Conscious Communication and the Choice to Cleanse or Clog Our Lives

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There are some people that make their
work just another thing they have to do,

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and there are those that make their
work something that they want to do.

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Welcome to Working on Purpose with your
host Elise Cortes. In our program,

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we provide guidance and inspiration from those
people who have found deeper meaning and

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personal connection to their work life.
It's beyond nine to five. It's working

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on purpose. Now Here is your
host, Elise Cortes. Welcome back to

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Working on Purpose. Thanks for tuning
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Elise Cortes, joining you from Dallas, Texas, which is home base

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the area with Staff Sergeant Jason Morgan, who has a most remarkable story of

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service and survival while serving in the
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with an amputated leg who still manages
to live life to its fullest, jumping

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out of airplanes and running marathons,
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single father to three boys, and
now is on a mission to help people

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embrace their own adversity and serve others
to find purpose in their lives and work.

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I walked out of that conversation thinking
I have zero excuse not to go

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one hundred percent from my goals.
Nothing has holding me back. Great conversation

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with us this week is Mary Shores, who is a successful entrepreneur, author,

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and revolutionary founder of the groundbreaking Conscious
Communications system, which produces positive results

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through positive action. She has spent
over a decade teaching businesses and individuals how

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to inspire others, create new ways
of thinking, identify and achieve their goals

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and take action to create truly meaningful
results. Today, we'll be talking about

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her work in conscious communication and how
we can use it to get better results

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at work, her perspective on how
we can identify our talents to change a

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career she would be so inclined,
and her fascinating concept of cleansing or clogging

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various aspects of our lives. She
joined us today from Champagne, Illinois.

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Mary, Welcome to Working on Purpose. Thank you, Elise, I'm so

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excited to be here today. I
am too, and if I have it

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right, I believe that we found
each other on Twitter, which is where

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I've seem to find a lot of
my guests, So thank you again Twitter.

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There are several things Mary, I
wish I had more than an hour

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with you, and as we discussed
before the show went on the air,

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maybe we can do this again.
But I want to start the conversation with

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your whole idea of conscious communication.
So first, how did you become interested

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in conscious communication? Conscious communication?
I think first arise in just my own

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wanting to make a shift in my
business. So I really noticed how many

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people would call my office and they
might be super frustrated at the end of

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the call. And so it started
with a simple goal of I want to

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know how can I make people happier
by the end of the call, happier

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than they were when they very first
called in. Now the twist to this

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is when you understand that I own
a collection agency, so you don't think

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of deck collectors in terms of like, let's try to make people happy.

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But that's really that really is how
it began. M. Okay, we're

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going to dive more into that now. The next thing I want to understand,

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of course, is we want to
get we want to get into the

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term analogy itself. So what do
you mean by conscious communication? Conscious communications

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is simply a guide to help you
harness the power of your words to change

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your mind, your choices, and
your life. And it's back both by

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modern science, ancient spirituality and everything
in between. M just sounds yummy.

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Okay. Now, when you and
I spoke on the phone, you said,

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and I think this is on your
website too, that there's this notion

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of the neuroscience behind communication. So
help us understand what do you mean by

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the neuroscience behind this concept? So
I like to describe this because I believe

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that a lot of these sciences can
get complicated, especially when we talk about

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neuroscience, because neuroscience can mean a
lot of things. But basically, you

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know, we understand the concept that
we have a conscious mind that lies in

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our prefrontal cortex, and this is
where you know, this is where our

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conscious thought lies. But then we
also have our subconscious, which which we

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don't tap into, and our subconscious
is built up of all of these sort

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of repetitive thoughts and all of our
old belief systems that we may not even

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be aware of. I mean,
some of them are obvious, like you

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know, you should eat eggs for
breakfast because that's breakfast food. You know,

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that's an obvious belief, But you
may have a barrier belief or a

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limiting belief that you're not even aware
of. So neuroscience is just the science

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behind how I know that we can
use our words to change our mind,

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change our choices, and change our
life. And a simple way that I

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use to start describing this is by
talking about the frequency scale of emotions.

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That basically, everything we say or
do is going to either move us up

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or down the frequency scale, depending
on what triggers our nervous system, because

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our nervous system is being impacted all
day, every day by everything we see,

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touch here, you know, all
through our senses. Right, So

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when our nervous system notices something,
then it's going to release a set of

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chemicals, and that is actually coming
from the hyposoulus signals in our brain what

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chemicals to release. So, for
example, if a stressful situation comes our

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way, we're going to be we're
going to start to release adrenaline and cortisol,

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right because we're going to be in
our fight or flight system. Whereas

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if we know that we're getting ready
to watch a movie, then we're going

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to be activating our parasympathetic nervous system
and we're going to be releasing more relaxing

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hormones. But I think that what
we don't understand is this impact of how

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this is happening at every moment of
every day. And so that's one part

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of the neuroscience and the other part
is just through that the words we use,

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the actions that we take. There's
this concept of alignment that we need

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to get our thoughts, our feelings, our words, our choices, our

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actions all in alignment with what we
want and that's when we can really get

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that neuroscience working to connect us to
the life of our dreams, because the

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words we say are in a sense, writing a program in that subconscious mind.

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Wow, you are so Chris talk
about conscious communication. You are so

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crisp and how you talk Mary.
I know that you know that, but

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I just got to say it.
It's gorgeous. Well, thank you,

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because sometimes I think I'm just you
know, you just never know. So

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I appreciate that. Okay, good, Well, here's what I want to

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do next. I for our listener's
sake, I want to queue up a

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few instances of how you would describe
maybe ineffective communication, then also where it's

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actually effective. Then I want you
to actually talk about how you help become

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more conscious to all this, because
when I hear you talk about all this

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stuff, Mary, it sounds to
me like, how in the world can

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we possibly get a handle on this
and actually become conscious and effectively utiliss our

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communication. So first, and it
is fascinating for me to frame that you've

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identified this notion, this concept as
a very professional debt collector. Now,

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so just that's quite an interesting of
itself. I think that platform is something

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to it. But some examples mary
of ineffective communication that maybe we're just not

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considering that maybe we do frequently,
or that you've seen that happen that our

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listeners but identify with it, would
show them this doesn't actually work. So

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I think that the first one and
the most obvious one is negative speech patterns

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in general. So this would be
through our self talk or you know,

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the committee in your head that's constantly
running telling criticizing you and telling you how

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wrong you are in you know,
could look like, oh my gosh,

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I'm so stupid. Why did I
choose that I made such a huge mistake?

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You know? Those That is the
most obvious answer to me. But

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there's also disempowering speech with others.
So like, for example, one evening

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it was Halloween time, I was
out to dinner with a group of friends

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and we were we were at a
restaurant. It was a nice restaurant,

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and one of the girls looked at
the menu and she just said, too

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rich for my blood. So that's
a really great example of disempowering speech.

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Too rich for my blood. So
if you hear your friends say that,

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what does it mean to me?
It sounds like the menu is above her

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station in life. Exactly, she
is not. And by the way,

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it wasn't and everything was half priced, so it was like a half you

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know when you go to happy hour
and everything was half price, right,

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But what to me it looked like
was I was staring in the mind of

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I was staring in her subconscious mind, and I was understanding that she didn't

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feel worthy of that restaurant, of
that food, because you know, certain

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restaurants might have a reputation of being
like a nice restaurant, but quite honestly,

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I mean the prices weren't expensive at
all. They were no different than

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your local chain restaurants. But that
was such a mirror inside of her mind.

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So you know, or I'll never
get what I want, or you

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know that that I'm not good enough
for that job or that person, or

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you know, these are disempowering speech
patterns, and we don't really recognize the

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fact that those words have on our
belief system. So every time she says

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the phrase too rich for my blood, what she's doing is she's reinforcing that

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neural network in her subconscious mind,
that is the belief system that for whatever

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reason, she is not worthy of
that menu. Mm hmmmm hmm. What

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a great example. When I hear
you talk, Mary, one of the

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things that's going through my mind to
try to make sense of what you're saying

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is in our world, our business, we use this notion of foreground and

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background conversation. So the foreground is
what actually shows up and is actually spoken

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between people, and the background is
what informs all of that. And so

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you might think about it like a
movie where if you're watching a movie,

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you see all of the action happening, and that's the foreground, But the

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music that's playing in the background,
and some of the subtle ways that color

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is displayed across the screen is the
background that informs how you take in that

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foreground conversation. Is that at all
related to what you're talking about yet?

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Okay, that's brilliant. I love
it. Okay, okay, great,

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Well, how about an example of
speech that does include conscious communication that really

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gets to more of an effective place. Well, I love this question because

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it allows me to get to the
heart of it all, and I'm going

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to quickly mention five things, okay, And these five things are self talk,

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spoken words, affirmations, goals,
and gratitude. So self talk is

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obvious, you know, because it
exists in our in our conscious mind and

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our subconscious mind. So it's those
things that we tell yourself on a day

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to day basis. And so you
know, as your producer was queuing up

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the show, he told you his
mantra of I work on purpose. That's

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a perfect example of if that's his
self talk, that's a really effective self

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talk to make that a reality.
And two, if we look at if

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we think about neural networks in our
subconscious mind as little highways, and that

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every time you use self talk in
the positive or in the empowering way,

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you're actually like performing maintenance on that
highway, because what happens if we don't

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keep up that road maintenance, you
know, the road falls apart. We

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also have spoken words because what you
talk about kind of like what you are

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saying four ground and background. So
what you speak about is a mirror of

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what's inside your subconscious mind. So
in order to immerse yourself in the life

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you want to create, you must
deliberately align your speech with what you want

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to affirm to be true in your
life. You can do this using affirmations,

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because an affirmation is the same thing
as a declaration, and you are

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asserting that what you want to be
true is true through the creation and repetition

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of words or phrases. So affirmations
are a great tool to reprogram your mind.

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And I have a lot of stuff
that I write, like I wrote

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a three step process to creating rocking
affirmations because people can be sensitive. You

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know, I'm not suggesting that you
use an affirmation that isn't true where you

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feel like you're lying to yourself,
but there is a method to actually create

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really good, workable affirmations. The
next one is goals, and goals is

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one of my favorites because there is
plenty of scientific research out there that says

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the difference between people who achieve success
in life and those who do not is

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that high achievers regularly write down goals
for themselves and then create a plan to

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make those goals happen. And there's
just some sort of magical thing that happens

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between your brain and that pen when
you write down a goal. And then

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finally, but maybe even the most
impactful is having gratitude. So having a

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gratitude practice, believe it or not, actually rewires your brain to look for

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more things to be grateful for in
your life. Okay, I love this.

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I want to go I want to
drill down two of the things that

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you said if I can please marry
absolutely. The first thing I want to

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get to is the idea of goals
now, and I am a very goal

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oriented human being. In fact,
achiever is my number one gallop strengths.

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Now here's what I think is really
important about you said though, you said

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that you need to also be able
to plan the goals, so you can't

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It's not enough just to list the
goal out. I want to achieve this,

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You've got a plan for it.
Can you say a little bit more

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about that planning that makes it effective? So you know what I do is

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I create these one page action plans. And I know that we're going to

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talk about that in a later segment, so we can even talk about like

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how to create just a small action
plan for yourself. Because just having a

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goal of I want to lose twenty
pounds or I want to make X amount

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of money, or you know,
I want to take a trip, unless

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you actually start taking steps towards that
goal, well it's just not going to

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happen. Mm hmm, I got
it. Okay, beautiful. I just

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I really wanted to emphasize that for
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second thing I wanted to drill down
on is this notion of affirmation. I'm

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so glad that you said what you
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yourself something that just is abundantly not
true. But I know that there's so

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much talk about affirmation out there and
positive speak, and I want to make

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sure that we clarify for our listeners
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away from just just say it's going
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kind of thing, that's what you're
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of affirmations because and I can give
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this thing. And this is just
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I call certain people the law of
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people who, every time you say
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Do you know what I'm talking about? Yes, I do, okay,

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a joke to make fun of people
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I just believe that whatever those higher
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truly want. And it's really the
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So why have this extra stress of
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I mean that that's not the point. So what we've got is we want

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to get rid of the negative or
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expressions of criticism of yourself or others, like we talked about before, saying

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I'm so stupid, or I should
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this, or I'm going to try. Okay, the words try and should

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are just a complete waste of your
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that as a disempowering affirmation. But
let's talk about the words that work,

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which are releasing statements. So releasing
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what you will no longer have as
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could be something like I will never
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perfect releasing statement, and I don't
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it or you know, like you
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language police. So mine is I
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I follow that up with an asking
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release my fear of abandonment. I
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so we can and we have I
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the qualities, personality, traits,
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you want to embody in your life. So you know, what did you

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say yours? Was I am achiever? I am a high achiever. Yes,

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that's a great I am statement.
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manifestor and I can, I can? I have tons of them. I

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actually wrote a list of one hundred
im statements, and for one year straight,

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I wrote one page of affirmations a
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affirmation Queen. And then I love
asking statements. So asking statements you don't

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have to you know, you don't
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when I don't even have a job, because that doesn't that feels incongruent and

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it doesn't feel like your truth.
Right, So asking statements would say,

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guide me to be at the right
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dream job. Oh, Mary,
that is a great way. Yes,

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tell me, yes, it does. And what I love about what you

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did is you distinguish so beautifully just
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distinguish, which is what's you know, what people might say is, oh,

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roll the eyes affirmation statements. You
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beautiful, powerful way and then positioning
the ass statement behind it. It just

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is so much more crisp and robust
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maybe listeners might think they know about
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So if I say, help me
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time to find my dream job.
To me that makes me feel good inside

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my body, that creates the feel
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neurobiology, right, that's going to
create beasopresent, that's going to create dopamine

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and Sarah Town. But if I
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job and I'm in the unemployment line, now, I've just lied to myself

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and I'm creating all an adrenaline and
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one might be show me my power, guide me to thoughts that are in

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harmony with my core desires. Oh
I love this, Mary and necessariate my

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personal growth. You know, I
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I love asking statements, and I
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it's already true. So I just
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in an empowering way, like help
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people today. That one pays off
for me every time. Gorgeous want to

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take us into our first break,
Mary, Already time flies and we're having

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fun. I'm your host, Alis
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the groundbreaking conscious communications system, which
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and then move on to help how
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Working on Purpose. Thanks forristaying with
us, and welcome back to Working on

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Purpose if you're just joining us.
My guest is Mary Shores, who is

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a successful entrepreneur, author, and
a relationary founder of the groundbreaking conscious Communications

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system, which produces positive results through
positive action. Before the break, we

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were just finishing her conversation or her
perspective on conscious communication. I just wanted

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to give you a chance, Mary
to complete any thoughts or add anything else

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that you wanted to know about that
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Well, I'm just really thrilled to
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that if people can start applying even
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they will start to see pretty dramatic
changes in about forty five days, and

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so especially on the gratitude. Just
like having a daily gratitude practice for forty

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five days, you start to notice
some shifts in your life. Wonderful.

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Thank you for that gift. Mary. And speaking of gifts, I don't

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always get this with my guests,
but you reached out and said that you

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had a couple of things that you
wanted to offer two gifts in the way

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of our listenership here. So,
at the risk of avoiding me messing up

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those gifts, would you just share
with us what are the gifts you'd like

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to offer the listeners and how do
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Yeah, we have a free offer
right now. I have a personal

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development workbook that I wrote. It's
called Ignite Your Dreams, and it's basically

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like a five day personal development challenge. So we're able to give this away

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free to your listeners. It's a
twenty six page full color workbook. It's

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absolutely stunningly beautiful. And in order
to get that, they can just go

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to my website shores dot com,
click on the button that says Ignite your

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Dreams, and if they opt in
to get our email newsletter, which is

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called Fearless Ambition, they'll get that
workbook. And then what comes along with

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that is free coaching that I do
in my Facebook group that's called the Fearless

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Ambition Facebook group, so they can
share the results in the Facebook group and

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it's a lot of fun. And
in addition to that, because we are

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in the middle of our book launch
period right now, so I have a

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book coming out with hay House and
it launches on August twenty second, which

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means it's in pre sale period right
now. So what we're doing is anyone

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who pre sales the book, or
anyone who pre orders the book, they

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will get another free workbook that I
wrote, called Dream with a Deadline.

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We've had over twenty eight thousand people
download this book with amazing results. In

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fact, I just got a message
from someone today telling me that doing this

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book absolutely changed her life, in
her career and everything in between. So

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we're really proud of that book.
And if you do a pre order,

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you'll get that, plus you'll get
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which is what we're talking about here
today, which is cleanser clog is

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one of the big topics we're talking
about. So of course we want everyone

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to order the book, and we're
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Desires diary journal page Lovely Mary.
It's very generous. Thank you for that.

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And again, I most my guests
don't often give those kinds of things

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away, so I want you to
know how much we appreciate that. It

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is very generous. And certainly when
you're willing to give your knowledge and your

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gift away, it's just it's a
beautiful thing. So, speaking of gratitude,

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thank you. Oh you're so welcome. You know, I've been an

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expert in personal development for ten years, so it's just absolutely my pleasure to

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share these gifts. Wonderful. Well, let's talk next if we can,

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about discovering talent. You know,
of course that the name of my show

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is working on purpose, and then
I am keenly interested in help people to

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find ways to do work that is
more meaningful to them, that helps them

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feel more actualized, agentic, all
those kinds of things. So first let's

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ground ourselves in the conversation. You
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I first want to understand how did
you get into that line of work?

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And you talk about your business being
unique. What makes it unique? Well,

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ever since I was a little girl, I always always wanted to be

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a businesswoman. So when all the
other little girls in the neighborhood wanted to

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play house. I just wanted to
play bank. And what that looked like

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was I had in my garage those
garage sale tables set up, and we

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didn't have printers and things like that
back in these days. It was the

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eighties. So I would draw up
fake money on notebook or copy paper and

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cut it all up, and I
made all these accounts for all the neighborhood

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kids, and they I had to
drive through in my garage and they would

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all have to drive through the garage
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and bicycles big wheels if you remember
big wheels. Yes, So I always

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just knew I was going to be
a businesswoman. My parents actually owned a

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collection agency when I was growing up, so I'm a second generation debt collector,

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and that's how I got into the
actual collection business. And what makes

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our company super unique is that I
created my own method of collections that I

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use, which is called words that
Work, and words that Work is comes

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from from my mission of wanting people
to feel good about paying their debt,

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because so often collections these days has
become a punitive situation where it's you know

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this punishing and based on shame and
intimidation and anxiety, and I really wanted

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to reverse that. So my plan
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about paying a debt because having a
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subconscious mind, right, and that
burden is going to actually put a wedge.

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It's going to build a brick wall
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money and their dreams. So I
see my job as wanting to facilitate them

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to feel good and empower themselves to
pay their debt versus feeling like their shame

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and anxiety to kind of use fear
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which I believe is completely wrong.
So that is our method. It's called

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words that Work. It's based on
three rules and three steps. And the

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three rules are really simple. We
have a do not say list, which

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are words like no, not,
can't, won't, however and unfortunately,

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and the second rule is you replace
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things like what I can do for
you today is or I want to assure

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you that this is going to be
okay. And then the third rule is

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you always say what you can do
instead of what you can't do. So

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it's just really simple. And now
I'm even teaching it to other large debt

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collection agencies because my true dream is
to change the face of collections in this

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country. Period. Remarkable, Mary, remarkable, talk about working on purpose.

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I'm blown away by what you just
said, and I love that.

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I completely embrace that. And I
had a question I wanted to ask you

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when you may have just answered in
the way you describe how you do your

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business, but I wanted to know
to what do you tribute your success in

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building and running your business. Would
you say it's that unique way that you

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run it or is there more to
it? Well, I think that the

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unique way is the ability that the
way you utilize that So I have the

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ability to create a seamless workflow by
providing a clear vision. So words that

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work is that clear vision. That's
our why, that's what we're about.

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That's you know, that is the
identity of our company. But we also

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back that up with effective planning,
empowering others to lead through inspiration and motivation,

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as well as focusing on employee engagement
and knowing how to respond in times

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of crisis. Well, I can't
help but nod my head vigorously because they

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all those are all things that I
care about. So yes, sister,

409
00:30:04.559 --> 00:30:11.039
yes, good. All right,
Well let's get into the nitty gritty of

410
00:30:11.079 --> 00:30:12.839
helping the individual listener out there.
So, as you know, this show

411
00:30:12.920 --> 00:30:17.880
is designed to help individuals more meaningfully
and prodectly connect with their work, and

412
00:30:17.960 --> 00:30:21.240
also organizations help their employees do the
same. So you just queue that up

413
00:30:21.240 --> 00:30:25.000
beautifully with what you just said.
You mentioned on the phone, we talked

414
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that you have a chapter in your
book dedicated to our work and what it

415
00:30:26.599 --> 00:30:30.480
means to us. And in that
chapter you talk about how your work today

416
00:30:30.480 --> 00:30:34.119
doesn't necessarily have to have meaning,
how you can actually find our talents and

417
00:30:34.160 --> 00:30:37.279
find a way to make a career
from them. So I want to understand.

418
00:30:37.279 --> 00:30:41.160
It seems to me that you've got
some way to be able to help

419
00:30:41.240 --> 00:30:44.599
us find our talents. And maybe
I'm wrong, but yes, no,

420
00:30:44.799 --> 00:30:47.480
kind of sort of in the middle. I think you're I think you're completely

421
00:30:47.519 --> 00:30:49.359
on point. So I can set
this off with this. You know,

422
00:30:49.480 --> 00:30:56.400
my own short story of more than
a decade ago, when I wanted to

423
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really invest heavily in personal development,
spiritualities, self actualization, enlightenment, you

424
00:31:00.880 --> 00:31:06.119
know, whatever words you want to
use for improving yourself in all areas of

425
00:31:06.160 --> 00:31:10.640
life. I sort of began to
have this existential crisis because I mean,

426
00:31:10.720 --> 00:31:15.200
let's face it, the tax collector
in the Bible was not a popular dude.

427
00:31:15.559 --> 00:31:18.319
And so I really had to figure
out, you know, I didn't

428
00:31:18.359 --> 00:31:22.160
want to lose my career, and
I really thought, you know, I

429
00:31:22.200 --> 00:31:26.279
had to bring my personal belief system
into my work. So when I was

430
00:31:26.319 --> 00:31:30.519
able to bring myself into my career, I was able to change everything.

431
00:31:30.960 --> 00:31:33.720
And so you can simply do that. You know, today, more than

432
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ever, people are searching for meaning
in their work and the ability to make

433
00:31:37.960 --> 00:31:41.400
an impact. And this can be
found by doing a little bit of exploring

434
00:31:41.519 --> 00:31:45.599
to discover your zone of genius.
And so what I mean by that is

435
00:31:47.039 --> 00:31:49.960
what do you love to do that
you can do better than anyone else?

436
00:31:51.640 --> 00:31:55.440
And so, you know, I
sometimes post this as a question in my

437
00:31:55.480 --> 00:32:01.480
Facebook group and I will get answers
that range from creative ability to create art

438
00:32:01.960 --> 00:32:08.319
to baking the best cookies to somebody
who's you know, a rock star at

439
00:32:08.440 --> 00:32:14.960
organizing spreadsheets or organizing their day.
And it's like, figure out what your

440
00:32:15.039 --> 00:32:17.880
zone of genius is and once you
do that, and you start looking to

441
00:32:19.079 --> 00:32:22.480
match your tasks to what you're actually
good at, you can begin to see

442
00:32:22.480 --> 00:32:27.960
things in your life turn around so
quickly because you know, it becomes a

443
00:32:28.119 --> 00:32:31.000
joy to be at work instead of
something where you're just waiting for five o'clock

444
00:32:31.039 --> 00:32:35.599
to come by. Mm hmmm,
I love that. Discover your zone of

445
00:32:35.680 --> 00:32:37.880
genius. And here's what I think
is also really important, based on what

446
00:32:38.000 --> 00:32:40.680
I've done from my research to complment
what you just said there, Mary,

447
00:32:40.799 --> 00:32:44.640
is that it's one thing to be
good at something like, for example,

448
00:32:44.680 --> 00:32:46.920
I happen to be a pretty darn
good typist. Do you think I want

449
00:32:46.920 --> 00:32:52.039
to make my living typing? Now? So what I think you distinguished there

450
00:32:52.079 --> 00:32:54.200
beautifully is that you also have to
be able to get some jews from whatever

451
00:32:54.200 --> 00:32:57.920
it is that you're good at.
Right, So of course that's what Strengths

452
00:32:57.960 --> 00:33:00.640
would say too. What I have
found in my research is that the extent

453
00:33:00.680 --> 00:33:05.319
to which we either can find work
that let's us really express who we are

454
00:33:05.440 --> 00:33:08.279
at our core, our talents,
our values, whatever it is or that

455
00:33:08.359 --> 00:33:13.200
work is, you know, becomes
really an expression of how we come to

456
00:33:13.240 --> 00:33:15.640
see our purpose. And then we've
really got something here. I mean that,

457
00:33:16.279 --> 00:33:21.440
and so I don't know to one
extent that you talk about that in

458
00:33:21.440 --> 00:33:23.319
the book. Do you say much
more about about that? How to actually

459
00:33:23.440 --> 00:33:28.400
develop it into an actual offering?
Well, you know, I made this,

460
00:33:28.519 --> 00:33:30.599
Okay, what I did was I
made an entire chapter, and the

461
00:33:30.720 --> 00:33:37.319
chapter is truly about authenticity and authenticity. It's really starting to come out now,

462
00:33:37.359 --> 00:33:40.799
you know, we're talking about authenticity
and congruency more and more. But

463
00:33:40.880 --> 00:33:44.680
when I first started writing it,
the term seem kind of boring, and

464
00:33:44.720 --> 00:33:46.799
so I wanted to make it fun. And what I did was I took

465
00:33:46.799 --> 00:33:52.920
this concept of our alter ego,
like who would we be to the superhero?

466
00:33:52.680 --> 00:33:55.359
Who would be we be? Or
who are those archetypes that we admire?

467
00:33:55.799 --> 00:34:00.759
And I realized when I was going
through this writing process that mine was

468
00:34:00.799 --> 00:34:07.039
some kind of Scarlett O'Hara, and
not just Scarlett O'Hara, but Julia sugar

469
00:34:07.079 --> 00:34:14.159
Baker the terminator. Okay, how
perfect is that for a debt collector?

470
00:34:14.519 --> 00:34:19.039
Right? But you know, but
then you look at that and it's like,

471
00:34:19.320 --> 00:34:22.039
Okay, Scarlet Scarlett is business brilliant, right, I mean, she

472
00:34:22.400 --> 00:34:27.639
knows how to go after what she
wants and she always gets it like she's

473
00:34:27.800 --> 00:34:34.000
ruthless. And the thing is,
Scarlet's also constantly in a drama of one

474
00:34:34.119 --> 00:34:37.039
kind or another. You know,
someone's dying, someone's hurt. She shot

475
00:34:37.079 --> 00:34:40.000
a dude in her house. Now
she's got to bury the body, she's

476
00:34:40.000 --> 00:34:43.800
got to deliver a baby. You
know, it just never ends for her.

477
00:34:44.280 --> 00:34:49.760
And so what I realized was I
wanted to be Dorothy because Dorothy had

478
00:34:49.760 --> 00:34:54.039
the power all along. Now I'm
taking some really silly concepts here to show

479
00:34:54.119 --> 00:35:00.480
you that you truly do have some
greatness inside of you. All of us

480
00:35:00.519 --> 00:35:04.519
do. And it's when you figure
out what that greatness is and you use

481
00:35:04.639 --> 00:35:08.920
that greatness to serve the world.
So, whether you are the best second

482
00:35:08.920 --> 00:35:14.480
grade teacher that has ever lived and
you know how to inspire second grade students,

483
00:35:14.840 --> 00:35:17.000
that is going to serve the world
because when those kids grow up,

484
00:35:17.159 --> 00:35:22.400
we'll see what kind of difference they
make. Or maybe you are the best

485
00:35:23.280 --> 00:35:30.239
nurse on hospice that knows that has
a talent of easing people through their final

486
00:35:30.280 --> 00:35:37.039
stages of life. I mean,
that is a powerful gift, and I

487
00:35:37.159 --> 00:35:39.639
completely agree. I love the illustration. I love all the color. By

488
00:35:39.679 --> 00:35:42.920
the way, Mary, you can
go on for color all day long with

489
00:35:42.960 --> 00:35:45.559
me. If that's that's that's cool. I get all that. Okay,

490
00:35:45.599 --> 00:35:49.400
Now the other side of the spectrum, then for those people sitting out there

491
00:35:49.440 --> 00:35:52.280
going yeah, but yeah, but
I don't know or I feel stuck.

492
00:35:52.840 --> 00:35:55.239
What advice do you have for somebody
who feels just stuck in their career or

493
00:35:55.239 --> 00:35:59.760
they just don't really they're miserable,
they don't know what to do and they

494
00:35:59.760 --> 00:36:02.039
can't figure a way out. What
advice would you give to them? Well,

495
00:36:02.880 --> 00:36:06.960
I've done this so many times,
but my first thing to say is

496
00:36:07.320 --> 00:36:12.159
just take one step in a new
direction, just one step, even if

497
00:36:12.199 --> 00:36:15.639
it's just a baby step. Because
life is all about these series of steps

498
00:36:15.679 --> 00:36:19.880
we take. And if we go
back to the earlier, if the one

499
00:36:19.920 --> 00:36:22.639
step that you can take is do
what I did, write out one page

500
00:36:22.679 --> 00:36:29.599
of affirmations a day. Just get
yourself a ninety nine cent journal and use

501
00:36:29.840 --> 00:36:34.079
that affirmation guide that I said about
what are your asking statements, what are

502
00:36:34.119 --> 00:36:37.039
your I am statements? And then
just every morning write out that one page.

503
00:36:37.119 --> 00:36:42.840
It'll take you five to ten minutes, but I guarantee you that in

504
00:36:42.880 --> 00:36:46.639
thirty to forty five days you will
notice a tremendous shift. So that's an

505
00:36:46.679 --> 00:36:52.920
example of taking one step. Taking
another step might be writing your first blog

506
00:36:52.960 --> 00:36:58.519
post, or just even searching what
jobs are available if this needs to be

507
00:36:58.800 --> 00:37:04.440
a job change, about a step
to reach out to a coworker who might

508
00:37:04.480 --> 00:37:08.239
be able to introduce you or open
the door to another opportunity. But maybe

509
00:37:08.239 --> 00:37:13.199
you've just been too shy to reach
out to that coworker. In that very

510
00:37:13.199 --> 00:37:16.159
same chapter that we were talking about
with the awaken your alter ego, there's

511
00:37:16.199 --> 00:37:20.840
a story in there. Do you
remember the movie Fried Green Tomatoes, Yes,

512
00:37:21.000 --> 00:37:25.119
ma'am. Okay, so we talk
about in the Kathy Baby character and

513
00:37:25.280 --> 00:37:29.559
I'm so embarrassed I can't remember her
name off the top of my head,

514
00:37:29.559 --> 00:37:31.880
but she was the housewife and the
whole movie was about her. Yeah,

515
00:37:31.920 --> 00:37:37.480
and you know she gets this alter
ego of to Wanda, and when she

516
00:37:37.719 --> 00:37:43.079
puts Towanda in charge, look at
how her life changes. Yes, so

517
00:37:43.280 --> 00:37:45.920
you know, kind of tying that
back into your previous question about when you

518
00:37:46.000 --> 00:37:50.599
figure out who that superpower is.
And I love asking this question to men

519
00:37:50.639 --> 00:37:52.480
because if I say who would you
be if you were a superhero, they

520
00:37:52.519 --> 00:37:57.440
can answer immediately I would be Superman. I would be Bruce Wayne, I

521
00:37:57.440 --> 00:38:00.159
would be Tony Stark. And if
you think about it all, all of

522
00:38:00.239 --> 00:38:05.480
those characters are very different, you
know. But when you allow that inner

523
00:38:05.519 --> 00:38:08.199
to Wanda to come out, that
you begin to empower yourself. But it

524
00:38:08.239 --> 00:38:14.039
starts with just taking one step in
a new direction. Because that one little

525
00:38:14.119 --> 00:38:17.440
step for me, it was,
you know, going to my first writer's

526
00:38:17.480 --> 00:38:22.000
workshop, because prior to that,
my mantra had been, Oh, I

527
00:38:22.000 --> 00:38:23.760
want to write a book, but
I'm not a writer. Well how many

528
00:38:23.760 --> 00:38:27.559
books am I going to write?
When my mantra is I'm not a writer?

529
00:38:28.079 --> 00:38:30.559
Right right, right right? Like
zero? Yeah, no pun intended,

530
00:38:30.639 --> 00:38:34.960
yes, no pun intended. Mary, You're brilliant. I'm so I

531
00:38:35.079 --> 00:38:37.360
enjoyed this conversation and sharing with my
listeners. But here we are already time

532
00:38:37.400 --> 00:38:40.719
for a break. If you can
believe that, it just evaporates. I'm

533
00:38:40.719 --> 00:38:44.480
Alice Cortez, your host. We
run the air with Mary Shores, who

534
00:38:44.519 --> 00:38:49.599
is an entrepreneur, author, and
revolutionary founder of the groundbreaking conscious Communications system,

535
00:38:49.880 --> 00:38:53.480
which produces positive results through positive action. We've been talking about her perspective

536
00:38:53.480 --> 00:38:57.480
on how we can find our talents
and get them going in the world.

537
00:38:57.559 --> 00:39:00.599
Beautiful perspective By the way, Rik, we're going to get into her very

538
00:39:00.599 --> 00:39:17.639
interesting perspective on cleansing and clogging our
lives. Stay with us well, friend

539
00:39:17.719 --> 00:39:22.159
us on Facebook to keep up with
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00:39:24.079 --> 00:39:30.360
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541
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She will help ignite meaningful development within
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543
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545
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to We're on Purpose. Thanks for staying

558
00:41:04.000 --> 00:41:07.239
with us, and welcome back to
Working on Purpose if you're just tuning in.

559
00:41:07.320 --> 00:41:09.119
My guest is Mary Shores, who
is an entrepreneur, author, and

560
00:41:09.159 --> 00:41:15.800
revolutionary founder of the groundbreaking conscious Communication
Systems, which produces positive results through positive

561
00:41:15.840 --> 00:41:17.440
action. I loved the story that
you shared with us, by the way,

562
00:41:17.519 --> 00:41:20.960
miss Mary, about you growing up
and wanted to be a businesswoman.

563
00:41:20.960 --> 00:41:23.320
That is such a great way for
us to be able to situate you as

564
00:41:23.440 --> 00:41:30.000
a successful entrepreneur. So thank you
for sharing that most colorful story in this

565
00:41:30.159 --> 00:41:35.360
last segment. I'm very intrigued to
hear your perspective on this cleanse or clog

566
00:41:35.400 --> 00:41:37.960
idea, and I thought about it
a bit in my own life. Here

567
00:41:38.039 --> 00:41:42.000
and when we were on the phone
together, you mentioned something about choosing to

568
00:41:42.119 --> 00:41:45.559
eighty percent cleanse, and I thought
about my choice of diet, how I

569
00:41:45.599 --> 00:41:47.159
eat, how I weigh in on
the morning's, all that kind of stuff.

570
00:41:47.159 --> 00:41:51.760
So first say, for us,
you know, give us the general

571
00:41:51.840 --> 00:41:54.639
picture. What do you mean by
cleansing clog? Great, This is my

572
00:41:55.360 --> 00:42:00.719
very favorite thing to talk about,
because you know, I think that if

573
00:42:00.800 --> 00:42:05.000
you can get this, you can
make you can start to begin your transformation

574
00:42:05.159 --> 00:42:07.480
today in your life, in your
career, in your relationships, in every

575
00:42:07.480 --> 00:42:12.039
area in life. Because the truth
is, we're actually building our lives with

576
00:42:12.159 --> 00:42:16.280
every choice we make, and even
seemingly small things create a slightly different outcome.

577
00:42:16.480 --> 00:42:22.119
And once we understand the power of
choice and getting all of the parts

578
00:42:22.119 --> 00:42:25.840
of our lives in alignment, then
each choice actually has much more meaning.

579
00:42:27.239 --> 00:42:30.800
And so when I train my staff, I explain to them that every word

580
00:42:30.840 --> 00:42:34.280
you say, every action you take, everything you do is either going to

581
00:42:34.400 --> 00:42:39.280
cleanse or clog any situation that you're
having with a customer on the phone.

582
00:42:39.800 --> 00:42:45.159
And what I mean by that is
that everything is either creating a connection or

583
00:42:45.400 --> 00:42:50.800
it's driving a disconnection. And so
I eventually realized that This didn't just apply

584
00:42:51.079 --> 00:42:54.800
to business relationships and customers and clients, but that it also applied to our

585
00:42:54.840 --> 00:43:00.880
personal relationships. Like what everything you're
saying and doing in your relationship is either

586
00:43:00.960 --> 00:43:06.519
creating greater connection or driving disconnection.
It's cleansing or clogging it. And from

587
00:43:06.559 --> 00:43:09.840
there I could actually see how it
applied to every major area of our life,

588
00:43:09.880 --> 00:43:15.360
which is health, finances, career
relationships, self care, and personal

589
00:43:15.400 --> 00:43:20.119
development and so and actually much more
than that. And the idea of eighty

590
00:43:20.199 --> 00:43:23.920
twenty rule is just this super simple
way to measure, because the idea is

591
00:43:24.000 --> 00:43:29.320
not to be perfect, because perfectionism
in itself is actually a clog. But

592
00:43:29.519 --> 00:43:35.360
imagine how much your life would change
if you made cleansing connected choices eighty percent

593
00:43:35.400 --> 00:43:40.719
of the time. I see so
much empowerment in that, and I wanted

594
00:43:40.719 --> 00:43:44.519
to if we can drill down in
each of those general areas that we talked

595
00:43:44.519 --> 00:43:46.800
about it soon when we have enough
time here, let's start with the actual

596
00:43:46.840 --> 00:43:50.800
diet piece. Mary. So when
you were talking with me about that cleansing

597
00:43:50.800 --> 00:43:52.480
and clogging, you mentioned a couple
of things that would be the clogging piece.

598
00:43:52.480 --> 00:43:55.159
I would love for you to say
that again. I did go to

599
00:43:55.199 --> 00:43:59.920
my own diet. I love to
eat lean meats, a lot of vegetable.

600
00:44:00.199 --> 00:44:01.239
I don't need a lot of fruit. I don't eat a lot of

601
00:44:01.280 --> 00:44:05.440
carbs or breads or things like that, and I feel great when I eat

602
00:44:05.480 --> 00:44:08.199
like that. Will you just sort
of sketch for us the kinds of things

603
00:44:08.239 --> 00:44:10.960
that clean us for our diet and
the kinds of things that clog for us

604
00:44:10.960 --> 00:44:15.280
in our diet. It's such a
great place to start because if you could

605
00:44:15.440 --> 00:44:19.119
understand it with if you can understand
cleanser clog for diet, it's going to

606
00:44:19.159 --> 00:44:22.360
instantly click in your mind and you're
going to understand how to use this simple

607
00:44:22.400 --> 00:44:27.199
principle in every area of your life. So let's talk about, just in

608
00:44:27.280 --> 00:44:30.840
simple terms of our health and wellness, what kind of things are cleansing and

609
00:44:30.840 --> 00:44:35.280
clogging. And all you have to
do is look at a piece of food

610
00:44:35.400 --> 00:44:38.400
and ask yourself the question, if
I put this bite of food in my

611
00:44:38.559 --> 00:44:42.239
mouth, is it going to cleanse
me or is it going to clog me?

612
00:44:42.800 --> 00:44:45.840
And so if I hold up an
apple, which when I'm speaking in

613
00:44:45.880 --> 00:44:47.679
public I do. I pull out
an apple and I say okay to the

614
00:44:47.719 --> 00:44:52.039
crowd, is this going to cleanse
or clog. Well, every person knows

615
00:44:52.079 --> 00:44:57.039
that an apple is cleansing. Right. If I pull out a piece of

616
00:44:57.119 --> 00:45:00.599
chocolate lava cake and I ask the
same question, and is that going to

617
00:45:00.639 --> 00:45:05.199
cleanse your clog, then we all
know the answer is clogged. So instead

618
00:45:05.199 --> 00:45:08.960
of being on a complicated diet where
we're trying to count macros and calories and

619
00:45:09.000 --> 00:45:13.079
all of this stuff, what if
we just looked at every piece of food

620
00:45:13.199 --> 00:45:15.039
and said, if I put this
in my mouth, is it going to

621
00:45:15.119 --> 00:45:21.119
cleanse me or clog me? And
I think that even just instinctively, you'll

622
00:45:21.159 --> 00:45:25.639
know the answer. Well, I
love that it really it made something that

623
00:45:25.719 --> 00:45:30.199
I was already doing as a practice
for me Mary much more conscious and therefore

624
00:45:30.239 --> 00:45:34.079
it gave me more power to make
those choices. So I want to really

625
00:45:34.119 --> 00:45:37.000
acknowledge you for just putting that into
my life the way that you did.

626
00:45:37.440 --> 00:45:39.119
Yeah, and I want to add
I just want to add super quickly that

627
00:45:39.280 --> 00:45:45.119
in chapter five, which is the
chapter that we're giving away free, is

628
00:45:45.320 --> 00:45:47.440
there's a table in there for cleanser
clog. So it's got things on there

629
00:45:47.440 --> 00:45:52.119
as ideas. So for example,
for your health, it's very cleansing when

630
00:45:52.119 --> 00:45:54.920
you get plenty of sleep every night, So getting eight hours of sleep is

631
00:45:54.960 --> 00:45:59.880
actually a health cleanse. Getting in
your exercise, drinking lots of water,

632
00:46:00.639 --> 00:46:05.400
eating like you already mentioned before,
loading up on protein to help build muscles,

633
00:46:05.519 --> 00:46:10.760
using medicinal herbs like cilantro and oregano, taking your omega threes. Those

634
00:46:10.760 --> 00:46:16.159
are all cleansing items, whereas clog
is like eating large amounts of fried,

635
00:46:16.559 --> 00:46:22.360
frozen, frosted foods fried frozen or
frosted. Stay away from that frequently,

636
00:46:22.400 --> 00:46:25.679
consumering over the counterpills, staying up
too late and getting up too early,

637
00:46:27.119 --> 00:46:31.519
abusing alcohol or any other vices like
smoking cigars and cigarettes. I actually call

638
00:46:31.599 --> 00:46:35.960
those double dog clogs because there are
a clog to your finances and to your

639
00:46:35.960 --> 00:46:38.719
health. So I think that you
get the idea, But I just wanted

640
00:46:38.719 --> 00:46:44.239
to let the listeners know that all
of this information is actually in that free

641
00:46:44.320 --> 00:46:47.719
downloadable chapter and you can just see
the tables yourself. Love it, Mary,

642
00:46:47.920 --> 00:46:51.559
love it, absolutely love it.
Okay, good, Okay, Well,

643
00:46:51.599 --> 00:46:54.840
let's talk next about how to focus
or bring this into the world of

644
00:46:54.920 --> 00:46:59.639
money. Personal finances, cleanse your
clog. How do we use this when

645
00:46:59.639 --> 00:47:05.039
we about managing our own money?
I think that we have to look at

646
00:47:05.039 --> 00:47:08.079
our finances the same exact way when
you look at the money that's going out,

647
00:47:08.199 --> 00:47:13.559
asking yourself, is this cleansing or
clogging my finances? Is this creating?

648
00:47:13.719 --> 00:47:17.400
Is spending this money on this item
creating a stronger connection to my goals?

649
00:47:17.559 --> 00:47:21.760
Or is it driving a disconnection from
my goals? So some of the

650
00:47:21.800 --> 00:47:25.840
clogs in finances could be things like, oh, you know, spending more

651
00:47:25.920 --> 00:47:34.920
money on your cell phone bill or
your your cable or you know, sort

652
00:47:34.920 --> 00:47:42.639
of ancillary luxury services that we use. Another thing is having subscriptions of things

653
00:47:42.679 --> 00:47:45.039
that you no longer use, but
yet maybe there's like a monthly fee going

654
00:47:45.039 --> 00:47:49.280
out. You know, I noticed
I had to cancel my ancestry dot com

655
00:47:49.320 --> 00:47:51.880
account. I mean it was twenty
dollars a month and I hadn't logged in

656
00:47:51.880 --> 00:47:54.280
for three months, but yet,
you know, So that's an example of

657
00:47:54.320 --> 00:47:58.280
a clog, and a cleanse would
be, you know, making sure that

658
00:47:58.320 --> 00:48:01.280
you're investing in your four oh one
K, or you're meeting with your financial

659
00:48:01.320 --> 00:48:06.679
planner when when you're supposed to.
And sometimes we can get confusing. So

660
00:48:06.880 --> 00:48:09.400
you know, if you if you're
not sure where to spend your money,

661
00:48:09.440 --> 00:48:14.079
you can ask yourself, on a
scale of one to ten, how important

662
00:48:14.239 --> 00:48:16.679
is it to make this choice or
how important is it for you to have

663
00:48:16.760 --> 00:48:22.400
this thing? Because if it's really
what you need, then it's going to

664
00:48:22.480 --> 00:48:24.119
rank higher and you should go ahead
and get it. And that's not to

665
00:48:24.159 --> 00:48:28.280
say that you shouldn't splurge, because
again we have that eighty twenty rule,

666
00:48:28.760 --> 00:48:31.079
So twenty percent of the time,
sure splurge, get that new outfit,

667
00:48:31.119 --> 00:48:36.239
because that outfit can be a cleanse
because it's going to bring you more confidence

668
00:48:36.280 --> 00:48:39.360
in your life. Mm hmm.
There's a lot more I could drill down

669
00:48:39.400 --> 00:48:42.760
on that, because I think the
money thing is really important, But just

670
00:48:42.880 --> 00:48:45.440
really quickly, what about for the
corporate folks listening, how can they apply

671
00:48:45.519 --> 00:48:49.679
this to their corporate budgets. I
thought a lot about this, and I

672
00:48:50.320 --> 00:48:53.320
really truly loved the question, and
I sort of in my mind went through

673
00:48:53.360 --> 00:48:57.519
how I manage my you know,
I think where you got to look at

674
00:48:57.559 --> 00:49:02.159
the bottom line. Often you sometimes
tis companies spend money and in crazy ways

675
00:49:02.199 --> 00:49:07.320
and they don't even see how it
could be draining to them. So sometimes

676
00:49:07.320 --> 00:49:13.119
it's reevaluating your efficiency because you know
it's somebody touching the same process too many

677
00:49:13.159 --> 00:49:16.400
times, tightening up your work instruction
so that you could have that seamless workflow.

678
00:49:16.880 --> 00:49:22.199
And then again, you know,
looking where where is the money,

679
00:49:22.320 --> 00:49:28.519
draining what expenses have increased over the
previous year, and asking yourself if you

680
00:49:28.639 --> 00:49:34.480
really need that product or service.
Okay, I just think the clarity on

681
00:49:34.559 --> 00:49:37.400
that is just so critical. Now
coming down to the close of the hour

682
00:49:37.400 --> 00:49:40.199
here already, let's go ahead and
finish this cleansing clog. If we can

683
00:49:40.360 --> 00:49:46.400
in relationships, how can we use
this idea in our relationships? Relationships I

684
00:49:46.400 --> 00:49:50.920
think is one of the most important
areas to use it. I have a

685
00:49:50.960 --> 00:49:54.480
section in the book called by Your
Evil Tongues, which is an old Jewish

686
00:49:54.840 --> 00:50:01.440
concept called Losanharra, where it's a
really interesting seeing concept about how we speak

687
00:50:01.480 --> 00:50:06.199
about other people to other people.
So we want to you know, everything

688
00:50:06.199 --> 00:50:09.880
in our lives is predicated by the
quality of our relationships. So some cleansing

689
00:50:10.079 --> 00:50:15.360
is you know, preparing meals together
is very cleansing to a relationship. A

690
00:50:15.440 --> 00:50:21.760
clog would be lacking empathy to that
other person, cleanses spending quality time together.

691
00:50:22.039 --> 00:50:24.719
The clog is fault finding. You
know, if you feel yourself about

692
00:50:24.719 --> 00:50:29.079
to lash out to your partner and
you know, and you just stop for

693
00:50:29.119 --> 00:50:31.920
a second and you think, is
that going to cleanse or clog my relationship?

694
00:50:32.559 --> 00:50:36.119
You know? I tell everyone,
everyone who will listen to me,

695
00:50:36.199 --> 00:50:38.760
I say, you know what,
when you're driving home from work, don't

696
00:50:38.800 --> 00:50:43.000
take that phone call from your mother, your sister, your best friend who

697
00:50:43.039 --> 00:50:46.320
you know is just going to get
on the phone and complain to you about

698
00:50:46.320 --> 00:50:51.639
their day, because you need that
ten or fifteen minutes to have that sort

699
00:50:51.679 --> 00:50:55.719
of downtime to reset before you walk
into your house with your family members.

700
00:50:55.760 --> 00:50:59.440
You know, you need your nervous
system to calm down for a moment.

701
00:51:00.079 --> 00:51:02.840
Mm hmmmmmmm. So get that Mary. Oh my gosh, this has been

702
00:51:02.960 --> 00:51:07.280
such an incredible conversation here and there's
so much more I could ask you,

703
00:51:07.320 --> 00:51:10.519
And as you're saying, maybe will
do this again. But the last thing

704
00:51:10.519 --> 00:51:14.239
I want you to talk about quickly
if you can, is the weak action

705
00:51:14.440 --> 00:51:20.239
plan. What is it and how
do you recommend listeners use it? So

706
00:51:20.280 --> 00:51:23.400
it's what I What I have is
what I call a one page action plan,

707
00:51:24.199 --> 00:51:29.360
and what that is is it's an
action plan that's just written out in

708
00:51:29.400 --> 00:51:32.159
the simplest of terms. We were
talking about goal setting before, and it

709
00:51:32.199 --> 00:51:36.920
really supports that. So you start
with a goal. One of the ones

710
00:51:36.960 --> 00:51:39.159
that I did was I wanted to
hire six people. So my end result

711
00:51:39.199 --> 00:51:44.119
goal was I wanted to hire six
people for the job who were, you

712
00:51:44.119 --> 00:51:45.559
know, the correct people for the
job, and they were looking for long

713
00:51:45.679 --> 00:51:52.199
term employment and like minded individuals.
And then I just reverse engineer that goal.

714
00:51:52.480 --> 00:51:53.880
So the first thing that I'm going
to do is I'm going to say,

715
00:51:54.159 --> 00:51:58.760
what are six things that need to
be true in order to get that

716
00:51:58.840 --> 00:52:04.320
particular goal. And this works with
any goal. And once in the six

717
00:52:04.400 --> 00:52:09.320
things were something like where to advertise? I need to advertise correctly. We

718
00:52:09.360 --> 00:52:13.519
wanted to go through There was this
thing we call the how of Wow,

719
00:52:13.639 --> 00:52:16.440
which is all about the impression that
your front end area makes. So we

720
00:52:16.480 --> 00:52:21.119
wanted to look at how our front
end office looked. So that went on

721
00:52:21.159 --> 00:52:24.119
as one of the six things I
created. I needed to create a hiring

722
00:52:24.159 --> 00:52:28.440
team, and I put five people
on the hiring team. So it was

723
00:52:28.480 --> 00:52:30.440
just things like this, and then
for each one of those six bullet points,

724
00:52:30.800 --> 00:52:35.280
I come up with three action items
for each one of the six,

725
00:52:36.880 --> 00:52:42.639
So now I've got eighteen action items
and those eighteen action items become the one

726
00:52:42.679 --> 00:52:46.679
page action plan. Oh my gosh, Mary, that was gorgeous. So

727
00:52:46.840 --> 00:52:51.239
Crisp, just let me give you
a chance here to have the funnel word,

728
00:52:51.280 --> 00:52:53.239
if you will, before I take
the listeners to your website, et

729
00:52:53.280 --> 00:52:57.119
cetera. So in a minute or
so, what would you like to leave

730
00:52:57.159 --> 00:53:00.280
our listeners with? Well, and
I want to mention quickly too, that

731
00:53:00.360 --> 00:53:04.559
the one page action plan is actually
in the Ignite your Dreams download with all

732
00:53:04.599 --> 00:53:07.920
the instructions so you can have a
print out of it and the instructions of

733
00:53:07.960 --> 00:53:10.679
how to do it, And what
I'd really love to leave to your listeners

734
00:53:10.840 --> 00:53:16.000
is just again to say that you
can begin to transform your life today in

735
00:53:16.079 --> 00:53:22.159
any area that you need to your
career, your finances, your relationships by

736
00:53:22.199 --> 00:53:28.159
simply understanding the impact and the power
of every single choice that you're making and

737
00:53:28.599 --> 00:53:32.199
just asking yourself simple questions like will
this cleanse or will it clog? And

738
00:53:32.519 --> 00:53:37.199
you know on the time that you
need extra support. It's definitely a great

739
00:53:37.239 --> 00:53:42.559
idea to look at your communication with
yourself, that self talk that we were

740
00:53:42.599 --> 00:53:45.639
talking about in the beginning. Beautiful
way to finish, Mary, thank you

741
00:53:45.719 --> 00:53:50.880
so much for joining us today and
sharing your passion, your perspective, your

742
00:53:50.920 --> 00:53:53.400
expertise. It has been wonderful to
have you here with us. It's been

743
00:53:53.440 --> 00:53:58.039
wonderful to be here. If you
want to learn more about Mary Shores and

744
00:53:58.079 --> 00:54:01.199
the work she does, visit her
website. It's Maryshores dot com. M

745
00:54:01.280 --> 00:54:07.199
A R Y S h O r
e S. Next week, we'll be

746
00:54:07.199 --> 00:54:09.400
on the air with Jamie Henson talking
about her work helping leaders who embrace the

747
00:54:09.400 --> 00:54:14.920
differences between genders in an age of
disruption. Her book is called Expanding the

748
00:54:14.920 --> 00:54:19.960
Conversation because real leaders leverage gender differences
to create a competitive advantage in business.

749
00:54:20.360 --> 00:54:22.280
See you then remember that workers month
of our life. So let's work on

750
00:54:22.320 --> 00:54:32.400
Purpose. We hope you've enjoyed this
week's program. Be sure to tune into

751
00:54:32.519 --> 00:54:37.800
Working on Purpose featuring your host Elise
Cortes, every Wednesday at six pm Eastern

752
00:54:37.840 --> 00:54:43.440
Time three pm Pacific Time on the
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753
00:54:43.639 --> 00:54:45.760
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