that that the biggest obstacle
that prevents people from living their purpose is

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their relationship with their ego. So
I think it would help our listeners if

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you could say a little bit more
about that. Yes, and before I

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moved there, what you just said
at least about you wanting to help other

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people to get what you are.
This is what I meant with people when

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they are in the one percent.
You would always find people who are in

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the one percent wanting to help other
people to do the same. So I

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really salute you. I acknowledge you
for doing that, My dear, thank

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you much so with this amazing decision
about ego and essence. We have many

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those who have been seekers and have
been reading books and learning about different practices.

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We heard maybe about the ego and
about how bad is it. And

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if you study some religions, you
heard about like the devil or the bad

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energy or bad mode or whatever.
But there is always this negative force,

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negative energy that is presently in most
of the teachers teachings that are spiritual based,

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or religion based, or our personal
development base. Right, So when

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we talk about the ego many times, and when people practice joga or meditation,

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they're always like wanting to get rid
of the ego. Right, It's

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like it's bad, Like it's this
bad thing about us that we cannot be.

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And I have read a different perspective
about it. And then two books,

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one is called A New Earth and
the other one is called The Power

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of Now by E. Carton,
which are really love and he is starts

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showing the concept of the ego as
our false self who we think we are,

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like the little boys in our head, and that inspire me to really

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move into another direction. And I
went into meditation and I ask God,

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because I have conversations with God,
you know. I just talked to God

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and I said, well, what
do we have an ego? Anyways?

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Like, what is the point of
having these little voice in our head?

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I know, God is not a
God of judgment, is not a God

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of punishment, is not a bad
God who wants to punish us for our

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things. I don't believe in that. I believe that God is loved and

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God have created in his image to
us or her image then, right,

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so that we are free to create
the life that we want to create.

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And that includes if we choose to
create negativity suffering because we have the freedom

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to do whatever we want with our
life. Well, sadly, we also

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have the freedom to create negativity.
Right. But it's all because of God

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love that let us be who we
are and what we choose to be.

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That all of these situations are happening
in the world. So I asked God,

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what is the point of this ego? And the answer was very clear

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and changed my life forever. And
God said, well, this is for

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you to remember who you really are. And at that moment I was like,

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wait a minute. But little voice, like the ego negativity to remember

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who really I I'm not sure if
I understand. So it took me a

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little bit to really get the fact
that wants you understand who you are.

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Not So the little voice the ego
is it's a protective mechanism. It's like

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it wants to protect you. But
what is it that it wants to protect

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you from the unknown? So in
our essence we have infinite knowledge, we

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have infinite possibilities, of creation.
Now within that is in the possibilities of

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creation, the mind of human being, the human being mind, and start

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creating also things that are not as
good for humanity. And that's where the

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ego starts forming this separation, the
illusion of separation. So if we decide

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to connect to who we really are, which is our heart, which is

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our essence or na the state,
we can observe the thoughts that we have

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in our head. We can observe
what the ego is saying and automatically understand

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that that's not who I am.
For example, my ego is saying,

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Oh, you're stupid, you don't
know enough. Nobody's gonna believe you,

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nobody is gonna listen to you.
So if I am observing those thoughts and

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understanding that that's not who I am, But that's just my ego wanting to

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convince me not to follow my dream
because it's afraid of what comes next,

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which is the unknown. What if
you are really powerful, what if people

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really listen to you, What if
you really fulfill your your purpose, your

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dreams. What is in the other
side so terrifying of the unknown that prefers

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to keep you in the same place. So if I understand that, and

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I see those thoughts, and I
have become an observer, I can say

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to those thoughts, thank you for
sharing, thank you for reminding me that

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I am worthy, that I have
what it takes, that I am the

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chosen one, that I'm choosing to
leave my purpose now. So when I

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talk about having a relationship with the
ego, it's instead of fighting the ego,

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because if you fight it, it
makes it makes it stronger, instead

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of ignoring the ego the little voice
because if you ignore it also gets stronger.

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Instead of doing all of that convincing, fighting, ignoring, you start

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getting to know your ego so well
that when it comes up, it's no

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longer going to run your life.
It's no longer going to control your life

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because you automatically recognize that that thinking, those thoughts are not you that use

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your ego. And then as soon
as you understand that you have a choice,

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you are now free to choose coming
from your essence or listening to the

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ego and acting accordingly. Oh my
gosh, Karen, that was beautiful.

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Okay, hold that thought, because
I want to say more about that when

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we come back from our last break. I'm Alice Cortez, your host.

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We've been on the year with Karen
Hoyos. She is a global transformational leader,

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celebrity coach, speaker, and best
selling author. She is the author

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of the recently book called Purpose,
the Ultimate Quest. She joined us today

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from Miami, Florida. Stay with
us, We'll be right back. Alice

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Cortez is a speaker and engage and
development catalyst. She designs and delivers professional

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development, leadership and engagement workshops and
can bring her expertise to your organization.

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She will help ignite meaningful development within
your workforce that will increase employee engagement,

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performance and retention. To learn more
or to invite Elise to speak to your

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organization, please visit her at www
dot Elisecortes dot com. She would welcome

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the opportunity to help get your employees
working on purpose. This is Working on

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Purpose with Elise Cortes. To reach
our program today, send an email to

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a lease Alise at Alisecortes dot com. Now back to working on Purpose.

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Thanks for staying with us, and
welcome back to working on Purpose. If

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you're just tuning in, my guest
is Karen Hoyos. She is a global

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transformational leader, celebrity coach, speaker, and bestselling author. She's considered one

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of the most influential leaders in the
area of personal development who has given her

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life to her purpose so that every
person can see it possible for them to

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live their own. She's the author
of the recently polished book called Purpose,

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the Ultimate Quest. I'm your host
at last, Cortes, So before they

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break, Karen, that was a
beautiful way to really help us distinguish ego

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and essence. I think that's incredibly
useful for our listeners to get that that

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we have to get to know our
ego in order to be able to embrace

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our essence. And one of the
things that you say in the book that

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I think is so powerful is that
you say that purpose is happening in the

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present and that in order to live
one's purpose, we must heal from any

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past issues and understand the gift they
bring us that they brought us. Yes,

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say more about that. That's very
powerful. Yes, And I love

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this because it is very easy to
understand when you put it in practice to

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your current situation or your results.
What I mean by that is you are

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listening right now, and the results
you have in your relationship, personal relationship,

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in your finances, in your health, they are not a match for

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what you have in your heart,
for what you know you deserve. Is

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because there are roots, emotional roots
from your past that you haven't healed yet.

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So it is important to understand that
every fruit of your life is a

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consequence of the seeds that you have
been planted before in the past when you

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were starting your experience of life,
and it's usually before when you were seven

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years old. In my case,
for example, I remember that I saw

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domestic violence. I witnessed how my
father was abusing my mom when I was

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four years old, So that for
your old girl make a decision and subconscious

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decision that every man were like my
father. So from that point I grew

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up wanting to change that situation,
wanting to change what my mom experienced.

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And of course, because I then
heal that relationship with my past, I

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end up duplicating the same thing.
And this is the reason why many people

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know they have to be in good
relationship, no they deserve better, but

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still continue manifesting the same REOs.
So it's why because you haven't healed your

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past yet, because there are still
roots and decisions that your ego may when

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you were leader that are still running
the show. So a couple of things

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of that, Karen, that is
so great that he distinguishes for us.

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So one of the things that you
say in your book, which I completely

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endorse because I also I do talk
about how we need to embrace our adversity

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because it helps us become who were
meant to become. But you also go

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on to say something slightly different.
You say that we should stop asking why

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something bad happened to us, but
rather what for? What's it serving?

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Uyes? And I think that's such
a great opening. I'm a logo therapist.

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That just means how people discover meaning
and how they can make meaning and

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sense of things that happen in their
life and who they are. That opens

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a whole space for people when you
ask it like that, yes, and

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why is this important? Analyst,
because it brings people to take responsibility.

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That why is a victim mentality?
Why this? Or I'm a victim?

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And for so many years I know
what that is because I was a victim

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of domestic violence. I was a
victim of my situation for many years until

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I decide to be responsible, to
take responsibility for my life and said,

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I'm no longer a victim of what
happened to me. I am responsible of

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what I created in my life.
Now, this doesn't mean that what happened

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to me was okay, I'm not
justifying domestic violence. I'm not taking the

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impact because of what happened. But
what I'm saying is I am the one

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who created this life. I am
the one who created this results. So

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that means that I have the power
to change it as soon as you decide,

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as soon as you choose to be
responsible for your results, as soon

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as you understand that this is your
creation. What you're living right now,

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what you love, what you hate, what you don't like about your life

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right now, everything has been your
creation. I know it's something that the

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ego hates to hear, and the
ego wants to say, well, but

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you don't know my mom, you
don't know my father, you don't know

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my sister. You I understand.
We all have one of those in our

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life or many of those in our
life. I understand. But no matter

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what, if you don't want to
perpetuate these results, the first step is

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to be responsible. And how we
are responsible when we choose to say this

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is my creation. And because this
is my creation, I am grateful.

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Yes, you hear it right,
I am grateful for what happened in the

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past until now. And it is
when you're able to look at your past

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and understand that every situation, even
the most painful one, even the ones

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that you don't really want to think
of, they were all part of a

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plan for your evolution. That if
you choose to be able to say,

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I'm thankful for the experiences of my
past because I learned one, two,

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three, And you can mention the
things that you learned, and that doesn't

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mean that it's okay, That doesn't
mean that you're justifying what happened, but

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you're saying this is never going to
happen again because I understood why I created

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this? What was the purpose?
More than the why, What was the

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purpose of my creation? I understand
now. And when you understand the gifts

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behind the challenge, the gifts behind
the pain, and then you start the

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healing, and with the healing,
you start also receiving the wisdom from the

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healing so you can help other people
and eventually fulfill the purpose of our pain

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in our past. What is the
purpose of the pain of the past so

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we can help other human beings so
they don't go through the same things that

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we do, or if they went
to the same things, we help them

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heal even faster. And that's how
we start the movement of healing, when

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we use what happened in our past
to continue growing and to leave a legacy

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on this planet. I just want
to echo two things to that that's so

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well said. One is that I
really embrace what you said about standing in

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a place of responsibility, embracing what
we can do with this, how it's

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made us who we are and who
we can become. And two that it's

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really this whole bit is really getting
to We are are on a path of

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evolution, whether we realize it or
not, are conscious of it or not,

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we are and the opportunity is to
engage in that and become a seeker

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or you know, start the process
here and really understand that our lives are

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evolving. We have an opportunity to
really direct that and do it in a

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way that lets us really live our
purpose and make a difference in the world

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that needs to be made. Yes, exactly, and as we all take

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responsibility, as we all come together, as you who are listening right now,

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understand that we need you. That
this is not a path for some.

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We need you. If you're listening
right now to this message, it's

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because you are the chosen one.
It's because you are ready. It's because

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you are it. And as you
understand and choose your responsibility, as you

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understand and you choose your purpose,
despite of what your mind set, despite

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of what the ego said that you're
not ready, you're not good enough,

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you're not worthy of whatever Tata is
saying. If you choose to say yes,

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if you choose to heal your past
and share your gift with the world,

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this world will be transformed. I
believe in that, and we see

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it every single day, more and
more people are awakened to who they really

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are and start the process of transformation. As that's all it take. That's

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all it takes. If we choose
that, the rest is going to be

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a ripple effect and the world,
the world is going to be awakened and

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is exactly what's happened. We cannot
stop this process. Now we have the

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power to change the world. And
you think your hands, person by person,

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one at a time, choose him
purpose, one at a time.

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Will transform that whole planet, and
that is a worthy movement. I'm happy

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to devote the rest of my life
too. So I am. I'm on

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the bus with you, Karen.
We are only we've only got like about

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five minutes left here, and I
want to talk about something that people are

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not going to expect us to talk
about, and that is money. So

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one of the things that we talked
about, you and I when we were

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preparing for this conversation, is this
whole notion of purpose and spirituality connection with

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money. And you say something in
your book about coming out of the spiritual

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00:43:43.159 --> 00:43:46.320
closet about money. So talk to
us a little bit about what you mean

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00:43:46.360 --> 00:43:49.719
by that. And I also want
to talk about what you say that selling

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is a way to love our clients. Yes, I love this, and

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this is so important that it included
in this conversation because we have been thought

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for years and four generations that is
spirituality and money don't match that business and

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heart, business and purpose and business
and spirituality are not much because we have

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been thought that the money is a
thing of the ego, that is evil,

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that is the root of all of
the ego or evil, and of

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those things that we heard before that
it makes people greedy and all of these

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false accusations from the ego, and
I used to believe that, And the

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first four years of my career as
a coach, I made no money.

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I was broke. People were going
to my seminars doubling their income, income,

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threeple in their income, and I
was going broke every time. More

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and more I wanted to register to
my own seminar, like what I didn't

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understand. Why was happening right?
And it wasn't. And so I met

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my mentor, Gary Solvet, a
Jewish entrepreneur multimilliarner, who taught me that

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first of all, showed me that
I had I had cut my spiritual relationship

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with money based on my false belief
I didn't see God in money. And

625
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the truth is, if you don't
see God in everything, you don't see

626
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it at all. If you are
separating God from money, you're saying God

627
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is not in every way, in
every place on this earth. If you

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are separating the energy of love from
money, you're saying, well, love

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is conditional to some things of some
people. At the moment you take that

630
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blindfold and you realize the money is
the compensation for our gifts. Money was

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created as a way to compensate our
gifts. And then you cut the strings

632
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that separates you from money. You
connect, You see God, you see

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energy, you see love also in
money, and you understand that you are

634
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worthy. And not only you have
the right, Yes, you have the

635
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responsibility of creating abundance in your life. Because more you have, more you

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can give. So this is a
responsibility for us, a spiritual beings to

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grow in prosperity so we can help
even more people. We can give back

638
00:46:07.199 --> 00:46:10.719
more as when we choose the abundance
in our life. Oh my gosh,

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Karen, And that is so powerful
because you're right, I think you know

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and my own journey, I had
to go through this and I still am

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to a certain extent about Wow,
you know, if I'm going to make

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a difference in the world, you
know, and shouldn't be focused on money,

643
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And I'm not. Don't. I
don't focus on the money. It's

644
00:46:27.280 --> 00:46:30.760
a byproduct, right, But I
think a lot of people have the mistake

645
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and belief that I have to choose
money or purpose, not both exactly.

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And as soon as you are leaving
money out of the equation, you are

647
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sating separating God, you are separating, separating love. You are saying,

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well, the power of my gift
only comes to this place, but not

649
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to that place. You are the
one being in ego. As soon as

650
00:46:52.639 --> 00:46:55.280
you are separating yourself from the money, you are being ego. You are

651
00:46:55.360 --> 00:47:00.280
the one judging yourself, judging the
money, and judging the impact. So

652
00:47:00.360 --> 00:47:05.360
let's embrace it all, come in
oneness and choose to understand that if you

653
00:47:05.400 --> 00:47:08.400
have a gift, if you share
the gifts, you have the right and

654
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that responsibility to be compensated for the
gifts. And if you choose to share

655
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wisely that compensation, you will be
part of the creation of wealth and abundance

656
00:47:19.159 --> 00:47:22.920
in the world, and you will
help with those resources heal the world as

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well. Oh my gosh, Karen, that is just I think that really

658
00:47:28.360 --> 00:47:30.320
opens up something for a lot of
our listeners that have been struggling with this.

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And I talk to people all the
time who start to engage me and

660
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they say, well, I don't
know if I can go down this path

661
00:47:36.760 --> 00:47:38.480
because I'm not really sure I want
to give up the lifestyle that have created

662
00:47:38.480 --> 00:47:42.559
for myself. I don't know that
I really want to walk away from my

663
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income or my four one K or
my bonus, whatever it is. And

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I know that's the ego speaking absolutely. And let me tell you, my

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00:47:52.559 --> 00:47:55.400
dear, I have an amazing life. I can say I am a mother

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of queens. There are now sixteen. I have never needed a fields of

667
00:48:00.480 --> 00:48:05.119
their school. I was there for
every important And then I still if I

668
00:48:05.159 --> 00:48:07.840
want to stay home. And I
wanted you to say my pijama, like

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right now, I'm in my pigama. What I'm doing is interview right because

670
00:48:10.159 --> 00:48:14.639
I have no bass, because my
only boss is God, and because I

671
00:48:15.480 --> 00:48:20.559
my life every day. And when
you choose to have the freedom to live

672
00:48:20.639 --> 00:48:22.639
the life you love, that doesn't
mean that you have to have luxury.

673
00:48:22.880 --> 00:48:25.960
Luxury is not for everyone. But
whatever it is that you feel in your

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heart that you want to do with
that compensation, with money, with financial

675
00:48:31.440 --> 00:48:36.519
abundance in your life, it is
what you deserve. You deserve to live

676
00:48:36.559 --> 00:48:38.800
the life that you love the way
that you have created in your heart.

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Don't let the ego take away the
life from you. Don't let the ego

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convince you that you're not worth it, that you're not a service, because

679
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what it wants is to limit you. You are here to live a life

680
00:48:51.559 --> 00:48:57.000
of happiness, abundance, health,
passion, a lot of passion energy,

681
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and of course to leave a legacy
on this planet. Oh, what a

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00:49:00.280 --> 00:49:04.119
beautiful way to finish, Karen.
I want to just keep you and hang

683
00:49:04.159 --> 00:49:06.159
on to you, and of course
I will be staying in touch or not

684
00:49:06.239 --> 00:49:09.039
running away from me. Thank you
so much for being on the show,

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00:49:09.079 --> 00:49:13.719
for sharing your beautiful soul, your
passion, your purpose. It has been

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00:49:13.719 --> 00:49:15.840
delightful to get to know you better
and share you with my listeners across the

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00:49:15.840 --> 00:49:20.320
globe. Oh, it was my
pleasure, my love. Thank you so

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00:49:20.480 --> 00:49:22.920
much. You know you can always
count on me and buy me back.

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I love this, I love everyone
who is part of this farming Amazon and

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you can connect with me on social
media. My name is Karen Hoyos Hoyos,

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so you can join me there.
I have always gratings to share.

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May God and the universe continue blessing
you. I believe in you. You

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are to start keep shining. Oh
that's so wonderful. You can also check

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her out on her website too,
Karenhoyos dot com. And last week,

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if you missed the show live,
you can always catch if you record a

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podcast. We were on there with
Jonathan Hrskowitz of SVOC Business Growth Advisors.

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It's a consultancy that helps its clients
grow their businesses by gaining an understanding of

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their strategy, vision, operations,
and culture. We talked about those very

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things. Next week, we'll be
on the air with author and purpose expert

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Diane McLay. She's a personal transformation
coach as well. We're going to talk

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about our joint collaboration to address the
need opportunity to develop more women in the

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workforce and why that's good for business. See you there. Remember that works

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at least one third of our life, So let's work on purpose. Well,

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we hope you've enjoyed this week's program. Be sure to tune in to

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Working on Purpose, featuring your host
Alis Cortes, each week on the Voice

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America Empowerment Channel. This week,
find your life's purpose at work.