Conscious Communication and the Choice to Cleanse or Clog Our Lives

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There are some people that make their
work just another thing they have to do,

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and there are those that make their
work something that they want to do.

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Welcome to Working on Purpose with your
host Elise Cortez. In our program,

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we provide guidance and inspiration from those
people who have found deeper meaning and

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personal connection to their work life.
It's beyond nine to five. It's working

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on purpose. Now Here is your
host, Elise Cortez. Welcome back to

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Working on Purpose. Thanks for tuning
in again this week. I'm your host,

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Elise Cortez, joining you from Dallas, Texas, which is home base

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for me. This program is all
about helping people more meaningfully and productively connect

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with their work and equipping organizations do
the same for their employees. It was

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originally inspired by the meaning in work
research I've been doing over the last fifteen

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years and now compliments the work that
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service and survival while serving in the
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with an amputated leg who still manages
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out of airplanes and running marathons among
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single father to three boys and now
is on a mission to help people embrace

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their own adversity and serve others to
find purpose in their lives and work.

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I walked out of that conversation thinking
I have zero excuse not to go one

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hundred percent from my goals. Nothing
has holding me back. Great conversation with

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us this week is Mary Shores,
who is a successful entrepreneur, author,

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and revolutionary founder of the groundbreaking Conscious
Communications system, which produces positive results through

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positive action. She has spent over
a decade teaching businesses and individuals how to

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inspire others create new ways of thinking
I achieve their goals and take action to

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create truly meaningful results. Today,
we'll be talking about her work in conscious

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communication and how we can use it
to get better results at work, her

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perspective on how we can identify our
talents to change a career she would be

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so inclined, and her fascinating concept
of cleansing or clogging various aspects of our

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lives. She joined us today from
Champagne, Illinois. Mary, Welcome to

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Working on Purpose. Thank you,
Alisa, I'm so excited to be here

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today. I am too, and
if I have it right, I believe

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that we found each other on Twitter, which is where I seem to find

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a lot of my guests, So
thank you again Twitter. There are several

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things Mary, I wish I had
more than an hour with you, and

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as we discussed before the show went
on the air, maybe we can do

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this again. But I want to
start the conversation with your whole idea of

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conscious communication. So first, how
did you become interested in conscious communications communication?

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I think first arise in just my
own wanting to make a shift in

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my business. So I really noticed
how many people would call my office and

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they might be super frustrated at the
end of the call. And so it

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started with a simple goal of I
want to know how can I make people

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happier by the end of the call, happier than they were when they very

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first called in. Now the twist
to this is when you understand that I

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own a collection agency, so we
don't think of deck collectors in terms of

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like, let's try to make people
happy. But that's really that, really

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is how it began. M.
Okay, we're going to die more into

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that now. The next thing I
want to understand, of course, is

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want to get We want to get
into the terminology itself. So what do

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you mean by conscious communication? Conscious
communications is simply a guide to help you

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harness the power of your words to
change your mind, your choices, and

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your life. And it's back both
by modern science, ancient spirituality and everything

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in between. M just sounds yummy. Okay. Now, when you when

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I spoke on the phone, you
said, and I think this is on

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your website too, that there's this
notion of the neuroscience behind communication. So

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help us understand what do you mean
by the neuroscience behind this concept? So

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I like to describe this because I
believe that a lot of these sciences can

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get complicated, especially when we talk
about neuroscience, because neuroscience can mean a

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lot of things. But basically,
you know, we understand the concept that

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we have a conscious mind that lies
in our prefrontal cortex, and this is

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where you know, this is where
our conscious thought lies. But then we

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also have our subconscious, which which
we don't tap into, and our subconscious

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is built up of all of these
sort of repetitive thoughts and all of our

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old belief systems that we may not
even be aware of. I mean,

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some of them are obvious, like
you know, you should eat eggs for

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breakfast because that's breakfast food. You
know, that's an obvious belief, but

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you may have a barrier belief or
a limiting belief that you're not even aware

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of. So neuroscience is just the
science behind how I know that we can

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use our words to change our mind, change our choices, and change our

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life. And a simple way that
I use to start describing this is by

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talking about the frequency scale of emotions. That basically, everything we say or

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do is going to either move us
up or down the frequency scale, depending

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on what triggers our nervous system.
Because our nervous system is being impacted all

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day, every day by everything we
see, touch here, you know,

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all through our senses. Right.
So when our nervous system notices something,

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then it's going to release a set
of chemicals and that is actually coming from

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the hopothalmus signals in our brain what
chemicals to release. So, for example,

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if a stressful situation comes our way, we're going to be we're going

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to start to release adrenaline and cortisol, right because we're going to be in

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our fight or flight system. Whereas
if we know that we're getting ready to

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watch a movie, then we're going
to be activating our parasympathetic nervous system and

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we're going to be releasing more relaxing
hormones. But I think that what we

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don't understand is this impact of how
this is happening at every moment of every

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day. And so that's one part
of the neuroscience and the other part is

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just through that the words we use, the actions that we take. There's

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this concept of alignment that we need
to get our thoughts, our feelings,

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our words, our choices, our
actions all in alignment with what we want.

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And that's when we can really get
that neuroscience working to connect us to

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the life of our dreams because the
words we say are in a sense,

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writing a program in that subconscious mind. Wow, you are so Chris talk

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about conscious communication. You are so
crisp and how you talk Mary. I

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know that you know that, but
I just got to say it. It's

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gorgeous. Well, thank you,
because sometimes I think I'm just you know,

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you just never know. So I
appreciate that. Okay, good,

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Well, here's what I want to
do next. I for our listener's sake,

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I want to queue up a few
instances of how you would describe maybe

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ineffective communication, then also where it's
actually effective, and then I want you

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to actually talk about how you help
become more conscious to all this, because

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when I hear you talk about all
this stuff, Mary, it sounds to

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me like, how in the world
can we possibly get a handle on this

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and actually become conscious and effectively utilize
our communication. So first, and it

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is fascinating for me to frame that
you've identified this notion, this concept as

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a very professional debt collector. Now, so just that is quite an interesting

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of itself. I think that platform
is something to it. But some examples,

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Mary of ineffective communication that maybe we're
just not considering that maybe we do

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frequently, or that you've seen that
happen that our listeners might identify with.

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It would show them this doesn't actually
work. So I think that the first

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one and the most obvious one is
negative speech patterns in general. So this

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would be through our self talk or
you know, the committee in your head

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that's constantly running telling criticizing you,
and telling you how wrong you are in

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you know, it could look like, oh my gosh, I'm so stupid.

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Why did I choose that I made
such a huge mistake? You know

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those That is the most obvious answer
to me. But there's also disempowering speech

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with others. So like, for
example, one evening it was Halloween time,

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I was out to dinner with a
group of friends and we were we

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were at a restaurant. It was
a nice restaurant, and one of the

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girls looked at the menu and she
just said, too rich for my blood.

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So that's a really great example of
disempowering speech. Too rich for my

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blood. So if you hear your
friends say that, what does it mean

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to me? It sounds like the
menu is above her station in life.

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Exactly she is not, and by
the way, it wasn't and everything was

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half price, so it was like
a half you know when you go to

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happy hour and everything was half price, right, But what to me it

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looked like was I was staring in
the mind of I was staring in her

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subconscious mind, and I was understanding
that she didn't feel worthy of that restaurant,

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of that food, because you know, certain restaurants might have a reputation

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of being like a nice restaurant,
but quite honestly, I mean the prices

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weren't expensive at all. They were
no different than your local chain restaurants.

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But that was such a mirror inside
of her mind. So you know,

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or I'll never get what I want, or you know that that I'm not

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good enough for that job or that
person, or you know, these are

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disempowering speech patterns, and we don't
really recognize the the fact that those words

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have on our belief system. So
every time she says the phrase too rich

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for my blood, what she's doing
is she's reinforcing that neural network in her

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subconscious mind, that is the belief
system that for whatever reason, she is

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not worthy of that menum. What
a great example when I hear you talk,

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Mary, one of the things that's
going through in my mind to try

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to make sense of what you're saying
is in our world, our business,

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we use this this notion of foreground
and background conversation. So the foreground is

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what actually shows up and is actually
spoken between people, and the background is

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what informs all of that. And
so you might think about it like a

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movie where if you're watching a movie, you see all of the action happening,

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and that's the foreground, But the
musics that's playing in the background,

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and some of the subtle ways that
color is displayed across the screen is the

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background that informs how you take in
that foreground conversation. Is that at all

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related to what you're talking about it? Okay, that's brilliant, I love

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it. Okay, okay, great, Well, how about an example of

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speech that does include conscious communication that
really gets to more of an effective place.

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Well, I love this question because
it allows me to get to the

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heart of it all. And I'm
going to quickly mention five things. And

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these five things are self talk,
spoken word, affirmations, goals, and

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gratitude. So self talk is obvious, you know, because it exists in

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our in our conscious mind and our
subconscious mind. So it's those things that

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we tell yourself on a day to
day basis. And so you know,

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as your producer was queuing up the
show, he told you his mantra of

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I work on purpose. That's a
perfect example of if that's his self talk,

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that's a really effective self talk to
make that a reality. And in

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too, if we look at if
we think about neural networks in our subconscious

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mind as little highways, and that
every time you use self talk in the

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positive or in the powering way,
you're actually like performing maintenance on that highway,

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because what happens if we don't keep
up that road maintenance, you know,

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the road falls apart. We also
have spoken words because what you talk

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about kind of like what you are
saying foreground and background. So what you

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speak about is a mirror of what's
inside your subconscious mind. So in order

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to immerse yourself in the life you
want to create, you must deliberately align

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your speech with what you want to
affirm to be true in your life.

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You can do this using affirmations,
because an affirmation is the same thing as

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a declaration, and you are starting
that what you want to be true is

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true through the creation and repetition of
words or phrases. So affirmations are a

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great tool to reprogram your mind.
And I have a lot of stuff that

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I write, like I wrote a
three step process to creating rocking affirmations because

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people can be sensitive. You know, I'm not suggesting that you use an

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affirmation that isn't true or you feel
like you're lying to yourself, but there

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is a method to actually create really
good, workable affirmations. The next one

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is goals, and goals is one
of my favorites because there's plenty of scientific

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research out there that says the difference
between people who achieve success in life and

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those who do not is that high
achievers regularly write down goals for themselves and

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then create a plan to make those
goals happen. And there's just some sort

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of magical thing that happens between your
brain and that pen when you write down

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a goal. And then finally,
but maybe even the most impactful is having

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gratitude. So having a gratitude practice, believe it or not, actually rewires

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your brain to look for more things
to be grateful for in your life.

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Okay, I love this I want
to go. I want to drill down

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on two other things that you said, if I can, please Mary,

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absolutely. The first thing I want
to get to is the idea of goals.

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I am a very goal oriented human
being. In fact, achiever is

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my number one gallop strength. Now
here's what I think is really important about

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you said. Though you said that
you need to also be able to plan

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the goals. You can't. It's
not enough just to list the goal out.

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I want to achieve this, You've
got a plan for it. Can

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you say a little bit more about
that planning that makes it effective? So

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you know what I do is I
create these one page action plans. And

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I know that we're going to talk
about that in a later segment, so

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we can even talk about like how
to create just a small action plan for

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yourself. Because just having a goal
of I want to lose twenty pounds or

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I want to make X amount of
money, or you know, I want

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to take a trip, unless you
actually start taking steps towards that goal,

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well it's just not going to happen. M I got it, okay,

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beautiful. I just I really wanted
to emphasize that for myself and for our

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listeners. On the second thing I
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of affirmation. I'm so glad that
you said what you said about I'm not

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suggesting that you affirm for yourself something
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I know that there's so much talk
about affirmation out there and positive speak,

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and I want to make sure that
we clarify for our listeners your true intentionality

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of how you use affirmation away from
just say it's going to be okay,

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it'll be okay kind of things.
That's not what you're saying. So I

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actually created different types of affirmations because
and I can give them to you really

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quickly, because I like this thing. And this is just a joke,

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so but I call certain people the
law of attraction language police. And these

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are the people who, every time
you say something, they correct what you

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said. Do you know what I'm
talking about? Yes, I do,

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okay, And I think that's just
so funny. So I just say that

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just as a joke to make fun
of people who are constantly correcting your language,

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because I disbelieve that whatever those higher
powers are, they really understand what

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you truly want. And it's really
the intention behind the affirmation. That's important,

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right, So why have this extra
stress of trying to get your words

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perfect? I mean, that's not
the point. So what we've got is

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we want to get rid of the
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These are expressions of criticism of yourself
or others, like we talked about before,

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saying I'm so stupid, or I
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should do this, or I'm going
to try. Okay, the words try

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and should are just a complete waste
of your breast. So let's just try

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to eliminate that as a disempowering affirmation. But let's talk about the words that

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work, which are releasing statements.
So releasing statements are powerful statements that you

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that you are declaring what you will
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again. So it could be something
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That is a perfect releasing statement,
and I don't care that it has

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the word not in it or you
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about with this the language police.
So mine is I release my fear of

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abandonment, and then I follow that
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something like I release my fear of
abandonment. I am surrounded by unconditional love

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and support. So we can we
have I AM statements. So I AM

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statements declare the qualities, personality,
traits, the lifestyle, the choices and

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values that you want to embody in
your life. So you know, what

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did you say yours? Was I
am achiever? I am high achiever.

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Yes, that's a great I AM
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powerful manifesto and I can, I
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I actually wrote a list of one
hundred I AM statements, and for one

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year straight, I wrote one page
of affirmations a day, So I truly

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am the affirmation Queen. And then
I love asking statements. So asking statements

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you don't have to you know,
you don't have to say I have my

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dream job when I don't even have
a job, because that doesn't That feels

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incongruent and it doesn't feel like your
truth, right, So asking statements would

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say, guide me to be at
the right place at the right time to

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find my dream job. Oh,
Mary, that is a great way.

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Yes, yes it does. And
what I love about what you did is

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you distinguished so beautifully just what I
was trying to get you to distinguish,

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which is what's you know, what
people might say is, oh, roll

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the eyes. Affirmation statements, you
distinguished, how you do that in a

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beautiful, powerful way and then positioning
the ass statement behind it. It is

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so much more crisp and robust and
powerful, I think than what maybe listeners

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might think they know about affirmation statements, because it's about the intention. So

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if I say, help me be
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to find my dream job. To
me that makes me feel good inside my

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body, that creates the feel good
chemicals. Let's go back to that neurobiology,

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right, that's going to create vasopresent, that's going to create dopamine and

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sterot tonin. But if I say, oh, I'm living my dream job

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and I'm on the unemployment line,
now, I've just lied to myself and

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I'm creating us all an adrenaline and
things that are anxiety producing. So another

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one might be show me my power, guide me to thoughts that are in

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harmony with my core desires. Oh
I love this, Mary and my personal

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growth. You know I have thousands
of these, So I just I love

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asking statements, and I don't think
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true. So I just believe that
I'm asking for what I want in an

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empowering way, like help me,
help me rendezvous with like minded people today.

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That one pays off for me every
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us into our first break, Mary, Already time flies when we're having fun.

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conscious communications system, which produces positive
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Thanks for staying with us, and
welcome back to working on Purpose if you're

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just joining us. My guest is
Mary Scharz, who is successful entrepreneur,

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author, and a revolutionary founder of
the ground baking conscious Communication system, which

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produces positive results through positive action.
Before the break, we were just finishing

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her conversation or her perspective on conscious
communication. I just wanted to give you

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a chance, Mary, to complete
any thoughts or add anything else that you

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wanted to know about that before we
move on to the next topic. Well,

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I'm just really thrilled to share this
information. And I know that if

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people can start applying even one of
these things in their life, they will

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start to see pretty dramatic changes in
about forty five days and so especially on

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the gratitude just like having a daily
gratitude practice for forty five days, you

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start to notice some shifts in your
life. Wonderful. Thank you for that

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gift, Mary, And speaking of
gifts, I don't always get this with

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my guests. But you reached out
and said that you had a couple of

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things that you wanted to offer two
gifts in the way of our listenership here.

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So, at the risk of avoiding
me messing up those gifts, would

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you just share with us what are
the gifts you'd like to offer the listeners

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and how do they get a hold
of them. Great, Yeah, we

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have a free offer right now.
I have a personal development workbook that I

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wrote. It's called Ignite Your Dreams, and it's basically like a five day

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personal development challenge. So we are
able to give this away free to your

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listeners. It's a twenty six page
full color workbook. It's absolutely stunningly beautiful.

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And in order to get that,
they can just go to my website

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Mary Shores dot com, click on
the button that says Ignite your Dreams,

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and if they opt in to get
our email newsletter, which is called Fearless

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Ambition, they'll get that workbook.
And then what comes along with that is

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free coaching that I do in my
Facebook group that's called the Fearless Ambition Facebook

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group, so they can share the
results in the Facebook group and it's a

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lot of fun. And in addition
to that, because we are in the

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middle of our book launch period right
now. So I have a book coming

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out with Hayhouse and it launches on
August twenty second, which means it's in

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pre sale period right now. So
what we're doing is anyone who presales the

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book, or anyone who pre orders
the book, they will get another free

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workbook that I wrote, called Dream
with a Deadline. We've had over twenty

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eight thousand people download this book with
amazing results. In fact, I just

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got a message from someone today telling
me that doing this book absolutely changed her

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life, in her career and everything
in between. So we're really proud of

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that book. And if you do
a pre order, you'll get that,

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plus you'll get actually a pre sneak
peek of chapter five, which is what

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we're talking about here today, which
is cleanser clog is one of the big

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topics we're talking about. So of
course we want everyone to order the book,

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and we're also going to give them
a free daily Desires diary journal page.

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Lovely Mary, it's very generous,
thank you for that. And again,

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I most my guests don't often give
those kinds of things away, so

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I want you to know how much
we appreciate that. It is very generous

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and certainly when you're willing to give
your knowledge and your gift away, it's

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just it's a beautiful thing. So, speaking of gratitude, thank you.

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Oh you're so welcome. You know, I've been an expert in personal development

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for ten years, so it's just
absolutely my pleasure to share these gifts.

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Wonderful. Well, let's talk next
if we can, about discovering talent.

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You know, of course that the
name of my show is working on purpose,

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and then I am keenly interested in
and help people define ways to do

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work that is more meaningful to them, that helps them feel more actualized,

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agentic, all those kinds of things. So first let's ground ourselves in the

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conversation. You have a very successful
collections business, and I first want to

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understand how did you get into that
line of work? And you talk about

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your business being unique. What makes
it unique? Well, ever since I

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was a little girl, I always
always wanted to be a businesswoman. So

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when all the other little girls in
the neighborhood wanted to play house, I

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just wanted to play bank. And
what that looked like was I had in

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my garage, those garage sale tables
set up, and we didn't have printers

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and things like that back in these
days. It was the eighties. So

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I would draw up fake money on
notebook or copy paper and cut it all

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up, and I made all these
accounts for all the neighborhood kids and they

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had to drive through in my garage, and they would all have to drive

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through the garage and play pretend bank
with on their tricycles and bicycles and big

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wheels, if you remember big wheels. So I always just knew I was

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going to be a businesswoman. My
parents actually owned a collection agency when I

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was growing up, so I'm a
second generation debt collector, and that's how

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I got into the actual collection business. And what makes our company super unique

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is that I created my own method
of collections that I use, which is

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called words that Work, and Words
that Work is comes from my mission of

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wanting people to feel good about paying
their debt, because so often collections these

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days has become a punitive situation where
it's you know, just punishing and based

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on shame and intimidation and anxiety,
and I really wanted to reverse that.

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So my plan was, I want
people to feel good about paying a debt,

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because having a debt is a psychological
burden that's in that subconscious mind,

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right, and that burden is going
to actually put a wedge. It's going

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to build a brick wall in between
the person who owes the money and their

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dreams. So I see my jobs
as wanting to facilitate them to feel good

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and empower themselves to pay their debt
versus feeling like their shame and anxiety to

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kind of use fear to get someone
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is completely wrong. So that is
our method. It's called word set work.

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It's based on three rules and three
steps. And the three rules are

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really simple. We have a do
not say list, which our words like

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no, not, can't, won't, however and unfortunately, And the second

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rule is you replace them with words
network, which are seings like what I

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can do for you today is or
I want to assure you that this is

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going to be okay. And then
the third rule is you always say what

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you can do instead of what you
can't do. So it's just really simple,

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and now I'm even teaching it to
other large debt collection agencies because my

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true dream is to change the face
of collections in this country period. Remarkable,

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Mary, remarkable, talk about working
on purpose. I'm blown away bout

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what you just said. And I
love that. I completely embrace that.

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And I had a question I wanted
to ask you when you may have just

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answered in the way you describe how
you do your business, but I wanted

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to know to what you tribute your
success in building and running your business.

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Would you say it's that unique way
that you run it or is there more

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to it? Well, I think
that the unique way is the ability that

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the way you utilize that. So
I have the ability to create a seamless

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workflow by providing a clear vision.
So word that work is that clear vision.

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That's our why, that's what we're
about. That's you know, that

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is the identity of our company.
But we also back that up with effective

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planning, empowering others to lead through
inspiration and motivation, as well as focusing

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on employee engagement and knowing how to
respond in times of crisis. Well,

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I can't help but nod my head
vigorously because those are all things that I

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care about. So yes, sister, yes, good, All right,

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Well, let's get into the nitty
gritty of helping the individual listener out there.

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So, as you know, this
show is designed to help individuals more

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meaningfully and productally connect with their work, and also organizations help their employees do

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the same. So you just cued
that up beautifully with what you just said.

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You mentioned on the phone, we
talked that you have a chapter in

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your book dedicated to our work and
what it means to us. And in

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that chapter you talk about how your
work today doesn't necessarily have to have meaning,

415
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how you can actually find our talents
and find a way to make a

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career from them. So I want
to understand. It seems to me that

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you've got some way to be able
to help us find our talents. And

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maybe men wrong, but yes,
no, kind of sort of in the

419
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middle. I think. I think
you're completely on point. So I can

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set this off with this. You
know, my own short story of more

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than a decade ago, when I
wanted to really invest heavily in personal development,

422
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spirituality, self actualization, enlightenment,
you know, whatever words you want

423
00:31:03.039 --> 00:31:07.920
to use for improving yourself in all
areas of life. I sort of began

424
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to have this existential crisis because I
mean, let's face it, the tax

425
00:31:11.799 --> 00:31:15.640
collector in the Bible was not a
popular dude. And so I really had

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to figure out, you know,
I didn't want to lose my career,

427
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and I really thought, you know, I had to bring my personal belief

428
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system into my work. So when
I was able to bring myself into my

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career, I was able to change
everything. And so you can simply do

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that. You know, today,
more than ever, people are searching for

431
00:31:36.039 --> 00:31:38.680
meaning in their work and the ability
to make an impact. And this can

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be found by doing a little bit
of exploring to discover your zone of genius.

433
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And so what I mean by that
is what do you love to do

434
00:31:48.839 --> 00:31:52.720
that you can do better than anyone
else? And so, you know,

435
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I sometimes post this as a question
in my Facebook group and I will get

436
00:31:56.559 --> 00:32:06.279
answers that range from creative ability to
create art to baking the best cookies to

437
00:32:06.599 --> 00:32:13.240
somebody who's you know, a rock
star at organizing spreadsheets or organizing their day.

438
00:32:13.480 --> 00:32:15.599
And it's like, figure out what
your zone of genius is. And

439
00:32:15.720 --> 00:32:21.240
once you do that and you start
looking to match your tasks to what you're

440
00:32:21.279 --> 00:32:24.079
actually good at, you can begin
to see things in your life turn around

441
00:32:24.440 --> 00:32:29.400
so quickly, because you know,
it becomes a joy to be at work

442
00:32:29.519 --> 00:32:32.279
instead of something where you're just waiting
for five o'clock to come by. M

443
00:32:34.039 --> 00:32:37.599
I love that. Discover your zone
of genius. And here's what I think

444
00:32:37.640 --> 00:32:39.599
is also really important, based on
what I've done from my research to comproment

445
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what you just said there, Mary, is that it's one thing to be

446
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good at something like, for example, I happen to be a pretty darn

447
00:32:45.759 --> 00:32:49.559
goood typist. Do you think I
want to make my living typing? Now?

448
00:32:50.359 --> 00:32:52.599
So what I think you distinguish their
beautifully is that you also have to

449
00:32:52.640 --> 00:32:55.079
be able to get some jews from
whatever it is that you're good at.

450
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Right, So of course that's what
Strengths would say too. What I have

451
00:33:00.039 --> 00:33:02.319
found in my research is that the
extent to which we either confine work that

452
00:33:02.400 --> 00:33:06.880
let's us really express who we are
at our core, our talents, our

453
00:33:06.960 --> 00:33:10.720
values, whatever it is or that
work is, you know, becomes really

454
00:33:10.799 --> 00:33:15.519
an expression of how we come to
see our purpose, then we've really got

455
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something here. I mean that.
And so I don't know to one extent

456
00:33:19.599 --> 00:33:22.160
that you talk about that in the
book, do you say much more about

457
00:33:22.200 --> 00:33:27.559
about that ty to actually develop it
into an actual offering, well, you

458
00:33:27.599 --> 00:33:30.359
know, I made this, Okay, what I did was I made an

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entire chapter, and the chapter is
truly about authenticity and authenticity. It's really

460
00:33:36.319 --> 00:33:38.759
starting to come out now, you
know, we're talking about authenticity and and

461
00:33:39.079 --> 00:33:43.599
congruency more and more. But when
I first started writing it, the terms

462
00:33:43.599 --> 00:33:45.640
seemed kind of boring, and so
I wanted to make it fun. And

463
00:33:45.720 --> 00:33:50.680
what I did was I took this
concept of our alter ego, like who

464
00:33:50.720 --> 00:33:53.160
would we be? Choose a superhero? Who would who would be we'd be?

465
00:33:53.319 --> 00:33:58.119
Or who are those archetypes that we
admire? And I realized when I

466
00:33:58.160 --> 00:34:02.000
was going through this writing process that
mine was some kind of Scarlett O'Hara,

467
00:34:04.920 --> 00:34:12.119
and not just Scarlett O'Hara, but
Julia sugar Baker the Terminator. Okay,

468
00:34:12.159 --> 00:34:16.800
how perfect is that for a debt
collector? But you know, but then

469
00:34:16.840 --> 00:34:21.679
you look at that and it's like, okay, Scarlet, Scarlett is business

470
00:34:21.719 --> 00:34:23.719
brilliant, right, I mean,
she knows how to go after what she

471
00:34:23.800 --> 00:34:29.559
wants and she always gets it,
like she's ruthless. And the thing is,

472
00:34:30.000 --> 00:34:35.719
Scarlett's also constantly in a drama of
one kind or another. You know,

473
00:34:35.880 --> 00:34:38.239
someone's dying someone's hurt. She shot
a dude in her house. Now

474
00:34:38.280 --> 00:34:42.239
she's got to bury the body,
she's got to deliver a baby. You

475
00:34:42.280 --> 00:34:45.800
know, it just never ends for
her. And so what I realized was

476
00:34:45.039 --> 00:34:51.840
I wanted to be Dorothy because Dorothy
had the power all along. Now I'm

477
00:34:51.840 --> 00:34:58.480
taking some really silly concepts here to
show you that you truly do have some

478
00:34:58.599 --> 00:35:01.159
greatness inside of you. All of
us do. And it's when you figure

479
00:35:01.199 --> 00:35:06.559
out what that greatness is and you
use that greatness to serve the world.

480
00:35:06.960 --> 00:35:12.119
So, whether you are the best
second grade teacher that has ever lived and

481
00:35:12.159 --> 00:35:15.760
you know how to inspire second grade
students, that is going to serve the

482
00:35:15.800 --> 00:35:19.440
world because when those kids grow up, we'll see what kind of difference they

483
00:35:19.480 --> 00:35:27.480
make. Or maybe you are the
best nurse on hospice that knows that has

484
00:35:27.519 --> 00:35:30.760
a talent of easing people through their
final stages of life. I mean,

485
00:35:30.800 --> 00:35:38.440
that is a powerful gift, and
I completely agree. I love the illustration.

486
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I love all the color. By
the way, Mary, you can

487
00:35:40.480 --> 00:35:44.320
go on for color all day long
with me, if that's that's cool.

488
00:35:45.519 --> 00:35:47.000
I get all that. Okay,
Now the other side of the spectrum,

489
00:35:47.000 --> 00:35:50.480
then, for those people sitting out
there going yeah, but yeah, but

490
00:35:50.599 --> 00:35:53.159
I don't know or I feel stuck. What advice do you have for somebody

491
00:35:53.159 --> 00:35:57.639
who feels just stuck in their career
or they just don't really they're miserable,

492
00:35:57.719 --> 00:36:00.920
they don't know what to do,
and they can't figure out a way out.

493
00:36:00.960 --> 00:36:04.519
What advice would you give to them? Well, I've done this so

494
00:36:04.559 --> 00:36:08.480
many times, but my first thing
to say is just take one step in

495
00:36:08.519 --> 00:36:13.559
a new direction, just one step, even if it's just a baby step,

496
00:36:13.599 --> 00:36:16.360
because life is all about these series
of steps we take. And if

497
00:36:16.360 --> 00:36:20.920
we go back to the earlier,
if the one step that you can take

498
00:36:21.119 --> 00:36:23.920
is do what I did, write
out one page of affirmations a day.

499
00:36:24.159 --> 00:36:30.679
Just get yourself a ninety nine cent
journal and use that affirmation guide that I

500
00:36:30.719 --> 00:36:35.239
said about what are your asking statements, what are your I AM statements?

501
00:36:35.519 --> 00:36:38.199
And then just every morning write out
that one page. It'll take you five

502
00:36:38.239 --> 00:36:44.280
to ten minutes, but I guarantee
you that in thirty to forty five days

503
00:36:44.400 --> 00:36:49.719
you will notice a tremendous shift.
So that's an example of taking one step.

504
00:36:50.719 --> 00:36:55.280
Taking another step might be writing your
first blog post or just even searching

505
00:36:55.320 --> 00:37:00.519
what jobs are available. If this
needs to be a job change, about

506
00:37:00.800 --> 00:37:05.800
a step to reach out to a
coworker who might be able to introduce you

507
00:37:06.079 --> 00:37:09.440
or open the door to another opportunity. But maybe you've just been too shy

508
00:37:09.480 --> 00:37:14.280
to reach out to that coworker.
In that very same chapter that we were

509
00:37:14.280 --> 00:37:17.039
talking about with the awaken your alter
ego, there's a story in there.

510
00:37:17.079 --> 00:37:22.320
Do you remember the movie Fried Green
Tomatoes, Yes, ma'am. Okay,

511
00:37:22.400 --> 00:37:27.159
so we talk about in the Kathy
Baby character and I'm so embarrassed. I

512
00:37:27.159 --> 00:37:30.039
can't remember her name off the top
of my head, but she was the

513
00:37:30.079 --> 00:37:34.000
housewife and the whole movie was about
her. Yeah, and you know she

514
00:37:34.159 --> 00:37:38.800
gets this alter ego of Tawanda,
and when she puts Tawanda in charge,

515
00:37:39.239 --> 00:37:43.920
look at how her life changes.
Yes, so you know, kind of

516
00:37:43.960 --> 00:37:47.719
tying that back into your previous question
about when you figure out who that superpower

517
00:37:47.840 --> 00:37:51.840
is. And I love asking this
question to men because if I say who

518
00:37:51.880 --> 00:37:53.960
would you be if you were a
superhero, they can they can answer immediately.

519
00:37:54.159 --> 00:37:57.719
I would be Superman, I would
be Bruce Wayne, I would be

520
00:37:57.760 --> 00:38:00.119
Tony Stark. And if you think
about it, all of those characters are

521
00:38:00.239 --> 00:38:06.079
very different, you know, but
when you allow that inner to Wanda to

522
00:38:06.119 --> 00:38:09.280
come out that you begin to empower
yourself. But it starts with just taking

523
00:38:09.400 --> 00:38:15.719
one step in a new direction.
Because that one little step for me,

524
00:38:15.960 --> 00:38:19.960
it was, you know, going
to my first writer's workshop, because prior

525
00:38:20.000 --> 00:38:22.480
to that, my mantra had been, Oh, I want to write a

526
00:38:22.519 --> 00:38:24.360
book, but I'm not a writer. Well how many books am I going

527
00:38:24.400 --> 00:38:28.639
to write? When my mantra is
I'm not a writer? Right right,

528
00:38:28.760 --> 00:38:30.960
right right? Like zero? Yeah, no pun intended, yes, no

529
00:38:31.039 --> 00:38:35.880
pun intended. Mary, You're brilliant, im so. I enjoying this conversation

530
00:38:35.960 --> 00:38:37.800
and sharing with my listeners. But
here we are already time for a break.

531
00:38:37.840 --> 00:38:42.400
If you can believe that, it
just evaporates. I'm Alice Cortez,

532
00:38:42.440 --> 00:38:44.920
your host. We are on the
air with Mary Shores, who is an

533
00:38:45.079 --> 00:38:50.079
entrepreneur, author, and revolutionary founder
of the groundbreaking conscious communications system, which

534
00:38:50.079 --> 00:38:53.679
produces positive results through positive action.
We've been talking about her perspective on how

535
00:38:53.679 --> 00:38:58.840
we can find our talents and get
them going in the world. Beautiful perspective.

536
00:38:58.840 --> 00:39:00.519
By the way, the break,
we're going to get into her very

537
00:39:00.559 --> 00:39:17.639
interesting perspective on cleansing and clogging our
lives. Stay with us, Friend,

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and welcome back to Working on Purpose. If you're just tuning in.

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00:41:07.280 --> 00:41:09.719
My guest is Mary Shows, who
is an entrepreneur, author, and revolutionary

559
00:41:09.719 --> 00:41:15.039
founder of the groundbreaking conscious Communication Systems, which produces positive results through positive action.

560
00:41:15.320 --> 00:41:17.480
I loved the story that you shared
with us, by the way,

561
00:41:17.480 --> 00:41:21.039
miss Mary, about you growing up
and wanted to be a businesswoman. That

562
00:41:21.119 --> 00:41:23.480
is such a great way for us
to be able to situate you as a

563
00:41:23.519 --> 00:41:30.440
successful entrepreneur. So thank you for
sharing that most colorful story in this last

564
00:41:30.480 --> 00:41:35.719
segment. I'm very intrigued to hear
your perspective on this cleans or clog idea,

565
00:41:35.800 --> 00:41:38.280
and I thought about it a bit
in my own life here and when

566
00:41:38.320 --> 00:41:43.119
we're on the phone together, you
mentioned something about choosing to eighty percent cleans

567
00:41:43.599 --> 00:41:45.159
and I thought about my choice of
diet, how I eat, how I

568
00:41:45.199 --> 00:41:49.119
weigh in on the mornings, all
that kind of stuff. So first say

569
00:41:49.199 --> 00:41:52.519
for us, you know, give
us the general picture. What do you

570
00:41:52.559 --> 00:41:57.239
mean by cleans and clog? Great? This is my very favorite thing to

571
00:41:57.280 --> 00:42:00.639
talk about, because you know,
I think that if you can get this,

572
00:42:00.920 --> 00:42:06.320
you can make you can start to
begin your transformation today in your life,

573
00:42:06.320 --> 00:42:08.320
in your career, in your relationships, in every area in life.

574
00:42:08.480 --> 00:42:13.239
Because the truth is, we're actually
building our lives with every choice we make,

575
00:42:13.280 --> 00:42:17.239
and even seemingly small things create a
slightly different outcome. And once we

576
00:42:17.320 --> 00:42:22.719
understand the power of choice and getting
all of the parts of our lives in

577
00:42:22.760 --> 00:42:27.800
alignment, then each choice actually has
much more meaning. And so when I

578
00:42:27.840 --> 00:42:30.480
train my staff, I explain to
them that every word you say, every

579
00:42:30.519 --> 00:42:36.719
action you take, everything you do
is either going to cleanse or clog any

580
00:42:37.280 --> 00:42:40.440
situation that you're having with a customer
on the phone. And what I mean

581
00:42:40.480 --> 00:42:46.079
by that is that everything is either
creating a connection or it's driving a disconnection.

582
00:42:46.639 --> 00:42:52.920
And so I eventually realized that this
didn't just apply to business relationships and

583
00:42:52.960 --> 00:42:57.239
customers and clients, but that it
also applied to our personal relationships. Like

584
00:42:57.360 --> 00:43:02.320
what everything you're saying and doing in
your relationship is either creating greater connection or

585
00:43:02.400 --> 00:43:07.440
driving disconnection. It's cleansing or clogging
it. And from there I could actually

586
00:43:07.440 --> 00:43:10.440
see how it applied to every major
area of our life, which is health,

587
00:43:10.800 --> 00:43:16.800
finances, career relationships, self care, and personal development and so and

588
00:43:16.880 --> 00:43:21.599
actually much more than that. And
the idea of eighty twenty rule is just

589
00:43:21.679 --> 00:43:24.960
a super simple way to measure because
the idea is not to be perfect,

590
00:43:25.039 --> 00:43:30.199
because perfectionism in itself is actually a
clog. But imagine how much your life

591
00:43:30.199 --> 00:43:37.480
would change if you made cleansing connected
choices eighty percent of the time. I

592
00:43:37.559 --> 00:43:42.760
see so much empowerment in that,
and I wanted to if we can drill

593
00:43:42.800 --> 00:43:45.119
down in each of those general areas
that we talked about it see when we

594
00:43:45.159 --> 00:43:47.679
have enough time here, let's start
with the actual diet piece. Mary.

595
00:43:47.760 --> 00:43:51.840
So when you were talking with me
about that cleansing and clogging, you mentioned

596
00:43:51.840 --> 00:43:52.960
a couple of things that would be
the clogging piece. I would love for

597
00:43:53.000 --> 00:43:55.920
you to say that again. I
did go to my own diet. I

598
00:43:57.039 --> 00:44:00.559
love to eat lean meats, a
lot of vegetable. I don't need a

599
00:44:00.599 --> 00:44:02.320
lot of fruit. I don't need
a lot of carbs or breads or things

600
00:44:02.320 --> 00:44:06.719
like that, and I feel great
when I eat like that. Will you

601
00:44:07.159 --> 00:44:09.159
just sort of sketch for us the
kinds of things that clean us for our

602
00:44:09.199 --> 00:44:13.039
diet and the kinds of things that
clog for us and our diet. It's

603
00:44:13.079 --> 00:44:15.519
such a great place to start because
if you could understand it, if you

604
00:44:15.519 --> 00:44:20.280
can understand cleanser clog for diet,
it's going to instantly click in your mind

605
00:44:20.320 --> 00:44:22.800
and you're going to understand how to
use this simple principle in every area of

606
00:44:22.800 --> 00:44:29.000
your life. So let's talk about, in simple terms of our health and

607
00:44:29.039 --> 00:44:32.000
wellness, what kind of things are
cleansing and clogging? And all you have

608
00:44:32.119 --> 00:44:36.880
to do is look at a piece
of food and ask yourself the question,

609
00:44:37.360 --> 00:44:39.400
if I put this bite of food
in my mouth, is it going to

610
00:44:39.480 --> 00:44:43.599
cleanse me? Or is it going
to clog me? And so if I

611
00:44:43.679 --> 00:44:45.559
hold up an apple, which when
I'm speaking in public, I do.

612
00:44:45.639 --> 00:44:49.199
I pull out an apple and I
say, okay to the crowd, is

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this going to cleanse or clog?
Well, every person knows that an apple

614
00:44:52.840 --> 00:44:58.079
is cleansing. Right. If I
pull out a piece of chocolate lava cake

615
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and I ask the same question,
Is that going to cleanse or clog?

616
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Then we all know the answer is
clog. So instead of being on a

617
00:45:05.760 --> 00:45:09.719
complicated diet where we're trying to count
macros and calories and all of this stuff,

618
00:45:10.039 --> 00:45:13.719
what if we just looked at every
piece of food and said, if

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I put this in my mouth,
is it going to cleanse me or clog

620
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me? And I think that even
just instinctively, you'll know the answer.

621
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Well, I love that it really
it made something that I was already doing

622
00:45:27.440 --> 00:45:30.599
as a practice for me Mary much
more conscious, and therefore it gave me

623
00:45:30.679 --> 00:45:34.800
more power to make those choices.
So I want to really acknowledge you for

624
00:45:34.920 --> 00:45:37.679
just putting that into my life the
way that you did. Yeah, I

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want to add, I just want
to add super quickly that in chapter five,

626
00:45:40.239 --> 00:45:45.000
which is the chapter that we're giving
away free, is there's a table

627
00:45:45.079 --> 00:45:49.039
in there for cleans or clogs.
So it's got things on there as ideas.

628
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So, for example, for your
health, it's very cleansing when you

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get plenty of sleep every night,
So getting eight hours asleep is actually a

630
00:45:55.480 --> 00:46:00.280
health cleanse. Getting in your exercise, drinking lots of water, eating like

631
00:46:00.360 --> 00:46:05.800
you already mentioned before, loading up
on protein to help build muscles, using

632
00:46:06.159 --> 00:46:12.440
medicinal herbs like cilantro and oregano,
taking your omega threes. Those are all

633
00:46:13.000 --> 00:46:17.000
cleansing items, whereas clog is like
eating large amounts of fried, frozen,

634
00:46:17.239 --> 00:46:22.000
frosted foods fried, frozen or frosted, stay away from that frequently, consumering

635
00:46:22.119 --> 00:46:25.639
over the counter pills, staying up
too late and getting up too early,

636
00:46:27.079 --> 00:46:31.480
abusing alcohol or any other vices like
smoking cigars and cigarettes. I actually call

637
00:46:31.559 --> 00:46:35.920
those double doog clogs because there are
a clog to your finances and to your

638
00:46:35.960 --> 00:46:38.679
health. So I think that you
get the idea, but I just wanted

639
00:46:38.719 --> 00:46:44.199
to let the listeners know that all
of this information is actually in that free

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downloadable chapter and you can just see
the tables yourself. Love it, Mary,

641
00:46:47.880 --> 00:46:51.519
love it, absolutely love it.
Okay, good, okay, Well,

642
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let's talk next about how to focus
or bring this into the world of

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money. Personal finances, cleans your
clog. How do we use this when

644
00:46:59.599 --> 00:47:04.880
we think about managing our own money. I think that we have to look

645
00:47:04.880 --> 00:47:07.800
at our finances the same exact way
when you look at the money that's going

646
00:47:07.840 --> 00:47:12.760
out, asking yourself, is this
cleansing or clogging my finances, Is this

647
00:47:13.159 --> 00:47:17.360
creating is spending this money on this
item creating a stronger connection to my goals

648
00:47:17.519 --> 00:47:22.239
or is it driving a disconnection from
my goals. So some of the clogs

649
00:47:22.239 --> 00:47:27.199
in finances could be things like,
oh, you know, spending more money

650
00:47:27.400 --> 00:47:35.000
on your cell phone bill or your
your cable or you know, sort of

651
00:47:35.159 --> 00:47:42.760
ancillary luxury services that we use.
Another thing is having subscriptions of things that

652
00:47:42.800 --> 00:47:45.199
you no longer use, but yet
maybe there's like a monthly fee going out.

653
00:47:45.239 --> 00:47:49.639
You know, I noticed I had
to cancel my ancestry dot com account.

654
00:47:49.679 --> 00:47:51.960
I mean it was twenty dollars a
month and I hadn't logged in for

655
00:47:52.000 --> 00:47:54.360
three months. But yeah, you
know, so that's an example of a

656
00:47:54.400 --> 00:47:58.559
clog, and a cleanse would be, you know, making sure that you're

657
00:47:59.280 --> 00:48:01.599
investing in your four oh one K, or you're meeting with your financial planner

658
00:48:01.800 --> 00:48:06.960
when when you're supposed to. And
sometimes you can get confusing. So you

659
00:48:06.960 --> 00:48:09.440
know, if you if you're not
sure where to spend your money, you

660
00:48:09.519 --> 00:48:14.360
can ask yourself, on a scale
of one to ten, how important is

661
00:48:14.760 --> 00:48:16.840
it to make this choice or how
important is it for you to have this

662
00:48:16.920 --> 00:48:22.639
thing? Because if it's really what
you need, then it's going to rank

663
00:48:22.719 --> 00:48:24.320
higher and you should go ahead and
get it. And that's not to say

664
00:48:24.360 --> 00:48:28.880
that you shouldn't splurge, because again
we have that eighty twenty rule, So

665
00:48:29.000 --> 00:48:31.400
twenty percent of the time, sure
splurge, get that new outfit, because

666
00:48:31.440 --> 00:48:36.519
that outfit can be a cleanse because
it's gonna bring you more confidence in your

667
00:48:36.519 --> 00:48:39.880
life. There's a lot more I
could drill down on that, because I

668
00:48:39.880 --> 00:48:44.119
think the money thing is really important, But just really quickly, what about

669
00:48:44.159 --> 00:48:47.239
for the corporate folks listening, how
can they apply this to their corporate budgets.

670
00:48:47.280 --> 00:48:51.800
I thought a lot about this,
and I really truly loved the question,

671
00:48:51.880 --> 00:48:54.599
and I sort of in my mind
went through how I manage my you

672
00:48:54.599 --> 00:48:58.639
know, I think where you got
to look at the bottom line. Often,

673
00:48:59.280 --> 00:49:04.440
you sometimes companies spend money in crazy
ways and they don't even see how

674
00:49:04.480 --> 00:49:09.559
it could be draining to them.
So sometimes it's reevaluating your efficiency because you

675
00:49:09.599 --> 00:49:14.400
know, is somebody touching the same
process too many times? Tightening up your

676
00:49:14.519 --> 00:49:17.800
work instructions so that you could have
that seamless workflow. And then again,

677
00:49:17.920 --> 00:49:24.280
you know, looking where is the
money draining? What expenses have increased over

678
00:49:24.320 --> 00:49:30.039
the previous year and asking yourself if
you really need that product or service.

679
00:49:31.639 --> 00:49:36.719
Okay, I just think the clarity
on that is just so critical. Now

680
00:49:36.760 --> 00:49:38.559
coming down to the close of the
hour, were already let's go ahead and

681
00:49:38.599 --> 00:49:43.320
finish this cleansing clog if we can
in relationships? How can we use this

682
00:49:43.400 --> 00:49:49.480
idea in our relationships? Relationships I
think is one of the most important areas

683
00:49:49.559 --> 00:49:52.679
to use it. I have a
section in the book called By Your Evil

684
00:49:52.719 --> 00:49:58.920
Tongue, which is an old Jewish
concept called loss a hare where just a

685
00:49:59.000 --> 00:50:04.280
really interesting seeing concept about how we
speak about other people to other people.

686
00:50:04.719 --> 00:50:07.280
So we want to you know,
everything in our lives is predicated by the

687
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quality of our relationships. So some
cleansing is you know, preparing meals together

688
00:50:12.920 --> 00:50:16.639
is very cleansing to a relationship.
A clog would be lacking empathy to that

689
00:50:16.679 --> 00:50:22.559
other person. Cleanse is spending quality
time together. The clog is fault finding.

690
00:50:22.960 --> 00:50:25.920
You know, if you feel yourself
about to lash out to your partner

691
00:50:27.599 --> 00:50:30.039
and you know, and you just
stop for a second and you think,

692
00:50:30.519 --> 00:50:34.199
is that going to cleanse or clog
my relationship? You know? I tell

693
00:50:34.239 --> 00:50:36.840
everyone, everyone who will listen to
me, I say you know what,

694
00:50:37.199 --> 00:50:40.119
when you're driving home from work,
don't take that phone call from your mother,

695
00:50:40.280 --> 00:50:44.440
your sister, your best friend who
you know is just going to get

696
00:50:44.440 --> 00:50:49.159
on the phone and complain to you
about their day, because you need that

697
00:50:49.239 --> 00:50:52.920
ten or fifteen minutes to have that
sort of downtime to reset before you walk

698
00:50:52.960 --> 00:50:57.880
into your house with your family members. You know, you need your nervous

699
00:50:57.880 --> 00:51:01.840
system to calm down for a moment. So get that. Mary. Oh

700
00:51:01.920 --> 00:51:07.639
my gosh, this has been such
an incredible conversation here and there's so much

701
00:51:07.639 --> 00:51:08.360
more I could ask you, and
as you're saying, Lindy, will do

702
00:51:08.360 --> 00:51:12.719
this again. But the last thing
I want you to talk about quickly if

703
00:51:12.719 --> 00:51:15.960
you can, is the weak action
plan. What is it and how do

704
00:51:15.000 --> 00:51:22.719
you recommend you listeners use it?
So it's what I have is what I

705
00:51:22.760 --> 00:51:27.480
call one page action plan, And
what that is is it's an action plan

706
00:51:28.000 --> 00:51:30.480
that's just written out in the simplest
of terms. We were talking about goal

707
00:51:30.519 --> 00:51:35.360
setting before, and it really supports
that. So you start with a goal.

708
00:51:36.280 --> 00:51:38.159
One of the ones that I did
was I wanted to hire six people.

709
00:51:38.239 --> 00:51:42.119
So my end result goal was I
wanted to hire six people for the

710
00:51:42.239 --> 00:51:45.519
job who were, you know,
the correct people for the job, and

711
00:51:45.559 --> 00:51:50.159
they were looking for long term employment
and like minded individuals. And then I

712
00:51:50.239 --> 00:51:52.960
just reverse engineer that goal. So
the first thing that I'm going to do

713
00:51:53.079 --> 00:51:57.440
is I'm going to say, what
are six things that need to be true

714
00:51:57.559 --> 00:52:02.559
in order to get that particular goal. This works with any goal. And

715
00:52:02.599 --> 00:52:07.079
once in the six things were something
like where to advertise? I need to

716
00:52:07.119 --> 00:52:12.760
advertise correctly. We wanted to go
through There was this thing we call the

717
00:52:12.840 --> 00:52:15.320
how of Wow, which is all
about the impression that your front end area

718
00:52:15.360 --> 00:52:20.039
makes. So we wanted to look
at how our front end office looked.

719
00:52:20.079 --> 00:52:23.199
So that went on as one of
the six things I created. I needed

720
00:52:23.199 --> 00:52:27.920
to create a hiring team, and
I put five people on the hiring team.

721
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So it was just things like this, And then for each one of

722
00:52:30.199 --> 00:52:34.639
those six bullet points, I come
up with three action items for each one

723
00:52:34.639 --> 00:52:40.199
of the six. So now I've
got eighteen action items, and those eighteen

724
00:52:40.199 --> 00:52:45.760
action items become the one page action
plan. Oh my gosh, Mary,

725
00:52:45.760 --> 00:52:50.280
that was gorgeous. So Crisp,
just let me give you a chance here

726
00:52:50.360 --> 00:52:52.639
to have the fun a word,
if you will, before I take the

727
00:52:52.719 --> 00:52:55.119
listeners to your website, et cetera. So in a minute or so,

728
00:52:55.320 --> 00:52:58.920
what would you like to leave our
listeners with well, and I want to

729
00:52:58.960 --> 00:53:02.159
mention quickly too, that the one
page action plan is actually in the Ignite

730
00:53:02.159 --> 00:53:06.480
your Dreams download with all the instructions
so you can have a print out of

731
00:53:06.519 --> 00:53:09.079
it and the instructions of how to
do it. And what I'd really love

732
00:53:09.280 --> 00:53:14.880
to leave to your listeners is just
again to say that you can begin to

733
00:53:14.920 --> 00:53:19.800
transform your life today in any area
that you need to your career, your

734
00:53:19.840 --> 00:53:25.360
finances, your relationships by simply understanding
the impact and the power of every single

735
00:53:25.440 --> 00:53:30.760
choice that you're making and just asking
yourself simple questions like will this cleanse or

736
00:53:30.760 --> 00:53:35.519
will it clog? And you know
on the time that you need extra support.

737
00:53:35.599 --> 00:53:40.480
It's definitely a great idea to look
at your communication with yourself, that

738
00:53:40.599 --> 00:53:45.000
self talk that we were talking about
in the beginning. Beautiful way to finish.

739
00:53:45.000 --> 00:53:49.000
Mary, thank you so much for
joining it today and sharing your passion,

740
00:53:49.079 --> 00:53:52.159
your perspective, expertise. It has
been wonderful to have you here with

741
00:53:52.239 --> 00:53:57.159
us. It's been wonderful to be
here. If you want to learn more

742
00:53:57.159 --> 00:54:00.960
about Mary Shows and the work she
does, visit her website, It's Maryshors

743
00:54:00.320 --> 00:54:06.719
dot com. M A r Y
S h o r e S. Next

744
00:54:06.719 --> 00:54:08.880
week will be on the air with
Jamie Henson talking about her work helping leaders

745
00:54:08.920 --> 00:54:13.760
to embrace the differences between genders in
an age of disruption. Her book is

746
00:54:13.800 --> 00:54:19.400
called Expanding the Conversation because real leaders
leverage gender differences to create a competitive advantage

747
00:54:19.440 --> 00:54:22.400
in business. See you then,
remember that workers month of our lives,

748
00:54:22.440 --> 00:54:31.440
So let's work on Purpose. We
hope you've enjoyed this week's program. Be

749
00:54:31.519 --> 00:54:37.599
sure to tune into Working on Purpose
featuring your host Alice Cortez, every Wednesday

750
00:54:37.639 --> 00:54:42.159
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00:54:42.239 --> 00:54:45.679
Channel. This week, find your
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